A heavy reward, an ISTP man seeking personal development planning, and flirting to improve

Allow me to introduce you to this little friend:

Good day!

From what I can see, your emotional world seems to be lacking in some ways. Your questions are very rational and practical, such as how to improve your skills in picking up girls and about your future development plan. However, I wonder if you might benefit from exploring some more emotional and relational aspects as well. It seems that your questions are full of a lot of rejection and negation, as well as a longing for an idealized character.

You inquired about ways to enhance your abilities in initiating relationships with women. While this may appear to be a matter of skill-building on the surface, it's likely that there are underlying expectations and desires, such as seeking care, consideration, and understanding.

I can't help but wonder if I might ask you about your early years and your family environment.

I wonder if you've ever experienced emotional hurt. Do you feel a strong attachment to your parents?

Could I ask what might have caused you to become so emotionally detached and indifferent? And might I enquire as to why your spiritual world seems to be left with only cold reason, devoid of the warmth it should have?

Psychological research indicates that people often employ a variety of defense mechanisms to cope with challenging emotions and situations. Your rationality, for instance, can serve as a protective barrier against feelings you may find difficult to manage. This is a natural function of the human subconscious, which helps us navigate anxiety, avoid pain, and safeguard ourselves from psychological distress.

I hope that one day you will find the courage to face your true self, shed your defenses, and embrace a happy life.

I hope you find this message helpful.

Hello, question asker! It's a pleasure to meet you!

From what I can tell, the questioner has really thought about things a lot. Even though the questions he asks might be about things that are going on in his life right now, they might not be the things that are really important to him. It seems like the questioner is still figuring out what he wants from life, and he doesn't have a plan yet for the future.

I'm a guy currently studying at a junior college. I don't have many hobbies, and my main focus is trying to get girls. My main goal is to get girls, and everything I do is centered around that. When something happens, my brain quickly and habitually thinks, "Will this help me get girls?"

My brain is always on the go, thinking about everything I see and do. I wonder if this thing will help me flirt with girls, or if it'll help me out in some other way.

I'd love to know if you think the help is great and if you feel the price-performance ratio is high.

I think it's really helpful to take a moment to think about things like this. It can help me to feel more patient, accept things more easily, and to see whether I value something in a particular matter.

The questioner says he doesn't have any particular hobbies. It seems like his main interest is meeting and getting to know girls. He seems to view everything he does in terms of whether it helps him meet girls or not. I'm not sure if I understand him correctly, but it seems like he's looking for a quick and easy way to meet girls. Is that what he's trying to do?

I'd love to know more about your outlook on life, your world view, and your values. I'm not sure about the questioner's environment, but I know they've already attended college and started higher education, and they have a rich knowledge system.

I think that Maslow's hierarchy of needs is a great way to understand what we all need as human beings. We all have basic needs like food, water, and shelter. We also have higher needs like love, respect, and self-fulfillment. The questioner is currently focused on the basic physiological and safety needs. These are natural human needs that we all have. As time goes on, I believe that the questioner will start to focus on other things in life. They might even find a lovely lady to share their life with! At the same time, the questioner still has basic needs like clothing, food, housing, and transportation. They also have a need to be respected, a need to socialize, and the highest need of all—the need for self-fulfillment.

I'm sure you understand that I'll be impatient with people, things, and opinions that don't help me in my quest to "pick up girls." If they take up my time, energy, or even money, I'll probably lose patience, become irritable, and even resistant. I might even develop an aversion or hostility.

Introverts are known for their laser-like focus and unwavering persistence. They're often seen as extreme, but that's just because they're so dedicated to what they do. They're focused and efficient, always striving to improve. They may seem friendly on the surface, but deep down, they're counting down the seconds until they lose patience.

If something doesn't progress, change, or improve over a long period of time, I'll probably start to feel a bit impatient.

The questioner sees himself as introverted and says that "chasing girls" means being very focused. He doesn't like being unchanging, though. When it comes to taking up his time or money, the questioner will lose patience, become apathetic, and resistant. It seems that the questioner just habitually thinks of "chasing girls" as his only pursuit. In fact, the questioner also pays attention to many things about himself, but he just hopes that everything can be achieved according to his expectations. If there is even the slightest deviation, the questioner will stop moving forward and even give up on himself. Everything needs to change gradually from quantitative to qualitative. Life is like this, and so are the things you do. You are now in the best stage of your life in terms of physical and mental energy. You might as well set a goal for things, prepare in advance, be proactive, and constantly adjust yourself around the goal. Then you will slowly develop the habit of doing things and a positive sense of accomplishment.

I think more like a woman. I admire the strong and loathe the weak. I guess you could say that, according to my value system, the weak are stupid and useless to me. I think this may be related to my single-parent family and past experiences.

I'd love to know your thoughts on what it means to be a woman. And what does a strong person look like to you?

I'd love to understand more about what you mean when you say you feel weak. Is it because of your single-parent family and the energy you have to deal with that?

It's so inspiring to see people like Ren Zhengfei of Huawei and Mr. Cao Dewang of Fuyao Glass, who have found their true strength in realizing their own value, social value, and life value. Deng Jiashen, who worked on China's first two nuclear bombs and one satellite in the early days of the People's Republic of China, is another great example. It's so admirable to see people like this, who are not content with reality but are striving to achieve their goals and dreams. However, it's important to recognize that reality might not always align with our aspirations. This can lead to a feeling of being stuck, which is why it's crucial to keep pushing forward and chasing our dreams.

We all have the right to like and dislike, but it's also important to have the ability and standards to judge what is right and wrong. As you grow up and take on different roles, like son, friend, student, and later husband, father, colleague, you'll find that you have a lot of meaningful and important things to do. These things will not only help you develop and improve, but they'll also make your family proud of you and benefit society. So while you're still young, plan your life well. It's important to have a goal that is truly meaningful and a driving force. And use your youth as capital to actively accumulate and store up, so that your life is remarkable because of you!

I really hope my answer helps you out! I wish you all the best!

Hello, question asker!

Your core needs are life development planning and improvement of flirting skills, authoritative recognition, and dislike of others wasting their time.

A simple and crude interpretation is that he is a cool guy who is independent and looks down on the world. He is looking for a high-level life mentor and a wild girl who makes him a little overwhelmed.

I don't know.

Life development planning: The question itself is not unusual, but it is interesting to hear it from someone who is so opinionated and thoughtful.

Narcissism is undoubtedly a defense against inferiority and a tendency towards masochism.

You're looking for authority while simultaneously despising the nagging of people with low IQs and perhaps agreeing with them superficially. Is it because you've always had superior material conditions and have been spoiled, but you may have lacked affection and have been neglected and misunderstood?

He seems outstanding and pleasing. His mental energy is trapped in a channel that doesn't match his reality. He has an emotional isolation trait due to his conflicting emotions.

I skimmed your question because of my reading disability. It mentions picking up girls and sex and not liking honest and reserved girls.

The hero is probably a sadist. He's looking for someone open to all the needs of the LGBT alphabet, but no one actually matches that.

Based on the above intuitive thinking, there are the following:

1. Find your own answers. Don't ask someone else for them. No matter how good a mentor is, they cannot truly satisfy your needs.

The lonely seeker for perfection. If you lower your guard, you will be understood too much, and it will be meaningless. Seeing and being on the same level as a teacher, the teacher's integrity is halved.

This sentence is a great self-motivation tool for the first half of a confident person.

2. If you can't find a compatible girl, it's because your mentality is incompatible with that kind of girl. You're not good enough in this area.

Study what kind of person that kind of girl likes, why you can't enter that circle, and see the gap between your needs and your own conditions.

3. Overall, it's clear that people of all ages are difficult to truly integrate into your life system. Elders, peers, partners—you live your life alone.

What does it really want? A sense of security that is justified.

Or is it the desire to be understood and accepted?

I am a serious respondent, but I am not overly serious. Participation is what counts. Do not spray if you do not adopt my personal opinion. I wish you all the best!

It's clear that there are lots of people out there who are looking for the same thing as the questioner. The difference is that you can be open about what you want and share it on this platform.

It doesn't matter if you're a prince or a sea king, there's a reason you're here. This answer will look at things from an objective, professional perspective.

The answer is mainly divided into three parts. First, follow the law of attraction to find your kindred spirit. Second, use the primacy effect to quickly arouse the interest of the other party.

Finally, use the bridge effect to quickly increase mutual attraction.

