Are you prone to a "help the weak, fight the strong" mindset from childhood to adulthood?

Greetings.

Could I ask you to consider whether, from childhood to adulthood, there is a tendency to resist the strong and help the weak, or to allow the weak to defeat the strong?

I believe what you said is reminiscent of some ancient "heroic" characters I've read about in stories. They rebelled against corrupt officials who bullied the weak. Despite being alone, they were able to kill the rich and help the poor, saving many people from dire straits. There are also many similar characters in "Water Margin" who resist the strong and help the weak.

I believe there was once a French movie called "Zorro" that was quite popular around the world and featured a hero with a similar background.

I imagine you may have admired such heroic figures in the past and may have felt a desire to emulate them, to stand up for the weak and save the helpless. It seems there are many people with heroic instincts all over the world, and it's not uncommon for boys to admire such heroes before they become adults. They often grow up watching cartoons about such heroes.

For instance, you brought up Dragon Ball.

You may not agree with the worldly high evaluation of people with external qualities, but you have a great fondness for people with internal qualities such as thoughts and knowledge. It's possible that you will also feel sympathy for these people and a desire to protect them.

In social situations and relationships, you tend to gravitate towards individuals who may be perceived as less capable than you in certain ways. You may view them as people who require a different kind of support and attention.

You have a natural inclination towards sympathy for them, and the aspect of their character that is perceived as weak will subtly draw you closer and capture your attention. You are not easily influenced by their charms. When you encounter them, your inner feelings of concern, goodwill, and the desire to protect them emerge.

It's akin to when you play a game and you choose to let someone win, even though they may have had the advantage.

You have experienced a great deal of hardship in the past, having been accustomed to offering assistance to those in need without boundaries. Following these challenges, you began to reflect and gain a deeper understanding of yourself. In this sense, the losses were not in vain.

I believe this is your topic.

Do you consider yourself strong or weak? It can sometimes feel a little lonely when you're trying to help people who you think are strong by overcoming what you see as their weaknesses. Some people you consider "weak" might not be as grateful as you'd like them to be, and you might feel a little aggrieved.

It is understandable that no one wants to be seen as weak by others. Many knowledgeable and thoughtful people don't have much worldly goods on the outside, but they are particularly proud and aloof on the inside. It may be the case that they would not agree with your definition of weakness.

They have their own way of seeing things and they are the heroes of their own world.

It would be beneficial to consider that an objective analysis may reveal that everyone has both strong and weak points. Similarly, we could reflect on our own strengths and weaknesses.

Perhaps it would be best not to use our own standards of strength and weakness to define others as strong or weak. It is possible that the people we consider weak do not necessarily need our help. They may have their own thoughts and ideas.

If they are not open to being helped or supported, our subjective belief that we are helping or saving them could potentially be perceived as an intrusion.

It would be wise to avoid using our own standards of strength and weakness to define others. Before offering assistance, it is important to respect them, seek their permission, and then provide help when it is needed.

It is also worth noting that not all people who may appear weak are necessarily kind. Kindness and strength are not necessarily correlated.

There is a fable about a farmer and a snake. When the snake was in a vulnerable position and on the brink of death, the farmer used his own body to provide assistance.

However, after the snake came back to life, it bit the farmer to death. This teaches us that our kindness cannot be indiscriminate or have no bottom line.

I believe we share similar intentions.

I hope you know that the world and I love you.

Good day, My name is June Lai Feng.

From your narrative, I can see that you have a strong sense of self-awareness. We can understand the psychological tendency to "resist the strong and support the weak" and "overcome the strong with the weak" from various perspectives.

First, cognitive development: throughout human evolution, the weak often needed to unite against the strong to protect their own survival and that of the group. This mentality may have left a genetic imprint, prompting an urge to rebel against the strong and support the weak when they encounter them.

This psychological tendency is shaped during growth by the influence of the surrounding environment, culture, stories, etc. These may include heroic stories or plots in which good triumphs over evil. Over time, we gradually develop a sense of fairness and justice.

This mentality may reflect a sense of empathy for those who are disadvantaged and a desire for accountability from those in positions of authority. It is an inherent pursuit of the principle of fairness.

Secondly, the heroic plot. It is likely that everyone has a certain heroic sentiment deep down, hoping to become a force for change in unfair situations. This will prompt thoughts and impulses related to "resisting the strong and helping the weak" and "overcoming the strong with the weak." This mentality is related to an individual's growth experience and social environment.

During our growth process, we may have observed the unfair treatment of the weak by the strong, or we may have been bullied by the strong ourselves. These experiences may stimulate our sense of justice and compassion, prompting us to want to help the weak and stand up to the strong.

Third, self-identity and a sense of worth: Some individuals may perceive themselves as weak and find a sense of self-worth and accomplishment by supporting and helping other weak people. By supporting the weak and challenging the strong, individuals may find self-identity and a sense of worth in it, feeling that they are doing meaningful things and are able to demonstrate their uniqueness and courage.

Additionally, by challenging the strong and winning, they can also demonstrate their abilities and value, which can enhance their self-confidence.

Another factor is the psychological need to compensate. Some individuals may have experienced being weak or suppressed by those in positions of power in their personal lives. This psychology may be a subconscious attempt to compensate for past experiences by helping others.

Furthermore, the mentality of "opposing the strong and supporting the weak" and "overcoming the strong with the weak" may also be influenced by socio-cultural factors. In some cultures, the weak are regarded as requiring protection and assistance, while the strong are expected to assume greater responsibilities and obligations.

Such behaviors may be an expression of socio-cultural values.

It is important to note that the psychological tendencies of "opposing the strong and supporting the weak" and "overcoming the strong with the weak" are not always beneficial. In some cases, these tendencies may lead individuals to engage in inappropriate behaviors, such as being overly sympathetic towards the weak and neglecting their responsibilities and problems, or excessively challenging the strong, which may result in conflict and violence.

Our judgments of the strong and the weak may be influenced by subjective prejudices and stereotypes, which can lead us to take inappropriate actions. Additionally, an overemphasis on the psychology of "the weak defeating the strong" may result in a lack of consideration for the importance of cooperation and compromise, potentially leading to further conflicts and contradictions.

It is therefore important to maintain a balance between this mentality and rationality and objectivity, respecting the rights and dignity of others, and avoiding excessive actions. At the same time, we should also ensure that the relationship between the strong and the weak is properly handled, and that social harmony and stability are promoted.

In the context of business, it is essential to maintain a rational and objective perspective when dealing with individuals or groups who may be perceived as either strong or weak. This entails taking appropriate actions to promote fairness and justice, which may include resolving issues through peaceful, cooperative, and negotiated means rather than relying solely on confrontation and conflict.

There is nothing inherently wrong with the psychological patterns of "opposing the strong and supporting the weak" and "using weakness to overcome strength." In some cases, these psychological patterns can inspire courage and a sense of justice, motivating people to fight for fairness and justice. However, if these psychological patterns lead to inappropriate behaviors or emotional problems, it may be necessary to consider making adjustments. The following suggestions may help change these psychological patterns:

First, it is important to be aware of the existence of the psychological pattern of "resistance to the strong and support for the weak" or "victory of the weak over the strong." It is essential to think deeply about the origin and motivation of this psychology.

It is important to understand the reasons behind these thoughts and feelings, as well as any underlying prejudices or emotional factors that may be influencing them. By undertaking a process of self-reflection, individuals can gain a deeper understanding of themselves and the impact that these psychological patterns may have on their behaviour and decision-making.

