Can a 34-year-old woman, who is married, has no children and has no special skills, still turn her life around?

Hello, I'm here to support you in any way I can.

In your question, you mentioned that you don't have a particular skill. I'm not sure what kind of work you do, but I believe that regardless of one's profession, if one puts their best effort forward, they can achieve financial independence and confidence.

In addition, you have some hobbies, such as painting, psychology, yoga, and reading. It might be worth considering whether any of these could be monetized. It does, of course, take a lot of effort from your parents to go from simply liking something to being able to monetize it.

You might like to consider trying them all.

For instance, if you wish to learn to paint, you may not have the time to attend an institution, but you could consider teaching online instead.

In terms of psychology, you might consider writing articles and answering questions, as you are doing here. I recently obtained my psychology certificate and began answering questions on Yixinli, and I must say, it has been a rather positive experience.

If you're interested in yoga, you might consider getting a certificate and then working part-time as a yoga instructor or teaching online. When I was practicing yoga before, a sister of mine later got a yoga instructor certificate and opened her own yoga studio.

You may wish to consider trying each of these options and seeing which one resonates with you. It's important to recognise that this process may be gradual and that you may need to invest a significant amount of effort and learn a great deal of new information.

In the current environment, there are a number of potential avenues for monetization.

Andy Warhol once said, "Everyone will be world-famous for 15 minutes." In the current environment, becoming famous means attention, which means traffic, which means monetization.

Perhaps what Andy didn't mention is that these 15 minutes are not necessarily the most optimal timeframe. There are various avenues for extricating oneself from the situation, but to do so permanently, it's still preferable to rely on external support.

I believe that hard work, sustained effort, and action, starting with small actions, are probably the best way to deal with anxiety in the moment.

I couldn't help but notice that you said you are now 34 years old, married, and have not given birth to a child. I wonder if your situation might be related to your marital and family status.

It is often the case that a 34-year-old married woman who gives birth to a child is considered to be a high-risk mother. Could I ask why you are married but not yet a mother?

I wonder if I might ask how your husband, in-laws, and your family view this? Are you under any pressure in this regard?

This is only my own speculation based on common situations, which may or may not apply to your actual situation.

I often find myself drawn to Buddhist teachings, and I tend to view the world through a somewhat pessimistic lens. However, I also recognize the value in maintaining a positive outlook and strive to embody the spirit of a counselor, embracing the world with love and understanding.

I am married at 34, not pregnant, and I like to paint, study psychology, practice yoga, and read. I am confident that I can monetize these hobbies.

From a practical standpoint, if you're married and not pregnant at this age in a big city, you may have a hard time finding a job. After two months of work, you'll likely be pregnant and need maternity leave. Employers and HR will consider the cost of employing you.

From your description, it's clear you don't have any special skills. You seem to be a modest and cautious person.

If you have previous work experience, you can continue to develop similar work so that your previous experience can also be put to good use. If you don't have previous work experience, you have probably already devoted yourself to life, and you have definitely gained something from it. You can explore this, and life will tell you which areas I'm still quite good at.

This is who you want to become.

You need to work on your confidence, financial independence, and developing an interesting soul.

Painting, psychology, yoga, reading.

These hobbies will make you more refined and cultivate your character. Keep them up, hobby fishies.

As for direct monetization, writing, answering questions, personal IP (yoga teaching), and painting can be linked to psychology for further study. The monetization conversion rate is low in the early stages and is not enough to make a living. You can't eat hot tofu if you're impatient. The longer you persevere, the more you will reap.

You should also consider the important events in your life first because the impact of the current epidemic is still quite extensive. It is better to lie semi-flat, keep the family together, and silently build up your strength to prepare for the long-term development of the future.

It's not too late.

There's still time. It's never too late. Come on, world, I love you.

Dear Question Asker,

From your description, it can be inferred that you experience a sense of powerlessness and anxiety. Is this an accurate interpretation?

You indicate that you are 34 years of age, married, have no children, and engage in certain hobbies. However, you perceive these pastimes as unable to generate a specific income or sense of accomplishment. Consequently, you aspire to enhance your confidence, financial independence, and overall appeal. Is this an accurate representation of your current circumstances?

Please describe the circumstances that have led to this perception of yourself. Has this sentiment ever manifested previously?

At what point did you experience this sentiment? In what circumstances did you find yourself?

It is also pertinent to consider the question of who you will be with and what you will have done.

I would like to inform you that your abilities are, in fact, superior to those of many individuals, including my own. I am 32 years of age, unmarried, and my area of interest is psychology. I believe you possess a more diverse range of interests. By focusing on effective learning and becoming proficient in a particular field, you can pursue a multitude of occupations, such as a psychological counselor, a listening therapist, a teacher who instructs children in painting, a yoga instructor, and many others.

I would like to request that you consider a bold projection of your potential future self, one who has achieved the self-confidence, financial independence, and interesting person you desire to be. What do you believe you would have to do to become a different person from who you are now and achieve the desired level of self-confidence?

To whom will the change be apparent?

Without a detailed understanding of your circumstances, it is challenging to provide precise guidance. However, there are a few general strategies that may be helpful in overcoming these negative emotions and facilitating a sense of confidence.

First, it is essential to adjust one's mindset and learn to engage in introspection.

From your description, it is evident that you may not approve of the current situation and may be experiencing feelings of anxiety and powerlessness. It is important to recognize that these feelings are not conducive to positive change. To facilitate transformation, it is essential to adjust one's mindset and engage in introspection, which entails focusing on one's own strengths. Each individual possesses unique strengths, and recognizing these can instill a sense of belief in one's capabilities and provide the courage to confront and adapt.

Secondly, it is recommended that you enhance your confidence levels by engaging with activities that align with your interests.

