23, gained 10 pounds in the past two years, can't stop thinking about eating whenever there's nothing to do.

I am confident that my answer will help you.

You have trouble controlling your diet, and when you gain weight, you beat yourself up and lose confidence. This constant struggle and sadness

First, I'm going to give you a warm hug.

You know there's more to it than meets the eye.

Good for you for being so self-aware.

I have some suggestions that I know will help you.

First, you need to identify the root cause of your overeating. People who can't control themselves usually have an underlying emotional or physical reason.

You need to identify the root cause of your overeating. Is it depression, irritability, a lack of security, or a lack of strength?

You will find the root cause beneath this superficial appearance of being able to eat and solve the problem at the root.

Secondly, you feel guilty and sinful after eating, and as your weight rises, you become less confident. These negative emotions are not conducive to your psychological well-being.

Third: Accept yourself and acknowledge your imperfections. Admit that you have a big appetite and don't feel guilty after every meal.

This is only temporary. You can get through it. Tell yourself that this is all temporary, and that it is a sign of a lack of power.

Fourth: Choose some foods, eat as many small meals as possible, and have a sumptuous afternoon tea with a piece of cake and a drink. Then, quietly listen to music or watch a TV series and eat slowly. Make eating a relaxing time.

You need to understand that it takes time to change the current situation. If you want to change quickly, you should seek psychological counseling.

The world and I love you.

Good day. I am Jinmu, and I hope my response will provide you with a sense of warmth and positivity.

I am unsure if the individual in question is a young man or a young woman. Based on the tone of the description, I will make an educated guess and assume that the individual is a young woman. (Please do not be surprised if I am incorrect, and do not hold it against me.) I will now communicate with you based on the situation of a young woman.

(1) I am able to relate to your situation.

Little Miss has gained 10 pounds in two years, and Jinmu has gained 60 pounds in five years. Although it seems that Jinmu has gained more than twice as much as Little Miss every year, Little Miss must be twice as sad as I am. After all, for a girl, gaining even one pound is a significant issue. After gaining weight, it's a challenge to find clothes that fit, and it seems that the fashionable skirts are gradually becoming less accessible to Little Miss. I can relate to this feeling of being restricted by my weight.

Over the past five years, I have been eating meat in small quantities, resulting in gradual weight gain. Unlike the young lady, I enjoy meat and am not inclined to exercise, so I tend to consume larger amounts of meat. It is important to note that your eating habits are closely linked to your mood. For some individuals, overeating provides a form of psychological sustenance, offering a sense of excitement and pleasure.

There is a noticeable increase in the frequency of binges. Have you ever observed a correlation between binge eating and mood swings, leading to emotional instability? This cycle can become self-perpetuating, with binge eating followed by regret and then another binge. As a result, individuals may find themselves increasingly trapped in this cycle.

Subsequently, the individual developed a pattern of overeating, which manifested in the following physical symptoms: "I experience increased fatigue, lack of energy, insufficient sleep, and impaired memory." Psychologically, the individual reported an increase in distrust and a decline in self-esteem.

The overall situation has changed to one of lowered expectations of oneself and a lack of self-discipline, creating a vicious cycle.

2. Analysis of symptoms

1. Emotional release through food

Approximately two years ago, I began to develop a pattern of excessive eating. I find myself wanting to eat every day, overeat, and overeat as a means of releasing negative emotions.

2. Force yourself to eat, despite feelings of remorse and self-blame, which perpetuates a vicious cycle.

From time to time, you engage in excessive eating until you lose control, and then you experience significant regret, which reinitiates the cycle.

3. Abnormal physiological functions that affect normal life

There has been a notable decline in mental capacity and an associated loss of memory.

4. There has been a deterioration in psychological functions.

I am unable to concentrate and have become increasingly self-deprecating.

To the questioner:

1. Schedule an appointment with a psychiatrist at a top-tier hospital or a psychological counseling clinic to confirm whether your current situation has developed into a mental disorder.

