A 10-year-old girl will not be able to resist nibbling her fingers until there are no nails left?

Hello, question asker. Let me give you a warm hug first.

I can see what the issue is. From what you've said, I can understand why you're confused. Here are some references that might help:

1. Get a physical exam at a regular hospital.

If your child is biting their nails, it's a good idea to take them to a regular hospital for a check-up. This will help to rule out any physical causes and also check if there's a lack of trace elements. You can also ask the doctor for advice based on your child's condition.

2. Behavior habits

Sometimes kids' behavior is also unconscious. It's like when we unconsciously walk around the telephone cord when making a landline call or unconsciously draw a lot of shapes when we have a pen in our hand. Kids like to explore when they're young. They want to pick up and bite anything around them, which is also how they get to know the world. At first, kids may just be curious, and then unconsciously develop these behaviors. For kids, subconsciously they cannot judge whether this is good or bad.

3. Stress

When kids feel nervous, they'll often unconsciously do things like clasp their hands, touch their ears, or clench their fists. It's a way of hiding their emotions. And when they feel like they're in danger, they'll sometimes exhibit these behaviors to protect themselves.

We adults sometimes do it too, but we don't always notice.

To sum up, I'd say the first thing to do is check if the child is lacking trace elements in the body. Secondly, you can observe your child more and chat with her in a relaxed way, rather than stopping her when she wants to bite her fingernails. This will make her more nervous and she'll think she's done something wrong, which will make her blame herself.

At this point, we just need to be patient. We don't want to scare her; we just need to explain the facts, like how biting your nails can lead to bacteria getting into your mouth and how it's not a good look for girls. At the same time, help your child find ways to distract herself.

If you're there for your child, you can also help her keep a record or let her do it herself. For example, note how many times she behaves this way in a day. We also need to praise and encourage her more and believe that she can slowly break this habit. At the same time, you should also talk to the teacher about your child's situation at school and whether there are any other stressors.

It's also a good idea to chat with your child more, in a relaxed setting like nature or the great outdoors. You can ask them about what happened. Their memory might be a bit distorted, but that's not the point. What matters is that they open up and talk about why they're acting this way. If they're ready to talk, don't push them if they're not.

I hope these tips are helpful for you. I'm sure you'll be able to resolve your concerns soon. I wish your baby a healthy and happy growth, and I wish you happiness. The world loves you, and we're here for you.

Hello, dear mother. I can see you're anxious. You're wondering if there's something wrong with your education. I'll look at this from the perspective of family education in modern families.

1. Your child is 10 years old. Do you call her a treasure girl, or do you treat her like a baby? Is there a situation where you do everything for her? You get anxious when she doesn't do well.

The child is slow and forgetful. The parents are impatient and either scold the child or do the task for them.

Or, when the child has trouble in school, the parents get angry and blame the child.

Children feel overwhelmed and try to relieve their anxiety by nail biting, chewing on their sleeves, or chewing on erasers.

2. The child chews their fingernails until they are gone.

This should have been going on for a while. What happened when your child started biting their nails?

3. What's the family atmosphere like?

Is your family a family with parents and children, or do you have elderly people living with you? How are your family members getting along?

Do you argue often? Are you and your partner on good terms? Are you raising your child alone? Is the father involved?

In a family with three generations living together, each person has different ideas about child education. The child doesn't know who to listen to, so he chews his fingernails.

If a family is always arguing, the arguments may be about work, the couple, or the child. Eventually, the child will become the parent's target. The parent will blame the child for their own problems. Then, when the child doesn't know what to do, they will also use nail-biting to relieve their fear and anxiety.

4. Go to the hospital for a test to check if zinc or calcium is low.

A child's abnormal behavior is caused by many things and requires parents to communicate with each other.

I hope this helps.

Dear Landlord, I hope my answer can be of some help to you.

As a mother, I can relate to your concerns. I have also been curious about why children thumb-suck, so I have researched the reasons behind this behavior. From my findings, there seem to be a few common reasons for children's thumb-sucking.

