After living with your parents for almost two months, you want to go crazy and hit people whenever you are urged to get married?

Dear Question Asker, You inquired about the challenges you're facing after residing with your parents for nearly two months. You expressed feelings of frustration and a desire to lash out when they pressure you to get married.

First, acknowledge your awareness of your inner thoughts. Awareness is the first step towards change. Let's review your question together.

You indicated that you were raised in an environment where your parents were frequently in conflict and that you experienced significant insecurity as a result. You reported that your mother treated you with a lack of respect for 30 years and that you often found yourself in a state of distress. After you left home to pursue employment, your relationships did not improve. You noted that every time you encountered someone you liked, the interactions were marked by turbulence and distress.

Subsequently, when you gain perspective, you desire solitude. Each instance of your mother's persistent urging regarding marriage evokes a profound sense of distress. You suppress your inner discontent and feel an overwhelming urge to express your frustration and lash out.

Imagine a scenario in which you are physically assaulting your mother with various objects and kicking her when she is not looking. You would likely feel a sense of relief. Eleven returned home to find the epidemic had returned, and stayed with her parents for almost two months. During this time, her parents engaged in frequent quarrels and nagged her about marriage. You felt as though you could not endure this situation any longer and wanted to return home, but the epidemic kept recurring, and you were sad.

After reviewing your inquiry, I empathize with the distress you've experienced. I comprehend your current self-control and repression. You are not straightforward, and it is challenging to accumulate such a significant amount of negative emotion.

It is important to allow yourself to feel a range of emotions, including disgust, resentment, resistance, and resentment, towards your parents for pushing you to get married.

We are all ordinary people, and none of us is infallible. We have seven emotions and six desires: joy, anger, sorrow, fear, love, disgust, and desire.

It is normal to experience feelings of disgust and dissatisfaction towards one's parents when they consistently encourage marriage. Despite their role as one's primary caregiver, it is understandable to feel resentment towards them for actions that have caused distress.

It is important to note that suppressing negative emotions can lead to their intensification. These emotions may accumulate over time, requiring an increasing level of effort to suppress them. Eventually, they may reach a point where they cannot be contained, resulting in a more destructive outburst. Therefore, it is essential to allow oneself to experience negative emotions, even towards loved ones, in order to manage them effectively.

Allowing yourself to hate your parents may help to mitigate the intensity of your feelings towards them.

It is important to release emotions, relieve stress, and ease anxiety.

It is important to provide an appropriate outlet for emotions when they arise. Suppressing emotions will not eliminate them; it will only result in their expression in another form. This forced expression may cause harm to others.

There are various methods for releasing emotions. When emotions arise, one can record the events that triggered them or allow the emotions to surface and be processed. If one feels unable to cope with negative emotions alone, professional assistance can be sought. Such assistance can help identify techniques for releasing emotions, which can in turn relieve stress and anxiety. This can positively impact the current relationship with one's parents.

Once you have addressed your emotions, it is time to speak with your parents about your future plans.

Once you have addressed your emotions, identify an opportunity, particularly when your parents are in a positive frame of mind, to discuss your future plans. It is possible that your parents may not be able to accept your ideas regarding marriage. In such a case, it is essential to maintain control of your emotions while learning to express them in a constructive manner.

It is important to demonstrate to your parents that you are not currently pursuing marriage because you have not yet identified a suitable partner. However, if such a partner becomes available, you will proceed with the marriage. Additionally, you should illustrate to your parents that even in the absence of marriage, you are capable of leading a fulfilling life independently and are committed to supporting them in their retirement.

It is important to demonstrate to your parents that you are an excellent, independent, and assertive individual. They must believe in you, respect your choices, and support your plans for the future.

Dear Questioner, I hope this information is helpful. Best regards, [Name]