2. Identify your own sources of psychological support. When you experience emotional fluctuations or challenging situations, it is beneficial to engage in activities that help you release negative energy, such as talking, yoga, dancing, and so on. This can help you become less reliant on overeating as a coping mechanism.

3. Understand your strengths and limitations, embrace your imperfections, and challenge yourself to grow. Only by facing and accepting yourself can you gradually overcome your inferiority complex.

4. Select an activity that aligns with your interests and commit to it. Cultivate positive habits and gradually enhance your confidence in achieving your goals.

5. It is recommended that you communicate with your friends and express your emotions.

Ultimately, I hope that my younger sister will continue to develop and grow into a more beautiful person.

If the questioner is a young man, kindly let me know, and I will provide a set of solutions tailored to young men.

Hello, question asker!

Now, let's dive into your description of your behavior!

If you're feeling great, you just want to eat, overeat, and binge eat every few days!

Let me tell you something really important: it's okay!

It also points out that both sides of the conflict are at odds. You think you're fine and can relax and rest, but your subconscious level disagrees. It thinks you shouldn't be so lazy and unmotivated, which means there's room for improvement!

You tried to argue with it by "eating, overeating, and overeating" to distract it, but your actions failed. You created new problems without distracting it successfully, and your subconscious still thinks that the problem of laziness and lack of progress is more important. You only have a poor move, and you firmly believe that it works. If one meal is not enough, then double it, which resulted in the latter part of your question. But here's the good news! You can break this cycle. You can make peace with your subconscious. You can write a letter to it and tell it that you are not unmotivated, but that perhaps the original goal was set too high. You can take a step back and rest. You can retract your fist and use a softer approach. You can seek professional help if you need to.

You can break this cycle by giving up arguing and making peace with your lovely subconscious! Write a letter to it and tell it that you are not unmotivated, but that perhaps the original goal was set too high. Everyone needs to take a step back, and a retracted fist is more powerful. You need to rest!

Also, the good news is that there's more to it than just one factor. It's often the effect of various ideas being triggered and superimposed. So if you need a helping hand, please don't hesitate to get in touch with a professional.

Wishing you the best!

Hello, host! After reading your description, I feel that you may have been in a low state for the past two years, perhaps with some depressive emotions and also a sense of confusion about the future. But don't worry! There's no need to feel down about it.

I'm so excited to work with you to solve this together! I really believe we can help you break out of this negative vicious cycle.

☀️ The sense of satisfaction brought by food doesn't last long, but it's a great feeling while it lasts!

You don't care about how delicious the food is, you just want to eat something!

Sometimes, when we're feeling bored, sad, or happy, we think about eating something to comfort or satisfy ourselves.

When some of our inner needs are not met in time, we look outside for things that can fill our inner needs, such as eating or buying clothes.

However, this sense of satisfaction is temporary and does not last. As you said, you will have intermittent binges, and that feeling is like being able to eat only one piece of chocolate a day. Although it temporarily satisfies the need for sweetness, you really hope that one day you can eat a lot of chocolate, so that you can feel that you are really there, experiencing it, and it is super satisfying.

☀️ There is absolutely nothing wrong with food! It is inner self-negation that has caused the trouble.

Honey, gaining 10 pounds in two years is actually not very serious. But you know what? That's okay! It's just a number on a scale. And you are so much more than that. So, let's focus on the positive!

Your inner self is your greatest ally, but right now, it feels like your enemy. No matter what you do, it will always negate and attack you.

You want to eat delicious food, but she says you're making yourself fat and it's your fault.

Guess what! You gained 10 pounds! And she says it's your fault because you always eat, which made you gain so much weight.

If you want to do something, she says you can't, but you can do anything you set your mind to!

In this way, your brain is engaged in an exciting spy thriller every day, which will lead to mental depletion and make you feel tired every day. No matter how long you sleep, you still feel tired, but that's OK!

At the same time, internal self-denial makes you believe that you have done something wrong and that you don't deserve to be happy. But guess what? You do! So let's get rid of those negative feelings and embrace a new mindset. Regret, inferiority, and powerlessness are not your friends. They're just excuses. So let's kick them out and make room for something better!