You indicated a preference for activities such as painting, yoga, psychology, and reading. These represent valuable resources for you. You may wish to consider focusing on your interests and hobbies. This approach may facilitate your ability to engage in activities that align with your interests and gain a sense of accomplishment. This may, in turn, enhance your confidence.

Subsequently, one should endeavor to confront their fears.

One method for enhancing self-confidence is to confront one's fears. In other words, if an individual is apprehensive about undertaking a task, they can gradually attempt to do so. For instance, if an individual believes they lack strong willpower, they can select a hobby in which they excel and strive to excel at it. If an individual aspires to be an interesting person, they must be courageous and interact with more people, communicate more, and learn some communication skills in psychology so that they can communicate with others happily. When an individual is courageous enough to do the things they are afraid of, they will no longer feel confused and anxious on the inside but will become courageous and believe in themselves.

Subsequently, one should utilize positive self-suggestion to foster the conviction that one is capable of achieving the task at hand.

It is essential to cultivate self-belief and utilize the mental suggestion "I can do it, I can do it, I will do it." or "I am the best, I am the best."

It is recommended that the aforementioned mantra be repeated several times each morning upon waking and each night before retiring for the evening. It should be recited before undertaking any tasks and before interacting with others, particularly when encountering difficulties. Through the mechanism of positive self-suggestion, the mantra will inspire one's fighting spirit, increase one's mental strength, and gradually build self-confidence.

Subsequently, it is essential to cultivate an ability to accept oneself and to pursue continuous self-improvement.

Many individuals lack confidence not because they are inherently deficient, but because they are imperfect. When an individual judges and criticizes themselves for being imperfect, they become unable to achieve confidence, as no human can be perfect and all individuals possess shortcomings. Therefore, it is essential to strive to accept oneself, accept one's own shortcomings, and then to continue learning and developing oneself.

It is imperative to enhance one's capabilities and to instill sufficient self-assurance to navigate life.

One may also learn to feign confidence.

One may posit that individuals often feign confidence. Psychologists have observed that, as our psychology teachers often told us, if one desires to accomplish a task, one must pretend to possess the requisite abilities. If one persists in this behavior, it will become a habit, and one will eventually be able to accomplish the task. Similarly, if one pretends to be calm for an extended period, one will eventually become less panicky in the face of stressful situations and will develop a greater sense of confidence. This, in turn, will positively influence one's mental state.

In conclusion, it is essential to recognize that in order to become the person one aspires to be, it is vital to maintain constant awareness and clarification, rather than engaging in internal conflict. Initiating action is a crucial step in determining one's direction.

Provided one persists in the endeavor and maintains the requisite motivation, success is inevitable. Best of luck!

Dear Questioner,

My name is Kelly.

I reviewed the questioner's hobbies and observed a person with a rich inner world and their own independent thoughts.

I would like to take this opportunity to share some advice on self-confidence and financial independence. I hope you will bear with me if anything I say is inappropriate.

[About self-confidence]

I am curious as to why an individual of such caliber continues to experience feelings of insecurity.

I assume that after marriage, the questioner has spent the majority of her time caring for her family, raising her children, and using her free time to pursue activities such as painting, studying, practicing yoga, reading books, and so on.

The process may not yet have revealed the advantages of finding a hobby that allows one to become fully absorbed and to derive enjoyment from it.

Regarding painting:

I admire individuals who possess artistic abilities, though I have not yet developed such skills. I have encouraged my daughter to pursue a career in the arts.

Furthermore, given that my daughter is pursuing a degree in art, I have had the opportunity to read extensively about various painters. Many artists in this field continue to utilize art as a means of articulating their thoughts and conveying their inner feelings.

Frida Kahlo, the Mexican artist, made a significant impact on the art world through her dedication and commitment to her craft. Painting was a central aspect of her life, and she possessed a profound appreciation for art.

If you are interested in a particular style, you can gain more insight into your preferences by studying it further. For instance, if you enjoy oil paintings or illustrations, you might want to seek out similar works in your preferred style and dedicate time to studying them.

Currently, numerous independent artists are disseminating the tenets of contemporary art through the medium of small red books on Weibo.

In the initial stages of the pandemic, my daughter, in response to her teacher's request, spearheaded an initiative to document the experiences of medical professionals combating the crisis. This contemporary theme has garnered significant attention and is highly meaningful.

Additionally, you can create your own comics based on your daily life. Comics are a reflection of real life, so consider illustrating the growth of your child and sharing it with friends or on Weibo. If you do this consistently for a year, you will likely find a community of individuals with similar interests.

One of my associates illustrates her daily life and love stories, and recently participated in some competitions at the Shanghai Library, winning considerable acclaim.

As you progress, you will gradually gain self-awareness. Additionally, receiving positive feedback can boost your confidence.

I believe the questioner may not have been gainfully employed for an extended period.

As an illustration, the process of raising children may have caused you to become somewhat in denial about yourself.

Forgetting to raise children is a highly rewarding experience, and it is one of the most fulfilling things you can do in life.

Regarding yoga:

Additionally, pursuing a career as a yoga instructor is a viable objective.

Regarding psychology:

Further study in psychology could lead to a career as a psychological counselor, or to the pursuit of a specific area of interest within the field.

There are both short-term and long-term goals. Although psychology requires a significant investment of time and resources in the early stages, with the goal of building a solid foundation and developing one's own expertise, I am personally very interested in pursuing this field and intend to dedicate approximately three to five years to it.

I believe this is a career path that can be pursued throughout one's lifetime. As experience is gained, it can be a source of personal growth and support, while also providing assistance to others. This can be a highly meaningful pursuit.

Regarding reading,

You are encouraged to initially participate in the reading club of Yixinli, where you can gain experience leading discussions.

In addition to motivating yourself, you can also encourage others to develop a love of reading.