1. Use the law of attraction to find your kindred spirits.

There's a well-known law in psychology called the law of attraction. It basically says that when you have a strong belief in your heart, you'll attract like things to come together around you.

The freedom you're looking for is based on not having to take responsibility. This means you'll attract women who share your values.

If you find someone who truly loves you and values emotional connections, they will demand to be loved in return. If you can't handle this, you'll get bored and it will be a waste of time. If you don't handle it well, you could get into an emotional mess. It will also lead you astray from your goals.

So, the main thing is to attract like-minded people and identify your target group. Here are three ways to focus on your like-minded people:

People who are looking for freedom.

In today's world, many women are hesitant to get married. They want the freedom to pursue their own interests and don't want to give up their independence for the sake of a relationship.

These women usually have three things in common: financial independence, emotional independence, and superior conditions.

Typically, women like this are happy to create their own We Media accounts and have a certain fan base. They enjoy showing off designer goods.

Show the public what a great life you lead to gain a sense of satisfaction.

If you're able to attract this type of woman, you can start by getting her attention with a gift.

Then be sure to let them know that you share the same values. And don't be afraid to show off your financial strength or personal charm.

The girl you attract in this way will quickly move on to the sexual relationship you desire with her.

When two people with the same values get together, they can be honest with each other, which helps to avoid emotional entanglements.

It'll also be more relaxed and enjoyable.

2. People who aren't looking to get married.

Some of this group have lost confidence in marriage because of what they learned from their families. They can have short-term partners and long-term partners, but they won't get married.

They're afraid of the constraints and the burden that marriage brings.

Some people in this group can accept a casual partner and move on easily. If you clearly state your expectations from the outset, it will be easier to foster the relationship you want.

3. Divorced women.

Many divorced women have already been through a failed marriage and have lost confidence in relationships.

They'll be looking to live a free and carefree life. They won't be easily trusting of others.

They're not looking for love. They're looking for ways the other person can improve their lives.

If you have the resources to provide for them, you can also benefit both of you and make it a win-win situation. Of course, in the beginning, you should first clarify your stance on relationships.

It's also worth noting that some divorced women still expect love and don't want to be hurt on a whim.

In a nutshell, focusing on the right target group will increase your chances of success.

Second, use the primacy effect to quickly grab the other person's attention.

The first impression effect was first proposed by American psychologist Loftus. It's also known as the priority effect or first impression effect. It refers to how the first impression formed by both parties affects future interpersonal relationships. This is because of "preconceived ideas." First impressions aren't always correct, but they're the most distinctive and strongest. They determine the course of future interactions between the two parties.

The people you're looking for are best found in new places, and the best way to find strangers is through social software. Then, using the first impression effect to create a personal ID with an attractive persona is an essential part of the process.

Even though you're mainly trying to attract girls, you also talk about your personal development plan in your narrative. You might as well think about setting up your own We Media account. It can bring in some income and attract your target group.

To attract your target group, your account should have the following features:

1. Show off some great photos of your life.

When a woman has lost her illusions about relationships, she's only interested in material conditions or appearance. When he sees your high-quality life or handsome images in your short videos or pictures, he'll have a favorable impression of you and want to communicate further.

It's the state you show that attracts like-minded groups.

It's important to clarify your own values.

A lot of people think that flirting with girls is all about skill and technique. In reality, though, that's a pretty basic approach.

It's important to remember that relying on tricks and rhetoric to temporarily blind the other person in love will have a negative effect in the long run. For example, they may be accused of cheating on you or being a scumbag, and they may even be taken to court.

I'd suggest being upfront about your values from the start. Let the other person know you're not looking to get married and want to keep your options open. If they're on the same page, it'll spark more conversations and help you connect.

If the other person's values are contrary to yours, then she can leave early to avoid wasting time.

In short, if you're sincere, a partner attracted by your personal charm and strength is the embodiment of a strong person. Since you admire the strong, go ahead and improve yourself to become a strong and attractive person.

Third, use the suspension bridge effect to quickly increase your mutual attraction.

The suspension bridge effect is when your heart rate increases without you realizing it when you're crossing a suspension bridge with trepidation. If you then meet someone else at the same time, you'll think the increased heart rate is down to them making you feel excited, and you'll develop feelings for them.

Once you feel like you can take your relationship to the next level, you might want to try using the suspension bridge effect to create some surprises and romance to really heat things up.

What does the other person want?

Finally, I want to say that everyone has their own demands. What does the other person want?

Can you give it to the other person? This is a key factor in whether you can develop the relationship further.

In a free and equal relationship, there are usually three things men can do for the other person. One is provide material help, like giving red envelopes or buying gifts.

The second thing you can do is give the other person room to improve. This means having good social relationships and workplace connections.

For instance, you could introduce the other person to a job or expand their social circle. Third, you should give the other person emotional value.

Many girls are very independent and don't need men to provide for them. Right now, they need men to provide them with emotional value. For example, if you're good-looking or have a humorous and interesting way of speaking and behaving.

There's no such thing as a free lunch, especially when it comes to getting something you want. If you want to achieve something, you have to put in the work. Online information is evolving rapidly, and as more and more cases of fraud come to light, women are becoming more and more aware. It's rare to fall in love just by flirting with a girl. If you want to pursue a free life, you have to put in the work to improve yourself. If you do, you'll find that opportunities will come your way.

Just a heads-up: Don't use flirting to hurt people who are sincere with you. If you want to be strong, show your peers who's boss with your personal charm and strength.

Hello, questioner. I am Yang Xiang Ersheng from Yixinli.

I'm grateful for this opportunity to connect with you on this platform.

You appear to have a strong sense of personal planning and a penchant for exploring a multitude of solutions to problems, including those of a psychological nature.

From the link you provided, it seems that the story is about a manic.

I believe the story is about a girl named Qin You.

I must admit, I'm not quite sure if I've got this link right.

Given that you identify as an ISTP, it seems that you don't typically interact with girls as much.

You may find it helpful to consult with a formal career planning teacher. A teacher of this kind can help you to identify a suitable personal career development direction and positioning based on your major, interests, hobbies, personality, and other aspects. Ultimately, you will be in a position to choose the work you want to do.

If I might make a suggestion, you are 22 years old and in the period of wanting to fall in love at university.

It's admirable that you're interested in learning the art of flirting.

If you find yourself alone with the girl you like, you might consider discussing your interests and hobbies, as well as animals, food culture, and other topics that are generally well-received. You could also talk about your hometown, for instance.

In front of girls, you can take care of them in many ways. For example, when you eat together, offering to hand them the napkin is a gentlemanly act that will make the girl feel good. Girls are more likely to be impressed by details.

Good personal qualities can also be helpful in forming connections with girls. Just as when you rescue a little injured dog, girls may have a positive impression of you, and you may find that they are more open to your help when it comes to assisting the elderly and children, or offering assistance to girls in need.

Perhaps the most important thing is to be sincere. There is no need to deliberately turn yourself into a master of the art of love. Instead, it may be more helpful to simply interact with girls in a way that is true to your heart and actions. This may help them to discover you and accept you.

I hope you are able to find the job you are looking for.

Seducing girls also requires sincerity and cultivation. It is my hope that with good character and morals, girls will naturally see the bright spots in you.

I hope you can find a solution to these issues soon.

I and everyone else are here to help, so please don't lose hope.

In "Water Margin," Wang Po said that there are five conditions for flirting with a girl: "Pan, Lu, Deng, Xiao, Xian." You can ask Google what they are. The first three may correspond to what is now called a "rich, handsome guy." And if you really are a rich, handsome guy, you don't need to think so hard about flirting techniques! Girls will just flock to you like they do to celebrities.

This is probably what the host is referring to as the lover's treatment! But can a rich, handsome guy always get a girl?

Oh, absolutely not! Wang Sicong also has people he can't handle.

When most people don't have the best conditions themselves, the latter two can be said to be a way of carrying forward the saying that if you have the conditions, you should take advantage of them; if you don't have the conditions, you should create them. And you can create the conditions you need with hard work! You can create Xiao He Xian.

Small, as the name suggests, means being submissive and humble, as in the proverbial phrase "to lick." And leisurely, as the saying goes, the most sincere confession is companionship!

These are two exciting avenues to explore! I won't delve into them here, but I'm eager to share more.

A young man as clever and perceptive as the original poster will certainly find his own way. Even if the method is immature, there are so many things to learn from peers, flirting courses, and various videos. You just have to spend some time and effort to understand the essence—and it'll all be worth it!

