A 20-year-old woman is facing a difficult choice, should she choose one path or both?

Hello,

I'm Zhai Jianhang, a listening therapist at Yixinli. I can relate to your question, so I'd love to chat with you a bit and see if I can inspire you.

From your question, I can see that you feel a sense of love and self-fulfillment in music. You mentioned that when you can't study Chinese medicine anymore, music brings you a good feeling and happiness.

So you're wondering if you should study music. At the same time, you're also thinking that although you've encountered difficulties in studying Chinese medicine, you've put in four years of hard work and have also received recognition from your teachers.

All of these are tough to give up. Plus, you have to study for four years to get certified before you can start practicing.

So, you're giving up traditional Chinese medicine to study music, or you're a bit torn between the two.

From your question, I get the sense that you've already made up your mind to study music and are just weighing whether to give it up or combine it with traditional Chinese medicine. Is that right?

Sometimes, it takes more courage to give up than to persevere. There are so many things to think about: the time and effort you've invested, what your parents expect, and your future stability.

There's a saying: "Don't be afraid before middle age, and don't regret it after." For you at 20, life is just beginning to bloom, and there's so much to discover and explore.

Ultimately, you need to make the choice yourself.

What should you think about in the future so you don't regret it later? Based on what you said in your message, I've made a simple pros and cons list.

Music: It's a good choice if you want to: - Connect with your creative side - Have fun - Make something The downside is that you have to start from scratch and plan your future.

Pros of Traditional Chinese Medicine: 1. You put in the work for four years. 2. Your teacher recognizes your efforts. 3. You get to take the exam for practice after four years. Cons of Traditional Chinese Medicine: 1. You feel like you can't continue studying. 2. You need to study for another four years before you can practice.

From the pros and cons analysis, it seems like you can't continue studying traditional Chinese medicine, but the future is clear. On the other hand, although it feels good to study music, the future is not very clear.

So, if you're thinking of giving up Chinese medicine to focus on music, it's important to think about how you're going to develop your career before you make that decision.

There are always more than three ways to solve a problem. Is there a third way? For example, if you're feeling overwhelmed, don't worry about it right now. Take a break, change your mindset, and come back to it later.

As it happens, Archimedes solved a problem he'd been thinking about for a long time while taking a bath.

To wrap up,

To wrap up,

1. Don't worry about getting to middle age, and don't regret it when you get there.

2. Think carefully about the pros and cons and make sure you've got everything covered.

3. Put the problem on the back burner for a while, do something to unwind, and then come back to it. You'll probably see things more clearly after a little while.

From your questions, I can tell that you're a thoughtful girl with your own ideas about the future and the confidence to challenge the status quo. This is a rare quality that will stand you in good stead in achieving your dreams.

I think you'll follow your heart and find your own way. I also wish you a life as beautiful as a summer flower, exploring a brighter future!

Hello, host! I'm smiling!

After reading your description, I have a better understanding of the question you want to ask, so I'll give you a warm hug!

From your description, I can somewhat understand your dilemma today. The first option is to give up music in order to study medicine, and the second option is to give up studying medicine in order to pursue music. Both options have their own advantages and disadvantages, which makes it a bit difficult for you to choose. But I know you can do it!

You have a point! You really want to choose, and I admire you for that. I know you're facing some practical and inner uncertainties, but I believe you'll make the right choice for you.

But here's the good news: you can choose both options right now! Sure, both options take time and energy, but music is worth every second. Studying medicine can also give you a solid foundation to support your music career.

So, you can take care of both at the moment! One day, when you have enough funds and mature musical experience, you can go down the path of music. After all, a career and hobbies can coexist, and there is no need to say that you must choose one or the other.

I've also put together a few tips to help you out! I really hope they help you out! ?

(1) Relax and take your time. You can slowly find the best solution for the two options!

(2) You can ask your friends and family to help you express the feelings and thoughts you want to say, and let it all out!

(3) You can delve into your deepest feelings more often to constantly grow and develop yourself!

(4) When you really want to pursue a career in music, get ready for an amazing journey with plenty of challenges and setbacks along the way. But don't worry, you've got this! All you need is the courage and perseverance to follow this path, and you'll be unstoppable!

(5) If you do what you love with all your heart, you will absolutely shine! When you have decided to do something wholeheartedly, you will definitely devote a lot of time and energy to it. The effort you put in may not be proportional to the reward, but that's okay! This is the norm, so don't put too much pressure on yourself or have too high expectations. Instead, take your time and hone your skills!

The world and I love you so much! ?

Take care!

Hello, host!

I'm surprised the original poster's question gives two options: not choosing between Chinese medicine and music, but giving up one and not the other. Does the original poster already know which one to give up?

If not, the host is faced with three problems:

1. You have to decide between Chinese medicine and music. Which one are you going to have to give up?

2. Should I stick with traditional Chinese medicine and keep learning and playing music?

3. Should I stick with music and keep studying and practicing traditional Chinese medicine?

The host of these three questions is a dilemma, and this is also a big choice for your future. But it's even harder to know what's right for you because no one can really understand how you feel about traditional Chinese medicine and music. So, no one can be 100% sure what choice is really the best for you.