Secondly, it is important to cultivate empathy and strive to develop an understanding of others. This entails attempting to see things from other people's perspectives and respecting different views and experiences.

It is important to recognize that everyone faces their own unique difficulties and challenges. Rather than simplistically categorizing individuals as either "strong" or "weak," it is essential to acknowledge the complexity of human nature and the diverse range of circumstances that shape an individual's strengths and weaknesses.

It is important to learn to think rationally. When dealing with individuals or groups, it is essential to avoid emotional reactions and to analyse the problem with rational thinking. All factors should be considered, the pros and cons weighed up, and decisions made on the basis of the best available information.

Furthermore, it is important to embrace diversity and recognize that there are a multitude of individuals and circumstances in the world. Not everything can be reduced to a simple conflict between the strong and the weak. It is essential to respect individual differences, accept diversity, and treat others with a more tolerant attitude.

Additionally, strive to achieve equilibrium between the mentality of "resisting the strong and helping the weak" and the mentality of "defeating the strong with the weak." Avoid undue emphasis on either side while taking appropriate action in different situations.

Finally, cultivate a healthy sense of competition. Transform the mentality of "the weak defeating the strong" into a positive sense of competition. Encourage yourself to constantly strive to improve, rather than winning through confrontation with others. Understand that in many cases, cooperation and compromise can solve problems better than confrontation.

Learn to collaborate with others to identify mutually beneficial solutions.

Modifying one's mental models is a time-consuming process. However, through self-awareness and positive action, individuals can gradually adjust their thinking and behavior.

I would like to take this opportunity to express my love for the world and for you.

The two psychological states of "resisting the strong and helping the weak" and "overcoming the strong with the weak" mentioned by the host might be related to the status of family members when they were young.

The "strong" person represents power, status, and authority. They're usually the one who has the final say in the family, like the father, or in some families, the mother.

The "weak" person represents things like obedience, powerlessness, inferiority, and the lowest status in the family. They need to follow the instructions of the "parent," like the mother, who may sometimes be the child.

This is just a simple analogy of a family of three, but the same principle applies if there are three or four generations living together.

You tend to resist the strong and support the weak. There are two possible scenarios:

First, you were the weakest child in the family.

Second, you might be the child in the family who can speak for the weakest person. You might be at a lower status than the strong person in the family, but higher than the weak person in the family.

If you're the weakest in the family and the target of management, you'll fight back against the strong to protect yourself, which shows you have strength.

So, when you see those weaker individuals, you see your younger self and want to help them "turn over."

If your mother or father was the strongest and the other was the weakest, you might want to help the weakest one against the strongest.

So, when you see a strong person and a weak person outside, you'll probably think of your parents as the strong and weak person in your family. This helps you support the weak against the strong.

You admire people who may not look good on the outside but are good on the inside. Maybe you're an introvert yourself, or the weakest person in your family is an introvert. You have a lot to offer, but you're often overlooked because the authoritative figure in the family can bring material wealth to the family and make the family feel proud.

You enjoy being around people who are less fortunate and may want to play the role of their "protector."

In social situations or relationships, you tend to gravitate towards people who are inferior to you in every way, except that you can protect them. There's also a fear that they'll surpass you, which makes you feel insecure.

When you challenge a strong person as a weak person and succeed, you'll feel a sense of accomplishment. This feeling of "saving" the weak and "transcending" the strong will make people feel powerful, like a winner, and like they've won a power struggle in a family or group!

So, do these actions prove that you are powerful?

You are, of course, powerful!

And are you afraid of anything?

Yes, because you want to challenge authority and power, and they make you feel afraid, which you need to overcome!

So, whether it's resisting the strong and helping the weak or feeling a sense of accomplishment after the weak defeat the strong, it all shows that you feel a little insecure!

It's possible that the strong person in your family made you feel insecure.

Luckily, you haven't completely given in. You have the strength to protect yourself and also want to protect others, which is what makes people feel happy.

However, this can also cause problems. For example, you may suffer if you help the weak too much. You may also feel lonely if you think you are weak but you are winning against the strong. Some people who are considered "weak" are also ungrateful.

So, how can we make this change?

Take a moment to think about what psychological drive makes you help the weak against the strong.

Is it a competitive spirit? Or a desire to save?

Or do they still think the weak are at the mercy of the strong?

It seems like these kinds of psychology are caused by projection. When you feel secure, you might think that others are secure too.

Even if others are really weak, they are also the first person responsible for their own safety. When they take responsibility for themselves, they'll really start to grow!

If they need help, they can ask for it. At that point, you can really help them by going and helping them.

If you think they're weak and force them to help you by putting them in a weak position, some of them will feel uncomfortable and won't be grateful.

What are your thoughts on this?

As I mentioned earlier,

I'm Yan Guilai, a psychological counselor, and I'll be your guide on your journey of self-discovery and truth-seeking!

Let me be clear: the facts of the real world have impacted your beliefs, causing you to doubt and feel lonely.

As a child, you were influenced by movies, novels, and games, and you created a beautiful image of a hero in your heart. You believe that heroes resist the strong and help the weak, and you want to become that kind of person yourself. This is a deep-rooted need in your heart.

In terms of your behavior, you must appreciate people who may not look good on the outside but are good on the inside. You should deliberately hang out with disadvantaged groups to fight against the strong. You should feel a little disdain for things like material things, appearance, background, and power. You should help the disadvantaged as much as you can. These behaviors will satisfy your own needs. They will make you feel more like the tall image of the "hero" in your heart and give you a sense of inner satisfaction.

You have shaped and strengthened the image of "the great hero" that you are in order to gain satisfaction by being at odds with the outstanding and enjoying contact with the underdog group.

This constant reinforcement over a long period of time has made you even more convinced of what you believe. That kind of image is good, and it is enjoyable to act like a hero.

As you grew older, your experiences in the real world revealed the truth: I've suffered a lot because of this, most of the world's resources do belong to the strong, and the weak I helped still didn't appreciate it. These facts had a huge impact on what I believed in my heart. This is my current state.

You must revise what you believe. "Heroes" are not born, they are made. They must be supported by strength to become heroes. The stronger the "hero," the more they can do. They will encounter many ungrateful people, but this is the price of being a hero. They will not be at odds with the "excellent" people, but will learn from all kinds of excellent people to constantly improve themselves. They will not deliberately make friends with people who are not as good as themselves. Heroes are not only extraordinary in strength, but also mature in mind and realistic.

Hello, question asker! I am Jiang 61, and I'm thrilled to be here with you today!

Thank you so much for trusting us and being willing to tell us about the confusion you have encountered in order to get answers! We're excited to help you. Your confusion is "From childhood to adulthood, I will have a little 'resisting the strong and helping the weak' and 'the weak defeating the strong' mentality?"

"After reading your introduction and learning about your situation, let's discuss what we can do together to help you!"

1. Introduction

1️⃣, Making friends

You said, "The mentality of 'resisting the strong and helping the weak' started when I was very young. At first, I thought it was jealousy, but then I realized it wasn't. It's because I'm not jealous of others being better than me, and I admire people who may not look good on the outside but are good on the inside."

In subsequent social interactions, they will also deliberately side with the disadvantaged to fight against the powerful.

2️⃣, look at people!

Personality

You said, "In addition, I feel a little disdain for things like material things, appearance, background, and power. However, I have a great fondness for the qualities, thoughts, and knowledge of others, as well as internal conflicts." This is an excellent observation! It's great that you're aware of your own preferences and values. It's also wonderful that you're open to learning more about other perspectives.