The host asked a great question, and I think many young people are eager to learn more about it. Courtship and reproduction are also one of the instincts of human beings, which is really fascinating!

Male peacocks also know how to strut, and male birds also sing a song and catch a bug for the female bird. They are all expressing the instinct of small and leisure. Maybe it is what the original poster means by small offerings and great offerings—and it's a wonderful thing to behold!

But are the so-called provider and the so-called lover's treatment really opposites? It's not that simple, is it? Who can happily pay for someone without feeling loved, without feeling that this woman or man treats me like their own (someone who loves me)? Only someone in love can get decent support!

The original poster asked a great question, and the teachers gave fantastic answers! They provided a lot of food for thought from various perspectives. You might not find it practical, and it doesn't give step-by-step instructions on how to seduce a girl, but I loved reading it! The teachers here are so talented. They discussed short-term and long-term development, crowd analysis, and psychological analysis of questioners with similar problems. It's thorough, thought-provoking, and amazing!

I have to say that the original poster has some really interesting thoughts. You'll be amazed when you hear them!

Girls with an open personality who are not insecure and are relatively unafraid of being hurt are in a great position! On the other hand, girls with a conservative personality who are obedient are usually average or below average.

The great thing is, there are so many reasons for being conservative!

There are also well-qualified girls with conservative personalities, and it's all down to their family education. I'm relatively conservative myself, and it's because I have a vision for love and I'm not going to experience life just for the experience!

And then there's another group of people who are conservative because they come from poor families and are looking for a way to improve their lives. And there's another group of people who are conservative because they lack in appearance, rarely receive attention from the opposite sex, and have a relatively inferior personality.

It's like when someone asks Huang Bo, "What's the difference between being famous and not famous?" He says, "I meet only nice people." It's the same with a rich and beautiful woman. She's treated with preferential treatment everywhere, and her world is a rosy one full of nice people. She's less suspicious and feels relatively safe.

Some people are looking for a lifetime of stability, and that's great! But it's different for a big, beautiful woman. Jackie Kennedy married the Greek shipping magnate, and who could blame her for being second-hand?

After all this rambling, we're back to flirting with girls, mainly flirting. And that's what it's all about!

Let's cut out the chatter and get to the action! Practice makes perfect, so let's practice!

No excuses! When you were young, you had little contact with girls. But now, you have the chance to make up for lost time! Contact with girls in kindergarten, primary school, and secondary school is completely different from being an adult now! There is a man in Japan who has no hands or feet. How many girls has he seduced?

Just think about it! How many women would want to marry that killer in the US? Who can even compare to these two in terms of conditions?

Flirting with girls is all about taking the initiative!

Hello, question asker!

I can feel your confidence and honesty from your question!

I deliberately looked up the ISTP personality traits, and I'm so glad I did!

—from Baidu Encyclopedia

And there's more! ISTP types are:

Logical, practical, pragmatic, refined, unassuming, and independent—they've got it all!

Realistic, pragmatic, solitary, and curious about the natural world—what an amazing combination!

They are also curious about practical applications!

They are usually excellent at dealing with numbers!

They are flexible and resourceful in dealing with concrete, visible things, which is great!

Go for it! Don't let emotions get in the way.

There are so many great fields that would be perfect for you!

There are so many possibilities! Computer programmer, software developer, electronics professional. Sportsman, pilot, marine biologist, policeman, firefighter, securities analyst, bank clerk, management consultant, financial consultant, trader, commodity dealer, product agent (tangible products), sculptor, handmade, painter, etc.

I found several keywords in your question that I'm excited to explore further!

[ISTP male]

[22-year-old junior college student]

Let's get started on your personal development plan!

[Flirting skills improvement]

[Admire strength]

I'm excited to respond to your [ISTP] traits!

I can see that you are an extremely smart boy!

You also have a strong personality!

And you have some amazing plans for your future!

This is fantastic!

You know yourself very well, and it shows!

And you're so confident!

And your character is also so straightforward!

And your expression is also very clean and straightforward, which I think is really cool.

I really admire boys like you!

I think you have an amazing ability to plan your own personal development!

I don't know what major you're studying, but I'm excited to find out!

I absolutely believe that this major should also be something you love!

And now for the really exciting part! You can learn more technical knowledge!

To pave the way for your future development!

You're almost there! You're 22 years old now, and I think you should be graduating soon.

So, what's next for you? Do you want to continue studying or prepare to go to work?

If you want to continue studying,

It's time to think carefully about your specialty or career direction!

It's time to choose a major and go to undergraduate school or graduate school!

If you want to jump right into the workforce,

It's also possible!

I'm not sure what major you're studying, but I'm excited to find out!

I'd love to know what the employment rate is for the major you're studying now!

And what amazing abilities do you have now?

And it will also directly affect the direction of your work and the quality of your work, which is really exciting!

Now, let's talk about charming girls!

It's totally normal for you to be concerned about emotional issues at your age!

I don't know how good you were at flirting before, but I know you can be great at it!

It's great that you want to improve! It's not so good that you don't have any experience, but you can definitely gain some.

Or are you an experienced flirt looking to level up?

I'm totally neutral on this topic!

Your current state of mind is

And it's totally in line with how other boys your age are thinking about the opposite sex!

And it's totally in line with your [ISTP] traits!

You want to do better, and I think you can do it!

...or more effective!

I really appreciate your honesty!

I really appreciate that!

Absolutely! You can totally participate in some formal dating platforms.

and interact with the opposite sex more!

And show off your amazing charm and talent!

This is going to be amazing! It'll be efficient, safer, and more effective.

And it's also really helpful for improving your flirting skills!

Now, let's talk about "being strong."

This is a great thing!

You said, "I only recognize the strong in my value system."

Red like cinnabar, black like ink!

You are strong!

You will become better and better!

You become stronger!

And you will find ways to make yourself stronger!

And this boy will absolutely go far!

I absolutely believe in you!

I have discovered once again in you!

You have so many amazing strengths! You are confident, self-reliant, optimistic, intelligent, and honest.

And these strengths also match your ISTP personality traits!

My dear child!

You just need a little more patience, and you'll be on your way!

And you will have so much more excitement in your life!

And your life is going to be absolutely amazing!

After all, you're only 22 years old!

Your life has just begun!

And with the passage of time,

And you will also discover so much more!

And you know what else? You're growing and changing without even realizing it!

You're the same age as my son!

I totally get you!

You have goals and ideas!

And I'm excited to get help!

This means you'll be able to think for yourself and make your own decisions!

This is the beginning of success!

? My child

You are in the process of continuous growth, and it's amazing to see how much you're learning and changing every day!

And that's how you'll learn and grow!

As long as you're headed in the right direction and you put in the work,

Failure is also part of success!

So, let's dive into personal development planning!

I absolutely believe you should have your own ideas!

I'd also love to get more advice!

But,

You absolutely have to know!

At best, others can give you some direction, which is a great start!

You know the specific plan better than anyone else!

You know your own abilities and strengths best, and that's a great thing!

So in the end, you have to trust your own choices!

? My child!

I believe in you just as much as I believe in my son!

I absolutely know you'll have a bright future!

??Good luck! The world and I love you!??

Hello!

I am a heart exploration coach, and learning is the treasure of the body!

I can see from your description and feel the strong desire in your heart to know the answer, and I'm excited to help you find it!

I'll try to give you some answers for your reference:

Now for the fun part! It's time to start thinking about personal development planning.

You said that you are an ISTP personality type, which is great! From the results of the MBTI test, it can be seen that this type of person is relatively unsociable, prefers to be alone, is not bound by worldly conventions, is good at hands-on work, and pursues precision. They can often create delicate and exquisite handicrafts, or are good at complex techniques, and are more suitable for the type of craftsman.

You have also given a fairly detailed description of your character in your description, and it can be seen that you know yourself very well and understand what you want, which is fantastic!

I've got some great suggestions for specific career choices for people with this type of personality!

One is a craftsman or artisan, which is an amazing profession that requires delicate skills and bold operation. You can research and create alone, which is great because it means you don't have to deal with too many people. And the best part is that you get to meet the needs of society, like a metal craftsman!

Second, you could become a surgeon! This work requires boldness, meticulousness, and composure, and it's a great way to help people while doing something you're passionate about. Dentists are also an option, and they have a very rewarding career.

Third, e-sports players are in demand because such work requires precise operation, and being a professional e-sports player comes with an inherent energy that is irresistible!