Reading is an excellent way to maintain a free and interesting outlook.

When we truly enjoy our hobbies, invest time in them, persevere, and gain recognition from others, we will become more confident.

[Regarding financial independence]

Does the questioner have concerns in this regard? Or is it a matter of life necessity?

Or perhaps you are looking to enhance your value to the organization and make your work more meaningful.

I believe there are a few suggestions that may be helpful.

1. If there is an immediate need to improve family life, the questioner can begin working and continue to pursue their interests while doing so.

2. Pursue a comprehensive education and establish yourself as a professional in a specific field.

3. Develop a professional image, set goals, and achieve them in a systematic manner.

4. Another option is to work in your chosen field while also developing your skills and allowing time to pass.

I'll share a story with you about myself. Ten years ago, I had a keen interest in tea culture. Over time, I developed expertise in this area and designed my own appreciation courses. I will continue to refine my approach and establish my own unique style of leadership.

Despite initially lacking an income, I gradually began generating professional output and gained recognition from select individuals, which enabled me to develop my own distinctive characteristics. Additionally, the fact that numerous students proactively sought out my classes boosted my confidence and brought about financial independence.

In order to find yourself through confusion, you must also believe that the current emotions are temporary. This is the only way you can pay your own efforts.

Additionally, it is important to accept, trust, and affirm yourself.

Regarding the matter of fighting, I would like to make the following observation.

My name is Kelly.

I would like to take this opportunity to express my love for the world and for you.

Hello! I'm Warm-hearted Girl 1219, and I'm happy to answer your question about Yi Xinli.

You're 34, married, and not happy. You have four hobbies: painting, psychology, yoga, and reading.

These four hobbies are good. Keep doing them!

You said you're anxious that your hobbies won't make money. You also want to be confident, financially independent, and interesting. I think you can do it.

Here are some suggestions to help you:

1. Confidence comes from accomplishment.

If you want to be confident, work hard and achieve.

A girl was shy and self-critical as a child. She tried to please others to gain confidence. It didn't work.

You can gain respect and confidence by constantly learning and improving.

2. Being financially independent is important.

As a woman, you must be financially independent. You are only as good as your last, and you will not be looked down upon if you can support yourself.

A girl is kind but not liked because she can't support herself.

3. Be funny and interesting.

If you want to be interesting, watch more comedy. People like funny people because they make others happy.

People will want to be friends with an interesting person. It's more important to have an interesting soul than to be funny.

This takes a lot of experience, which you can't get in a short time.

A comedy star makes people laugh. They can forget their worries when they watch his films.

4. Work hard to learn a skill.

If you don't have a skill, think about what you're interested in and study hard. It will take time, but you can become an expert.

A girl loved writing and kept at it for ten years. She published a book and became a well-known writer. If she hadn't stuck with it, she would never have become a writer.

5. Develop a hobby.

If you can't make money from your hobby now, don't worry. You can have a stable job first, and then use your spare time to develop your hobby.

Maybe one day, when you are facing a low point in life, you can make money from your hobby. At that time, you can devote yourself to it, use your hobby to support yourself, and create your own world.

Guo Haiping from the TV series "Dwelling Narrowness" is an example. She was an office worker, then taught Chinese to foreigners on the side.

After leaving her company, she made her side job her main job and opened a Chinese school.

This is how a hobby can become a business. It takes time to succeed.

Finally, here's a quote: "Everything you do now affects your future."

I wish you a bright future!

At Yixinli, we love you!

Greetings.

These individuals are adept at discerning one's expectations of self, efforts, intentions, seriousness, easy-going nature, and even the subtlest indications of anxiety.

Women in their 30s occupy a unique position in today's society, acting as a bridge between the past and the future. Consequently, they experience a high level of stress, yet also demonstrate a capacity for constant renewal and growth.

As you enumerate your hobbies, you may discern an emerging awareness of your strengths and a concomitant desire to consolidate them.

It would be prudent to consider the issue of financial independence. A decline in income can, on occasion, precipitate a depressive episode.

From the perspective of risk management, it may be advisable to assist the questioner in achieving a state of financial stability and engagement, akin to that of a game, in order to facilitate a sense of accomplishment and progress.

Additionally, it was stated that there is no universal standard for desiring to be an interesting person and an interesting soul.

A person who is garrulous is nevertheless an interesting soul, as is one who is taciturn.

It is not necessary to cater to others. When one exhibits confident charm, others are drawn to that individual and offer praise.

You inquired as to whether it was too late. I believe you are already aware of the answer within yourself: it is not too late.

However, I am unaware of the specific details of the conversations you have had with your family members. It is likely that your husband's support will serve to enhance your motivation to move forward.

The questioner has employed an efficacious method, engaging in discourse with all relevant parties on this subject from a psychological perspective. Her optimistic and open-minded disposition has already become apparent. I am therefore inclined to assert that there is still time for action.

It is imperative that you believe in yourself.

Hello, host! I really hope my answer can be of some help to you.

You can do it! Have faith in yourself, and you'll get there in time. And it's never too late! I know this from personal experience.

Let's dive in and chat about how you can become a confident person!

The wonderful psychologist Adler said that the only correct way to overcome inferiority is to connect your value with the value of society.

You can become more confident by solving problems for society, by cooperating with others, and by caring for others. This will help you feel more self-worth. You can make yourself feel that you are very valuable in society, that you have made many contributions to society, and that many people like you. This will help you feel better about yourself.

So, it's really important to take a good look at all the resources you have at your disposal and think about how you can work with others to help them. This will slowly help you find your own value and direction. And in the process, your self-confidence will gradually be built up.

I'll tell you a little bit about my own experience. When I was thirty, I had to stay at home to take care of my child full-time because of family reasons. I was really isolated for two or three years and felt quite inferior. But then I discovered my own resources through psychology and writing, as well as my dedication to participate in many online and offline activities. I met so many lovely people in the circle! In those few years, I used my knowledge of psychology to help others, while also growing myself. Gradually, I have become more and more confident.

