After dressing up, I feel very confident. Why do I pay special attention to my appearance?

Hello, questioner. When you read someone's words, you can sense their inner distress. I will describe my point of view, and I am confident that my next answer will be helpful and inspiring to you.

First, think about whether you have experienced something to do with your appearance. Has anyone ever criticized your appearance or belittled you?

Has someone ever praised you for your appearance after putting on makeup? If so, you know it makes you happy and gives you a reason to keep doing it.

There are several reasons why we pay too much attention to our appearance. It could be that our parents or significant others have criticized us, causing us to feel inferior. We change our behavior through a series of actions to avoid this feeling.

Furthermore, there is a spotlight effect in psychology. This means that we often magnify our problems to an unrealistic degree. When we make a fool of ourselves, we assume that other people will notice. However, this is not the case. While other people may notice at the time, they will forget it immediately afterwards.

You can stop worrying about how much attention you think others are paying to you. It's been proven that we overestimate the amount of attention others pay to us. We care so much about the impression we make on others that we tend to believe that others pay far more attention to us than they actually do.

The spotlight effect shows us that we can pay less attention to our appearance and feel better about ourselves. We can tell ourselves that other people are not with us because of our appearance, etc.

You've got this!

The world loves you, and so do I.

Hello, landlord. I am confident that my answer will be of some help to you.

I am much like you. I pay a lot of attention to my appearance and sometimes have some appearance anxiety. I am certain that this is not just us, but most people. When you've dressed up, you'll be satisfied with yourself first, and naturally you'll feel that other people will like this version of yourself more. And most people will think that when a woman goes to an important event after putting on makeup, it's also a sign of respect for others.

Dressing up and making up ourselves satisfies many of our needs. If these needs can be satisfied without makeup, then we can omit makeup.

I'm going to tell you what psychological needs makeup and dressing up satisfy.

The saying goes that people have seven emotions and six desires. The six desires are appetite, material desire, desire for power, sexual desire, lust, and desire for beauty. There is a saying that "everyone has a heart that loves beauty." From the perspective of beauty psychology, the heart that loves beauty refers to people's psychological need to beautify their appearance. It is the most basic spiritual need of human beings and the driving force behind the behavior of "seeking beauty."

In today's world of ever-increasing material abundance, beauty is an essential part of people's lives.

Makeup, dressing up, and other beauty rituals satisfy these different needs:

Physiological needs are met by makeup and dressing up.

Some physical deficiencies or regrets caused by congenital factors or accidental injuries can lead to psychological rejection, denial, or resentment. However, there's no reason to dwell on these issues. When we make up and dress ourselves, we can usually improve some flaws and highlight our beauty, which will also make us feel happier and more confident psychologically.

2. The need for belonging and love

We avoid social interaction because we feel inferior about certain parts of ourselves. This could be our dark skin, thin waist, or blemishes on our face. But we can use makeup and dressing up to improve our skin and figure. This will help us regain confidence and be more conducive to working, making friends, falling in love, etc. When we make ourselves beautiful, it helps us satisfy our need for belonging and love.

3. I deserve respect.

We have been discriminated against and ridiculed by others because our appearance is not attractive enough. However, when we appear in front of everyone through makeup and dressing up, we gain the respect and acceptance of others. Furthermore, a woman adorns herself for the pleasure of others. When we go to meet someone and deliberately dress up, the other person can also feel our respect and attention for them, which also satisfies the other person's need for respect.

4. The need for self-realization

Our bodies and appearances may have limitations, but that doesn't mean we can't have beautiful ideals and visions for the future. We can improve our appearance and dress up to help realize our ideals, reflect our self-worth, and ultimately achieve self-realization.

Take film and television stars, for example. They see beauty as their wealth and are prepared to invest a great deal of time and effort into improving and adjusting their appearance in order to achieve their careers and ideals. And it's clear that by making such adjustments, they have helped themselves succeed and achieve self-realization in life.

Let's be clear: what needs does makeup and dressing up satisfy? Do these needs have to be fulfilled through makeup and dressing up?

If you want to change and be able to go out without makeup and still feel comfortable, you need to satisfy these needs in other ways. When you are strong enough inside, don't care what others think, and recognize yourself enough, your social mood won't be affected by whether you wear makeup or not.

This is how I am. In the past, I cared a lot about what others thought of my clothes, figure, skin, appearance, etc. I was afraid of socializing because others would always find flaws and I would always have shortcomings. Later, I accepted my figure and appearance and recognized myself enough to know that other people's opinions didn't matter. Now, I still occasionally wear makeup and put on lipstick, but most of the time it's for myself because I enjoy it and it makes me happy.

I hope this is helpful. Best wishes!