Fourth, racing driver. People with this personality type are excellent at operating machinery and can show their incredible talent in racing. Racing also meets the ISTP's need for sensory stimulation and pursuit of life experiences, so it's a career path that's definitely worth developing!

Fifth, mechanical research and development engineer. Mechanical engineering is one of the more secular majors that suits ISTP perfectly! In the future, you can enter a car company and become a mechanical research and development engineer, giving full play to your Ti strengths.

I've got some great suggestions for you! ISTP is perfect for hands-on, challenging jobs that don't require much interaction with others.

If you say you're studying at a junior college, you can see if your major is in line with the above occupations. And there's more! You can also seek the help of career consultants and career planners, who can help you better understand and recognize yourself, and in turn choose a career that suits you better.

Now for the second question, which is all about how you can improve your skills in picking up girls!

I'm excited to give you some advice from your point of view because you said that your ultimate pursuit is sexual freedom. This is great! All your actions revolve around picking up girls as the core, which is fantastic. Your brain will quickly judge whether this is helpful for picking up girls, and then for the girls being picked up, they will also most likely judge you in this way.

I want to tell you something really important. What you need to do is become someone with the capital to flirt with girls!

First, you need to build up your social resources so you can more easily find girls who share your values and are attracted to you. A large part of these resources will require you to get a job. In other words, you need to graduate successfully and then find a relatively good job. The job options can be based on the above-mentioned job introductions. In this way, the job can broaden your social network, which will become your resources because in this way you will meet more girls who share your values, and then you will have more opportunities to flirt with them. At the same time, a relatively good job will also show your financial strength and can also become your capital for flirting with girls. In addition, a good job can also reflect your personality charm, and the state of a successful man can also become a resource for you to flirt with girls.

Flirting is an art form, and it's one that you can master with a little practice! You'll need to brush up on your communication skills, because flirting is all about connecting with someone on a deeper level. It's about talking and speaking well so that you can win over the hearts of more girls. To do this, you'll want to work on your emotional intelligence, sense of humor, and other skills that will help you stand out from the crowd. There are plenty of resources out there to help you on your journey to becoming a master flirt. You can learn from other people you think can flirt with girls, or you can read some relevant books, such as "How to Make the One You Love Fall in Love With You" and "Nonviolent Communication," which can help you gain some valuable insights. Another important skill to master is paying more attention to details. When you're getting to know girls, you should show your cultivation in the details, speak with tact, be polite, be a gentleman, and be able to take care of the feelings of girls. Give them a feeling of "I care about you, you are very important to me." Everyone craves affirmation and love, and girls are no exception. Paying attention to the details is a great way to show your interest and make a girl feel special. So, get out there and start flirting! With the right skills and a little practice, you'll be a master in no time.

Third, you also need to have a good body because a free sex life requires physical strength. So you need to pay attention to exercising now, which will not only help improve your appearance, but also keep you healthy. And it's going to be worth it!

And finally, I want to say that there is no better way to get closer to your ideal self and ideal life than by knowing what you want and taking action!

I'm so excited to share my thoughts and suggestions with you! I really hope they can help you. If you want to chat further, just click on "Find a coach for an online conversation" at the bottom and I'll be in touch!

Hello, question asker! I'm Jiang 61, and I'm so happy to be here!

I'm really grateful you gave everyone such a great topic to think about. I've been meaning to tell you what I think for a while, so I'll get straight to it.

I was going to play around a bit first and then get to the point. Now I'll skip all that and get straight to it!

It's so great to see how much you value these answers! The reward you're offering is a testament to that.

1⃣️ Your life plan;

2⃣️ I'd love to know what kind of girlfriend you're dating!

From your thoughtful and detailed Zhihu post, I can tell you're really invested in this. It's so great that you've taken the time to read through all the responses, it shows you're really eager to find the right answer.

Before I answer your question, I just want to ask you a few quick questions.

1⃣️ I'd love to know more about you! What is your major and what year are you in college?

2⃣️ I'd love to know why you decided to think about these two questions now.

3⃣️ I'm guessing you're an ISTP guy? I'd love to know if you've measured the conclusion of ISTP. Have you tracked what kind of work ISTP people are suitable for?

And don't forget to ask three questions first! Here's my opinion.

1. About Life Planning

1⃣️, ISTP personality traits

Traits: Introvert, feeling type, thinking type, in terms of lifestyle, tends to be perceptive. Only 5% of the population!

Suitable Industries:

Hobbies: He's daring, unconventional, and believes that things that everyone agrees on are boring.

2⃣️, the questioner describes his character

I think you should go for a different life!

He's also really dedicated to his work.

You're an introvert, which is totally okay!

People don't tend to be drawn to good girls, people who are not safe to work with, and people who are highly dependent.

3⃣, My opinion I think you're great!

Your own attitude towards life is very much in line with the ISTP personality analysis, which is great! For your future professional development, you should choose to do what you are good at.

When I first asked you what you studied, this is the initial idea I had. You are very introverted and dedicated, and you are not suited to work that involves too much contact with other people. You will lose interest because you get bored, which is totally understandable!

2. About what kind of girlfriend to date

Your girlfriend requirements on Zhihu are basically very close to your personality, and it feels like you're not trying to seduce others, but to attract them.

You're a rational and emotional person, and you're introverted, so it's not super common for you to make romantic gestures. You have high expectations for your girlfriend, and you don't rely on her. You don't cling to her, and you're independent. Your girlfriend often gets the cold shoulder, so if you don't have a strong tolerance, it's pretty rare for someone who appreciates you to be attracted to you.

Instead of focusing on how to seduce someone, you should find a way to be the best you can be. Bring out your unique characteristics, and with your 5% of the population, you are rare and valuable. You stand out, and you won't have trouble finding someone who appreciates you.

If you're looking for a compatible girl, an ISFJ girl is the perfect choice! They're a great partner for the future. ISFJ girls have a gentle and refined character, and they're also very accommodating. Plus, they're methodical and organized, which meets your rational requirements.

She just gets along with you more naturally!

Okay, that's enough for now. Have a lovely day!

Hello, question asker. I'm Evan.

From what the questioner says, it's clear that he has a specific goal in mind and is very efficient at achieving it. He also seems to have a psychology of admiration. It's evident that he's pursuing flirting with girls and "sexual freedom."

Do these goals make the questioner feel good about themselves? At the end of the day, flirting with girls is really about pursuing girls. Does the questioner only feel good about themselves when the women around them are of a higher quality?

Or does the OP only feel like he's made progress when the girl next to him keeps changing? This also requires careful observation by the OP.

Since the question was posted on this platform, I can only offer the OP some straightforward advice on how to pursue a girl:

Grooming your appearance

If you want to get to know a girl, you should make sure you look neat and tidy. Sometimes, a neat appearance can attract girls more than good looks. As long as you look OK, a neat appearance is an important factor.

If you look neat and tidy and give a good first impression, you'll find it's easier to approach the girl.

Second, make sure you don't go near a girl with a bad smell. Before approaching a girl, you should also check that your body doesn't have an unpleasant odor. If you don't want to use some scented bath products or some men's perfume, at least make sure your body doesn't have an odor or sweat smell.

Otherwise, even if you're good-looking and have a great appearance, girls will stay away if you have an unpleasant body odor or sweat smell.

Approaching girls

What's the best way to approach a girl? Apart from making a good first impression, approaching is also an important step.

The simplest way to get close to the girl is to make eye contact with her or ask her for help with something small. These are all good ways to start a conversation. Of course, don't be too eager to get close to the girl, otherwise she will think you have ulterior motives.

The key is to stay confident. If there's an opportunity to get to know someone better, even if they say they're in a relationship, you can stay confident and communicate with them. This will also give them a good impression of you.

Give the girl a compliment.

When you approach a girl, try to find out what she's good at and tell her she's great at it. But pay attention to how she reacts. If she gets these compliments a lot, you might have to work a bit harder to find something she really wants to hear.

Avoid content that is sexually suggestive, though. That'll prevent the girl from labeling you a scumbag. Try to compliment her, for example, "You have a really nice smile" or "You have a really unique sense of style."

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Some straightforward opening lines will be more recognized by girls. It's best to avoid being slick and smooth when greeting girls, as this will only arouse their resentment. If the girl is with friends, it's important to take care of her friends during the conversation and not neglect them.

Otherwise, some girls with narrow minds will spread rumors about the guy in front of the girl and even try to get in the way of his pursuit.

Get as close to the girl as you can.

