How can perfectionism embrace oneself when the balance of roles is not well-maintained?

Hello, I hope my answer helps.

You're right. With so many social roles and limited energy, it's hard to achieve balance. If we pursue perfection, we'll feel more pressure and be more conflicted.

I used to want to do everything perfectly. But I realized that being at peace with oneself is about making choices. In all dilemmas, we need to resolve the conflict within ourselves.

When I accepted my imperfections and what I really value, I was able to make decisions and trade-offs to live a good, comfortable, and joyful life.

My advice is:

Be self-accepting.

It's hard for those of us who strive for perfection to accept a less-than-perfect self. We need to keep practicing.

We have a hard time accepting ourselves because we weren't accepted as we grew up. This made us feel bad about ourselves.

Self-acceptance takes practice. I practiced for a long time before I got better at it. It's hard to accept yourself completely. But the more you accept yourself, the more confident you'll become and the more motivated you'll be to change.

If you think self-acceptance is something you can learn, you can practice it every day and get better at it.

Here are five ways to be more accepting of yourself, as revealed by psychologists:

1. Accept yourself.

Psychologist Jeffrey Samber says self-acceptance begins with intention. We should set a goal to transform a world of blame, doubt, and shame into a world of inclusion, acceptance, and trust. Self-loathing does not lead to a satisfying life.

Sambur said, "If I accept myself, I'll live a better life."

Record your strengths.

Write down one of your strengths every day. Affirm your own value and see your strengths. Play to your strengths to gain confidence.

Today, we can make up for our weaknesses through cooperation. Our strengths make us who we are.

3. Get support from other people.

Spend time with people who love and accept you.

4. Talk to yourself.

Imagine your best self is looking at your life and telling you what to do.

This helps you move past your current self and use your inner wisdom to promote healing.

This exercise teaches us to be kind to ourselves. You can do it when you need some guidance or comfort.

5. Be the person you want to be.

If you don't think you're valuable, make yourself valuable and believe it. Only when we accept ourselves can we forgive our mistakes and stop needing others' approval.

We all make mistakes. Our identity is not defined by our mistakes.

If we lack something inside, we look for it outside. If we can't accept ourselves, we look for acceptance from others. But everything outside is unstable. So we can only gain stable acceptance by turning inward. When we have achieved self-acceptance, we don't care about others' approval. We gain true inner freedom.

Seeing your own ordinariness and accepting it is an extraordinary thing.

Know what you value and choose.

How would you rank family, career, health, growth, and wealth?

My priorities are health, family, growth, wealth, and career. My husband's are family, career, wealth, health, and growth. I put health at the top of my list, then family. I value growth more than wealth. My husband puts career development over health. He sacrifices his health for socializing, making money, or promoting his career.

You can only make better choices and focus your energy on what matters when you prioritize your values. When your actions match your values, you'll feel harmony and balance.

Ask yourself what kind of life you want to live and what you value most.

When you make choices based on your values, you won't be influenced by others and you'll find balance.

I hope this helps. Best wishes.