1. A potential lack of parental love and comfort.

It is important to note that the care and comfort mentioned here does not necessarily entail providing good living conditions or explicitly expressing love. Rather, it is about creating a sense of genuine connection and love. As children grow up, do we hug them less?

It is important to remember that children of all ages are eager to receive parental love when they are tired, sad, or stressed. If they do not get it, they may resort to self-soothing behaviors such as biting their fingers. One way to show love and comfort is through physical touch, such as a hug.

2. The child appears to be feeling a certain level of anxiety.

I recall when my son was around four years old, he went to his grandmother's house for a visit. His uncle picked us up at the train station, and while chatting in the car, he began biting his fingers. I found this rather unusual, as he hadn't done that for quite some time. Later, I reflected on it and realized that it might have been because he hadn't been to his grandmother's house for quite some time. After a half year apart, the environment there might have felt unfamiliar, scary, and anxious to him, so he used biting his fingers to regulate his emotions.

Subsequently, I was less focused on his finger-biting behavior. After a few days, he became more comfortable in his grandmother's house and the biting stopped.

If we encounter this situation, it would be helpful to first identify the cause of his anxiety. If the anxiety is caused by excessive stress, it might be beneficial to consider whether the learning tasks are too heavy and the learning activities too closely scheduled. Similarly, if the anxiety is caused by fear or fright, it could be helpful to support him in finding ways to relieve his fear.

3. The child may feel lonely.

For a while, when my son was over three years old, I would notice that he would unconsciously bite his fingers while watching TV. During that period, he was very calm, so I didn't think there was anything to be anxious about. I thought he might just be bored, so I arranged more outdoor activities for him, played some parent-child games with him, and increased the time for interaction. Gradually, I noticed that his habit of biting his fingers disappeared.

It is also worth noting that children may resort to finger-biting as a form of psychological comfort when they feel lonely or bored. This situation may be even less common in families with two children, as they often have playmates. In contrast, in families with only one child, parents may have limited time to accompany their child due to work commitments, which could contribute to feelings of loneliness.

It may be helpful to consider creating more opportunities to interact with our children. For example, we could involve them in household chores. They might be able to help wipe the table with a rag or assist with peeling beans when we are preparing to cook. When it is time to eat, we could let them take the bowls and chopsticks. These activities can be done with our children, which not only cultivates parent-child relationships but also trains our children's domestic abilities.

4. It may be worth considering the possibility that a lack of certain trace elements could be a contributing factor.

It might be helpful to consider that fingernails could contain trace elements that the child needs. For instance, a lack of zinc, calcium, iron, and so on could potentially contribute to the child's inclination to bite their fingers.

It might be helpful to check for trace elements and consider supplementing them at an appropriate time.

It may be helpful to view finger-sucking as a behavior rather than an issue. To address it effectively, it's important to understand the underlying reasons and causes.

This may require some careful observation and patient guidance. In addition, many parents are also understandably concerned about whether finger-sucking will affect their child's dental development.

Research by the American Dental Association indicates that the majority of children's finger-sucking behavior is generally harmless. Typically, children simply place their fingers in their mouths without exerting significant pressure.

It is also worth noting that the effect on teeth is not usually noticeable until the child's permanent teeth have grown in, which is typically around the age of 5 or 6.

If the child's thumb-sucking is particularly severe, such as with swelling, skin shedding, inflammation, bleeding, deformed fingers, or if it has caused problems with the bite, it may be advisable to see a doctor as soon as possible for a diagnosis and to educate the child. In most cases, children are very willing to accept the doctor's advice.

We hope this information is helpful for you. Best wishes!

Good day.

I appreciate the concerns the questioner has expressed about her child. However, I am uncertain as to how the nail-biting behavior in question is related to the parenting style in question.

Perhaps you have already identified some potential indicators through your own learning or research.

Firstly, without further details it is not possible to determine whether this is related to the family's educational style. If you would be willing to provide more details, we can discuss the matter further and identify the root cause of the problem.

Secondly, I would like to examine with you the reasons behind your child's fondness for biting their fingers. You are encouraged to compare your child's situation with that of other children.