So, it's really important to be aware of ourselves and how we can connect our own value with that of society. When you can feel your own value and sense of contribution to society and others through solving problems for society, working with others or caring for others, then, slowly as your sense of value increases, you will become a confident person.

2. Let's talk about financial independence!

You say you don't have a skill, but you like painting, psychology, yoga, and reading. All of these hobbies can be realized by practicing and improving them in depth. As far as I know, painting can be taught on Douyin, or you can go deeper into the circle to understand how they are monetized. And psychology goes without saying, whether it's psychological counseling or psychological writing, or doing some psychological science popularization work, people need it now. I just went from being a psychology enthusiast to becoming a psychology author, psychological counselor, and psychology teacher. In fact, as long as you are willing to invest time and energy to constantly improve and grow yourself, you can have an income. Especially some of my consultant friends, after more than ten years of accumulation, their hourly consulting fee now reaches 1,000 yuan. Although they have also invested a lot of money in learning before, they have basically earned back the previous tuition fees. In fact, yoga can also be monetized in many ways. For example, there are many popular yoga instructors on Douyin, and they have achieved financial independence just through Douyin. Reading is also the same. Just like Dong Yuhui, he has applied the knowledge he learned from reading to his live broadcast, which has attracted many people who like him and are willing to pay for him, precisely because he has really allowed them to gain and grow...

So, if you really want to find a way to realize your potential, you can absolutely do it! The first thing you have to do is believe that you can find it and that these abilities of yours can be realized. It might not happen quickly, but it will definitely happen in the end. Just like when Dong Yuhui first started selling vegetables live, business was not good, and just like the first few years when I studied psychology, there was very little income. But as long as you persevere, constantly improve yourself, and constantly show yourself, you will attract the wealth that belongs to you!

I've heard a saying that I think is really true: money isn't earned, it's attracted. When you have the right value, you can naturally earn money that matches it.

3. I'd love to know how you become an interesting person!

I'm not sure what kind of interesting you mean. I think it's so interesting how everyone has a different definition of interesting!

I truly believe that we should all try to become more interesting people, not just to make others think we're interesting, but to truly feel that our own lives are interesting and that we genuinely find the world fascinating. Even when we interact with others and they have different views than us, we can still find something interesting about them and ask ourselves, "Wow, this person is really intriguing. How come he thinks that way?"

When you feel that you are interesting, the world is interesting, and everything is interesting, we are naturally curious about everything, and we want to explore many things, including ourselves, the material world, and how to communicate and get along with them. At this time, you will gradually discover that whether it is daily activities such as eating and sleeping, or things that improve yourself such as reading and learning, working and socializing, can all become interesting research objects. For example, how can we eat the most suitable food for ourselves when we eat, and what are the nutrients in each food? What are the rules of sleep and what are its functions? How can I improve my social communication skills? How can I improve my language skills?

How can I improve my drawing skills to the level of a drawing teacher?

You'll see that when you look at everything with curiosity, everything is worth exploring and studying, and everything becomes interesting. When all aspects of life become meaningful, others will feel that you are full of curiosity and enthusiasm when they spend time with you, and you are really interesting!

I really hope this helps! Wishing you all the best!

Hello, friend!

Can you succeed without a skill? Absolutely!

Remember what Lei Jun, CEO of Xiaomi, said: "On the right wind, even a pig can fly." China is developing rapidly, especially with the current development of the internet economy. Focus on a project and you will find your own space to grow!

Your self-identification as someone who likes to paint, study psychology, practice yoga, and read will largely determine the direction of your efforts in the next step. And it's going to be a great one! As the saying goes, there is no such thing as a 360-degree career, and every career has its top talent.

Once you have decided on a direction, go for it! There is a "10,000-hour theory" that has appeared online before. It says that if we can deeply study and practice in an area for 10,000 hours, then we can become an expert in that field. This theory is similar to "deliberate practice." You can choose one of your hobbies and work hard at it. I believe you will create your own world and start your own personal legend of reversal!

However, I'd love to share my personal opinion with you. I think there are actually tons of people who want to make a comeback, but many of them give up halfway.

The answer is impatience, and the word is "fast." We say that you should become famous young, get rich young, and even study hard from an early age, because it's the only way to succeed in the future!

This may also be related to the development of China. After decades of hard work, we have caught up with others in a hundred years! This speed is really amazing. Therefore, we must be stable, take things slowly, and work steadily. Only when the basic skills are solid can we move forward better!

The great news is that you can also make your hobbies a part of your journey to success! My personal suggestion is that you connect painting with psychology, or psychology with reading. Writing articles is a fantastic choice. When we can make friends with like-minded people, the journey of self-growth will be more enjoyable and smoother!

Set a direction, work hard, make friends, and move forward together! I absolutely believe that our efforts will definitely be rewarded.

Come on! Let's do this!

The world and I love you so much!

From how you've phrased your question, I can tell you have some understanding of yourself and have thought carefully about your future development. My dear, when you asked this question, you've already taken the first step.

Many people spend their lives in a daze, and in the grind of the years, they become the person they despise the most among the multitude. You're never too old to change your life around. There are countless people on the internet who continue to shine and make achievements in their favorite fields after retirement. You said you want to become a confident, financially independent, and interesting person. What an enviable life that would be! It seems like a life that has been spoiled by the years, never growing old, and shining with light. As a peer, I can't help but be fascinated...

You like painting, psychology, yoga, and reading. You think these hobbies can't be monetized, but I think they can all become the basis for your financial independence. You came to this platform for help, and I believe you have a certain understanding of psychology. You don't just like it; I think this is a very good direction to break through.