This can lead to a feeling of being out of place among those around you who are considered "good." But don't worry! There's nothing wrong with preferring to associate with groups of people considered "weak."

? Hero complex

You said, "I love socializing and dating people who are less capable than me in every way. Sometimes I even put myself in a situation where I can 'overcome the strong with the weak'! What I mean is that by challenging the strong from a position of weakness, I can achieve the amazing sense of accomplishment of overcoming the strong with the weak!

It's the same as Dragon Ball's Kakarot, who loves to fight with a 10-pound weight on his feet! He also likes to let up on purpose during games so he can win after someone has gained an advantage.

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3️⃣, confused

You said, "At the same time, I used to be used to helping the weak without boundaries, so I have suffered a lot. But most of the world's resources do belong to the strong!

The mentality of the weak defeating the strong can feel very lonely, and even some people who are considered "weak" are still ungrateful. But there's hope! How can this mentality be changed?

? Heroic character

A hero is someone who stands out from the crowd. They're talented, they've got great morals, and they're destined to do extraordinary things!

Help others!

I bet you help others of your own free will, without personal gain, but out of a dislike for the world and a cynical attitude. That's exactly what it shows: the questioner is a kind and compassionate person!

They are especially willing to help the weak!

Oh, boy!

What puzzles you is that the people you have helped in the past don't return the favor, which makes you feel sad and confused. But you know what? You can't figure it out no matter how hard you think about it. And that's okay!

2. Why others don't appreciate it

1️⃣, it's all about character!

The questioner is a kind and compassionate person, especially willing to help the weak. This is clear from the fact that they like to help the weak. This makes them a righteous and outspoken, cynical, and heroic type of person with a complex character. They are also a blaming type of person with a happy-go-lucky personality.

Oh, and they love to accuse people!

Accusing people are often quick to speak up and share their opinions. They're not afraid to speak their mind and are used to giving constructive criticism. They're always ready to jump in and help, even if it means taking the blame. "It's all your fault," and "What's wrong with you?" are their catchphrases, and they live by them with gusto!

In terms of their inner experiences, accusatory people usually feel lonely and frustrated. But they have the power to choose how they react! They can choose to isolate themselves from others to maintain their authority, or they can choose to reach out and connect with others.

A happy-go-lucky person has so many great qualities!

Characteristics: broad interests, love to talk, warm and enthusiastic, enjoy life!

Their strengths are many! They're optimistic and lively, seizing the present with gusto. They're also compassionate and excellent at making friends.

Weaknesses: impulsive and flighty, giving up halfway, superficial and vulnerable, prone to remorse. But these are just minor setbacks!

The questioner is warm-hearted, likes to help friends, and is compassionate, so they often befriend the weak and help the weak. However, they sometimes act without thinking, which can make it easy to not get good results.

And it all comes down to the character of the questioner!

2️⃣, unclear boundaries This is an exciting opportunity for growth!

Now for the fun part! It's time to explore the sense of boundaries.

A sense of boundaries is a crucial aspect of interpersonal communication. It's all about understanding the relationship between yourself and others. When you have a strong sense of boundaries, you know exactly where your responsibilities and authority begin and end. You also respect the personal space of others, which is a wonderful thing!

Let's make sure we're on the same page! Unclear boundaries

The unclear boundaries we're talking about here are about the questioner's desire to help others. Many people don't think it's your responsibility to help them, and they don't need you to do these things. Even if you do it out of goodwill, they don't feel they should be grateful to you. This is the result of unclear boundaries, but it's also an opportunity for you to learn and grow!

Now for the fun part! Let's dive into what you can do.

1️⃣. Clear boundaries

It's time to set some clear boundaries!

When we do something, it's so important to understand which things are our own and which we need to do ourselves. We need to know which are our responsibilities and which we need to take responsibility for. And we need to be clear about the boundaries!

Take control of your own destiny! Manage your own affairs.

There are only three things in the world: your own affairs, other people's affairs, and the affairs of heaven. And you can do something amazing with all of them! You can manage your own affairs and make decisions for yourself. You can let go of other people's affairs, because they're none of your business. And you can focus on the affairs of heaven, even if they're beyond your control.

So, let's make sure we do our own thing really well!

2️⃣. Start well and finish well!

Meet expectations and exceed them!

When others want our help, and we are able to do so, since it is what they have asked for, we are absolutely thrilled to meet their expectations!

A good beginning is just the start of something great!

Help people to the end and start well, so as not to disappoint others' expectations. We can overcome the tendency to give up halfway through. Instead, we can gain the trust of others and earn their respect and gratitude!

Questioner, if we want to help others and gain recognition from others, we absolutely must be responsive to their needs, set clear boundaries, and see things through to the end. We will definitely gain the gratitude of others!

And finally, I wish the original poster a happy, happy life!

Dear questioner, My name is Duoduo Lian, and it is my hope that my reply will prove useful to you.

From your statements, I discern your benevolence and unwavering fortitude. You have also experienced fluctuations in fortune and have accumulated a wealth of experiences, encompassing both adversity and felicity. You are aware that there are limitations to the extent to which one can assist others, and that benevolence must be directed towards the most appropriate recipient.

There are numerous individuals in one's vicinity who require assistance. Addressing the fundamental issue is the optimal solution. These individuals may appear to be weak, yet they possess a strong aspiration for change. They do not require sympathy. Sympathy can potentially exacerbate the vulnerability of the weak. Does this resonate with you? I appreciate your perspective.

One of the fundamental weaknesses of human nature is the tendency to bully the weak and fear the strong. Those who occupy the upper echelons of any given hierarchy often find themselves isolated and lonely, simultaneously feeling sympathy for the weak and compelled to confront the strong with unwavering resolve. Many individuals are preoccupied with their own self-absorbed worldviews, which can impede their personal growth and development. The era of the lone ranger is a relic of a bygone era, and the only viable path forward is through collaboration and the pursuit of win-win outcomes.

One can empathize with the struggles of the vulnerable, a sentiment that reflects one's past experiences. Having faced similar challenges, the pragmatic self is already quite resilient, having learned from past difficulties. This motivates the individual to assist those who were once vulnerable in confronting the powerful, driven by the desire to persevere and succeed.

Another avenue for exploration is the question of how to assist others without compromising one's own interests. Each individual possesses untapped potential, and the challenge lies in identifying the optimal person to ignite the intrinsic drive within. When one establishes a positive rapport with others, it becomes possible to recognize one's own worth, leading to self-appreciation and the infusion of energy.

In order to become strong, one must have a circle of people to provide encouragement, engage in peer competition, and possess the ability to reflect and perceive. This allows one to stimulate their potential and transcend themselves, thereby increasing their ability to perceive more possibilities. It is difficult for an individual to excel when they are constrained by limited opportunities and challenges.

The desire to join forces with the weak to defeat the strong is indicative of a willingness to persevere in the face of adversity. Courage is demonstrated by the refusal to abandon one's efforts. The underlying motivation may be the desire for recognition from others, which could be perceived as a means of proving one's worthiness. However, it is important to recognize that one's intrinsic value is already evident, and that the need for external validation is not a prerequisite for self-worth. Past experiences, external pressures, and the influence of others can all contribute to feelings of doubt and self-doubt. However, it is essential to maintain perspective and recognize that these experiences are not indicative of one's inherent value.

It is imperative to disengage from the influence of external factors and the negativity they bring. There is no necessity to prove oneself. Instead, one can offer support to others. Furthermore, it is possible to collaborate with those who are more powerful to achieve mutually beneficial outcomes while providing assistance to those who are less fortunate, offering guidance and resources.

