A 24-year-old woman develops symptoms similar to HPV. How can she face everything with perseverance?

Hello! I'm here to give you a 360-degree hug if you need one.

My advice on HPV is to start with the facts.

There are about a hundred genetic subtypes of HPV, most of which are low-risk, while there are 13 to 15 high-risk ones. The most dangerous are 16 and 18.

The current bivalent HPV vaccine protects against two types, and there are also quadrivalent and nonavalent vaccines that protect against more subtypes.

Just to let you know, men can also get the HPV vaccine.

Another thing to note is that around 95% of HPV cases can be treated without any intervention. Some people may not even know they have HPV and it will have already resolved on its own.

This is what the doctor said when I went to the hospital for a physical. These days, HPV testing is a standard part of women's physical exams. If you go to the OB-GYN department of a hospital, you'll see a lot of publicity about regular HPV testing.

Of course, you probably already know all this information. It's all public information, and you've already been to the hospital for testing. To put it simply, HPV is not as scary as we think.

Your concerns might be more about the stigma and how it affects your relationship with your fiancé.

You mentioned that you accidentally mixed up your mom's underwear when you were in the second grade. Since then, you've felt a bit out of place and different.

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It's hard to accept. I'd guess that a lot of your rejection is probably directed at your mother.

Many people think that women who have HPV have had lots of sexual partners and have been promiscuous. This kind of behavior is often criticized in terms of public morality.

So, you probably have your own ideas about how your mother got sick, like whether she had sex with other men or cheated on you. You probably haven't talked to your mother about this either, and you've chosen to ignore the various gynecological medicines in her medicine cabinet.

It can be even more embarrassing to ask during puberty, and you might feel ashamed.

I'd like to share a few more details about different gynecological drugs and suppositories. It's important to understand that women are highly susceptible to various gynecological inflammations, with rates approaching 100%. This is influenced by factors such as the structure of the female genitalia, changes in hormone secretion during the reproductive period, and sex life. So, even if you lead a clean and decent life and don't have sex, you may still be at risk for gynecological inflammations.

The majority of medications used to treat gynecological infections are in the form of suppositories and powders, which are often overlooked.

So, have you been worrying for a while now? It'd be best to wait for the test results and then follow the doctor's advice.

If there's a physical illness, the doctor will give you a specific treatment plan. But psychological fears, helplessness, and dissatisfaction often torment us more than physical illnesses.

1. None of this is your fault.

Even if you do get sick, it's not your fault. The most common way of getting HPV is through sexual contact, but it can also be through sharing objects with someone who's infected.

This is also why so many people are infected with HPV without knowing it. As we mentioned earlier, most HPV infections can be self-healing. Many people don't know they have been infected with HPV because our immune system has already defeated it.

Yes, it's not your fault.

2. Accept your fate.

I know this might sound negative and infuriating, but I've always felt that there are many things in life that we can't control but that have a significant impact on us. There's nothing we can do about such things.

I'd say at this point, it's best to accept your fate and not dwell on why you've suffered, why your life is so hard, why your family of origin was so terrible, and so on. These kinds of questions are basically unsolvable, and many of them have already happened. There's no use in trying to go back in time to solve them. The best thing to do is accept your fate.

But accepting one's fate doesn't mean giving up. It means accepting it and then seeing what you can do. Even if you've got a bad hand, see if you can make a royal flush.

But the first step is to accept your fate.

3. About the fiancé

I think this is also a big reason for your fear. You're worried that if you're really infected, you'll also infect your fiancé. If he finds out, will he think you're promiscuous, will he make fun of you, and can you still have sex on your wedding night?

I think you should wait for the test results.

Once you know the results, if you're not infected, I suggest you go to a counselor and talk to them. It'll be very helpful.

If you're infected, I suggest you be honest with your fiancé. It's responsible for both of you. The other person may be angry, suspicious, or even break up with you.

But if that happens, it may not necessarily be a bad thing. You didn't do anything wrong, but he still can't accept it. That's his business, and we have to allow others' fears and prejudices to exist.

On the other hand, breaking up now is better than getting divorced after marriage.

I also suggest you speak to a counselor. It's good to get things off your chest.

I'm a counselor who's both Buddhist and pessimistic, but I can also be positive and motivated. I love the world, and I think you're great too.

Hello,

Many symptoms similar to HPV appear during adolescence. It may be caused by wearing your mother's underwear by mistake. You also see various types of gynecological drugs on your mother's counter.

