A 24-year-old woman, her boyfriend's friend has a chaotic sexual relationship, should I break up?

A simple embrace may be an appropriate gesture to convey support and understanding. The decision to end the relationship ultimately depends on the compatibility of the two individuals, their future aspirations, and their individual reflections.

1. The other person frequently lacks an independent perspective and is susceptible to external influence.

As the adage states, those who associate with reds will become red, and those who associate with blacks will become black. The other person's friends engage in relatively chaotic sexual relationships. However, rather than exercising independent judgment, he is somewhat oversensitive and begins to suspect that the question asker may behave in a similar manner.

The reason for the prevalence of infidelity among his acquaintances is that they are susceptible to such behaviour. When compared to the general population, the incidence of infidelity among these individuals is undoubtedly lower than what he perceives. Furthermore, based on the trust between partners, many individuals are reluctant to suspect their partners of infidelity due to the aforementioned factors.

If the other person lacks basic discernment and self-control, they are susceptible to external influences and may engage in actions that are inappropriate or problematic. Consequently, it is essential to develop the ability to decline certain vices.

2. The inability to empathize with the perspective of the other person and a tendency to prioritize one's own feelings.

For instance, the other person's mother and friends will not become angry over trivial matters. The significance of a matter varies from person to person. If one were to live with the other in the future, there would be a high probability of encountering a multitude of disagreements. Consequently, the optimal approach to navigate these potential issues is to establish a balance that is acceptable to both parties.

It is essential to develop the ability to empathize with the perspective of the other person and to comprehend the underlying causes of their disagreement. Instead of focusing solely on one's own feelings and expectations, it is crucial to cultivate mutual respect and understanding.

Additionally, the inquirer may inquire about the other person's future plans and the perspectives of both families regarding the marriage. This process may elucidate further issues.

In regard to the question of whether the couple can continue to coexist, it is recommended that they compile a comprehensive list of the issues that have arisen and present them for examination. This process will facilitate an understanding of how both parties will address these challenges and inform the subsequent decision-making process.

I am a diminutive frying pan, and I extend my love to the world and to myself.

Hello, dear. I can see you're feeling a bit confused right now, so I just wanted to give you a hug.

It seems you are facing some challenges in your relationship. I'm here to support you.

If it wouldn't be an imposition, I'd like to offer my opinion.

I can see how your boyfriend's friend-with-benefits relationship might seem a little unusual.

It seems that he has already moved on from his ex-girlfriend, but he still took the initiative to contact her, add her back to WeChat, and even called her several times for over an hour.

I must say, this is quite surprising.

It seems that he has already broken up with his ex-girlfriend, but he has taken the initiative to add her back to WeChat. This could mean that your boyfriend is now facing some challenges in navigating his relationship with her.

It's possible that he's unsure about whether to stay with his ex-girlfriend or be with you.

It might be perceived as using you as a spare tire.

I'm afraid that if you continue to be with your boyfriend, it may result in difficulties for both of you.

A relationship is about finding a balance between comfort and ease with your partner.

It seems that you are feeling a bit tired when you are with your boyfriend, which is understandable.

I'm inclined to believe that before you came to this platform to ask a question, you already had a clear answer in your heart.

You came to this platform to ask a question and to hear more from other respondents, to see which answer resonates with you the most.

I hope that after reading this, you feel more confident about knowing what to do.

Whatever decision you ultimately make, I hope you will consider following your true thoughts and feelings.

We can only offer suggestions, as the decision ultimately rests with you.

I truly hope that you will be able to find a solution to the problem you are facing soon.

I hope these suggestions are helpful for you.

I hope my answers are helpful and inspiring. I am a respondent, and I am always learning.

At Yixinli, we extend our warmest regards to you and the entire world.

You are still very young, and you have your own judgments about the trivial details and values of ordinary life. It seems that your boyfriend may benefit from some guidance in establishing clear boundaries and forming positive relationships.

However, the other person instead came early to question your loyalty, which is undoubtedly a very uncomfortable situation. In addition to the challenges you've faced, such as the death of a close relative, your parents' divorce, and the evolution of your personality, you are now facing a new challenge.

This is some of the complexity and pain that past experiences have brought to the situation. It seems that the other person is still blaming you and losing their temper at you, which may be unproductive.

It would seem that several of his friends are dating, which might be a cause for concern. There are a great many dating apps these days, and they often appear in small ads, which can be difficult to avoid. If you have already established a relationship,

It would be best to avoid cheating.

If he also cheated on his married wife, it could potentially have a detrimental impact on other people's family relationships. It seems that the other party is experiencing difficulty making a decision and may be acting in a way that is perceived as indecisive, while also causing harm. It's unfortunate that the other party has resorted to making false accusations.

While it is important not to judge others, it is also valuable to express our feelings. For instance, if the other person has not established clear boundaries with their negative friends or former partner, it can be a source of frustration. If possible, it might be helpful to seek professional counseling to navigate these challenges and make decisions with a clear mind.

Could I ask you a question, ZQ?

Hello, question asker!

I can see that you're feeling a bit confused and helpless right now. It's totally normal! You love how your boyfriend brightens up your life, but you also have some concerns about the future of your relationship. You're not sure if you can accept his lack of resources and limitations, but you also lack the courage and strength to leave him.

The first thing you mentioned was that he got angry because you went shopping with your female friends. This led to an interesting conversation about the differences between how men and women date. It's clear that your male friends often dated married women, which led to some frustration on his part. While this was a challenging situation, it's important to remember that you couldn't control or change it. So, in the follow-up, will this pattern repeat itself? It's an opportunity to reflect and think carefully about how you can approach things differently next time.