Firstly, it is essential to satisfy one's own needs, accept one's own limitations, and allow oneself time to reflect and process one's own thoughts. This process of introspection enables individuals to identify their personal strengths and recognize their unique selves.

I extend my best wishes to you.

Good day, my name is Beric.

In business, we can observe a psychological phenomenon known as "resisting the strong and helping the weak," or "overcoming the strong with the weak." This phenomenon may originate from individuals' aspirations for equality, justice, and challenges, as well as their sensitivity to the power imbalance between the strong and the weak.

First, let us begin by gaining an understanding of this mentality.

Your psychology is not uncommon. It may stem from a certain awe of the strong, but it is also accompanied by compassion and care for the weak. You admire those who are unobtrusive in appearance but strong inside. This value makes you more willing to associate with those considered to be "vulnerable groups" to face the challenges of life together.

This mentality causes individuals to gravitate towards social and romantic relationships with individuals who are not as proficient as they are, as they believe that this will assist the other person and also provide them with a sense of accomplishment from the challenge and victory.

However, as you mentioned, this mentality may also result in certain challenges. For instance, you may find yourself at odds with those considered to be "good," which could lead to feelings of loneliness or rejection in certain social situations.

Secondly, providing excessive assistance to those who are vulnerable may result in a lack of boundaries in your giving, which could potentially lead to adverse consequences.

To effect a change in this mentality, we can try the following:

It is important to enhance self-awareness. This involves recognizing this mentality in yourself and understanding its source and impact. This can help you view yourself and others more objectively and avoid excessive investment or overdependence.

It is important to maintain a balanced mindset that acknowledges the contributions of both strong and weak individuals. While appreciating the strengths of the weak, it is also essential to respect the achievements and efforts of the strong. It is crucial to understand that everyone has unique strengths and weaknesses, and should not be simplistically classified as either strong or weak.

It is important to set reasonable boundaries when providing assistance to others. This helps to avoid over-giving or over-dependence. It is also essential to learn to pay attention to your own needs and feelings while helping others.

It is beneficial to expand your social circle by socializing with different types of people, including those considered "outstanding." This can help you gain a more comprehensive understanding of society and human nature, while also increasing your social resources and opportunities.

Should you find yourself unable to overcome this mentality or discover that it is having a negative impact on your life, it may be beneficial to seek the guidance of a professional counselor. They can provide more specific, personalized advice and support.

In conclusion, I would like to reiterate that modifying this mindset requires time and effort. However, if you are prepared to invest the necessary effort and persevere, you will undoubtedly be able to identify an approach that aligns with your needs and achieve a healthier and more balanced state of mind.

Best regards,

Hello, questioner. Your description gives us a glimpse of a person with the bearing of a hero, but one who has experienced some challenges in life. It seems that this hero has encountered a few individuals who have not treated them fairly.

I would like to suggest that our society could benefit from more people with a chivalrous demeanor. If you possess such qualities, it can be beneficial for society and for yourself.

For society to function properly, it is essential to ensure fairness and justice. If the disadvantaged are not supported and if the strong are allowed to take advantage of the weak, society will become unsustainable. It is important to recognise that there is more to life than the law of the jungle. Humans have been able to reproduce and survive because we are capable of love and compassion.

For ourselves, this is our ideal of life, an extraordinary pursuit. Even if we are just ordinary people and have not achieved worldly success, we can still become people of noble spirit and worthy of respect.

Your personality traits are influenced by a number of factors, including family genes, the nurturing environment, and the people and icons you have encountered at various stages of your life, particularly in your formative years.

It is possible to accept your characteristics, regardless of how they came about. Each characteristic has its own set of advantages and disadvantages. We can work to turn disadvantages into advantages.

It is possible that you may encounter people who are not entirely honest or fair, or even find yourself in a situation like the farmer and the snake.

It is important to remember that while helping others is a noble act, we must also prioritize our own safety. Why do people who assist the elderly take the initiative to record videos in advance and seek the presence of a witness?

It is likely that, as long as he is not dead, the farmer will come to understand two important facts.

1. I was bitten, not me. It's good to affirm myself and accept myself. It's important to recognize that it's not our fault, and to focus on that. Therefore, your response is not self-blame, but self-soothing and affirmation.

2. It would be beneficial for us to learn to see the complexity of human nature. People can be divided into those who appear strong on the surface and those who are strong inside. It is important to recognize that this strength is not fixed, but can change with time and circumstances.

It is not possible to make a judgement about someone's character in one moment. We must be patient and engage with people without preconceptions, observing carefully and listening to understand.

No matter how you choose to help others, whether it's the vulnerable or the impressive, whether you're acknowledged or misinterpreted, you will gradually gain insight into the nuances of human nature through repeated experiences of miscommunication and understanding.

A person with a hero complex, if they have the insight to understand people and recognize their value, can become a source of great wisdom and courage. Otherwise, they may resort to less constructive means.

I concur with your assessment of the significance of "inner qualities and character." You have articulated a crucial insight: even if someone appears to possess resources, wealth, and influence on the surface, if they exhibit poor character, it may be advisable to exercise caution. If they are causing harm to us or the individuals we seek to assist, it may be necessary to resist in a prudent and strategic manner.

If a person has good character and integrity, it may be possible to befriend them even if they have not achieved worldly success.

Similarly, people are not always as straightforward as they may seem. Some individuals may initially appear vulnerable, but it's important to recognize that they may have underlying challenges or a lack of clear principles. Even if we offer assistance, it's not always guaranteed that it will be reciprocated, and there might be unexpected complications.

I would gently suggest that it is not helpful to deny your own characteristics or to categorise everyone. Instead, I believe that you can be a chivalrous person with courage, resourcefulness and wisdom.

I hope this finds you well.

Hello! If you want to be at peace with yourself, you should be a "strong person" who acts like a "weak person." Stand with the weak, help them defeat the strong, enjoy yourself, and be proud of it. You have chivalrous feelings, but you may want to claim credit or fame after accomplishing something.

"Appreciate people who may not look good on the outside but are good on the inside. You have a great impression of others' qualities, thoughts, knowledge, and substance." This means you can see beyond appearances.

"A little disdain for material things, appearance, background, and power." This one is a bit deliberate. I have the ability, but I want to flaunt my differences.

Why?

"I like to hang out with weak groups and fight against the strong."

Why do you prefer to socialize or date with people who are not as good as you?

The more we obsess about something, the more obsessed we are with it.

Being with the "weak" who are inferior to you can satisfy your sense of superiority. You are the authority and the decision-maker, and you like being looked up to. Obsessing over taking them to defeat the "strong" will bring you satisfaction.

It means you're not confident. You think you're not as good as you seem. Use these actions to prove you're the best. Don't compare and compete with the strong.

Our perceptions have blind spots. Are the people you consider "weak" really weak? Are they really willing to be "led" by you? This is also why you help the weak without boundaries and have suffered.

If you meet someone who is better than you, learn from them and try to become like them.

We've improved, learned what we can and can't do, and learned to appreciate it.

Encourage each other!

Hi! Great question!

Your question is thought-provoking and moving. I understand that you are describing two different psychological mechanisms: "resisting the strong and helping the weak" and "overcoming the strong with the weak." Because of the endless help for the "weak," you have suffered a lot, so your enthusiasm has turned to disillusionment, and you long to make some changes. Let's explore together to see what's going on—I'm excited to help you!

The mentality of "helping the weak and resisting the strong" is a great way to live your life!