When you're chatting with a girl and things are going well, try to create opportunities to get close to her and even have physical contact to see how she reacts. For example, talk to her close, gently touch her knees or arms, or pat her on the shoulder. Just keep a relaxed and pleasant attitude. If you act too eager, the girl will also act resistant.

If the questioner doesn't get any pushback or rejection from the girl when they approach her, or if the girl doesn't back away, it means that the girl is still open to the questioner. Never, when the girl doesn't resist when you approach them, take advantage of the situation and try to get more physical contact. Treat the girl with respect, and she'll feel secure.

Keep smiling and be funny.

Girls like guys who are stable, mature, and humorous. It's also important to keep the atmosphere relaxed and pleasant at all times when you're interacting with girls.

If a girl asks you some serious questions or some more invasive questions, you need to know how to respond wisely, no matter what. Try to make her laugh, make everything seem relaxed, and discuss some interesting topics, such as some of your interesting experiences and interesting people you've met.

Of course, the question asker shouldn't keep asking the girl questions like an interrogator. They should limit their questions to a maximum of two at a time and change the topic to keep the conversation flowing. It's also important to share some of their own experiences and feedback on similar issues.

Identify shared interests.

Once you know what a girl likes, you can explore things you both enjoy together. When you find things you both like, you and the girl will become closer.

For instance, what types of music do you both like, what kinds of food do you both like, what kinds of pets do you both like, and so on. See if you can find as many common interests as possible, and your relationship will become even closer.

There are lots of tutorials online about how to get along with girls and how to pursue a girl. Whatever the reason for the questioner's flirting, I suggest that they devote themselves fully to just one girl at a time. That way, the girl will feel like she's the only one in your eyes.

I hope this helps.

Hello!

What career should someone choose if flirting with girls is their main goal?

If you want to flirt with girls, try sales. You need social skills and emotional intelligence. You'll work with many people, so you'll flirt with girls.

You may need to learn how to flirt with girls. This includes how to talk to women and what to say.

To be interesting and charming when chatting, you need to change your aura and temperament. To be charming, you can work out, develop your muscles, and improve your physical health. Women like men with muscles.

When talking to women, don't be too enthusiastic or indifferent. Be natural.

In conversation, we can attract others with humor and interesting remarks. Women also like this. However, we should not pry too much. In conversation, we should pay attention to content and tone to show our charm. Many women will like this kind of man.

If you like a woman, don't show it. Men who are too purposeful often fail. It's better to seem distant. Once you're caught up in emotions, it's hard to win.

To flirt with girls, you need money. So, improve your ability to make money. Then you can afford to flirt with many girls. Girls like generous boys. Active and generous boys are very attractive to women.

To keep women interested, you need to have many interests. Women have different interests, so to flirt with many girls, you need to become proficient in many interests.

Women will admire you even more when you interact with them again.

Be confident, but not too confident. Showing off will make women run away.

I hope this helps.

The host has a good understanding of himself, believes that this is the kind of person he is, and has a clear idea of his goals. He also knows that different people have different ideas and that there is no need to collide with different ideas. In response to the host's request for help,

1. It may be helpful to identify your passion. There is often a good reason why we feel drawn to certain activities.

The host has a distinctive personality, is confident, and is assertive. Attempting a task you enjoy may also encourage the host to display enthusiasm.

It may be helpful to pay attention to your feelings as you try something new, as they can guide you towards what you truly want.

2. Finding the right balance

The host posed two questions: one about personal development and the other about flirting with girls to improve social skills. It may be helpful to consider these two points as potential areas of focus, or to reflect on how they might best align with your personal values.

However, it is important to note that all of this requires time, practice, action, and the acceptance of failure.

It is important to remember that human time, energy, and influence are not limitless. Therefore, it is crucial to utilize these resources effectively and efficiently, aiming to achieve results within the confines of the limited time, energy, and influence at our disposal.

It would be beneficial for the landlord to consider maintaining a balance between giving and receiving, as well as between input and output. If things are not going as planned, it might be helpful to identify ways to redirect resources to improve outcomes.

3. Allowance and respect

It is possible for the host to regard other people and other values as worthless and still be proud of themselves. However, it is important to remember that others are still individuals with their own values and perspectives, and they will not disappear just because they are not influenced by your values.

It's important to remember that there will always be people who are more skilled, knowledgeable, or experienced than you.

It would be beneficial to reserve some respect and tolerance for different voices and people. While you may not agree with them or like them, it is important to allow others to be different from you and respect their choices.

I believe that equality and respect are important factors in achieving success.

4. Practice may be the best way to test truth.

It would be beneficial to distinguish between fact and imagination. Perhaps it would be helpful to use the objective conditions of reality to gain the love and support of others, so as to expand your influence and achieve success.

The you in your eyes, the you in other people's eyes, the you you don't know, and the you that others don't know—all of these constitute the real you. The poster can go find the you that has yet to be discovered, and I believe they will definitely gain something.

I wish you all the best and smooth sailing.

Dear questioner, I can sense your urgency, your loneliness, and your desire for a caring woman to nourish and comfort your burning and dry body and mind. For a 22-year-old guy, this is a very reasonable request. However, this is quite a big problem. After reading your request and some of your replies, I'm unsure where to start answering. Perhaps we should simply start with the following question?

I am going to tell you what the underlying logic of the game between the sexes is.

First, let's replace the game with a dance. The game itself involves confrontation, so if you go out with a confrontational attitude, the girl will sense it and be inclined to reject you. But if you go out with an inviting attitude, one that wants to dance with her, she will feel safe and secure.

The underlying logic is clear:

Men always try to propagate their offspring as much as possible. This makes them naturally unfaithful and capable of having as many affairs as they like.

The difficulties of raising children mean women look for partners who can support them financially and provide a safe and stable environment. But women are also driven biologically to reproduce and pass on their genes. They also have the basic need to sleep with one man and eat at another. So, infidelity is a real possibility.

Otherwise, where would a womanizing man find so many unfaithful women?

Everything outside of marriage is short-term. Since it is short-term, you have to be ready to act fast. You cannot spend too much energy pursuing it. In other words, you need to have the qualities that will make you attractive to women in the short term. There are many books on the market in this area, such as "The Art of Picking Up Girls," and so on. Look for them. There are also many training courses in this area. But those are just superficial techniques. We are on a psychological platform, so we must answer from a psychological perspective, from the perspective of effective communication. This is the only answer I know. You may as well just wear the fake shell of short-term thinking and flirting with girls, but our true core is how to communicate effectively. This requires a mature and well-rounded personality. Here are some suggestions:

[Borrowing false cultivation: the false shell is flirting with girls, and the true core is personality]

If you want to be chosen by a woman, you need to know what she's looking for.

You don't need to be wealthy to attract a woman. All you need is enough money for a basic dinner date.

Second, you need to be attractive. This includes things like height and sense of style.

You also need to have good emotional intelligence and the ability to bring emotional value to a girl.

If you have a very strong emotional value, you can ignore the first two points. You don't need to get plastic surgery. Save some money and use it later when you are looking for a long-term partner, that is, when you are really looking for a marriage partner.

For now, let's leave this aside.

[Cultivating emotional value]

Then we can focus on how to improve ourselves and bring better emotional value to the other person. What is the key point?

You need to make a woman feel that you appreciate her, identify with her, and understand her.

This question seems quite vague, so think about the opposite. When you chat with someone and you feel that the other person really understands you, how does that person chat? (It doesn't matter if the other person is male or female.) You'll probably find the following patterns.

1) She/he is adept at affirming you and agreeing with you, while simultaneously expressing it in a way that makes you feel special. For instance,

"You may think you're an expert on love, but I know you've always wanted a pure and unadulterated romance."

2) She/he is excellent at capturing and expressing the emotions and feelings that you have buried deep down and forgotten about. You will feel the kind of ease that comes from someone who can breathe and share your destiny.

"You seem like a nice person on the surface, but I can tell it's really hard for someone to get inside your heart. I can feel how lonely you are."

"You may seem strong, but I know you need to be taken care of and loved."

These are just some examples. You will encounter these examples in those short training courses, but you will not understand the underlying psychological structure.

That's why you think it's not easy to do.

It's actually very simple.

The secret is empathy + identification (appreciation, praise).

Empathy is a psychological skill that breaks down barriers between hearts. The connection between people is not about money or appearance; it's about feeling empathy.

How do you practice empathy with others? We must first understand our own emotions and learn to empathize with ourselves.