You could try reaching out to people in the psychology field. This will help you understand psychology better and figure out if it's right for you. It'll also help you learn more about psychology, understand yourself better, and find a breakthrough.

Hello friend! It's so great to see you taking steps towards becoming a confident, financially independent, interesting person. You're currently 34 years old, married, and childless, which is a fantastic time to start a business. It's so inspiring to see you having such ambitious thoughts and intentions! It just goes to show that you still have dreams. There's never a better time to start than right now. If you have dreams, don't be afraid to break the status quo, step out of your comfort zone, and be willing to work hard. You're destined to achieve your goals! This is the "unity of knowledge and action."

Take a moment to think about what might be holding you back from becoming the confident, financially independent, interesting person you want to be.

When you think about it or seek professional help, you'll find some unconscious reasons within yourself. Once you identify these areas, you can work hard in them and make great strides!

First, when it comes to self-confidence, it's important to focus on enhancing your abilities. This could mean taking the time to get to know yourself better, understanding your strengths and weaknesses, and especially your own bright spots. Having a lot of good feminine qualities is a great place to start! These things are the foundation of your self-confidence. You enjoy painting, psychology, yoga, and reading. These hobbies are your own advantages. You can build on your abilities in these areas through further study and by improving your abilities, you can gain even more self-confidence.

Financial independence: It might take a little while, but as your abilities improve, you'll be able to monetize your hobbies. Just be patient and persevere when studying in depth.

In his book Outliers, author Gladwell points out the "10,000-hour rule." What makes geniuses so extraordinary in the eyes of the public is not their superior talent, but their continuous hard work.

It just takes 10,000 hours of practice for anyone to go from ordinary to world-class!

You want to become an interesting person, and I know you can do it! You have hobbies such as painting, psychology, yoga, and reading, and these hobbies will allow you to make a lot of interesting friends and become an interesting person.

I really hope these tips help you! Please come to Yi Xinli often, and remember that the world and I love you!

Good day, I am writing in response to your query.

I understand your current state of uncertainty. You have the desire to make a change, but you are unsure if it is a viable option or if it is too late to act.

I hope my experience can be of some use to you.

I am currently 41 years of age. I lost my child at the age of 32.

I then made the decision to leave a stable position that I had held for eight years and pursue new opportunities. At the time, I believed that it was not possible to force a child to succeed, and that trying to do so would be ineffective.

However, employment opportunities can be secured through one's own efforts. I promptly resigned from my position as an engineer, with a monthly salary of 7,000 to 8,000 yuan, to pursue a role in foreign trade, with a base salary of just over 2,000 yuan.

From that time to the last few years, income has been highly variable. At that time, my mother also said that as soon as she heard that I had quit my job, she had a dream in which I was squatting in a corner without food.

It is accurate to conclude that this process is challenging. However, I have persisted over the past few years, or perhaps more accurately, the past decade, because I believe I have a significant amount of time ahead of me. If nothing unexpected occurs, I anticipate being able to live to the age of 60 or 70.

If we choose to retire, we will have 20 to 30 years to plan our lives, identify a suitable position, or explore alternative sources of income, with the aim of achieving our desired financial outcomes.

Consequently, I have identified a financial strategy that aligns with my objectives and a lifestyle that I find fulfilling. In my daily routine, I prioritize physical activity, including running, to maintain my well-being.

Furthermore, I do not wish to pursue a life devoid of purpose, except for the ability to earn a sufficient income on a daily basis. Consequently, I have commenced studies in psychology with the intention of one day assisting others, while simultaneously seeking to establish a meaningful existence that may also yield supplementary income.

My current plan is to achieve financial independence and to become self-sufficient.

In the meantime, I am pursuing the activities and experiences that align with my personal and professional goals. I am also incorporating daily exercise into my routine.

Additionally, I have a wonderful son, now over four years old, who is the center of my world. This is the life I want.

The process is not straightforward, but it is the path I have chosen.

It is important to understand that this process will involve a certain degree of trial and error, and that the desired outcome may not be immediately apparent. Having the right mindset and being open to embracing the process is crucial.

It is important to be prepared for the possibility that during this process, there may be a lack of support from others. While it is natural to experience feelings of loneliness during this period, ultimately, you will come to recognize that this is a decision that aligns with your goals and will contribute to a sense of stability.

I hope you find my input helpful.

I hope your life will continue to improve.

Good morning, I hope this message finds you well. I would like to extend my sincerest regards to you.

From your inquiry and the details you have provided, I understand the concerns you are facing. Please refer to the following resources for more information:

1. Is it still possible for a 34-year-old woman who is married with no children and no special skills to turn her life around?

The answer is an unequivocal yes. There is no time like the present to embark on this endeavor.

2. My interests include painting, psychology, yoga, and reading. However, these hobbies do not generate income. My goal is to become a confident, financially independent, and interesting person.

It is evident that the questioner has a clear understanding of their strengths and abilities. While the aforementioned hobbies are merely interests, they are areas where the questioner has demonstrated proficiency. However, the questioner has yet to identify a suitable entry point and methodology to fully realize these interests. Additionally, the questioner has expressed reservations about the feasibility of achieving these goals. This indicates a need for the questioner to define the standards and criteria for success in these endeavors.

Once we have established our goals, we can determine the best way to achieve them. For instance, are these hobbies related? Someone who paints may not necessarily be skilled, but someone who combines that ability with knowledge of psychology could be highly proficient. This is an invaluable skill. Similarly, integrate all your hobbies that you can use.

Furthermore, the questioner should determine the proficiency level they wish to attain in their chosen field. This will enable them to devise a plan for self-improvement, set achievable milestones, and work towards their goal.

3. The questioner can also identify a suitable transitional position and align their personal development plans with this goal. It should be noted that financial support is often a crucial factor in career advancement.