In general, thumb-sucking in young children is a way to satisfy oral needs. However, if your child is already 10 years old and still has the habit of thumb-sucking, it is necessary to analyze the situation from a psychological perspective. There are generally the following possible scenarios:

1. The caregiver's parenting style is relatively strict.

Please reflect on whether your child frequently experiences a tense and anxious environment. For instance, to what extent do you and your family maintain a strict approach towards your child?

This may result in the child having less autonomy and fewer opportunities to express themselves.

All of this affects the child's psychological state. When the child is in a state of constant control and suppression, it is easy for them to have somatic reactions.

Secondly, there is a lack of harmony within the family unit.

If the child is in a tense family environment, there is often a high incidence of violence or arguments. This can cause anxiety in the child, who may then develop the habit of self-soothing by biting their fingers.

3. The child did not transition well from the oral-sensual stage.

The first reason is similar, except that the child's exploration of the world with their hands is habitually restricted at an earlier age. When a child is in the sensitive period, if their need to explore is not allowed and is often blocked, they will continue to exhibit this behavior into adulthood.

I recommend that you observe instances of your child biting his or her fingers, as this will facilitate the identification of the underlying cause of the behavior.

You are perceptive, and I believe you also agree that family education has a significant impact on children. Therefore, I suggest you start now to create a better environment for your child through family education.

What is the best course of action? We have compiled a few suggestions that we believe will be helpful.

One suggestion is to reflect on one's own parenting behavior and help children reduce their stress. This may involve identifying instances where parents are being too strict with their children, respecting their opinions more, and letting go of anxieties about their studies.

In the current climate, it is becoming increasingly common for parents to place excessive pressure on their children in relation to academic performance. This can have a detrimental impact on their mental health and well-being. It is therefore important to consider whether this approach is beneficial for all parties involved.

Secondly, it would be beneficial to gain some knowledge about family education. Being a parent is a challenging role that requires ongoing learning and development.

Gaining a deeper understanding of family education and the principles of child development will enable us to provide more effective support to our children. This will also help to avoid conflicts between parents and children and facilitate the children's growth and development.

Thirdly, it is important to foster a positive family environment. This should be a loving and supportive space that respects children and allows them the freedom to thrive.

Children have minimal expectations of their parents: they desire to be seen as individuals and to have a reliable source of support when challenges arise.

It may be helpful to speak with your child and inquire as to whether they are experiencing a significant psychological burden. By alleviating this burden, your child may be better able to relax.

Once you have achieved a state of relaxation, your child will be better able to focus on other tasks.

4. It is important to avoid reinforcing the child's behavior. Sometimes, we unintentionally reinforce problematic behavior by reminding the child and allowing it to continue.

This reinforcement may be unconscious, but the child's brain will pick up on the signals and form a conditioned response. It should be noted that anxiety is contagious, and if we pay more attention to it, the child will become more anxious.

The optimal strategy may be to disregard your child's actions, refrain from overtly conveying your anxiety and concern, and avoid excessive reminders. With time, your child may eventually cease the behavior on their own.

I hope you find this advice helpful.

My name is Lai Lai, and I am a psychologist in training.

Hello, I'm here to help.

It seems that your 10-year-old daughter is experiencing some difficulties with nail biting, which is understandably a cause for concern. You have reached out to us in search of guidance on how to best support your daughter.

It's wonderful that you're able to reflect on yourself and seek help.

It might be helpful to discuss this together.

Could you please tell me when you first noticed your daughter's habit of nail-biting? How old was she at the time?

Could you please describe your feelings when you first noticed it? How did you react?

Could you please describe what you said or did? How was your daughter's mood?

Could you please tell me whether you communicated with her calmly?

Could you please describe your attitude towards your daughter from an early age? Did you spend a lot of time with her?

Could you have done more to allow her to express herself fully? Do you feel you could have done more to understand and accept her negative emotions?

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider whether you can provide her with sufficient security.

After your child starts school, do you find yourself making demands on her grades and even her future life? In other words, do your words and actions put pressure on your child?

