A 15-year-old girl trusts her family too much, but she gets cheated. What should she do?

Hello, question owner!

As a junior high school student, the college entrance exam is fast approaching. Most provinces and cities have the exam in late June, which means there is less than half a month left. I am extremely disappointed to hear about the embarrassing, helpless, and somewhat angry incident you encountered on the eve of the college entrance exam.

You said your mother is angry, so you should care most about her anger. I don't know how your mother treats you when she is angry, but I know her love for you remains unchanged and just as deep as ever, no matter how angry she is.

It might sound chaotic at first, and people might blame you for talking like an immature child. But they'll realize your mother won't take this seriously.

Why do you say that? It's not just because you have to face the entrance exam now. It's also because, in my opinion, it really is not a big deal. Children say intimate things to each other, and this is normal. Besides, keeping secrets is also a principle of being a good person. You have kept your cousin's secret well, which shows that you are a kind and trustworthy person. I give you a big thumbs-up for that. After you have given your thumbs-up, I will continue.

Look at your cousin. Don't view her as your older sister. She can't do as well as you. She even promised you, but she just casually said it. I don't know. Is it not what your cousin said? We know that when we talk, there are ears all around. You might accidentally let a third person hear. It's best not to suspect things without a basis.

Your mother will forget about this in the future, so why dwell on it? People in Dalian complain about each other all the time. You told your relatives, and they were upset. Give it time, and it'll be old news. This is our impression of them, and it's the truth.

If not, adults will live a hypocritical life. If your relatives and others learn through this incident that they are still lacking in your eyes, they should thank you if they can correct it. It's very likely that this will happen. We have to look at things in a positive way and think about the positive side.

It's okay. Everything is fine. The upcoming high school entrance exam is our main concern. We must focus all our energy on this exam. I agree with your mother. You can do it. Don't worry about anything else.

Tomorrow the sun will rise as usual, life will continue, family ties will remain, and nothing will change. If anything is going to change, it will be your opinion of your cousin at this stage. You should regret telling him those words.

This is also very good because you will learn to say what you should say in the future and resolutely keep your mouth shut when you shouldn't. You also know that even if someone else promises you something, they might still spread the news. We are the most trustworthy person here. Anyway, once we say something, we can't guarantee it.

You can use this experience to your advantage in the future! We're simply sharing this with our friends and family, and there's no harm in that. But if you're dealing with enemies, this mindset is a major red flag. It'll help us avoid getting caught up in pessimistic thinking. Think about how powerful this can be!

You must acknowledge the good and the bad in what has happened. There's an old saying: misfortune brings blessings, and blessings bring misfortune. This makes sense. Now that you are unhappy, you have figured it out. What about the future?

You will be able to focus more on your studies, and that will benefit your studies.

I am certain you will find the perfect solution through the respondents' replies, giving you the energy you need to ace the entrance exam. I wish you the best of luck and hope you get into the high school of your dreams. Good luck!

Hello, classmate! I was so touched when I saw your question that I just had to answer a few words. Let me hug you from afar first!

I had a similar experience when I was very young. I can feel that you and your cousin should have a great relationship! Otherwise, you would not have told her your little secret. However, because of this incident, you are in a bad mood, and it has affected your trust in your cousin.

It's natural to trust others at first. You share a secret with someone and they promise to keep it, but then they reveal it, making you feel betrayed. It's only natural to feel angry, distressed, and sad. After all, they're your relatives and cousins, and you thought you could trust them. It makes you wonder, if even relatives and friends can't be trusted and will reveal secrets, then who else in society can we trust?

I used to think the same way, and I was totally wrong!

The world is a fascinating place, and it's not always as simple as it seems. Your cousin may have deliberately revealed your secret, or she may have accidentally revealed it without meaning to. Either way, it's totally normal to feel angry and resentful towards her.

Dear student, You absolutely don't have to feel guilty! Whether it was intentional or not, I really hope that your cousin will take the initiative to apologize to you.

If she doesn't approach you, you might want to find an opportunity to express your true feelings to her. You can tell her that you are very angry and resentful about her divulging your secrets, that it hurts, and that you hope such things don't happen again in the future because it will affect your trust in her. Tell her that you trust her from the bottom of your heart and hope to remain good friends with her.

I don't know how many years older your cousin is than you, but maybe she is still a student and doesn't realize that her actions have hurt you. I'm sure she will learn the importance of trust between people after this experience!

Also, you might be worried that your relatives will laugh behind your back when they find out your secret. But don't worry! This is totally normal. It has already happened, so you just have to accept it. I think the adult world is more complicated. They face a lot of things every day, and they won't care about your secret for long. You can choose to let time fade these secrets, or you can communicate your thoughts to them. Tell your relatives that everyone has their own little secrets, and everyone's secrets should be protected and respected!

I wish you the best and I'm sure your worries will soon be gone!

Good day, my name is Flower.

The experience of being cheated evokes feelings of anger when a promise is not kept. At the same time, it is evident that the questioner displays qualities of kindness and trustworthiness, which are praiseworthy. This experience may also be a catalyst for personal growth.

The importance of trust in a relationship cannot be overstated.

Trust is also a crucial aspect of any relationship. If one partner in a relationship breaches the confidentiality of the relationship and fails to fulfill their commitments, it may lead to a deterioration in the relationship.

It is crucial to take the initiative in a relationship and establish trust. When a problem arises, it is essential to refrain from making certain statements that could potentially exacerbate the issue.

It is imperative to learn how to safeguard one's own secrets.

Subsequently, one secret is disclosed to family members after another.