Additionally, it would be beneficial to expand your network and engage with a diverse range of individuals to foster broader perspectives. This may necessitate a sustained commitment over time, so it is important to maintain a sense of calm and progress at a pace that aligns with your goals.

I am confident that you will excel in this role.

I hope the above will provide inspiration and reward. I look forward to meeting a better version of yourself, and I am confident that the world will embrace you with us.

Hello, dear friend! I really want to answer your question. I was in the exact same situation you are in, and I can help you!

I'm so excited to tell you my story!

One!

I am 39 years old and started studying psychology in 2015 when I was 32. At the time, I was suffering from postpartum depression, had a serious inferiority complex, and was isolated from the outside world. I wanted to find solace and relief in psychology, and I am so happy I did!

I read and wrote for three years. In 2018, I felt that I had a little bit of understanding, and I began to participate in psychology community learning that cost one or two hundred yuan. I was so excited to serve as an operations officer in the community and help everyone! And in this year, because of the desire to share that I couldn't contain in my heart, I started my own psychology sharing group, the company's learning group, and several other small groups on topics such as non-violent communication, rebuilding life, and micro-habits.

I feel so fulfilled, spending every second to the fullest! I work, take care of my child, study, write, serve as an operations officer in other people's groups, and support my many communities. It feels like I'm spending every second to the fullest! It's also allowed me to grow rapidly.

Two is a great number!

At the end of 2019, the pandemic began, and the company worked from home, paying only the minimum guaranteed salary. After deducting the five insurances, it was just over 1,400 yuan. With this amount, it was impossible for me to pay the mortgage and support my family (by the way, at this time I had already divorced and was raising my child on my own).

Over the past few years, I have been eager to start a paid community, but I was afraid to do so. With the pandemic as an opportunity, I bravely posted a recruitment ad in the group. I was thrilled to see my friends support me so quickly. At the time, the price was set at 1980, and I received 10 payments from friends in one day!

I'm thrilled to announce that the price has since been raised to 6,980! There are now 30 partners providing the service, and there's even a monthly psychological writing healing community, which costs just 199. You can also enjoy one-on-one psychological counseling services for 60 for half an hour or one-on-one psychological companionship for six months for only 1,980!

And there are so many other forms of service!

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Then in May of this year, I joined One Psychology to supercharge my service capabilities through systematic learning (many people say that learning psychology costs a lot of money. At the moment, I don't quite agree. The money I have spent is mainly on buying books and courses costing a hundred or two hundred yuan. I don't think it's considered spending money, right? The two biggest expenses were He Lingfeng's Integrative Psychology for 2,800 yuan and One Psychology's Listening Master for 5,980 yuan—I don't know if the prices have gone up now. I have not taken any offline courses so far).

I'm thrilled to share that my followers on psychology have now exceeded 100,000, and I've only spent 10,000 yuan on books!

So, how is this achieved?

It's about constantly writing, self-training, running communities at a high density, outputting at a high density, answering questions, and solving problems. First, train your own abilities and accumulate a reputation for free. When the time comes to charge a fee, you'll be ready to go!

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Today, the content of each section of Yixinli is absolutely amazing! You can follow the rhythm of Yixinli and join various Yixinli communities, where you can share knowledge, share your practice diary, answer questions and solve problems, and also answer questions for others like this. Yixinli is an incredible treasure trove with so many opportunities that are already designed and waiting for you to use!

And you can even build your own community! Put in the effort to share your knowledge, answer questions, and manage the popularity of the community. Think about it, study it, and delve deeper into the field you like. You will definitely find your own way!

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I've got one last recommendation for you: "Xiao Gou Qian Qian." I read this book at the end of 2017, and you can see that my breakthrough came in 2018!

Once I finished reading it at the end of 2017, I was fired up and ready to follow Puppy Money's guidance and start the new year!

I made a table of how many words I had to write, read, draw (I was learning simple drawing at the time), and speak English fluently every day. I was so excited to put in the hard work during those six months of study, and it really paid off! I got a great score in the English subject on the adult college entrance exam later on.

At that time, my design started from my interests. I was excited to see which of them would come true!

In March 2018, just three months later, I found my calling in psychology!

I read the Circle Breakthrough by the head of the group and was blown away. The head of the group said that everyone can breakthrough the circle, and the way to do it is to create value for society and care about the public.

I then made the exciting decision to devote all my time to psychology, and stopped doing simple drawings and English (I had just paid the second half-yearly fee at the time). I was thrilled to start gradually creating social media communities to serve the public.

Puppy Money has been an incredible help to me! It's helped me clarify my money-making ideas, which has been a total game-changer. My money-making ideas are: what do I have, what can I do, and what can I help others with?

Every day, write down these three questions, then let your creativity soar! Write freely, write whatever comes to mind, and then try to do some of them – write whatever comes to mind, and do all of them!

Just keep writing every day! And ask yourself every day what value you can create for others, even if it's just a little bit.

I also highly recommend the books of Yu Minhong! His thoughts and values are refreshingly positive, and he offers inspiring encouragement to young people to follow their hearts and interests. His books are brimming with encouragement, guidance, and direction.

Six!

And the best part is, as long as you take action and allow yourself to accumulate slowly, you will definitely find your own path! I hope that my story and reflections will bring you strength!

Thank you so much!

You are a beacon! When you ask a question or answer one, your words can illuminate the hearts of many people. This is the amazing power we share!

Hello, I am Xin Tan, and I'm thrilled to be here with Coach Fei Yun. It's so inspiring to see you embracing your growth journey at this stage of your life!

At every stage of life, it's so important to explore ourselves, understand ourselves, and grow ourselves. This is how we become ourselves and realize ourselves!

Thirty-four years old is a fantastic age! You've accumulated so much life experience, whether it be social experience, life experience, interpersonal relationships, or financial conditions.

