I can't stand mess and untidiness, so I do it myself. It's exhausting. What's the solution?

Good morning. I extend my support and encouragement to you from a distance.

I am pleased to see that you have sought assistance, and I hope that my input has provided some support and guidance. I also commend you for being so aware of your feelings of depletion and exhaustion from being overly concerned about cleanliness and wanting everything to happen according to your own wishes and expectations, and for choosing to seek help.

The obsessive thoughts and ideas you describe can be explained in psychoanalytic terms as being related to the anal stage of development. If your caregivers were overly strict with you, and if you were particularly sensitive to the need to go to the toilet, and if they made you go at specific times and in a specific way, this could have been the initial cause of an obsessive personality. This part of your personality causes you to want everything to happen according to your own wishes and expectations. If things don't go according to your wishes, you feel a strong sense of loss of control and anxiety.

Once you have gained a clear awareness of this aspect of yourself and are willing to make a change, you can then attempt to implement positive changes through active learning and growth, guided by this awareness.

The prerequisite for change is acceptance. It is essential to accept and allow yourself to desire that everything happens as you wish and expect.

If not, you will experience a strong sense of panic and unease. It is important not to judge this aspect of yourself, but rather to acknowledge it. When these obsessive thoughts and behaviors arise, it is essential to identify your true emotional state.

It is important to allow yourself to feel a sense of loss of control in your life and to accept that things will not always happen according to your own wishes and expectations. It is also crucial to let go of the expectation of a perfect self. It is not necessary to be perfect; it is simply important to be true to yourself.

It is recommended that you become aware of how you feel when you allow things to happen that are not according to your wishes. Please note that this may initially cause some discomfort, but it is important to persevere.

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Dear Sir/Madam, I am pleased to respond to your inquiry. I hope that my suggestions will prove beneficial.

From the information provided, it appears that the issue may not be compulsive behavior, but rather an obsessive-compulsive disorder.

Cleanliness obsessions can be classified into two distinct categories.

One is a compulsion, and achieving this compulsion may be linked to some diseases, requiring our intervention. It is therefore advisable to attempt to find a suitable way of adjusting ourselves as much as possible in order to facilitate our lives.

Additionally, there are individuals who simply enjoy the sensation of cleanliness. As long as this does not impede their daily lives, maintaining a clean environment is beneficial, and there is no need to force oneself to change.

Based on the aforementioned description and the circumstances presented, an attempt can be made to eliminate the method of identifying the source of the problem, which is a highly effective approach.

The result of this perception is that we develop an affinity for cleanliness. If the hygiene of our environment is lacking, or our living space is untidy, we experience a sense of unease. This discomfort has the potential to significantly impact our ability to engage in other activities if we fail to address these issues.

In this case, it is advisable to seek psychological counseling in order to adjust one's state of mind.

One approach is to gain a cognitive understanding of how to adjust one's acceptance appropriately. For instance, one can refrain from excessive cleaning as long as the environment is not excessively dirty.

Secondly, it is advisable to mediate behaviourally, ensuring that one does not expend an excessive amount of time and energy on cleaning, which subsequently impairs one's ability to engage in other activities.

It is my hope that, with the assistance of a qualified professional, you will be able to identify an appropriate adjustment method that will not disrupt your daily routine.

I extend my warmest regards to the world and to you.