You care deeply about your state and your character. So I want to know how, at the age of 22, you managed to get to where you are now. Is there anything you've experienced that you're not telling me about?

I want to know if you have ever sincerely talked to the 3-year-old, 5-year-old, 8-year-old, 12-year-old, and 18-year-old versions of yourself. Did they have any grievances?

Tell me, has he experienced any fears or worries? And how has he struggled to forget unpleasant things?

He must have experienced happiness and joy at some point. There are more bright colors than dark colors in the scenes from the past.

Ambiguity is more important than clarity. There are more difficulties than smooth sailing.

Think of something.

You can empathize with yourself and the girl. What you have experienced, others have experienced too.

Approval and praise have a structure. There is a method, but the most solid method is that you can only do it if you sincerely appreciate and like the other person, and it can only be accepted by the other person. Otherwise, it will be perceived as insincere.

You must have a sense of beauty and appreciation. You need to be able to find treasure in the trash.

I know you're not going to say my answer is just a piece of chicken soup, so I'm going to give you a simple example:

I saw that you did xxxx, and I know you have xxxx (traits). I am confident that you are a trustworthy person with whom I can get to know.

[Other skills]

Metaphysics is essential.

You must find a job that can bring you a good income to ensure a source of income for life. The previous respondents have given a lot of advice on careers that match your personality.

Metaphysics:

You should learn some Western intellectual history, philosophy, and history. Read the works of the Nobel Prize in Literature. If you can't read it, you can buy and listen to it. It's also okay to listen to an overview. There's also art history and art works. You don't need to buy big books to read these. For example, you can read biographies of paintings. They are all illustrated, which is not boring to read. You can finish reading one in an hour. You should also read more science fiction novels (for now, don't learn traditional Chinese culture such as Chinese classics). It expands the content of your chat and helps deepen your thoughts and consolidate your logic. This is useful when flirting with girls and when you reach a certain level at work.

There are many things left out, so let's talk about this for now. You've got this.

My friend, thank you for your reply! I apologize if my previous reply made you feel helpless.

However, this is normal because everyone's life experience is unique. It is perfectly normal for you not to understand me and for me not to understand you. In fact, everyone has empathy, and it is also perfectly normal for you to understand me and for me to understand you! It is good that others can understand you, but if others don't understand you, I hope you don't mind.

If you can figure this out, allow your "small self" to be hurt, and be able to control your emotions. You are unique, and it is perfectly normal to argue with different opinions!

Think about it. If you always show impatience or a bad mood in front of the woman you like because you disagree with her, would anyone else want to be with you? Absolutely not! You are one step closer to "sexual freedom"!

I re-read your content on Zhihu. It's clear you want to think and do things for yourself, even in your current "job search," which you see as a way to "charm a girl." You want this girl to be "sexually open," "adventurous," and "share the same values" as you. I can tell you there are such girls, but you can't "charm" them!

Such girls are often surprisingly picky. You need more than just money. You need high emotional intelligence and good health. If you can do these three things, such girls will naturally come to you. There's no need to "seduce" them.

Flirting is a waste of time. It makes you less attractive and makes others stay away from you.

Sales and personnel are great options for you. You'll meet all kinds of people, which will help you improve your interpersonal skills and ability to control your emotions. When you do, women will be attracted to you—no need to "flirt"!

I have a friend in sales. He's highly emotionally intelligent and extremely popular with women. It's no exaggeration to say that as long as he talks to a woman, that woman will fall in love with him! So, do you still worry that you won't be able to achieve sexual freedom?

If you really practice to this level, I guarantee you won't bother with "picking up girls" anymore!

Good day, questioner.

"What kind of career should a man choose if flirting with girls is his life's focus?" Perhaps we can sort this out together.

I believe that if you want to flirt with a girl, it would be beneficial to have the opportunity to meet her first. Therefore, it might be advantageous to focus your career or clients on young women.

Young women enjoy cosmetics, so you might consider working in a career related to cosmetics, such as opening a beauty salon. There are more female nurses than male nurses in hospitals, so you could become a male nurse. Primary schools are dominated by female teachers, so you could become a primary school teacher. Outdoor training camps are more popular with children, and most of the people who accompany the children are young mothers, among whom there may be single young mothers.

In short, you might consider a career where women are the primary customers. It could be beneficial to gain an understanding of the characteristics of women and to provide them with services that meet their needs through practical work. At the same time, it might be helpful to allow the women around you to get to know you, so that you will attract people with similar values and achieve your goal of making money at work and having good relationships with women.

As you mentioned, everyone has different values and needs. Some needs may differ from what most people pursue or be inconsistent with the moral values of the public. However, as long as you have the courage to face them and speak up, you are being honest.

It could be said that flirting, achieving "sexual freedom," as well as admiration and strength, may contribute to a better material living condition and security. Food, air and water, and sex are often considered the most basic survival needs of human beings (Maslow's hierarchy of needs). Once these needs are met, it may be possible to consider higher-level needs for safety, friendship, love, and self-realization.

In other words, the questioner is currently prioritizing the most fundamental needs. Due to their intense desire for these needs, they are solely focused on the present and may be overlooking other aspects of life.

It would be interesting to consider what your life might be like if you achieved your goal and became a powerful person, reaching "sexual freedom." Do you think you would have any new needs? And when you grow old and your functions deteriorate, would you still want to have someone by your side, and would you still need to find a sense of belonging and value in life?

Perhaps it would be beneficial to consider our long-term goals and aspirations.

It may also be helpful to consider our true psychological state in light of our own needs.

It would be interesting to consider why we admire the strong. From a psychological perspective, it could be because we feel "empty" inside and deeply feel our own helplessness and insignificance. Could it also be because we feel "weak"?

Could it be that we lack acceptance of our current situation, or that our current situation is not accepted by society? From the perspective of a college student, starting out in the social competition, would it be fair to say that they are in a "disadvantaged" position?

Could the emotions that seem to be at odds with our professional goals be a result of our efforts to demonstrate strength to others? Is the pursuit of "sexual freedom" driven by a desire to gain the approval of the opposite sex, to exert control over the opposite sex, and to elicit unconditional love from the girl?

"I only want what I need, and I don't care about anything else."

"I believe I am omnipotent, and I am confident that my needs will be met."

It is possible to fulfill this wish. A baby only needs to cry a few times to receive the careful care of its caregiver and have its needs met.

As we grow older, it's important to recognize that our mentality cannot remain in the "infant" stage. Independence, responsibility, and commitment are essential for entering society. The university is a valuable time for considering these issues, understanding how to live and work after entering society, finding one's own sense of value and belonging, and developing the skills to live a happy life.

It is not enough to admire strength; to be truly strong is to accept and recognize oneself, to acknowledge one's shortcomings, and to use one's strengths to grow continuously.

If we are dealing with a physical object, for example, we can write out the methods and procedures, follow the instructions, and learn how to do it correctly. With practice, we can become a qualified driver.

While there are ways to flirt with girls, they are not necessarily long-lasting. We are dealing with people, and people have emotions. Their actions are often an expression of their emotions, rather than a single action.

Regardless of emotions, interactions between people are also a mutual exchange of values. Perhaps it would be helpful to consider what value we have that might make girls want to exchange with us.

Psychologist Li Meijing once said, "For a man to be liked, either you are good-looking or you are rich. If you don't have either, if you have a kind heart, you will also be liked." It might be helpful to consider what we can have.

"Society" can be seen as a kind of classroom for learning about life. It offers us the chance to reflect on our thoughts and actions, and to think about the consequences of our choices.

The above represents only my own opinions, which I offer with the hope that they will be received in the constructive spirit in which they are intended.

I wish you the best.

Hello, question asker! After reading through the comments below, including your interactions with other respondents, I've identified two core needs at this stage in your life that I think we can help you with: 1. the need for career planning; 2. the need to establish an intimate relationship with a woman.

It's totally normal to have such needs at your age! But your needs are a little bit special because you want to combine and achieve the two core needs. It would be amazing if the two needs could be "you in me and me in you." This shows that the psychological assessment you did and your own evaluation of yourself are spot on! The ISTP personality is all about efficiency, which is the so-called "kill two birds with one stone." It means doing one thing while taking care of another. You, young man, have a very clear mind, which is a unique way of thinking about life planning.

From your "admiration for the strong," it's clear you're an ambitious go-getter, eager to learn from the best. You're confident in your ambition and keenly aware of your strengths, which is fantastic! From your interactions with other respondents, it's evident you admire the strong in your career. While you may not necessarily seek an amazing girl in terms of choosing a spouse, you do want a girl who is strong inside. This is an exciting place to be!