Let's dive right in and tackle this together!

A truly confident person has a rock-solid belief in their own confidence-when-they-dare-not-face-it-11280.html" target="_blank">self-worth!

The self-confidence we often talk about is often divided into two levels: one is external, material, and from others. For example, a stable job with five social insurances and one housing fund, a stable home, a woman's bag, a man's car, and the affirmation, praise, and recognition of others.

These can help us enhance our sense of worth, but they are not under our control. Relying on them as the foundation of self-confidence will inadvertently hand over the initiative to others. Once external expectations are not met, we will once again fall into disappointment and despair.

The second level of self-confidence is the best one! It's full confidence in oneself as a person and confidence in the future. This self-confidence doesn't require "proof in everything," and it's related to a person's sense of worth.

A sense of worth is a subjective evaluation of oneself, and as a child, it mainly comes from our parents' evaluation of us. The great news is that people who are often affirmed, praised, and approved of by their parents have a high sense of worth, which is expressed as confidence!

People who are often criticized, blamed, and denied by their parents have a low sense of value, are more sensitive and suspicious, and are prone to self-doubt and self-negation. But there's no need to be down about it! This can be turned around and used to your advantage. You can choose to embrace your unique value and shine your light brightly!

When we become adults, we should be our own biggest cheerleaders! We should start by affirming ourselves and giving ourselves positive feedback, and constantly improve our sense of self-worth.

?2. When a person stops learning, it means they're getting older, but there's still so much more to learn!

"No skills"? Come on, now! Where does your assessment come from? You like to draw, study psychology, do yoga, and read books. These are all great hobbies and habits, and they can definitely become your skills!

When you're evaluating yourself, I suggest you add "for now" to the sentence to really experience it! It'll help you see that you've already taken some great steps: "I have only temporarily not yet realized monetizing my drawings," "I have only temporarily not yet discovered my talent," "I have only temporarily not yet achieved financial independence."

Break away from "limited thinking" and open yourself up to a whole new world of possibilities and choices!

I see that you like psychology, so I have a great suggestion for you! You should slowly accumulate on the Yi Xinli platform, starting with posting updates. You can follow me, and from my personal homepage you can see all my work. In the process of accumulation, monetization is just around the corner!

I really hope the above is helpful to you! And I just want to say that the world and I love you! ??

If you want to keep the conversation going, just click "Find a coach" in the top right corner or at the bottom. I'd love to keep chatting with you one-on-one and see how we can grow together!

Hello, question asker! I'm Jiang 61, and I'm excited to help you!

I'm so grateful you've put your trust in us and are willing to share your challenges so we can help you find solutions! You've asked, "Can a 34-year-old woman, married with no children and no skills, still turn her life around?"

From this, I can see that you are ready to make something of yourself! First, give yourself a hug and don't worry. Take some time to think and we'll get started on your answer. Let me ask you a question first. Can you answer me? Do you believe in yourself?

And there's one more thing! Ask yourself this question and then write down your answer. I'd love to hear it!

1. Know yourself

1. Hobbies

You are 34 years old, married with no children, and have a whole host of amazing hobbies, including painting, psychology, yoga, and reading! While these hobbies can't be monetized, they bring you immense joy and fulfilment.

I see that you say you don't have a skill, but you love painting, psychology, yoga, and reading! I don't know if you're still doing these things, but I bet you're at a really good level by now.

You don't believe these hobbies can bring you income. What's your reason? I'd love to hear your reasons!

I believe you! These are all professions that make money.

Painting is a great way to make money!

The great news is that many amateur painters can earn a good income by submitting their work in various forms, selling paintings in galleries, and opening online stores to sell their paintings.

Psychology

Many people who study psychology are not professionals in psychology. They also study psychology out of a passion for helping others and themselves. They are dedicated and hard-working, and they can also earn a good income by working part-time on various platforms and in consulting organizations.

Yoga

The same goes for yoga studies! If you want to pursue a career, you can do it! All you need to do is spend time and energy studying with dedication, learning thoroughly, and specializing. Nothing comes easy, but you can do it! You just need to study hard and turn what you learn into your own exclusive skills. Then you can show off your talents!

Reading

Reading is an amazing way to create wealth for yourself! You can write book reviews, book summaries, lead readers, introduce books, and share your reading experiences for professional platforms. Many platforms accept such creations and pay for the work.

Therefore, you say that these hobbies cannot be monetized, either because you have tried and it hasn't worked out yet, or because you are excited to try and make it work!

2. Ability Your ability is one of your greatest assets. It's what sets you apart and allows you to excel in any field.

Absolutely! You can absolutely become a confident, financially independent, and interesting person!

You want to become a confident, financially independent, and witty person, and I think that's a fantastic idea! I'm giving you a big thumbs-up for it!

That's fantastic! It shows you're a person with ideas and high expectations of yourself.

It's so inspiring to see people turn their hobbies into careers! It takes a lot of confidence, concentration, seriousness, perseverance, hard work, courage to try and fail, and diligence in practice. But it's so worth it when you succeed! Having perseverance and self-discipline is both a character trait and an ability.

3. Expectations

The meaning of expectation is to have a vision or longing for an unknown moment or thing in the future. In real life, expectations are the transformation of desires into concrete "expectations," including expectations of oneself, expectations of others, and expectations of others of oneself.

From your description above, it's clear that you have big plans for yourself! You want to become a confident, financially independent, and funny person. Having expectations is normal, and it's great that you have such ambitious goals. Having expectations can sometimes lead to pressure, but it's also an opportunity to grow and develop new coping mechanisms.

2. The key to success!

You aspire to be a confident, financially independent, and humorous person, which is fantastic! I really appreciate that you have such admirable ideals.