The world generally follows the "80/20 rule," meaning that 20% of the people in society control 80% of the social wealth. At the same time, there are many imbalances in life, which is an objective fact. Faced with this fact, you are somewhat helpless and powerless. But you can take action! Your mentality of "resisting the strong and helping the weak" may be driven by the values of "fairness and justice." Perhaps you hope to break down that "invisible barrier" so that the strong and the weak can be treated fairly and justly. You can make a difference!

So, do you belong to the weak or the strong?

[Definition of the weak and the strong]

You admire people who may not look good on the outside but are good on the inside. This shows that you have an inner desire to pursue inner excellence and become a low-key, introverted, unassuming "strong person."

On the other hand, it seems that you have a different definition of "strong and excellent." If someone is only excellent on the outside but not on the inside, you would disdain to be associated with them, wouldn't you?

Your definition of excellence:

Appearance is the outward manifestation of hard power in terms of material wealth, appearance, background, and power—and it's a powerful thing!

Internal excellence is a wonderful thing. It's there, in the soft power of qualities, ideas, and knowledge.

I'd love to hear your thoughts on "internal friction." Does it refer to the ability to "reflect introspectively"?

I truly believe that everyone has a certain degree of the "psychological need to be strong." What's truly fascinating is that everyone pursues "strength" in different ways. We all have a strong side and a weak side. I think you can tear off the labels you have put on the strong and the weak.

[The mentality of "the weak defeating the strong"!]

"I love meeting people who are not as good as me in every way! I get such a rush from deliberately letting up during a game so that the other person has an advantage and then winning. It's such a great feeling, like I'm the one who's defeated the strong!"

Both situations are great for experiencing yourself as a "low-key, introverted, unassuming strong person."

1. When you're up against someone who's not as good as you in every way, it's your chance to show what you're made of!

2. If you can deliberately let your opponent win the game, it means that your opponent's level is also significantly lower than yours. At least you feel that his ability is not on the same level as yours, and that he needs to let you win in order to have a chance of winning. This is a great strategy!

I really hope this helps!

I'm your friend, Potato Maling, who has grown up with you. Thanks so much for your attention!

Hello, I admire you for keeping your original intentions and not losing yourself in society.

You believe everyone should be treated equally. I suggest a new way of thinking: everyone has their own strengths. Some strengths may seem weak in one area but strong in another.

Everyone is different. We should respect other people's personalities. You might be seen as strong by some and weak by others. You have the mentality of "resisting the strong and helping the weak" because you have presupposed that people are divided into weak and strong.

To help the "weak," you must first distinguish between those who truly need help and those who only appear to. We help the weak because we have a kind and righteous heart and cannot bear to see them being bullied.

If you help someone to get feedback, you're not really helping. You have to learn to protect yourself before you can help others.

I hope you can stay true to yourself, be kind, stick to your principles, and use knowledge to help others.

The questioner's inquiry suggests a preoccupation with the dichotomy between the weak and the strong.

In describing your own psychology, you have demonstrated self-awareness and reflection. What are your thoughts on this kind of resistance to the strong and support for the weak?

What emotions are elicited by this situation? Have you ever been the victim of bullying?

This leads to the conclusion that the act of helping is not directed towards another person, but rather towards a weak and vulnerable aspect of the self that once required assistance from others. Additionally, the triumph of the weak over the strong evokes a strong emotional response, as if the individual in question is perceived as weak by others. However, in the face of an adversary that is more formidable than themselves, they transform defeat into victory and experience a profound sense of accomplishment.

It is evident that the questioner is adept at introspection and may be an introvert by nature. The questioner has discovered that in the course of assisting the vulnerable without boundaries, he has endured significant personal costs, and these actions may not always be reciprocated with gratitude by others.

The subject reports feelings of loneliness and uncertainty regarding the possibility of effecting change.

You have discerned certain patterns in yourself. It is imperative to recognize that the individual you are assisting may, in fact, be a reflection of yourself. This realization may evoke feelings of sadness or shame. However, by differentiating the genuine other from your own subconscious tendencies, you can attain clarity in your life and make deliberate decisions.

I wish you the best.

Hello! I'm a heart exploration coach, and I'm so happy to be able to offer you some advice.

After reading your description, I totally get what you mean by standing up to the strong and helping the weak, and of the weak defeating the strong. From my own perspective, it represents an unwillingness to accept defeat and a desire to give a relatively disadvantaged group a chance to set the record straight.

You also want to help the weak and give them a chance to succeed. You want to feel like you're making a difference and that they're getting what they deserve.

Your heart is actually the perfect place to start when it comes to great love. But, in the face of the actual situation, some of your actions have not only revealed the problem, but also made us realize that we need to act according to the actual situation and find ways to apply this mentality, or to apply the things that we have always insisted on.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to help the weak defeat the strong and resist the strong and help the weak. It's just a matter of how you go about it. The current result may not be what you want, and that's okay! You want to help the weak or unite them, and you all work hard together to occupy a world of your own and find a pure land that belongs to you. But instead of being grateful to you, these people will misunderstand you.

You will have an unconditional acceptance and love for them, and a sense of devotion, but the other party may have a hard time accepting this way of dealing with us. Unfortunately, there may even be instances of slander against you. This is something we really need to pay attention to now.

I'm going to take a close look at your text and work with you to find a solution and an even better way of doing things next time.

First of all, you said that this mentality began when you were young. You first thought it was jealousy, but then you realized it wasn't, which is great!

Indeed, as I said above, it is more inclined to a kind of unwillingness in the heart that will like it, speak up for justice, and happen for the weak. There is such a love in your heart, so it is not jealousy.

Later on, I found out that you have a special gift: you can see beyond someone's outward appearance and see their true, inner beauty. This shows that you are a very observant person. I believe that you will easily notice their advantageous characteristics and become friends with them easily.

But here's the thing: these folks are actually pretty great on the inside. Sure, they might not look like superstars on the outside, but deep down, they're just trying to do their best and be their best selves. They might lack a bit of confidence and self-esteem, and sometimes feel like they don't quite measure up.

Then, we need to think about some of the issues that might be going on behind the scenes. When people offer them help, they might worry if the other person will keep them safe. Do they feel comfortable accepting help from others?

I'd love to know what they think about this.

This type of person may very well include those who are indecisive and torn between two sides. In this case, if we want to join forces with them to fight against the strong, we need to inspire the potential energy in their hearts.

If we just talk to them, we understand them very well, and we just think with them that, as the disadvantaged, they cannot let the strong win. They may feel that our way of thinking is impractical, or that it is more difficult to implement, and we can see why.

It's totally understandable that they'd think about this matter in a pessimistic and negative way, given that they're not very confident.

It would be really great if we could find some qualities in their hearts that can stimulate this explosive power within them, so that they have a self-driven force to do the things you want to do together.

And then there's the feeling of disdain for things like material things, appearance, background, and power. You greatly admire people with real talent, such as those with qualities and knowledge of the mind. This shows that in your personal worldview, you feel that the world will be won by those with more capital.

Because you think that a power background is a sign of strength, some people with real talent may feel a bit weak because they don't have the ability to manipulate capital, or they don't have enough inner psychological strength to maximize their advantages.

At this time, you might actually feel a bit aggrieved for them. Perhaps you are also like this. People with knowledge and learning will feel an imbalance in their hearts and will feel a bit unwilling.

So you want to bring them together, grow this group of people, find a way to make things better, and make it through the day with them.

So, what can we do right now to make the most of this time?

The first step is to recognize the current situation. It's important to remember that those who seem to be strong now, or who seem to have these kinds of commercial attributes at the moment, are within the scope of the strong.