It is thought that a number of young children aged between three and six have a tendency to bite their nails. This may be because they are unable to express themselves when they are unhappy or emotional, or because they are afraid of being scolded or rejected. In such cases, they may seek to soothe their minds by biting their nails.

This could be seen as a kind of self-defense mechanism for children, whereby they convey to their parents their desire to be seen, cared for, and loved.

Children in this category may often display characteristics that could be perceived as weak, and may also appear to have a limited capacity for courage.

It is possible that children with this kind of personality have grown up in a family environment where the family atmosphere, or rather the parents, may not have been able to give them enough love, understanding, tolerance, and acceptance to give them a sense of security.

It might be helpful to consider the relationship between you and your child's father, the daily atmosphere in the family, and your ideas and specific ways of educating your child during their growth experience.

I can sense that this situation is causing you some concern and that you are eager to find a way to improve it.

However, you are aware that this will not be achieved immediately. It will take time, patience, courage and a firm belief. Nevertheless, I am optimistic that with the support of maternal love, you will be able to find the answers you are looking for.

If it would be helpful, I can offer a suggestion for your consideration.

In light of the circumstances, you may wish to consider two possible courses of action.

It may be helpful to seek professional help. This could be a psychologist, therapist, or even a specialist doctor, if needed.

It is possible that the child's current state of mind is related to the accumulation of long-term negative emotions. If these emotions are not released for a long time, they may affect the mental state, and in severe cases, depression may occur.

It would be advisable to seek professional help for these psychological issues. If you feel you can benefit from psychological support, you can explore this option together with your child.

2. Consider learning how to get along with your child.

1. It would be beneficial to spend as much time as possible with your child, so that they feel important to you.

2. It would be beneficial to communicate with your child more often.

It would be beneficial to pay attention to the tone, intonation, and expression when communicating. When you use a gentle attitude, a gentle tone of voice, warm language, and a soft speed when communicating with your child, it may encourage them to actively express their needs and expectations, which could help you understand their true thoughts and feelings.

Perhaps you could try to get along with her better.

3. Offer guidance in a way that is helpful and supportive.

It is important to avoid rushing to criticize your child's nail-biting behavior, and to refrain from scolding them harshly. This kind of behavior can often make your child feel more nervous, fearful, and at a loss. In severe cases, it can even make them feel rebellious, which may not be the desired outcome.

It may be helpful to avoid focusing your attention on your child's nail-biting behavior and to try to maintain a calm demeanor.

You might consider taking your child for a walk, going on an outing, playing games, or doing sports to help distract him from obsessing over his nails.

It may be a challenging and lengthy process, but I believe that with a loving connection, you can make it through.

I hope you find these suggestions helpful.

Good evening,

I'm Kelly.

You are an excellent and perceptive mother. I have looked up some information regarding nail-biting that I am sharing with you here.

✍️[nail biting]

There are different opinions on this issue in online resources.

A child with a serious deficiency of trace elements such as zinc and iron will develop a persistent habit of chewing and swallowing non-nutritive substances.

A similar medical case is recorded in Li Shizhen's Compendium of Materia Medica. A child liked to eat the wick of a candle or kerosene lamp and was later diagnosed with ascaridiasis.

I would like to know how traditional Chinese medicine views this problem.

The Song Dynasty pediatric works, "New Book of Infant Care,"

and "Boji Fang"

It is written that improper long-term diets in children

Malnutrition and an accumulation of food in the stomach are the inevitable result.

This will result in nail-biting.

This article is in the Ming Dynasty's "Zhengzhi Zhuneng."

Another pediatric medical book, "Essentials for Infants and Children,"

It is well documented.

When there is food stagnation, children bite their fingernails.

I want to know what the root cause of food retention is.

The spleen is unable to transform and transport food properly.

The spleen is unable to digest food normally.

A child's habit of biting their nails is undoubtedly related to a deficiency of the spleen.

If your child is a chronic picky eater or has a partiality to certain foods, they must go to the hospital to check for trace elements and have them supplemented in a targeted manner under the guidance of a doctor. (This part of the information was found online.)