Because there are too many unknowns in any choice, such as what your goal is, what resources you have, how future changes in the environment will affect your situation, and so on. Plus, people's feelings and needs can change.

I can't give you a straight answer here. What I'd suggest is that you think about what you really need, what you want and what you want to achieve. Then you can work out the best way to get there. I'll give you some questions to think about and some tips on how to make it happen.

First, it's important to understand the difference between your feelings and your needs.

Can you tell us more about what it's like to "really can't learn Chinese medicine"? We'd love to hear about the challenges you've faced.

What are your feelings about it? Put another way, if you don't like Chinese medicine, what specifically do you dislike about it?

On top of that, what do you really need that traditional Chinese medicine can't give you but music can? And what don't you want that traditional Chinese medicine will make you take but music won't?

These questions can help you figure out what you really want and what you don't want.

If it's just a temporary hurdle, like a bottleneck in traditional Chinese medicine theory and practice, with guidance, you should be able to overcome it after a bit of perseverance (you said your teacher is happy with you). This is something anyone can face in any job, and there will be many such challenges in piano learning. Of course, this doesn't rule out the case of very large individual differences. Perhaps the academic challenges in piano playing will inspire you to improve and you'll be determined to overcome them, meet the challenges, and gain positive experiences.

If you don't like the environment and nature of the work in a hospital, for example, if you don't like dealing with patients who complain to you every day and you have to force yourself to sympathize with them, and the work makes you feel depleted, then it's likely that this job doesn't suit you well. Doing music feels good, so it suggests that perhaps some aspects of music work may suit you better, so there's a stronger reason to give up traditional Chinese medicine.

If the obstacles are in other areas, such as difficulties with superiors and peers at work that have brought about negative experiences, then you need to think carefully. These kinds of difficulties are common in any occupation in an organizational structure, and switching to music may not really improve the situation.

So, what you need to ask yourself is: does immersing yourself in music mean you're trying to avoid the challenges of traditional Chinese medicine?

After all, there's a big difference between being a music student and working in music. The workplace has a lot of complex issues, and things outside of music can also bring negative experiences. At that time, the love for music may also turn into a state of "unable to learn" or "unable to do."

This is probably why most people think that turning a hobby into a career is a recipe for disaster!

Secondly, take a look at your current situation and make sure you know what you want to achieve and how you're going to get there.

What are your short-term and long-term goals? What resources do you have to help you find a path to achieve your goals?

What are the costs you need to pay, what are the worst possible outcomes to expect, and can you accept them?

There are many factors to consider. I'll use financial conditions as an example. If you want to overcome the difficulties and choose music as your future career, and you're in a good financial situation and already financially free, I encourage you to give it a try. Even if you find that music is no longer fun after four years, you can always pick up traditional Chinese medicine. Or if you discover something else that is worth trying, you can change your major and try it.

With more professional experience, you may be able to become a slashie and do meaningful things in different fields at the same time.

If you're in a situation where you need to work every month just to make ends meet, you need to think about whether you can afford to give up traditional Chinese medicine. Most people will probably choose to "ride the donkey and watch the singing book," which means they'll take some time to juggle both, slow down their music studies a bit, and wait until they have more clarity and options.

Of course, if you don't give up on either, you might not have enough time or energy to do both as well as you'd like. In that case, just go at your own pace. You can adjust your interim goals to achieve your ultimate goal. For example, there are now many online ways to become an independent musician!

Who knows, maybe one day you'll become an internet celebrity!

P.S. The original poster should consider more factors. I'm just throwing out an idea here. If there's any inconsistency with the original poster's situation, please ignore it.

I know that our problem often lies in the difficulty of facing the unknown future, especially the uncertainty of whether changing course will lead us to where we want to be. But in fact, this desire to "avoid all bad possibilities" is just our fear of uncertainty. Trying to determine which path is the right one now is an impossible problem—no one can know what will happen next.

It's important to follow your gut and go where your heart is pulling you. You'll only really know what the right path is when you're in the thick of it. Have faith in your calling and trust that all roads lead somewhere. Even if you don't end up where you originally planned, it's all part of the journey.

I hope you find your own unique path and gain your own unique experience.

That's a wrap! The world and I love you.

Hello, question asker! I'm Qingqing, your social worker.

From what you've told me, I can see why you're feeling so distressed and confused. I can also see that you want to change the status quo. I hope that my analysis will answer your questions.

(1) I totally get where the questioner is coming from. At the same time, the questioner is really lucky to have two broad paths in front of them, while many people at this age are stuck with no way out and no options. So don't worry too much!

(2) It doesn't matter what career you choose, whether it's your hobby or not. What matters is whether you have the tenacity and perseverance to stick with it. Let's think about it together. Is the reason you're thinking about picking up music again because traditional Chinese medicine is too difficult, or because you really love music?

If you choose the other side because one thing is too difficult, then I don't think music is the right path for you. You'll still face a lot of difficulties along the way.

(3) We often get stuck in our own heads. You've got to be determined and persevere to get through the tough times. While you're studying Chinese medicine, you could also look at music as a side business. You could even go into business for yourself and love it!

Best of luck! (Yi Xinli Whale Social Worker)