You have worked hard for your relationships and studies, and have your own expectations for life.

Now that I'm 24 and about to get married, I know I should check for symptoms. I've checked for symptoms, bought a test, and gone to the hospital. You want to enter this new chapter of your life in better physical condition. It's also an attitude of responsibility towards yourself and your loved one.

You're waiting for the report. Waiting makes people daydream. You're worried the result won't be good and it'll affect your life. You're not sure how to tell your loved one. You're scared and anxious.

As far as I know,

HPV can be low-risk or high-risk.

You can only get cervical cancer if you have high-risk HPV.

Having HPV does not mean you will get cervical cancer.

HPV can cause cervical cancer if you have long-term, high-intensity sex with someone who has it.

HPV can cause cancer. There are 4 stages:

HPV infection → pre-cancerous lesions → cancer

It usually takes a few years or more than ten years.

If you have a high-risk type of HPV, you can still heal yourself in about 8 months to 2 years.

It can also be treated.

You are responsible in your intimate relationships. Cooperate with treatment, communicate with your partner about the disease and family planning.

Before a smooth start

Before you communicate, you need to calm down. You can use the Text Heart Exploration/Listening Service on the platform to help you express and communicate more effectively when you are calm.

I love you, and everything will become clear.

Hello, I'm Fei You, your heart coach!

You feel a huge amount of pressure, and I totally get it! HPV infection causes you worry and fear, which comes from the pressure of the disease itself and the possible suspicion and misunderstanding from your intimate partner.

Now, let's dive in and explore the problem together, and I'll show you how to find the solution!

1. Get the facts about the disease and put your mind at ease!

As a former medical student, I'm thrilled to take a closer look at HPV with you!

HPV, or human papillomavirus, is a common infection of the female reproductive tract and is classified as a sexually transmitted disease.

Many people immediately change expression when they see the words "sexually transmitted," and conjure up a lot of images in their minds. There are four ways it can be transmitted, one of which is sexual intercourse, and there is also mother-to-child transmission (breast milk). Indirect contact with the clothing of an HPV patient can also cause the disease.

In the movie "Sorrowful Backflow into the River," the female protagonist made a bold move by using the patient's towel, which led to an unexpected and thrilling turn of events.

The first thing you want to know is whether HPV will definitely lead to cancer.

The first thing you need to know is that HPV does not always lead to cancer. There are so many resources out there, like Baidu, where you can search for more information. Or, you can consult a medical professional.

There are specific medications and laser treatments that can help!

Second, let's challenge traditional perceptions and conservative thinking about sex. It's time to recognize that sex is not ugly or dirty, and that everything related to sex is not despicable.

Let's get rid of those false perceptions! They lead to self-scaring, self-doubt, self-negation, and even self-abandonment. We can't let these be expressions of belittling ourselves!

You said, "I think... I have contributed and made a difference." And you're right! You are a good person, so why would you get this disease? You see this disease as "dirty," and you think the person who has it is also dirty. But you're wrong! This kind of wrong thinking must be eliminated.

I'm still in my prime and I'm excited to live life to the fullest! I have so many dreams and expectations for the future.

This reminds me of an English composition I wrote in high school: A boy had a fever, and he was sullen all day, thinking he was going to die from a high fever of over 70 degrees Celsius. When his father told him that Celsius and Fahrenheit are different, his mood immediately eased up, and I think he also realized how silly he was—and how lucky he was to have such a supportive father!

Family and friends are our social support systems. You can talk to a close friend about your worries. Even if they can't help you out in a big way, at least you'll feel better just talking to them!

? 2. Let's dive into your concerns about your boyfriend!

First of all, he is already your fiancé, so if you have a clear conscience, you can boldly confess to him what happened. If you want to be on the safe side, you can seek treatment from a professional medical institution and focus on your treatment. After you have recovered, you can get along happily!

The great thing is that anyone with a basic knowledge of the subject can understand the causes of the disease, the transmission routes, and the treatment methods and their effectiveness.

If your relationship has been hindered by this HPV, then you should be grateful that you have not yet entered into marriage. This is your chance to avoid mutual harm by pulling back before it is too late!

My dear, relax, believe in yourself, and believe in medicine! Illness is not scary; it is our inner demons that are the most terrifying.

I really hope the above is helpful to you! And I just want to say that the world and I love you! ??

If you want to continue communicating, just click "Find a coach" in the upper right corner or at the bottom! I'm so excited to communicate and grow with you one-on-one!