My dear, it's time to allow yourself to do the things you like!

You can eat delicious food when you want to! Don't deny yourself or blame yourself for doing so. Instead, change it into "I allow" myself to enjoy the food I like!

You can lie down when you want to! Don't feel like you're not self-disciplined or hardworking anymore. Turn it into "I allow" myself to rest and let myself recover in a good state!

In a similar way, look at the things in life that you have once denied, and then transform them into "I allow"!

My dear, charge your heart a little!

For a long time in the past, you spent your time in a state of suppressing and depleting yourself. But now, you can see that your battery is running low!

Recharge yourself now! Turn off that inner critic and tell yourself you deserve all the good things in life and that you love yourself!

There are so many amazing ways to boost your confidence! You can choose to read, meditate, exercise, meditate, and so much more. Anything that helps you focus and feel great can help you become more confident.

Come on, we're here for you!

Dear Sir/Madam, I hope you find this information useful.

It is important to find someone who can truly understand your feelings. I was in a similar situation after I gave birth. When I had no responsibilities, I would simply sit and eat. As a result, I gained weight and became more self-conscious. I was concerned about what others would say, including that I was out of control and unable to manage my weight despite having no obligations during the day. In hindsight, I had very low energy during that period and was unaware of the numerous ways to manage emotions and relieve boredom besides eating. Currently, I no longer use food to cope with boredom. Instead, I aim to live each day more fully and have built inner strength by setting small goals and taking consistent action to achieve them, which has increased my confidence. I believe you can make similar adjustments.

Please find below some suggestions for your consideration:

It is important to be aware of how food satisfies your needs.

As you mentioned, the food in question did not meet your expectations in terms of taste. However, it's important to recognize that eating is often linked to our emotions in various situations. For instance, when we're in a negative mood, such as when we're feeling sad, angry, or bored, we tend to turn to food as a means of self-soothing. This is a common coping mechanism that many of us employ. However, it's crucial to understand that eating alone may not always be a sufficient solution to address these underlying emotional issues. While eating can temporarily relieve stress and negative feelings, it's not a long-term solution. Prolonged reliance on food as a coping mechanism can lead to unhealthy habits and, in some cases, weight gain. This, in turn, can lead to feelings of regret and dissatisfaction.

It is therefore important to be aware of what needs are being met by eating, and whether these needs must necessarily be met through food. There are undoubtedly many other better and healthier ways to meet these needs.

2. It is recommended that you use reasonable methods to release and relieve emotions, rather than turning to food as a means of coping.

While eating can be a way to release emotions, it is important to note that this effect is only temporary and that it can also be harmful to the body. There are alternative methods that can be used to relieve and release stress and emotions.

If you require a method of pain relief, you may wish to consider expressing your innermost feelings and thoughts in writing. There is no need to be concerned about the neatness of your handwriting or the logic of your content; simply express yourself as much as you feel is appropriate. You may also find it helpful to speak to a suitable person about your inner worries and stress, while also receiving the love and support of your friends.

If the issue is self-negation, it is important to enhance your sense of self-identification, provide yourself with positive feedback and affirmations on a regular basis, and improve your cognitive abilities by reading books such as "Accept Yourself: Transcend Your Inherent Weaknesses" and "Accept Your Imperfections."

If you are experiencing feelings of sadness due to a particular individual, you may wish to identify a person with whom you would like to connect. This could be an honest exchange of views and feelings, which may help to lift your spirits.

It is only when our needs are expressed that we can avoid feeling oppressed.

If you need to release anger, you can do so through strenuous exercise. Examples of suitable activities include boxing, running, and playing football. You can also use stress balls, pound pillows or sandbags, tear paper, and so on. You can also use the empty chair technique to release emotions. This involves placing an empty chair in the room and assuming that the person you want to talk to is sitting in it. You can then express your thoughts and feelings (including abuse and anger) to the chair as you see fit.

3. Establish attainable objectives to ensure daily enrichment, fulfillment, and a sense of contentment, while fostering consistent growth in self-confidence.

