Good morning, my name is Xintan Coach Feiyun, and I would be delighted to accompany you with warmth and listen to your story with all my heart.
From our brief interaction, I can sense that you care about your appearance. I admire the fact that you take the time to get dressed and put on makeup every day. It reminds me of the saying, "There are no ugly women, only stupid women."
Your image is worth a great deal. Indeed, a person's image has a significant impact on his life, work, and even his career and family.
However, it should be noted that image is not solely determined by a person's appearance, but also encompasses their style of dress and, in particular, their manner of speech. It could be argued that the most accurate interpretation of a person's image would be to consider it as a combination of external presentation and internal character.
If I may, I would like to share a story with you called "The Value of a Stone."
One day, a student inquired of his teacher, "Teacher, if you were to advise me on the greatest value in my life, what would you say?"
The teacher asked the students to take a very ordinary stone and sell it in the market, the museum, and the antique shop, and they were given different prices.
The story offers a valuable lesson: an optimistic outlook is beneficial regardless of one's circumstances. We all share a universal experience of life's transience, yet our inner selves remain a constant.
Perhaps we could take a moment to consider what confidence is.
Self-confidence can be defined as a conviction of one's own strength, a self-affirmation, and a belief that comes from the heart.
One might suggest that self-confidence stems from one's "self-worth," which is a subjective evaluation of oneself and not necessarily influenced by the opinions of others.
I believe there are two types of confidence.
One kind of confidence is based on something you have done. This kind of confidence may not be entirely accurate, as it could be a manifestation of inferiority if you lack confidence in yourself.
It is for this reason that they will exert themselves to the utmost, basing their confidence on the success or failure of a particular undertaking, as though the value of their lives depended on external material proof. Such confidence is perhaps misguided, as it is liable to collapse in the event of the aforementioned things on which they rely disappearing.
Similarly, your confidence is shaped by how you dress and apply makeup. When you appear without makeup, you may experience a shift in your feelings, including self-doubt and even anxiety.
Another kind of confidence is in oneself. This kind of confidence does not rely on anything external as a standard, but comes from the heart, is unconditional, and is subjective. This kind of confidence could be considered a form of true confidence.
He doesn't feel the need to prove himself to others. He has confidence in himself and respects others. For example, without makeup, you are also sincere and enthusiastic; no matter how elaborate the makeup, it can't compare to the beauty of your soul.
It could be said that true self-confidence means not having to "prove yourself in everything." One comic article recommends, "Your prettiness is not as good as your liveliness." While a good-looking body is the same in a thousand ways, an interesting soul is one in a million.
It might be worth considering that paying too much attention to one's appearance could potentially lead to a kind of internal depletion. On the other hand, turning one's attention from the external to the internal, a person's appearance can be changed through reading and learning. Therefore, learning could be a good way for women to preserve their youthful appearance.
I hope these words are helpful to you. I love you, the world, and I wish you well.
If you would like to continue our dialogue, you are welcome to click on the "Find a coach" link, which you will find in the upper right corner or at the bottom of the page. I would be delighted to communicate and grow with you one-on-one.


Comments
I can totally relate to feeling uncomfortable when I don't put in the effort to look my best. It's hard when you're used to presenting a certain image and suddenly that's taken away. The camera doesn't do us any favors either. It's a tough situation, but maybe this could be an opportunity to explore how we see ourselves beyond makeup.
It sounds like you really struggle with your appearance when you're not made up. It's unfortunate that online classes have put you in a position where you feel exposed. I wonder if there's a way to find comfort in your natural beauty over time, even though it's challenging right now.
Feeling the need to cover up every day must be exhausting. Sometimes our own perceptions can be so much harsher than anyone else's. Have you considered sharing how you feel with someone close? They might offer a different perspective that helps ease some of the discomfort.
The pressure to always look perfect is real, and it's understandable that not meeting those expectations can lead to selfdoubt. Maybe setting small goals to gradually feel better about your natural look could help bridge the gap between how you feel and how you want to feel.
It's tough when you're so critical of yourself, especially when you know you're great in other ways. Perhaps experimenting with less makeup or finding a middle ground could be a step towards accepting your unadorned self. Everyone deserves to feel good in their own skin, makeup or not.