If I understand you correctly, you're looking for someone who is just as independent and strong inside as you are, who believes in equality between men and women, and who doesn't play by double standards.

Now, let's dive into how you can combine the two core needs of "career planning" and "establishing an intimate relationship with women." I've got a few tips and tricks up my sleeve that I'm excited to share with you!

1. You currently have a college degree, and I don't know what major you studied. If you are satisfied with your current major, continue to study in that major. If this major is more skill-oriented and easy to find employment in, you can try to find employment after graduation and enter society early to gain experience. After experiencing the social melting pot, your thoughts may change, and your expectations for your life and future partner may also be updated.

If you majored in a non-practical subject and have difficulty finding employment, consider taking a practical major! This depends on your usual interests and specialties. If you are good at hands-on work, then obtaining a professional qualification in a certain skill is a great idea. And if you can continue to work, that would be even better! This is also in line with your ISTP personality, a hands-on doer who is good at practical work and has a certain appreciation for beauty. Combining your traits of "perseverance," "stubbornness," "strong personal principles," and "not liking boredom," I suggest trying occupations such as engineering supervisor, construction cost engineer, architectural designer, and interior decorator.

These types of jobs are amazing! They combine principles and creativity, have a large market demand, are highly specialized, and are perfect for freelancers. If you can give more information about your interests and expertise, I can recommend more career options for you.

And there's more! There are relatively few women in these occupations (except for interior decorators, where there are more women), but if you come into contact with women in this industry, you will find that most of them are strong inside, have a strong sense of independence and autonomy, and are strong in both thinking and hands-on abilities. You can pay attention to them!

2. If your hobbies and aspirations do not lie in the field of practical skills, you can consider careers in sales or human resources (recruitment, assessment, training, etc.). These types of careers are great because they involve contact with a wide range of people, which tests a person's intelligence and emotional intelligence. If you are confident in your intelligence and emotional intelligence, you can try these two careers. If you can thrive in the sales or human resources industry, there will be almost no one you can't handle! The skills you learn in these two careers will enhance your skills in choosing a partner. From knowing people, selecting people, attracting, getting along to being together, vocational skills and life skills are often related. This is because the road is connected, knowledge and skills can be transferred. This is why I said at the beginning that your thinking is very clear and unique. You have already grasped the transferability of knowledge and skills, which is great! You can rest assured and continue to work in the field you like and are good at. Those successful experiences and insights can also be applied to daily life many times, including what you call "chasing girls" or "establishing intimate relationships with the opposite sex."

Since you've already taken a psychological test and have a general understanding of the strengths and weaknesses of your personality traits, I won't go into detail here. But I will say this: whether your assessment of yourself is reasonable needs to be tested in practice. And there's no better way to do that than by getting out there and living your life! In practice, you will constantly improve your self-awareness and your perception of others. Your value system will also continue to improve as your cognitive system continues to improve. Nothing is set in stone. The world is changing, and so are people. You may be an ISTP today, but after a few years of work and a few years of love, you may have a new understanding and find that some of the components of your personality traits have changed to some extent. And that's a good thing!

Come on, young people! Let your excess, unfocused, wandering talents, energy, and physical strength flow!

Let them flow freely under the rule of your clear will, into the same great river, and ultimately into the vast ocean of life!

Hello! I just wanted to give you a 360-degree hug.

This issue can be tough for a lot of people. For counselors, it's definitely possible to empathize, understand, and accept.

I've read your question on Zhihu and seen how you've interacted with other people's feedback. I'd like to share my thoughts on the matter, even though they might come across as a bit immature.

Based on what you've said, what kind of career would be best for someone who makes flirting with girls the core of their life and their career?

I believe it would be more beneficial to consider what kind of role or personality to adopt in order to achieve this goal, rather than focusing on choosing a specific career path.

I suggest reading The Evolution of Desire: Human Mate Selection Strategies. This book looks at the relationship between men and women and marriage from the perspective of human evolution. Simply put, even though we have lived in civilized societies for thousands of years, our mate selection strategies haven't evolved much beyond the primitive level. They're just more subtle and there's more pretense.

For instance, when a woman looks for a partner, she wants to find a man who is capable, healthy, and of good character. Her goal is to secure the resources that the other person can provide to help her and her children survive.

After all, women have to get pregnant, give birth, and raise a child. At this stage, they may not be able to obtain sufficient resources on their own, so they hope that men can provide sufficient resources. Strong abilities, good health, and good character are all conditions that ensure a steady supply of resources.

Of course, women nowadays may have fewer demands because they can earn their own money and are less afraid of losing resources. In the past two years, there has been a very popular term, "leave the father and keep the child," which means that women only want children and not the fathers of their children. The fundamental reason is that women have the ability to support themselves and their children.

Men are looking for mates who are healthy, young, and beautiful, and loyal. The first two are about producing healthy offspring and passing on their genes.

Loyalty is about passing on your wealth to your kids. Men haven't yet developed the ability to reproduce themselves, so they have to rely on women.

If you take a look at the various marriage advertisements, you'll see that they all have the same requirements: age, height, house, car, etc.

Back to your question, what's the best way to go about a life plan centered on flirting with girls? As the saying goes, walk in your opponent's footsteps so that they have nowhere to go.

If you want to flirt with a girl, you have to focus on her physical desires rather than her emotions. And when flirting with a girl, you should definitely flirt with her erogenous zones.

Next, let's look at what kind of work might satisfy your core need, which is to flirt with girls.

First, fitness instructor.

It goes without saying that a guy with an eight-pack can attract a lot of girls, but I do know that a muscular male physique satisfies women's primordial desire for masculinity.

It's pretty easy to get into the fitness instructor industry, but it can be a bit tougher in the early stages. On the plus side, you'll meet women of different ages.

You might want to think about that.

Second, internet celebrities.

Someone once said that everyone has a 15-second window of opportunity to become famous.

In today's world of short videos, a 15-second clip can go viral and gain a lot of followers. Look at last year's fake Dong Jin incident as an example.

This is a pretty low-threshold thing, so you can start by watching what others have done, finding a formula, and just copying it.

Someone went viral recently. They said the background of their live broadcast was fake, so they made lots of videos of themselves running into the background to show it was real.

If you think outside the box, build a fan base, and generate traffic, you'll have resources to exchange.

Traffic that can be monetized is a resource, as is sex. Once you have resources, you can trade them for other resources.

You can also think along these lines and combine what you can do, what you want to do, and what you are willing to do to expand your thinking. This will help you find your own suitable career plan that can meet your core needs. After all, it is about resource replacement.

Make the most of the resources you have to replace women's sexual resources.

Your resources could be your looks, monetizable traffic, or an endearing persona, for example.

The above outlines a potential career plan and the rationale behind flirting with women, which can address surface-level issues. However, I understand you may not want to be analyzed further, so I'll leave it at that.

I wish you the best of luck.

I'm a counselor who often feels depressed but also has moments of optimism. I love the world and everything in it.

Upon examination of the initial inquiry, it is probable that a considerable number of individuals may perceive the question as intriguing, deem the questioner's perspective somewhat unconventional, or even seek to challenge its assertions. However, when we focus on the underlying essence of the phenomenon, we may gain a more comprehensive understanding of the questioner's motivations and intentions.

Given that the original poster has migrated from Zhihu to Yixinli to pose the question, it seems reasonable to posit that their objective extends beyond a mere response focused on the act of flirting with girls.

Given the focus of this platform on psychology, it is not feasible to provide a definitive response to the original poster's inquiry.

Despite the questioner's directive to refrain from exhaustive and inconsequential analysis, it is this analyst's intention to ascertain a psychological understanding of the questioner. Should this endeavor prove beneficial, it may assist the questioner in discerning the underlying motives behind their apparent pursuit of flirtation and facilitate the identification of their genuine needs.

Should the questioner be disinterested, it is at your discretion to disregard this analysis. Its purpose is solely for your personal interest.

After a thorough examination of the questioner's detailed information on Zhihu, I have distilled it down to a few key questions.

1. The questioner identifies as an ISTP personality, which is characterized by traits such as focus, efficiency, a dislike of sameness, patience, and an indifference to irrelevant matters.

In addition to the aforementioned characteristics, the individual in question also exhibits traits such as rationality, realism, independence, introversion, dependence, strong creativity, strong curiosity, and a desire to differentiate themselves from others.