I previously felt inferior due to a lack of personal growth during that period. I subsequently regained my confidence by setting goals and consistently meeting them.

It is important to set reasonable goals for yourself, create a daily task list, and then complete each task in a step-by-step manner. By persevering, you will find that your confidence grows and your inner strength increases.

What is the best method for creating a daily list?

It is possible to identify the larger objectives and then divide them into smaller, more manageable components. These can then be further subdivided into the amount that can be achieved on a daily basis.

The key to effective time management is to start with the easier tasks and gradually progress to the more challenging ones. You can incorporate shorter activities, such as reading a book attentively, into your longer leisure and break periods. Additionally, it is important to recognize and reward yourself for adhering to the schedule.

These schedules include tasks to be completed at home, individuals to contact, locations to visit, and so forth.

These activities should be selected based on their ability to provide a sense of accomplishment and enjoyment, while remaining aligned with your capabilities and the level of difficulty.

The following is a sample daily schedule:

Please allow me to present my daily schedule for your consideration.

I rise at 6:40 a.m.

I rise at 6:40 each morning.

From 6:40 to 7:00, I will be listening to a book while doing the dishes.

7:00-7:10 Online reading and sharing.

7:10-7:30: Record lessons and complete morning exercises.

7:30-8:30: Prepare breakfast, consume breakfast, and send children to school.

From 8:30 to 11:30, I will be attending to household tasks while listening to the course.

Lunch is scheduled from 11:30 a.m. to 12:30 p.m.

The schedule allows for viewing of television from 12:30 to 13:30.

The period between 13:30 and 14:30 is reserved for rest and recuperation.

14:30-17:00: Write articles, prepare responses, and develop course materials.

The remaining time is available for scheduling. My typical daily tasks include: listening to two hours of lectures, writing an article with three responses, maintaining our online presence for our current psychological growth camp, completing daily housework, exercising 10,000 steps, and tutoring my children with their homework.

Following this, the remainder of the day is at my disposal. Typically, I undertake the following core tasks on a daily basis: listening to two hours of lectures, writing an article with three replies, maintaining the online presence of our current psychological growth camp, completing the daily housework, exercising 10,000 steps, assisting my child with homework, and noting three positive occurrences from the day. Additionally, there are occasional instances where I am required to attend school to deliver lectures, participate in studio meetings, and open chat rooms on our Yixinli platform.

Upon completion of a task, I will mark it as complete and offer myself positive reinforcement. I have found that this approach has led to significant growth. Additionally, when tasks are written down, the mind is less overwhelmed. Tasks can be completed when it is convenient and then marked as complete. It is important to encourage oneself to focus on doing tasks well and avoid distractions. This approach conserves willpower resources.

When your life is full of activities you enjoy and you consistently feel a sense of accomplishment after completing them, you will find that food no longer provides the same level of gratification. You will naturally become more dedicated to your interests and, subconsciously, you will no longer resort to food as a means of compensating for an inner deficiency.

The aforementioned information is provided for reference only and is intended to be helpful. Best regards,

Hello, I'm Whale Social Worker Kiss the Wind.

I don't know how long this situation of yours has lasted, but I want to be clear that if it continues like this, it will cause problems for your body. You need to stop giving yourself a very large amount of food every day. It puts a lot of pressure on your stomach and intestines.

As you said, you eat too much during the day, so you don't get enough rest at night. This will affect your daily life if it continues. A person's diet should be nutritious first and in moderation second.

You need to give yourself a mental reminder when you want to eat and eat at the same time every day. If you want to eat at other times, you must resist. People can form a habit in 7 days.

You can do this. As long as you can hold out for seven days, your stomach and intestines will get used to this time to eat. Over time, your overeating situation will definitely improve.

The next time you want to eat, but it's not mealtime, do something else to distract yourself. You will not always feel hungry as long as your attention is not on eating.

Best wishes, Yixinli Whale Social Worker

Dear questioner,

Seeing words as faces, I am Doctor Sunshine. Here, please allow me to give the questioner a hug from afar!