You're worried that it's too late to become such a person at 34. Well, I'm here to tell you that it's never too late! I'll answer your question by sharing the key to success from the dimensions of time, key points, self-confidence, and the practice of ambition.

Time!

Most famous people didn't become famous at a young age. They all found their own way late in life, and it's inspiring to see how they succeeded! Take the famous traditional Chinese painting master Qi Baishi, for example. He only started painting after the age of 30, and he was already famous by the time he was 57!

This is a perfect example of what we call a "late bloomer." So, as you can see, time has never been the key to success!

The key to success is...

The key to success is matching one's interests, hobbies, abilities, and qualities. Human ability and quality are the key—and they're yours for the taking!

Let's talk about Qi Baishi! He didn't start painting until he was 30, but he made up for lost time! He was diligent and fearless in the face of failure. This is the meaning of the saying "Diligence breeds excellence."

He specialized in a particular field and just kept at it until he made it a masterpiece! He turned his interest into work and made it into a craft. And he became famous and successful only in his later years. This was the key to his success!

His incredible endurance and persistence are a true testament to his abilities and professional accomplishments.

And the most important thing of all is confidence!

There's a saying that goes, "Believe in the power of belief." This is great news for anyone looking to achieve their dreams! It means that when you believe in yourself, you can unlock your potential, find the motivation to do great things, tackle challenges head-on, and make your dreams a reality. So, believe in yourself and go out there and make it happen!

If you want something, go get it! There's always a way to make it happen.

Pies never fall from the sky! Talents don't come overnight either!

If you have aspirations, you will naturally set goals for yourself to achieve and work hard towards them. You will never rest until you reach your goal—and you will reach it!

Therefore, success is only for those who are mentally prepared, determined, and confident. And it's just a matter of time! With the right mindset, you can make your dreams a reality. Where there's a will, there's a way!

3. Give yourself a big, well-deserved pat on the back!

As mentioned earlier, do you know yourself? The key to success, etc., are all intended to tell you through examples that success is possible for everyone. It requires time, ability, self-confidence, and ambition to be in place in order to make yourself successful—and you can do it!

1. Find your true interests and dive in!

Focus on your interests!

You've shared so many of your hobbies and interests with us! I know you have other things to do, including work and family matters that need to be taken care of. It's impossible to arrange everything at the same time, and your time is limited. But you can make the best use of your energy and satisfy your interests by focusing on one or two of your favorite things!

Go for it! Do one or two things really well.

Plan and expect the best!

Once you've identified your interests, it's time to start planning their development! It might take a little time and effort, but it'll be worth it in the end. You'll need to think about things like time, stages, goals, steps, testing, evaluation, and adjustment.

Planning is all about implementing, measuring, and achieving your goals while respecting your own objective reality.

Self-motivation is your best friend!

When implementing a plan, you also need to establish a self-motivation mechanism to motivate yourself to complete the plan and witness the results of completing the plan. This is essential for your growth and the development of your interests—and it's an exciting process!

Self-motivation is also a fantastic way to keep going with new interests. Because motivation is based on the belief that you can do it, and also on small successes, self-motivation allows you to build up your own confidence that you can do it!

And that's why self-motivation is such an essential step on the road to success!

Self-motivation can be as simple as a small gift, a small ceremony, or even a big meal! These little tokens of appreciation are a great way to recognize and celebrate your achievements, and they're also an essential step in building self-confidence.

2. Match your interests with your abilities and watch your potential soar!

It's important to match your interests with your abilities. If your interests are higher than your abilities, you'll naturally start to lose interest as you delve deeper into your interests. This is because your abilities are too high. On the other hand, if your abilities are too low, they won't be able to satisfy the needs of interest development. This can cause you to develop a fear of your interests, which will also cause you to lose interest in their continued development.

3. Practice!

The above example of the success of the old master Qi Baishi is meant to show that having expectations and plans is not enough to lead you to success. But don't worry! You can be determined and confident in order to put them into practice.

Perseverance is key!

Interest is important for success, but it is not the determining factor. Perseverance is the key to success! If you can't persist in doing something you're interested in, your skills won't improve. But if you keep at it, your skills will improve, and your interest will grow. You'll be amazed at how much you can achieve when you put your mind to it!

Self-confidence is key!

As mentioned earlier, self-confidence plays a driving role in success. I absolutely believe in myself, and that is what enables me to persevere. If I don't believe in myself, I will lose confidence in myself and be unable to self-discipline myself to keep going.

So, self-confidence is very important!

Now for the fun part: practice and testing!

As mentioned earlier, Qi Baishi's successful experience was continuous practice. And it's so important to keep practicing after you have a plan and incentives!

Practice makes perfect! Testing is a great way to make sure your plan is on track and that you're on the right track.

This will really help your interests to grow and develop!

Practice also includes participating in platform activities, which are a great way to test the effectiveness of your interest development. You can also collaborate with institutions to turn your interests into reality and make them even more exciting!

4. Ability improvement This is where the magic happens! Your abilities will skyrocket as you learn and grow. You'll become a master craftsman or master like Qi Baishi. You'll develop skills that will become your true abilities. Your confidence will soar, and financial independence and success will be within reach. Believe in yourself!

Learning is an amazing process!

The more you learn, the more you'll understand your interests. And as your knowledge and skills grow, you'll be able to develop your interests even more. You'll be able to turn your interests into a career and business, just like Qi Baishi did!

Now for the fun part! Deliberate practice.

Deliberate practice is an amazing way to develop your interests! It can turn your interest into a habit, help you remember the skills you've learned, and even turn it into your true ability.

If you can do the above, get ready for a boost in confidence, a surge in abilities, and your interest becoming a skill! Financial independence and success will be right around the corner. Don't worry, it's just a matter of time. Believe in yourself!

And finally, I wish the original poster all the very best health and success!