It's so important to understand that everything is cyclical. It's not realistic to expect something to be excellent forever. We all make mistakes, and there will always be signs before we make a mistake.

So at this time, when they are stronger, we gather our energy, and by gathering energy, we can find a way to improve ourselves in every aspect.

For example, our country is really focusing on scientific research these days, and they also encourage reading to help educate us and our kids.

Or for some of the qualities and ideas you mentioned, because nowadays Confucianism, Taoism, Legalism, etc. are also highly regarded, and moral qualities are promoted.

Similarly, as a future prospect of society, we must always work towards achieving these wonderful qualities.

This shows us the way forward, and we've got it all figured out! Right now, you might be seeing a lot of power and influence, but we've got to use this chance to recharge and level up.

Once we've got a handle on what the future holds for our country, we can really make a difference by joining forces. I truly believe that once we've strengthened our individual skills, we can come together as a group and grow our population.

If you can use your influence to achieve a major breakthrough and transcendence, then the future for you and your friends will also be enormous — and it'll be a wonderful one!

Another thing to keep in mind is that when you're around a lot of people who are struggling, it's natural to want to give them a break and help them as much as you can. We all feel strongly for those around us and want to support them in achieving their goals. But, over time, we often realize that our own strength is still limited.

And they might not really appreciate the green light you give them or the green channel you create.

So, how can we work through this feeling of being unappreciated? Your current life task is to bring everyone together to move forward together. You can also give them the green light, but it's important to remember that your heart is not overly affected by it.

This is why it's so important to give your heart the love and attention it deserves. We all need a little bit of recognition and appreciation to feel seen and valued. Unfortunately, some of us may have experienced childhood challenges or family dynamics that made us feel invisible.

So the first thing is to work through your own stuff. You know, get that hidden sadness out of your system. Then there's the question of how we should operate with this type of group of people.

And we'll find the solution together next!

I've taken a quick peek at these contents, from your personal life and the team you want to build, and even your life plan.

I truly believe that if you follow along with what I've written, you'll be able to understand what you truly want in your heart and show this self-awareness.

If there's anything you're not sure about, just ask! You can find me on my personal homepage, where I'm always happy to answer any questions you may have about your next steps or the resonances you're experiencing. I'm here to help in any way I can!

I'll be waiting for your reply here, and I wish you all the best!

Hello! I'm a heart-searching coach, and I'm here to tell you that life is an amazing journey! It's not about appreciation, but about blooming and flourishing!

I'm thrilled to be able to discuss this topic with you, and it's also a fantastic learning and growth experience for me.

?1. First of all, let me see your kindness!

Absolutely! People are basically good. The 80/20 rule applies to every group. And you also mentioned that "most of the world's resources belong to the strong."

When you have the mentality of "resisting the strong and helping the weak," it already reflects your amazing ability to empathize!

I'd like to make an important distinction here between empathy and sympathy.

Compassion is all about stepping into someone else's shoes and seeing their challenges, feeling their pain, or even thinking, "How silly of you! I'll come and cheer you up."

This is an "unequal" relationship, which is why it sometimes feels like you're "doing good for no reward." But that's okay! Some people are considered "weak" and are not grateful, but that just means there's room for improvement.

Simple kindness has no power, but kindness with wisdom has power! Even if it is charity, some people will not accept it, while others feel that they have been helped with enough respect.

Empathy is an amazing ability that allows us to put ourselves in someone else's shoes and experience their inner world. It's a powerful tool that helps us connect with others on an emotional level by understanding and identifying with their inner feelings. We're all equal in terms of personality, and when we give help, it's a wonderful way to make the other person feel equal and respected.

2. Secondly, it shows me your room for growth, which is great!

The mentality of "opposing the strong and helping the weak" reflects your "dualism" in a really interesting way. It's like you see things in black and white, with no room for "gray" areas.

A good person can be beautiful, intelligent, and have a great character! "It starts with appearance, respects talent, agrees with character, lasts with kindness, and finally comes to character."

In our interactions with others, we have the incredible opportunity to "see ourselves" and gain insight into our own patterns. These patterns are shaped by our experiences and influence how we interact with others.

You're absolutely right! You focus on a person's character, thoughts, and knowledge, while letting their material possessions, appearance, background, and power slide.

It's great that you're focused on a person's inner abundance rather than external, material satisfaction! Just let it be, as long as you don't deliberately pay attention to it or ignore it, there will be no internal conflict.

If you are deliberate, it will affect your interpersonal relationships in a big way! You might even lose some resources and wealth that would otherwise be yours. For example, if Wang Sicong were to invite you to dinner, you'd be in for quite the experience!

In the process of getting along with others, it's important to be aware of your feelings and how they affect your interactions. Empathy and sympathy are two different things, and understanding the difference is key to navigating relationships. It's likely that you've had positive experiences in the past that have shaped your perception of helping those in need.

Now, let's dive into the exciting world of "resisting the strong and helping the weak"!

The first is the wonderful principle of fairness! It doesn't matter if someone is rich or poor, healthy or sick, or if they're from a different social class — everyone is equal as a human being!

The wonderful principle of difference is followed. The various emotions that arise in the course of human interaction are the basis for all morality.

This is where it gets really interesting! As we project our emotions and understand others better, we develop empathy and compassion. This motivates us to help the weak and even engage in prosocial behavior.

And finally, the best part is that emotions are mutual! Just as friendship cannot exist without cooperation between friends, betrayal cannot lead to trust.

It doesn't matter if you're dealing with the "strong" or the "weak," the principle of "mutuality" applies to both!

And the best part is, when we send out a signal of goodwill, we can also receive a signal of goodwill in return!

I really hope the above is helpful to you! And I just want to say, the world and I love you!

If you want to continue communicating, I highly recommend following my personal homepage, "Heart Exploration Service"!

Hello. It's clear from your words that you're confused about how to understand the psychology of strength and weakness from childhood. I'm going to give you a hug and answer your question.

Your mentality of "resisting the strong and helping the weak" reflects a deep sense of justice and the pursuit of equality. You form connections with people who are unobtrusive on the outside but rich on the inside because you value sincerity and inner values.

This tendency of yours is a valuable part of your personality. It has made you a compassionate and understanding person. However, you also mentioned the sense of loneliness that this mentality brings, as well as some of the adverse consequences it may lead to, such as over-helping others and neglecting your own boundaries.

We will explore together how to change this mental model, answering the questions posed by the questioner. I am confident that this will be helpful to you.

You need to explore the reasons behind this mentality. Is it because of early experiences?

Is it a feeling of unequal power? Or is it compassion for the marginalized?

Understanding your own motives will help you control them better.

While helping others is a virtue, we must also set boundaries for ourselves. Unrestricted help can lead to exploitation. Learning to say "no" is also a way to protect ourselves.

Everyone is unique, including those we call "strong" and "weak." We must look beyond these labels and recognize the strengths and weaknesses in each person.

Understand and respect different values and ways of life. This does not mean giving up your own values. It means increasing your awareness of and openness to diversity.

Boosting self-confidence is a great way to define your own value without relying on external approval. When you have confidence in your abilities and worth, you're less likely to feel the need to prove yourself by comparing yourself to the weak.

Find people who understand and support your values. This will reduce feelings of isolation and lead to healthier social relationships.

If this mental model is seriously affecting your quality of life, you should seek the help of a counselor. They can help you explore the root causes and learn new coping strategies.

Changing mental models is not easy. They are deeply rooted in our personality and life experiences. However, we can adjust our attitudes and behaviors to better align with our long-term happiness and goals. Hug you again.