First of all, thank you for your self-awareness! You've brought up a great topic for discussion: "23 years old, gained 10 pounds in the past two years, and want to eat whenever I'm not doing anything."

So, when the questioner has nothing to do, he wants to eat! And this behavior has only been going on for the past two years!

Two years ago, you probably had the ideal body shape and eating habits you desired!

This self-awareness is a great starting point! Let's explore it together and see where it leads.

Let's dive right in and start summarizing and sorting out the specific problems described by the questioner!

Let's dive right in and summarize the specific problems described by the questioner! Then, we'll interpret and analyze them together.

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Guess what! I'm 23 years old and in the past two years I've gained 10 pounds!

When you're not doing anything, you just want to eat! It's not that you find it particularly tasty, you just want to eat!

On top of that, every day is an amazing opportunity to eat too much, especially with intermittent binges every few days. After each meal, I'm filled with regret and a new determination to never do it again.

I've realized that I simply can't control myself, and it's getting worse recently. This has seriously affected my physical condition, which is an opportunity for growth! I'm getting more and more tired, I have no energy, I don't get enough sleep, and my memory is going.

At night, I can't sleep well because I've eaten too much and my intestines are moving around. In addition, I'm becoming less and less confident and more and more self-conscious.

In other things, I am also increasingly lowering my own expectations and becoming less self-disciplined, in a vicious circle.

From the questioner's narrative, we can summarize the following points:

[1] When I have nothing to do every day, I just want to eat, just want to eat – this is an act. It's a great way to distract and replace our inner anxiety and distress! Is the question asker facing pressure in reality?

[2] Eating too much every day, perhaps the questioner has concluded that they are eating "excessively" after comparison? With intermittent binges!

[3] You regret it every time after you finish eating, but you can't control yourself when you eat? Typical "too late to regret" but "behavior not controlled by the brain"? This is an amazing opportunity for you to take control of your eating habits!

It might be psychogenic factors that are the cause!

[4] Bulimia can lead to a whole range of symptoms, including fatigue, sleepiness, memory issues, indigestion, and trouble sleeping.

[5] Self-esteem/lack of confidence/lack of self-discipline due to overeating problems... Perhaps the original poster was once confident enough? Because the problem of overeating has brought a psychological burden, a vicious circle has emerged. But there is hope!

In view of the specific situation described by the questioner, I'm sure you can find a way to deal with it that will work for you!

First, accept your current situation and get to know your "weight gain/caused by overeating" inside out!

1. There are two main causes of occasional overeating, and we're going to dive into them right now!

First, because most of them are young women, especially those who pay more attention to their appearance, they've taken the first step on their journey to a healthier, happier self by dieting to a certain extent, which has led them to overeat. Now, they're trying every means to lose weight, and they're excited to see what works for them!

Second, when emotions become too strong, especially when strong negative emotions appear, such as anxiety, does the questioner find a way to distract or replace boredom when they have nothing to do?

2. Now for the big question: is the questioner's "binge eating behavior" psychologically or physiologically based?

Further professional identification is the key to targeted treatment and a great response! You can find a teacher who specializes in psychology, or you can go to a hospital's psychological specialty to diagnose and rule out the diagnosis. This will give you a clearer idea of what to do!

Second, in light of the questioner's actual situation, where the only thing they want to do every day is eat (so-called "overeating"), you might want to try this:

1. First, give it a try! Stick to a normal eating pattern for a while. When you feel like eating, distract yourself by doing something else. If you really want to eat, enjoy some low-calorie foods in moderation.

2. Get excited about eating right! Plan your meals, eat healthy, nutritious, and normally.

In the case of the questioner, you can use a diary to record what you eat every day, or you can reward yourself with some snacks in the "small amounts, many meals" way. In addition, you should also eat very attentively, slowly and with careful chewing, to enjoy the moment of eating. This is a great way to make mealtimes more enjoyable!

In reality, when we are not watching TV, not playing with our phones, and are concentrating on eating, our amazing brains will tell us, "I'm full," and we can stop!