2. The individual in question has indicated that their primary interest is in learning how to engage in flirtation with the opposite sex.

From the aforementioned personality analysis, it is not challenging to comprehend why the questioner is solely interested in flirting with girls, given their primary focus.

What is the rationale behind this focus?

It can be reasonably assumed that this is a source of significant discomfort for the questioner. It would appear that the questioner's primary desire is to be admired, that they do not believe in love, and that they require a sense of control.

This may be related to the emotional relationship between the parents in the original family unit, which will be discussed in greater detail below.

Ultimately, the questioner's objective is to achieve "sexual freedom," which would eliminate any concerns about a lack of sexual gratification.

The pursuit of sexual freedom may indicate that the questioner has a robust libido, is a person who lives in the present, takes pleasure in sensual enjoyment, and adheres to a realistic worldview.

The presence of a strong sexual drive is often accompanied by a proclivity towards aggression and a desire to exert control.

It is possible that the questioner has experienced instances of losing control since childhood and feels powerless in certain situations. However, there is a considerable amount of strength within them that has been repressed and transformed into anger. Consequently, they are driven to regain control and assert their own initiative, particularly in their relationships with women.

4. He dislikes women who are conventional, insecure, and fearful of rejection. He believes that men who are attracted to such women are individuals who evade reality and avoid personal growth.

The aversion to submissive women who appear insecure not only indicates that the questioner is more assertive and reluctant to invest effort in maintaining relationships, but also suggests a lack of patience in pursuing romantic interests. It is also possible that the questioner experiences a lack of security at an underlying level.

It can be posited that females who exhibit generosity and a lack of intrusiveness may facilitate a greater degree of passion and peace of mind.

5. Some individuals tend to admire strength and despise weakness, often perceiving the latter as a sign of stupidity and uselessness. The questioner may benefit from recognizing the potential connection between this perception and his single-parent family background and past experiences.

This is the crux of the matter: the questioner is so intent on flirting with girls because of this factor.

The admiration of the strong and the loathing of the weak indicates that the individual in question may be a strong person.

This strength is based on the observation that in the past, there were family members in the single-parent family who were perceived as weak, subjected to negative attitudes by the questioner, and compelled to become strong.

The combination of the questioner's expressed desire to engage in flirtation with girls and his status as the child of a single parent raises questions about the nature of his father's character. It is possible that the questioner's mother left the family due to concerns about his father's perceived weakness, or alternatively, due to difficulties in the relationship between the two men.

If the aforementioned hypothesis is indeed accurate, it is plausible that the questioner may harbor the conviction that the father's perceived deficiencies were a contributing factor in the dissolution of the marriage. Conversely, had the father exhibited greater fortitude, it is possible that the dissolution of the marriage may have been averted.

Furthermore, the questioner exhibits a lack of belief in the existence of relationships and may be living a life that differs from what her father did.

Irrespective of the questioner's personality, past experiences, current circumstances, or future aspirations, it can be inferred that the questioner may not be content with their current situation.

The questioner's primary objective, namely to identify a career path that would facilitate contact with a greater number of individuals and achieve sexual autonomy, may be attained from a realistic standpoint. However, this does not address the fundamental issue at hand.

The questioner's underlying need may not be sexual gratification, but rather the fulfillment of a deep emotional connection.

A heartfelt sex life is a prerequisite for satisfaction.

Otherwise, if the issue is addressed solely from a sexual perspective, it may lead to feelings of emptiness and a sense of unfulfillment, which could further intensify sexual desire.

This phenomenon is analogous to that observed in individuals who engage in excessive eating, whereby the consumption of food does not result in feelings of satiety. The underlying cause of this behavior can be attributed to a deficiency in emotional fulfillment, rather than the quantity of food consumed.

It is my hope that this response will facilitate a deeper understanding of the underlying motivations and genuine needs that underpin the questioner's request.

Should the questioner possess sufficient patience to read this far, it would be beneficial to discuss their career plans, given that they are rational and have isolated some of their emotions. Depending on the questioner's abilities, they could succeed in any career.

If one's professional trajectory is constrained by the objective of meeting a greater number of potential romantic partners, it may prove limiting in terms of one's personal growth and the potential for forging a genuine, fulfilling relationship.

It is not my intention to alter the original intention of the questioner. My hope is that the questioner will be able to embrace a more spontaneous approach to their professional life, allowing themselves to be guided by fate in matters of the heart. When they do so, they will be able to live freely and experience the true joy and meaning of life.

The aforementioned points are thus concluded.

I am Yan Guilai, a practicing psychologist. I extend my best wishes to you.

Hi, I'm Jinmu. I hope my answer helps.

The questioner is efficient, so my answer will be brief and to the point.

1. Points that can be optimized in the original question

1. The bonus setting can be improved.

Xiaojin thinks the questioner is sincere and determined because they offered a high reward. However, the platform's mechanism is that the answer with the most likes by the end of the reward period gets 40% of the reward, and the remaining answers get the rest. I've read that even the answer with 26 likes is not satisfactory to the questioner.

Is it reasonable to offer a high reward if you're not satisfied?

A bounty of 50 is considered a high reward on the platform. Set a high reward of 50-100 to attract answers. Then reward the answer separately below.

Tell people that the best answer will get a big reward. This will get more people to answer your question.

2. The question description can be improved.

A clear objective is a bonus and helps focus the answer.

The most important thing is to get girls.

[My ultimate pursuit is sexual freedom.

What job should someone have who flirts with girls?

The original poster added a long description, but it's unnecessary and may lead to misjudgment.

(2) Personal info for reference

I'm male, in junior college, and don't have other hobbies.

I'm an ISTP. I'm focused and efficient. I dislike sameness.

I admire strength and dislike weakness.

(3) More important info

Focus on your goals. Give us some basic info so we can help you choose the right path.

1) Appearance

Height:

Height matters to women.

Appearance:

Be honest about your appearance.

Body shape:

Do you know what category you fall into?

2) Specialty information

These specialties are not traditional. They are what attract women. (The following gives three common examples)

Fitness:

Are you just a gym member? Or are you a gym instructor?

Girls see things differently at different levels.

Nightclub perspective:

You said you often go to nightclubs to observe. What's your opinion? Can you tell if a girl is going to a bar for the first time or to meet someone? Will your approach be successful?

Nightclub drinks:

Are you an expert on nightclub drinks? What do they look like, what's in them, how much do they cost, and who drinks them?

3. This platform can be optimized.

The questioner is on a psychology-focused platform asking about flirting and career choices, which is not appropriate. Your ideas will probably be rejected or ignored. This is a positive platform, so your needs are niche.

Advice for the questioner

I have three suggestions for the questioner regarding career advice:

1. Worst strategy:

Security Guard

Villa salesperson

Find high-end areas with villas.

2. Medium strategy:

Fitness instructor

Bartender

Nightclub DJ

Dance teacher

Each occupation is an expert. As an opinion leader, you can share your ideas and find people who agree with you.

3. Best strategy

Insufficient information, unavailable, 30,000 omitted.

Question owner, I hope you see Jinmu's answer. Don't waste time like this!

You have high standards. There are girls like that, but only if you are worthy of them and they respect you. After all, such girls must have good qualities themselves.

You've got to be able to fight hard enough to get what you want.

Given the same circumstances, he'll also choose the better person based on reality. You want an outstanding girl, and they want a good and outstanding man. So, while you're discussing conditions, you have to be worthy of them.

It's worth noting that regardless of the girl's age, she's not going to be impressed by a pushy or arrogant guy.

What about the greasy and creepy men?

And the stronger the woman, the more she dislikes self-centered people. After all, if he is strong, and you are self-centered and male chauvinist, people will definitely resent you.

I think everyone would prefer a more gentlemanly person. After all, mutual respect is essential for living together in peace.

I think you should develop your career in the financial sector. Most of the conditions you want are female white-collar workers. You admire the strong, or the fashion industry.

I think you should learn to control yourself. Some of your ideas are still quite dangerous. What if you accidentally go in?

First, work on yourself, get better conditions, and then find a strong wife—the kind of strong person you want. I think this kind of person can hold you down. It would be pretty bad if you accidentally got in. After all, your thinking is still a bit dangerous.

If you think that way, you could end up as a swindler, but you've got to have a moral compass and some real skills to attract an amazing woman. One thing is for sure, though: amazing people will always have admirers. If you want to match them, you've got to be amazing yourself.