I'm certain my answer is helpful. The world and I love you! ???

When we take a closer look at the psychology behind "resisting the strong and supporting the weak" and "overcoming the strong with the weak," we can gain a deeper understanding of this psychology and its complex impact on personal growth and social interactions. The following is a new interpretation of this psychology, which attempts to analyze it from a broader perspective.

1. Where it all starts and what it's based on

The mentality of "resisting the strong and helping the weak" and "overcoming the strong with the weak" often comes from a set of values that an individual develops during their growth process. These values may come from the influence of family, school, or social environment, teaching us to respect the weak and challenge the strong, emphasizing inner resilience and courage.

People who are unremarkable on the outside but strong on the inside tend to get our admiration. We like to associate with the underdog in social situations to fight against the strong together.

On the other hand, this way of thinking can also have some negative effects. It can lead us to focus too much on the differences between "weak" and "strong" and ignore the unique value and abilities of each individual.

On the other hand, it might also make us forget to look out for ourselves when we're helping others. We might end up giving too much.

2. Psychological motivation and emotional needs

From a psychological standpoint, the psychological drive to "resist the strong and support the weak" and "overcome the strong with the weak" may stem from an individual's emotional needs. We all crave a sense of identity and accomplishment in social interactions, and helping the weak and challenging the strong is a way to fulfill this need.

When we challenge the strong as the weak and win, it makes us feel great. This emotional satisfaction makes us more convinced of our values and more determined to follow this path.

However, this psychological drive can also lead us to focus too much on external achievements and recognition, while neglecting inner peace and contentment. We may constantly challenge ourselves in pursuit of more achievements and recognition, but neglect our inner needs and feelings.

Pursuing this to excess can leave us feeling tired and anxious, and it can even affect our physical and mental health.

3. Social influence and interpersonal relationships

In social situations, the mentality of "resisting the strong and helping the weak" and "overcoming the strong with the weak" can also affect our relationships with others. On the one hand, this mentality can help us connect with vulnerable groups and form strong, trusting relationships.

We're happy to help them out and support them through tough times. This kind of relationship can make us feel more connected and stronger, and also help us gain a greater sense of identity and belonging in social interactions.

On the other hand, this mentality may also lead to conflicts with the strong. We may become antagonistic towards the strong because of resentment and envy, and may even take irrational actions to challenge them.

This kind of behavior could damage our relationship with the strong and even leave us socially isolated.

4. Psychological adjustment and growth

When we're dealing with the mentality of "resisting the strong and helping the weak" and "overcoming the strong with the weak," it's important to make some psychological adjustments to help us grow. First, we need to recognize that everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses. We shouldn't overemphasize the opposition between "strong" and "weak."

We should respect the uniqueness and value of each individual and treat them with equal respect.

Second, we need to learn to protect ourselves while helping others. We should offer help within our abilities and learn to say no to unreasonable requests.

At the same time, it's important to pay attention to our own needs and feelings and not neglect inner peace and satisfaction in the pursuit of external achievements and recognition.

Finally, we need to expand our social circles and connect with people from different backgrounds and abilities. By interacting with different people and things, we can gain a more comprehensive understanding of the world and society, and also gain a clearer understanding of ourselves and our values.

This kind of expansion helps us develop a more open and inclusive mindset, and it also helps us gain more opportunities and resources in social interactions.

In a nutshell, the mentality of "resisting the strong and helping the weak" and "overcoming the strong with the weak" is key to personal growth and social interactions. We need to take a fresh look at this mentality to achieve better self-development and social interactions through psychological adjustment and growth.

Hello, I'm Bai Li Yina, and I hope my reply provides some warmth and helpful insight.

The questioner said that since childhood, he's always chosen to side with the weak against the strong. He likes to join the weak to resist oppression and feels a special sense of accomplishment after victory. However, endless help for the weak has caused him a lot of suffering, and the other party is also ungrateful. So he wants to change his usual mentality. What should he do?

Let's take a look at the situation.

You're a very subjective person who doesn't care much about external conditions. You care about people who are good at heart and who share your views. Most strong people have a clear advantage in terms of external conditions. You like to stand with the disadvantaged against the powerful. You're a bit like a knight who robs the rich to help the poor. You choose to help people who are clearly inferior to you in every way, and this gives you a sense of superiority. Why does a choice that once made you feel a sense of accomplishment now make you feel lonely and troubled? Let's find out together.

[Questions to get you thinking]

1. Did the group of weaker people you chose ask for your help, or did you join them to defend against a stronger opponent because you thought they needed your help?

2. You choose to be friends with people who are less capable than you every time. Are you the most capable person in this group? Do you feel isolated mentally, and is this related?

3. What's the one thing that makes you want to switch up your usual style and choices? What do you think is wrong with them, and why do you want to change them?

[Recommended methods to try]

Given that this is how you've been since childhood and you've always enjoyed the process and felt a sense of accomplishment, why do you want to change your mentality now? What triggered your suffering?

Has this kind of pain existed before? We need to figure out why you want to change so we can decide if you should.

Everyone has their own way of living in society, and there's no right or wrong. It just depends on whether it suits you. You need to understand why you've changed your mind from thinking it suits you to thinking it seems bad. Is it because other people don't appreciate you, or is it because you can't bear the feeling of loneliness? If you change your choice, will you not encounter people who don't appreciate you and will you not feel lonely?

Think about it. If you approve of your choice, can the joy you get from it counteract your unhappiness?

Everything has its pros and cons, and nothing is perfect. When you change, you're making new choices and dealing with the world in new ways. You might gain a different sense of achievement, but you'll also face new difficulties. Change isn't easy, and it takes motivation and determination. Do you have what it takes to make the change? What are the reasons that will make you change?

Often, when we reach a certain point of pain, change happens naturally, without any advice.

Maybe, after thinking it over, you'll know what to do. Either way, there's nothing wrong with changing or not changing. You're great, so trust your instincts.

I hope these methods will be helpful for you.

It'll take time and patience to make the change. There's no need to worry or be afraid. Many people are experiencing or have experienced similar problems.

You've got my support, and I'm here for you. I hope you find a solution to your problems soon and find your own comfort zone.

I'd like to thank everyone who has liked and responded to me. I wish you peace and joy.

People's personalities change over time. I'm not denying the psychological effects of your situation, but looking at it from a different angle could yield different results.

It's all about family background and personal experience. We're all 5V batteries dreaming of being the power supply for a company, but it's not enough.

Similarities: We're on the same social level.

There are some significant differences, and it's not easy to let go of them.

When we spend time with these people, we feel an inexplicable sense of relaxation and superiority.

On the other hand, when you're around someone with great abilities, you'll feel a "sense of tension" and "a sense of oppression."

In anime, it's usually the protagonist who can turn defeat into victory. Resources and energy are limited in any society. Not everyone can succeed, and not many people have the abilities of Bill Sifre or Rick Sanchez.

Most people are just ordinary folks, which is pretty easy to understand. After all, people who can become friends must be a group of people who have a common language. And when temperament is similar, they are attracted to each other and come together. We're more likely to be good friends with people of similar conditions.

You can also improve and meet more people. Your own knowledge is the limit. If you play with people who are stronger than you, you'll feel out of your depth.

Those who are more capable than you will outshine you, but those who are weaker will be seen as role models.

If you can overcome this mentality, treat your friends with an even hand, think about things from other people's perspectives, and adjust your mindset when needed, you'll gain a deeper understanding of why they act the way they do. The strong are open to advice, and you need the other person to help you with your problems. The weak are humble, good at spotting the other person's strengths, and generous with praise.

