Hello, landlord!
I know it can be tricky to understand what the poster means by "excessive" and "neglect." I think the best way to help them is to ask them three simple questions.
?[1] Could focusing on high-level needs be another way to express the need for security?
Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory is really interesting! It suggests that the lower a need is on the list, the more powerful it is. This makes sense when you think about it – our basic needs like eating, drinking, sleeping and having sex are pretty important for survival! But it also suggests that having a sense of security is the most basic need of all. And it's easy to see why – it's something we all need to feel safe and secure in order to live a happy and healthy life!
The need for a sense of security is not only about life and death, but it's something we all need throughout our lives. I believe it's the most basic and deepest need we have. In today's modern society, where we all have different roles and work together, people's need for security can get hidden and presented in different forms. That's why I asked the question about whether it's an alternative way of expressing the need for security.
In real life, we only encounter dangerous situations that directly threaten our personal safety, such as being violently attacked or killed, which is pretty unlikely. So most of the time, the source of our fear and anxiety is not a situation that directly threatens our lives, but a variety of hidden threats to our survival.
Let's take a simple example. If you're afraid of your boss, it's likely that you're also afraid of damaging your relationships with others. And if you're afraid of damaging those relationships, it's likely that you're also afraid of your career development being hindered. And if you're afraid of your career development being hindered, it's likely that you're also afraid of losing financial support. And so on, and so on. If you continue to reason like this, you will definitely arrive at the lowest level of needs – food, drink, defecation, sleep. And from a different perspective, you'll find that you're also afraid of a lack of security.
It can be tricky to spot these hidden threats, and they don't always show themselves right away. It's not always easy to know whether a fear is just a passing fancy or something deeper. Take, for instance, the fear of being fired if you offend your boss. It's unlikely that it will definitely happen, but it's still a valid concern.
So, the ways we show we need security in life are different for everyone. It's not always easy to spot. In this sense, the host's concern about moral justice and emotions is also closely linked to the need for security. A society that lacks morality, justice, and emotional indifference will face more dangers in survival. So, these concerns might also be an expression of the need for security, but this way of showing them is quite rare and more "disguised." That's why I use the word "alternative," which doesn't have any negative connotations.
Of course, this is only one possible answer to the question of "why is this so?" and whether it is suitable for the situation of the original poster needs to be explored further. For example, the original poster can ask themselves some questions: Are you not emotionally sensitive to and do you not feel pain about the immorality and injustice of others around you?
I'm curious, did you grow up with moral strictures? I'd love to know how you feel when you pay attention to these needs.
And so on!
[2] I'm wondering if your natural temperament is such that you pay attention to high-level needs?
Another possible answer is that the host's preference for focusing on needs stems from his natural temperament. I once heard a teacher in an online course say that people with a naturally depressive temperament love to pursue the truth, and if they are not allowed to do so, they will have a hard time. Moreover, they often have a strong tendency towards perfectionism.
I remember being really surprised when I was listening to the class because it turned out that the host and I actually had the same confusion! We were both worried and suffering from it, and we tried really hard to fix ourselves.
Once I understood this, I felt a little better about myself. I realized that it's not easy to change who you are, and your personality is mostly determined by your genes.
I totally get that we're all born different, and that's what makes our society so great! We all have our own special value, and there's no need to follow one single standard, like being rich and powerful, to live a good life. We should all just find our own way of living and believe that our unique life experience will also bring unique happiness!
I'd love to know if you think it's possible that the host is depressed. What is it like for you when you focus on topics like moral justice and emotions?
I'd love to know if you're drawn to and excited by these topics. And are you happy to do this without pay, without bonuses, and without any practical benefits in your life?
Do you sometimes prefer to be alone and read when friends invite you to a nice meal? If so, you might just be a born introvert! There's nothing wrong with that.
If you're curious about your natural temperament, you can try a personality test. You might discover that you're also a depressive temperament, which is totally normal! I believe that moral justice and emotional pursuit are both paths to truth. This high-level demand could be called "love of truth" or "love of wisdom." People who love truth and wisdom tend to have a rich spiritual world and a full life of spiritual experiences. I find this trait really appealing, and I think such people are fascinating and admirable.