If secrets are revealed to family members in rapid succession, it may be indicative of multiple instances of unauthorized disclosure. In subsequent relationships, it is advisable for the individual in question to prioritize the protection of their secrets. When confronted with the discovery that another individual has gained access to confidential information, it is possible to engage in a constructive dialogue with that person. However, if the communication proves ineffective, it may be necessary to exercise greater discretion in the future.

It is important to be mindful of one's emotional state.

Upon the revelation of adolescent secrets to adults, it is pertinent to inquire as to the emotional state of the questioner. It is possible that feelings of shame, anger, or other negative emotions may have been experienced. In such instances, it is essential for the questioner to reflect on the underlying reasons for their apprehension regarding the disclosure of secrets to adults. This introspective process can help identify the specific needs that give rise to these concerns. Once a secret has been revealed, it is often too late to reverse the situation. However, it is possible to take measures to manage one's emotions, recognize them, and then attempt to respond to the situation with a sense of equanimity. This can be achieved by asking oneself, "What if the secret has been revealed?" or "What if my mother is angry?" It is crucial to recognize that these emotions are normal and that there are often multiple solutions to any given problem.

It is my hope that the aforementioned information will prove beneficial to the individual who posed the question, and I extend my best wishes to you.

Your cousin leaked your private information. Everyone knows. You are angry and sad.

Stop the bleeding.

Your cousin doesn't take your "secret" seriously. She doesn't care about your feelings. She can be trusted. Never tell her these secrets again.

Second, learn to protect yourself.

You can deny or remain silent when other relatives ask about your complaints. This makes it seem like your cousin is wrong and not you.

Everyone can have their own opinion. Sharing other people's opinions is gossip. You must believe that everyone hates gossipers.

Focus on the exam.

I don't know why my cousin told you that, but she shouldn't affect your exam. It's annoying, but not urgent. Wait until you've finished the exam and then "settle the score after the autumn."

Focus on the exam. Your mother and you are doing well. That's what matters.

They can gossip, but live your life to the fullest.

People who live well are easy to gossip about because everyone is jealous.

I hope this helps.

Stay strong.

Good day. I am a heart exploration coach. I will provide you with a supportive and empathetic ear as you share your emotional experiences.

I extend my sympathies to you. Your cousin did not maintain your confidence as she had promised; instead, she divulged it, which caused you to experience profound embarrassment. Simultaneously, this action negatively impacted your self-esteem and eroded your trust in her.

In addition to experiencing feelings of disappointment and anger, you also feel a sense of shame regarding the statements you made and the personal secrets you have kept.

Take a moment to collect yourself, offer yourself a brief embrace (cross your arms and give yourself a little cuddle), and I will assist you in navigating these challenges.

There is no cause for concern, fear, or shame.

Individuals at this age have typically undergone the pubertal transition. Their parents, extended family members, and siblings have also experienced this developmental stage.

It is possible that you have experienced a similar situation, such as developing a romantic interest in someone of the opposite sex, engaging in a rebellious act, or having a conflict with a teacher.

Therefore, they are able to comprehend the actions you have performed, the statements you have uttered, and your present emotional state.

Furthermore, these actions, which may appear significant at the present age, will likely be viewed differently in the future. For instance, after completing high school, pursuing higher education, or entering the workforce, these experiences may lose their initial impact.

As these behaviors are common among individuals of this age, there is no cause for concern or shame.

It is recommended that when one encounters individuals or situations that are unclear or cause emotional distress, a longer perspective should be adopted. This approach will result in a greater sense of relaxation and the clarification of these issues.

One might posit that in ten years' time, both you and your cousin will be gainfully employed. In such a scenario, would you still be troubled by past events, such as your cousin's betrayal or your own complaints about your elders? This approach, which involves envisioning the future and how it might impact the present, is known as "time-lining."

Every individual who enters our lives serves a purpose, whether we are aware of it or not. They often play a role in helping us to learn important lessons.

Similarly, your cousin did not fulfill her obligation and divulged your secret, thereby imparting a valuable lesson in the importance of trust.

You voiced your displeasure about other relatives in the presence of your cousins. Consider the perspective of those who heard you. Would they not assume that you would also complain about your cousin to others?

Therefore, this experience has demonstrated that misfortune can be conveyed through one's words.

From your interactions with your cousin, you can learn valuable life lessons such as the importance of trust, self-protection, and gratitude, as well as the necessity of avoiding excessive complaining. This is a worthwhile price to pay for the knowledge gained.

In conclusion, it is important to note that the process of maturation often evokes a range of emotions. It is essential to embrace the experiences that life presents during this developmental phase, as they constitute a valuable personal asset.

It is of the utmost importance to prioritize happiness.

It is my sincere hope that the aforementioned information is beneficial to you. I extend my utmost support and affection to you and the world at large.

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Hello, host!

The original poster is a junior high school student looking for someone to talk to. He didn't realize that the person he approached was unreliable, and he feels cheated. I can feel your anger, and I'm here to help!

The world is an amazing place, and it's full of incredible things to discover! As you embark on your journey of growth and learning, you'll encounter many exciting challenges along the way. The earlier you embrace these challenges, the sooner you'll be ready to soar! Sure, there might be a few bumps along the way, but that's all part of the adventure!

So, remember this: When you're interacting with others, it's important to first understand what kind of person they are. Then, you can decide if you can open your heart to them! I believe that knowing how to judge people is also an important part of your personal growth process.

Absolutely! In your growth process, you'll also meet classmates and teachers you trust more, so you can talk to them if you're unhappy about something. And if you still can't find someone, you can also find a psychological counselor! These people are professional and confidential, and they'll give you a safe and warm environment.

So not only has your upset spread throughout the family, but your mother is also angry. I think it would be a great idea for you to communicate with your mother. If you really did something wrong, you can apologize and make it right!

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