This kind of psychological situation exists in most online games, where there is a lot of anti-defense behavior. Many people either acquiesce or quit the game, rather than thinking of more solutions.

I hope these answers help you out, and thanks for reading!

From the questioner's narrative, it is evident that they perceive themselves as a highly capable individual. This is exemplified by their ability to overcome challenging circumstances and emerge victorious. Additionally, they appear to hold a strong aspiration for achieving significant success. The narrative of the underdog triumphing over the odds is a powerful motivating factor, aligning with the concept of a compelling story.

I believe this is a natural human tendency. However, this mindset has caused significant challenges for the OP throughout their life.

1. You have experienced significant challenges due to your tendency to provide assistance to those who are perceived as weak without clear boundaries or appreciation.

2. The majority of the world's resources are in the hands of those who are perceived as strong. Remaining on the "weak" side ultimately results in the loss of resources.

3. Experiencing feelings of loneliness and an inability to find suitable companionship.

The following statements may assist in resolving the three primary issues identified by the questioner:

It can be challenging to make personal changes when you feel like you're losing out by helping others without clear boundaries. There are a few potential reasons for this.

1) It is important to maintain a positive self-image and self-esteem. This is a fundamental psychological need. 2) It is likely that others are in a similar situation to you. You may even be longing to be helped yourself, but no one is doing this for you. Providing help to others can provide you with psychological comfort.

There are several reasons why someone may not appreciate your assistance. These include: 1. A desire to avoid being perceived as weak. 2. A belief that they are not weak and therefore do not require help. If the questioner continues to categorise people according to their perception of strength and weakness and then provides assistance without considering the appropriate level of support, it may have a negative impact on the situation and on others.

It is important to consider that you have the capacity to provide more than others, which demonstrates your strength and value.

Confusion 2: It may appear to be a matter of strength, but it is actually a matter of external and internal conditions. I would like to remind the questioner that external resources and internal qualities are not completely separate.

Even among the most capable individuals, there are those who possess admirable qualities. It is my hope that the questioner will take a closer look at the relationship between external and internal factors.

If you are seeking a peer, it is advisable to participate in an activity that will facilitate the development of relevant abilities. Engaging in competitions and confrontations is an optimal approach. It is also important to recognise that individuals who study together can be divided into two categories: peers and opponents.

When dealing with a peer, it is important to learn from their strengths and treat them as an equal. When dealing with an opponent, it is possible to allow them to win by offering them an easier challenge.

It is important to fulfill your psychological desires.

It is my hope that the questioner will be able to find a confidant and a companion in life. Furthermore, I hope that they will be able to reasonably satisfy and apply the mentality of winning the strong with the weak, and ultimately live a life that makes them happy.

Hello, question asker! My name is Evan, and I'm a consultant in the School of Fine Distinctions.

From the description of the questioner, we can see that they are confused and disoriented, but they are also full of passion and desire to help! Their emotions and inclinations are worthy of respect. This mentality of "resisting the strong and helping the weak" reflects a sense of justice and an emphasis on intrinsic values, which is something to be celebrated!

This is a quality that is at the heart of socialism! It's all about fairness, justice, and truth. And it's also about goodness and beauty!

The questioner's description also reveals some potential problems, such as feeling isolated as a result, or failing to protect their own interests while helping others. From the questioner's words, I see a kind of alternative self-affirmation and self-definition, which is that it seems that being strong is wrong, and only being weak is right and worthy of recognition. This is an exciting opportunity for the questioner to explore their own values and beliefs!

I'd like to remind the questioner that if they can help the weak and they're a relatively strong person, then they should definitely take the opportunity to confront the issue head-on! After all, the last thing the questioner wants is for the people they've helped to develop bad feelings towards them.

Let's find a way to put it on the body of the questioner in a way that will make it seem less unacceptable to them!

Absolutely! While pursuing our own values, we should definitely consider the perspective of others and whether they will accept our help. The questioner is only motivated by their own enthusiasm to help the weak, but does the person being helped need the help of the questioner, or how does the other person view their current situation?

The questioner seems to have not mentioned it, but I'm excited to tell them that while pursuing justice, it is also necessary to consider the balance between the individual and society!

While we can't discuss the questioner's views in depth since the question was asked on a platform, we can still give some simple suggestions on the questioner's attitude to help them make some adjustments!

1. Self-reflection: This is a great opportunity for the questioner to think about the reason behind this mentality. Is it because of personal experience, or because of an idealized expectation of social phenomena?

Once you understand yourself, you'll be well on your way to finding the direction for change! It's important to remember that everyone has their own values. So, don't force your values on others or insist that others recognize your values.

2. A balanced outlook: While pursuing inner values, we should also recognize that material things, appearance, background, etc. are also important in some cases. The diversity of society is a wonderful thing! It means that while we need to respect individual differences, we also get to understand the existence of different people and values.

If someone else's strength is achieved through their own hard work, why shouldn't they be recognized? Absolutely! Some people will oppress others while being strong at the same time, so the questioner can help the weak according to the situation.

3. Reasonable help: I absolutely love the questioner's view of helping the weak! Helping others is one of the best things you can do, but it's also important to consider your own abilities and circumstances. Reasonable help can benefit those in need and keep you safe too!

And we should definitely help others according to their needs, rather than doing things according to our own wishes!

4. Self-improvement: It's a win-win! While helping others, we can also pay attention to our own growth and improvement. This will not only enable us to better help others, but also improve our competitiveness in society.

While resisting the strong, we also get to see why others are strong and how they are strong. We accept the strength of others and also learn from those who are strong in the right direction, while resisting the deviant behaviors of the strong.

5. Broaden your social circle! Connect with people from different backgrounds and conditions. It's a great way to expand your horizons and gain insights into the diverse living conditions and values of different people. Some weaknesses are actually self-protection mechanisms for some people, while others are strong because they've faced challenges head-on. Everyone has their unique way of life, and it's fascinating to learn about the different mindsets and worldviews that shape it.

6. Adjust your mindset: change your mentality of "the weak defeating the strong" to "win-win cooperation." In real life, better results can often be achieved through cooperation and joint efforts—and it's a great feeling when you succeed!

7. Seeking professional help is a great way to gain a deeper understanding of oneself and find solutions to problems. If the questioner feels that this kind of mentality has caused a lot of trouble in their life and work, they may need to seek help from a psychologist. This could be an excellent opportunity to gain insights into what has influenced them, what has caused these kinds of thoughts, or how they can reconcile with these thoughts to achieve a balance with society.

I want to tell the questioner that it's so important to find a balance that suits you! You need to be able to maintain your principles while also getting along with others harmoniously.

I really hope my answer helps the original poster!

I'm excited to share some related book recommendations with you!

The Way of the Wolf is an amazing book that draws many worthwhile lessons from wolves, such as unity, perseverance, and wisdom. These lessons can help you become more persevering when facing difficulties and inspire you on how to better cooperate with others to face the strong together.

"The Road Less Traveled" is an incredible book that dives deep into the world of human psychology and spiritual growth. It offers some of the most profound insights I've ever come across, helping you understand not just your own behavior, but also that of others. It's a game-changer! It'll help you gain a deeper understanding of your inner world, your own actions and motivations, and ultimately, help you find your own path with more certainty and confidence.

The Courage to Be Disliked: This book presents an incredible idea that our pain and suffering often come from the meaning we attach to our experiences. By gaining a deeper understanding of this idea, you can learn to face your inner self more bravely, let go of the baggage of the past, and embrace a brighter future!