[3] Could it be that focusing on high-level needs is a way of avoiding reality?
I'm not sure if the "excess" and "neglect" the original poster mentioned have already caused them to have survival problems that are difficult to deal with. I see that the original poster used the qualifier "basic" in relation to property, safety, and career security. Does this mean that the original poster is living in a dangerous building, lacks financial resources, and cannot hold down a job?
If not, if the host is just different from the people around him in terms of focus, then I think the host can consider not making any adjustments. As mentioned above, everyone has their own way of living, and that's totally okay! If you can devote a lot of time and energy to what you like, according to Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory, it is presumed that the host's basic lower-level needs should have been met.
After all, there's no set standard for whether your basic needs are being met. Some people don't have a lot of desire for material things, so just follow your heart and live your life at ease. Since ancient times, there have been people who "drink from a dipper, eat from a bamboo container, and live in a humble room, but never change their joy"!
If this is the case, though, the owner might need to spend some time and effort figuring out whether his excessive focus on high-level needs is an escape from reality. We all know that the pressure to survive is great, and there are many difficulties to encounter in real life. It can be quite difficult to maintain a good balance in all aspects, and we could all do with a bit of support from many abilities sometimes!
If you don't feel like you have what it takes to handle pressure and difficulties, it can feel like the easiest thing in the world to avoid them. And the more you lack the ability to cope, the more you'll find yourself avoiding. But avoiding will lead to a negative cycle: not wanting to cope and not coping leads to not being able to cope and not coping, and not being able to cope and not coping leads to even less wanting to cope and not coping... I did see a saying in a video that really resonated with me: the reason for caring about grand issues is the powerlessness in dealing with real issues.
But we all know that coping skills can't be developed overnight. Sometimes it may not be a problem of ability but of motivation. For example, if you feel that many jobs are meaningless and uninteresting, the question is how to develop motivation. Regardless of the problem, it takes a considerable amount of time and effort to overcome oneself and gradually change the situation.
It's important to take the time to really understand yourself and your situation. This will help you to make the best decisions for your future. If you're facing challenges at work, it might be helpful to think about whether there's a mismatch between your values and the workplace, or if your strengths and abilities aren't being fully utilized.
Could it be that you lack interpersonal skills, or maybe you just need to brush up on your professional skills? We can help you figure it out!
Once you've identified the specific reason, you can start setting goals and plans for self-improvement. You'll find that your focus naturally shifts towards property safety and career security.
Finally, the host can also consider a career that caters to his needs at multiple levels, such as a school or research institute with a major in social sciences or a related field. The work itself focuses on the topics that the host is concerned about. Perhaps such a position can help the host find the right balance more easily?
I love you too, world! ?
Comments
I can relate to focusing more on higherlevel needs. Sometimes we get so caught up in what we believe is meaningful or noble that we forget the foundation has to be strong too. Maybe it's important to periodically check in with ourselves and ensure our basic needs are met before moving on to the loftier goals.
Balancing different levels of needs is tricky. I've found that when I'm stressed about security or my job, it's hard to fully engage with things like personal growth or giving back to the community. Perhaps setting small, manageable goals for securing the basics can help create a stable platform from which to pursue higher needs.
It's interesting how our priorities shift. For me, when I feel safe and secure, I naturally gravitate towards exploring morality and emotions. But if those base needs start to waver, everything else feels unstable. Establishing routines that reinforce safety and stability might be a good step to take.
Sometimes I think we idealize higherlevel needs because they seem more sophisticated. Yet, without a solid base, it's like building a house of cards. Taking time to assess and strengthen the lower levels of the hierarchy could provide the peace of mind needed to effectively address the upper tiers.
Reflecting on why I might emphasize higherlevel needs, I realize it could be a form of escapism from the challenges of meeting basic needs. It might be helpful to adopt a more holistic approach, acknowledging that all needs are interconnected and equally important, and working on them concurrently rather than sequentially.