The second thing you mentioned was that he received your rebuke when he damaged your clothes. After that, he felt that you were not tolerant enough of him, so he inferred that his mother could be tolerant. There is an issue of responsibility here. Can he correctly recognize his own problems and the ability to fix them? What does he want from you? He has the opportunity to choose! He can choose a partner who will support him until the end of their lives or a mother who is always tolerant and understanding. Please consider this carefully.

The third thing you mentioned is that his child is entangled with his ex-girlfriend and they can occasionally chat for more than an hour. This is a great opportunity for him to consider the depth of the communication! He can also think about establishing and maintaining a sense of boundaries in this situation.

Love is a journey of consideration and management, but the ultimate goal is mutual trust and respect between two people who choose to support each other through thick and thin. The focus is on whether these issues can be resolved, whether the relationship can continue, and whether the two people can run towards the end together.

My dear, please accept this embrace. I can imagine you must be feeling quite drained, having had to cope with the death of a loved one, the divorce of your parents, and the challenges of navigating your boyfriend's difficulties at the same time.

I hope this hug will bring you warmth.

I hope it might be helpful to offer some observations about your boyfriend based on your description.

1. It seems that your boyfriend may lack a sense of security. This may be because he doubts your character due to the bad qualities of others. On the one hand, this may be influenced by the influence of friends. On the other hand, it could also show that he lacks a sense of security himself and has little or unstable trust in the world and people.

It might be helpful to consider whether you can provide him with enough security in your current situation. If you are also someone who lacks security, there is a possibility that in the future you will find yourselves in a position where you are demanding from each other.

2. There may be room for improvement in your boyfriend's maturity and independence. When he is upset, he relieves his stress by fixing someone else's down jacket. When you ask him about it, he brings up the fact that his mother would tolerate him. This could indicate that he has not yet fully "weaned" himself psychologically, and that he may be childish in his behavior, immature in his thinking, and emotionally dependent on his mother.

It might be helpful to consider whether there's a possibility that he's a "mama's boy." After all, your parents have already divorced, and in the future, if you get married, there's a high probability that you'll have to interact with your mother-in-law on a regular basis, such as helping you with the children.

3. It seems that your boyfriend's sense of right and wrong is not particularly positive, and he may not have strong principles. He seems to be somewhat careless about making friends. As the saying goes, "like attracts like," and you can often learn a lot about a person from the character and qualities of their friends.

When he discovered his friend's less than admirable character, his initial response was not to question his friend's character or reduce contact, but to question your character and engage in a discussion. This suggests that he does not necessarily disagree with his friend, but rather has a different perspective on the world.

It would be helpful to consider whether your bottom lines for doing things are similar. If they are very different, there may be some differences in opinion in the future.

4. It seems that your boyfriend may not have a strong sense of boundaries. He keeps in touch with his ex-girlfriend and talks to her for long periods of time. I'm not sure if he tells you afterwards. If you communicate well with each other and are honest with each other, you can tell each other. If you find out unilaterally or he doesn't care about your feelings, it might be helpful to tell him clearly how you feel, rather than suppressing it. This could help to avoid any future misunderstandings.

The above analysis is for your reference only. It does not necessarily imply that the above traits are negative. As I am not fully aware of their implications, my analysis may lack comprehensiveness, accuracy, or depth. However, it can serve as a helpful reference point. The suitability of these traits largely depends on the compatibility between you and the other person. Some traits may appear favorable, but if there is a discrepancy in your respective traits, it might prove challenging to maintain a long-term relationship.

I hope you can find a way to move on from this difficult period in your life and look forward to brighter days ahead.

Hello,

You and your boyfriend have had some disagreements recently. Your boyfriend is suspicious because of his friends. He is still involved with his ex-girlfriend, which makes you feel tired. You don't know if you should continue the relationship. I understand your dilemma.

You chose to stay loyal to the relationship and keep your boyfriend's trust. But your partner chose otherwise. After you found out your partner was still in touch with their ex, you said you had no choice but to let it go. You felt helpless.

You must have some ideas about relationships and what you want from your partner.

Before you decide whether to stay in the relationship, clarify your definition of a relationship and your expectations for your partner's behavior.

For example, you can write it down:

What do you want your partner's social circle to be like? A group of people with healthy values.

What is your partner's attitude towards relationships? Loyal and serious.

And so on.

Once you've done this, you can make your expectations clear. You'll know what kind of partner you should look for and how to judge a relationship.

Have another in-depth conversation with your partner. Tell them your thoughts and the changes you want. Use the communication skills in Nonviolent Communication.

State the facts, express your feelings, make suggestions, and ask for action.

After you've communicated, see if the other person is willing to make some changes for the long-term. Then, you can decide whether to continue the relationship or not.

Best wishes!

Hello, question asker!

From reading your description, I can tell that there are a lot of misunderstandings between you and your boyfriend. It seems like you haven't been able to express your inner needs fully, which has caused some conflicts.

It's totally normal to feel a range of strong emotions after going through something major. It's like our hearts are filled to the brim! It's important to give ourselves the space to release these emotions.

So when there's no way to let off steam, even a small thing can set off some emotions inside him, and he'll probably vent on the other person.

So, you can have a good, in-depth chat with your boyfriend. It's a great idea to tell him how you're feeling and listen to what he has to say.

And don't forget to express what you need from each other and what you can do for each other.

If you're struggling to resolve some deep emotions and conflicts on your own, don't worry! You can always seek professional psychological counseling to help you work through these issues. This can be a great way to gain a deeper understanding of the true sides of both you and your partner, which might differ from how you imagine them in your mind.

When we let go of our nervous side and thoughts and ideas, and just honestly feel the other person, we can see that he might say something like that, but deep down he might not really think that.

Wishing you all the best!