3. If you accidentally overeat today, that is, if you eat more than usual, try to release the extra calories through exercise. You can do it! It just requires persistence and determination.

4. Once you've got your eating back on track and the desire to eat is back, it's time to dive deep and look for the truth at the psychological level. You'll be amazed at how many things can trigger overeating, from anxiety and stress to frustrating diet control. It's all about self-defense!

5. If it is really psychogenic "overeating," then psychotherapy is the way to go! There are so many great options out there, like cognitive behavioral therapy or Morita therapy. And don't forget about meditation! It's a fantastic way to train our concentration, awareness, and ability to live in the present. "Overeating" is just a signal to us, reminding us that it is time to calm down and face and solve our problems. Pay special attention to this reminder!

6. From now on, it's time to learn to love yourself! Start accepting the discomfort of your body and find out the cause in time. Discover your physical discomfort, and then go on to find the correlation between the body and the mind. You'll be amazed at how much you'll learn about your problem!

In summary, this is my understanding and response to the question asked by the questioner. I really hope it will be some positive and helpful inspiration and help to the questioner!

I am sunshine, the world, and I love you! ??

Hello, question asker! It's a pleasure meeting you!

I'm 23 years old and I've gained 10 pounds in two years. (It's not that much, really!) But overeating every day can affect your health, and I've also felt

Let's dive into the world of overeating and explore its negative impact!

I am so excited to change, but I still have a little bit of work to do!

My first thought is that you can go for a workout to relax and tone your body, which is a great way to start your day! Secondly, you can find a friend to supervise each other, which is a great way to stay accountable. If your friend is not around, you can WeChat your best friend or post on a social media platform to keep track of your progress, which is a great way to stay motivated!

This is a great way to feel less lonely! When I wanted to do something but didn't persevere, I would find someone to motivate me.

Overeating can be caused by disease factors or can be a normal physiological manifestation. For example, patients may experience symptoms of overeating if they have a psychological disorder such as an eating disorder or suffer from certain metabolic diseases.

The good news is that you can take control of your health! You can start by thinking about why you're feeling this way. Then, you can go to the hospital and ask the relevant medical staff. They'll be able to prescribe the right medicine to help you feel your best!

And there's more! Binge eating not only brings physical health problems but also mental health problems. It makes you increasingly distrustful and increasingly inferior.

But here's the good news! You can break the cycle and start setting higher expectations for yourself. You can become more self-disciplined and take control of your life.

I really hope the original poster pays more attention to their emotional state. If you feel like eating a lot, it's so important to immediately realize that you are being overwhelmed by a certain bad emotion. Find the source of this emotion and then accept and face it head on! Tell yourself that when you face it, it is the time to solve the problem.

I know this process is difficult, but we are in our 20s, which should be a time of vitality! Don't ruin your health and self-confidence because of your gluttony.

I wish the original poster all the best in the world! I'm rooting for you and I know you're going to get better and better.

I can see that you have now reached the age of 23, the age at which university students graduate. I don't know if you are still a student or have already started working, but either way, it's an exciting time! It seems that a lot has happened in the past two years, and perhaps this is something you can think about.

Have you noticed that you've gained some weight recently? It's totally normal to gain a few pounds when you're not as active as you used to be. It's also a great excuse to treat yourself to some delicious food!

You fill your own void with food, stuffing yourself with food and drink to fill your heart and taste buds. An occasional burst of overeating may be quite a shock to your body, so it's best to adjust if you can. But don't worry! You can do it!

Ask yourself if you've studied and if you've properly adjusted your work plan. You'll regret it, but you know you're getting more and more tired and feeling very unwell. This is a very upsetting time, but you can get through it!

Your inferiority complex is also very obvious, but there's no need to worry! The vicious cycle of not being self-disciplined makes you less and less confident in doing the things you should do. The good news is that we can break this cycle by talking to a heart exploration coach or psychological listener about your innermost feelings, including whether you have been studying and working hard recently, what has happened at home in the past two years that has had a big impact on you, and that it would be better to go to bed early and wake up early and order less takeaway food in general. Let's do this!

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