This is about diet. Pay more attention to your child's eating habits and other daily habits.

I will share my parenting process and a little of my experience.

1: I am also a mother, and I follow my child's habits when it comes to eating. She is free to choose how much to eat, and I am confident that no one in the family is a picky eater, so I am certain the child does not have this problem.

2: You must strictly control snacks before meals, create a good dining atmosphere while eating, and cultivate the child's enjoyment of food.

3: I don't serve my child food on a spoon. I make sure to vary her meals to keep her interested in eating.

I respect my child's freedom of choice in this regard.

✍️[About educational issues]

Frequent nail biting in children is often a sign of anxiety, nervousness, and a lack of security.

The questioner should reflect on their past parenting style. Ten-year-old children require positive attention. The questioner should recall their parenting style and family atmosphere.

Children can also be anxious for a number of reasons, including a lack of parental company, conflict with peers, or fear of punishment.

It is also important to pay attention to what happens at school, how she feels about the teachers, her mood, etc.

These matters are important to children, even if they seem trivial.

As a child, I felt insecure because my parents were usually busy and paid little attention to me.

If the mother is strict, I will be more nervous, anxious, and fearful when I do something wrong.

The questioner must first consider themselves and be aware of how their emotions affect their child. (Most parents are inexperienced when they become parents for the first time and are nervous themselves.)

Do not intervene or interrupt rudely when children put their hands in their mouths and bite their nails.

Many problems become worse when parents intervene too much. When we remind our children, we are actually making it harder for them to change.

The best way to do this is to distract her. For example, ask her to do something she likes and see if she can concentrate.

1: Pay attention to when your child has problems (e.g. doing homework). If they are reluctant, it is because they are worried, anxious, or scared. Talk to your child about it.

2: Look for different reactions to hobbies and interests.

For example, she bites her nails when she likes to draw, watch TV, or play with her phone.

✍️ Some tips:

1: Parents must learn to see their children's problems as they raise them. The original poster will find ways to solve the problem, and they should read and learn more about psychology daily to understand the changes that occur in children of different ages.

2: Join the free Yixinli community, parenting groups, and growth groups and discuss any issues that arise.

3: Encourage and spend time with your child. Don't worry about some problems. Nail-biting will naturally disappear as your child grows up. See the emotions behind the child.

4: Parents must pay more attention to their emotions and try to relax.

You are also welcome to discuss and exchange ideas at any time.

I'm Kelly.

I want the world

I love you, world.

Hello, I hug you.

A short question has a lot of information. Let me explain.

First, check if the child is physically ill.

Nail biting may be caused by a lack of nutrients.

I've also seen a child bite their nails because they had worms. It could also be parasites.

I'm not an expert in this area.

Go to the hospital to check for physical causes of nail biting.

If there is a physical cause, treat it. If not, consider counseling.

Second, let's look at this from a psychological point of view.

When did the child start biting his nails? What happened in your family around that time?

Second, how did you deal with your child biting his nails? You've tried a lot of things. How did your child react?

What makes your child bite his or her nails? Watch what happens or what someone says. Find out when your child bites his or her nails and what these situations have in common. You will probably find the root cause.

When your child bites his or her nails, ignore it and distract your child. Do crafts, read books, or go out to play.

Finally, see a counselor who specializes in systemic family counseling. Most of a child's problems are related to the family. Otherwise, even if the child stops biting their nails, they will still be pulled back into their old behavior patterns.

I'm a counselor who is sometimes pessimistic and sometimes positive. I love the world and I love you.

Hello, question asker! I want you to know that I'm here for you and I'm sending you a big hug from afar.

I commend you for asking this question. It shows that you are a good mother who cares deeply about your child. You are aware that your child often bites her fingernails halfway down, and you are experiencing a range of emotions, including confusion, disorientation, self-blame, guilt, and doubt about your parenting style. If you believe there is something wrong with your parenting style, I would like to understand more about the parenting style you typically use with your child. It's possible that your parenting style may not be the issue, and that your child's body may be lacking certain nutrients.

