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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Hello, I'm Weiliang.
From what you've said, I can see you're feeling helpless and anxious about how to handle this situation.
I'm not sure if you're the anxiety/i-was-an-introvert-as-a-child-and-even-in-my-30s-im-still-very-clumsy-could-it-be-depression-8173.html" target="_blank">child's parent or another older person. You still care about the child and want the best for him. Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts. It seems like the child you're talking about could use more love.
First of all, his parents divorced, and he doesn't live with his father or his mother. I think he must feel very sad. I don't know if anyone can make up for the lack of this part of family love and companionship.
This must be really tough for a kid. Does anyone get it? I hope so.
Secondly, he started boarding school in fifth grade. Can anyone tell me how he's doing at school? I'd like to know more about his life, his studies, and his interactions with teachers and classmates.
You mentioned that he's been fighting a lot at school since he started junior high. What's been going on? Why does he lie to adults?
Does anyone pay attention to him? What does he do with the family money?
If we want to help a child change, we need to understand why he's acting the way he is and what he wants to become. How does he see himself?
Because a child's change isn't dependent on our will, he has his own thoughts and judgments. We can only help him analyze and influence him when we fully understand him. These behaviors are only superficial. We need to find a deeper motivation that can lead to his own change.
From what you've said, it seems like he's been neglected by his parents and is lacking the warm love that should be a child's most basic need. I hope his parents can recognize this and that those around him can too, so he can get the love he needs and not have to face loneliness alone.
Give him a hug!
The above is just my opinion, but I hope it helps! I think the world would be a better place if we all loved each other a little more!
I hope he can feel it.
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He's facing a lot of changes and challenges, it's clear that he's crying out for attention and help. He might feel lost without his parents around and the structure he once knew.
Maybe he is acting out because he feels disconnected from his family. Living with grandparents and attending boarding school could make him feel abandoned. It's important to build his selfesteem and show him love and support.
Stealing and lying may be his way of seeking control in an unstable environment. We should focus on understanding his feelings and provide guidance rather than punishment alone. Establishing trust will be key.
I wonder if he has any hobbies or interests that we can encourage? Engaging him in positive activities could channel his energy constructively and give him a sense of achievement.
It seems like this boy is struggling with behavioral issues that stem from emotional distress. Professional counseling might offer him a space to express himself and learn healthier coping mechanisms.