Take him to the hospital to have his trace elements checked. This will determine if a lack of nutrients is causing the child to bite his fingernails. Once you have ruled out this possibility, think back and see if the child has developed this habit and when.

I need to know under what circumstances she usually bites her fingernails and how long she usually does it for.

You should also consider the benefits that medicated nail caps could bring her. You will need to observe this behavior of your child more closely and record it. Compare the results of multiple records to see if you can discover anything new.

I wish you the best, and I love you!

His mother is holding his left hand in her right hand, and she looks anxious.

Hello, question owner. I have read your message and I am here to help. Let's calm down and take a deep breath.

We'll examine the reasons why some children do it and then we'll determine the best course of treatment.

1. Anxiety: People bite their nails to relieve mental tension or excessive pressure. Over time, this can lead to nail biting.

2. Compulsive behavior: Compulsive behavior may occur due to compulsions, and uncontrolled nail biting may occur, which will undoubtedly develop into onychophagia.

3. Pica is related to a lack of trace elements such as iron and zinc. It can lead to pica, which involves the behavior of nibbling fingernails.

4. Some children bite their nails for no reason. Help your child change this bad habit. They will stop.

5. Children bite their nails when they are stressed or anxious. If they are scolded by their parents or if their study pressure increases, they may feel nervous and overwhelmed, leading to nail biting. This can be corrected through psychological guidance for children.

The above points are common, but my friend's child also bites his nails. After a hospital check-up, it was confirmed that onychophagia and a lack of trace elements were the causes, and the correct medication was prescribed.

The baby in the questioner's family should be careful. Some people also feel uneasy and bite. We must ensure the child does not feel this way. We must treat it in time, avoid overtaxing the child's brain, and pay attention to verbal stimulation. Otherwise, it will also affect the child.

If there are no problems, we simply need to correct them in a timely manner as soon as we notice them and guide the child to develop proper hygiene habits. This means not biting your nails, eating a balanced diet, drinking plenty of water, spending time interacting with your child to distract him, letting him spend more time in the fresh air, and encouraging him to let go of the habit of nail biting. Supplementing with trace elements at the appropriate time will help establish a correct understanding and improve the bad habit of nail biting.

I am confident that the baby of the original poster is happy and healthy.

Hello, I'm Qu Huidong, a psychological counselor who likes to speak in images.

After reading your description, I have a question for you.

When you call your 10-year-old daughter a "treasure," is she the same age as the daughter you remember from your heart?

You're wondering if your child's nail-biting is connected to issues you had as a kid.

But it's really hard to make a conclusion based on these two lines of description.

But I'm sure you already know the answer.

As a rule, nail biting is a sign of anxiety and insecurity.

If you still see your 10-year-old daughter, who is about to enter puberty, as a baby...

Do you see how she's feeling? Putting a finger in her mouth and sucking on it gives the child a sense of existential security and emotional stability.

She releases her inner anxiety by biting her nails, and at the same time expresses aggression. Also, nail biting is usually just one way of expressing herself. You should also look out for whether she has physical expressions such as stomach aches (often diarrhea or constipation), nightmares, headaches, stomach aches, etc. When some emotions cannot be expressed in words, the body's response will be more direct.

I don't know how you get along with your daughter or other family members.

So I can only offer some general advice to parents.

It's important for parents to learn to manage their emotions.

It's also important to have good quality companionship.

If you scold or stop them right away, it'll just make things worse.

Try to minimize your attention to thumb-sucking and avoid passing on your anxiety to your child.

The latter two suggestions are more detailed, while the former two are actually more challenging to implement.

This means that parents need to put in some effort to learn and reflect.

Because parents are also human, they may have trouble regulating their own conflicting emotions.

If you can, it's a good idea to focus on your own spiritual growth first.

When one member of the family makes a change

The dynamics of the whole family will also change.

The child's behavior is a visible symptom.

Ultimately, though, the solution has to come from the parents themselves.

Your question wasn't super long, but I get the sense you're a parent who's self-aware and reflective.

I'd also love the chance to work with you through psychological counseling to help you adjust your state and improve your child's condition.

Wishing you the best!