Emotional issues truly are a heart-wrenching problem, how to adjust?

Hello! I really hope my answer can help you in some way.

I totally get where you're coming from. It's so hard to control our emotions! We all want to be able to control them, or even be completely emotionless or always happy. But it's just not possible! Emotions can't only be positive. It's totally normal to feel negative emotions sometimes. Behind our emotions are our needs. To understand ourselves better, we need to see both our emotions and our needs.

I'd love to share some advice for getting along with your emotions!

1. Be kind to yourself and take a moment to recognize the core reason for your emotions.

When those feelings come up, I try to be aware of why I'm feeling angry, sad, or depressed. What needs of mine have not been met?

You can find the core reason for your emotions through continuous awareness and reflection. Once you've found your core problem, you can work hard to solve it and improve your emotions!

For example, I used to get pretty upset when other people didn't act the way I thought they should. I wanted my mother-in-law to let me be, my husband to be around more, and my kids to be more proactive in learning...

When they don't meet my standards, I feel bad. I later realized that I had a core problem: using my standards to demand others. When they didn't meet my standards, I got angry.

When I let go of my own standards and accept each of them, without forcing them to be the way I want them to be, my emotions become much more stable. It's a wonderful feeling!

But, you know, everyone gets angry for different reasons because we all have different inner needs. And it's because our inner needs aren't being met that we get emotional.

My friend often gets angry because others don't recognize and accept him. I think the core reason for his emotions is actually his lack of recognition and acceptance of himself.

There's a helpful little law in psychology that says when we're missing something inside, our natural instinct is to look for it outside.

It's totally normal to want others to affirm and recognize us. But if we're always looking for that external validation, we might find that others are unpredictable and that no one can always affirm and recognize us. And we can't control the actions and thoughts of others, which might make us feel like we're not being recognized and accepted. It's okay to feel this way! We're all human, and we all have our own unique journey.

It's so important to look inward, learn to affirm ourselves, recognize ourselves, accept our imperfections, and accept ourselves as a whole.

My friend learned to affirm and accept himself, and it made a world of difference! His heart became more and more harmonious, and he no longer experienced huge emotional swings due to external evaluations. He said, "When I am able to accept and recognize myself, I find that my world has really changed a lot. I am no longer so agitated by other people's negativity, because I know what kind of person I am. They are only negating me because I don't meet their evaluation standards. Of course I will also be happy when others affirm me, but I know that they are only affirming me because I meet their evaluation standards..."

Human cognition, emotions, and behavior are all connected. They're like gears meshing together: as soon as one moves, the others follow. So, when we can understand why we get angry and then change how we think and act, our emotions will be much better.

2. Fully accept all your emotions, my friend.

It's so important to remember that when we get along with our emotions, whether they're good or bad, we're really getting along with ourselves. Emotions are a big part of who we are, and it's so helpful to learn to accept them fully.

You don't have to worry about bad emotions. Just take them with you when you go about your day. Emotions aren't good or bad. They're actually useful! They help us understand ourselves and feel the world around us.

It's so important to cultivate a positive view of emotions. This means not judging any emotion that arises and not determining whether it's good or bad.

It's only natural to gravitate towards good emotions like happiness and joy, while avoiding or resisting bad emotions like depression and irritability.

We all know that holding on to the good and pushing away the bad can really drain your energy. It can also lead to lots of ups and downs in your emotions.

It's so important to keep a positive attitude and not prioritize emotions as good or bad. When we don't categorize emotions into two different camps, it really helps to reduce inner conflict and struggle.

This is a great way to treat your emotions with detachment, which will help them have less influence over you.

You've got this! You have real control over your emotions now.

3. There are lots of lovely, reasonable ways to release your emotions!

3. Find some reasonable ways to release those emotions!

Did you know that it's not a good idea to suppress your emotions? As Sigmund Freud said, "Suppressed emotions will eventually find a way to erupt in a more violent way."

Many people may cry to release their emotions. And there's nothing wrong with that! Crying is a way to release emotions, but it can only have a temporary effect. We can also use the following methods to release emotions:

If you're feeling pain, it's okay to let it out! You can write about your feelings and thoughts in a way that feels comfortable for you. It doesn't have to be perfect, just let it flow. You can also find someone you trust to talk to about your struggles.

If you need to get rid of pain, you can express your innermost feelings and thoughts in writing. It doesn't matter if your handwriting is messy or if your thoughts don't make sense, just let it all out! You can also find the right person to talk to, express your inner worries and stress, and at the same time feel the love and support of your friends.

If it's because you're not being your true self, it's time to start loving yourself again! Try to give yourself lots of positive attention and tell yourself nice things. You can also help yourself think more positively by reading books like "Identifying Yourself: Transcending Your Inherent Weaknesses", "Accepting Your Imperfections", and "Rebuilding Your Life".

If you're feeling sad because of someone, you can find the person you want to connect with, have a heart-to-heart, and express your needs to them. Only when we express our needs and feelings will our hearts feel less oppressed.

If you need to release some anger, you can do that through some strenuous exercise. Try boxing, running, kicking, etc. You can also use some stress balls, pounding pillows or sandbags, tearing paper, etc. And you can use the empty chair technique to release emotions. Just place an empty chair in the room, assume that the person you want to talk to is sitting in the chair, and then express your thoughts and feelings (including abuse and anger, etc.) to the chair as much as you like.

I really hope this helps! Wishing you all the best!

Hello, questioner. I hope this message finds you well.

It can be particularly challenging to reconcile feelings, as they are often more complex and nuanced than other conflicts we may face.

Indeed, emotions are a challenging subject to navigate. When negative emotions arise, it can be difficult to find a way to cope. Our rational mind may not always be able to fully suppress these emotions, and they can often linger within us.

1. Which individuals may be more susceptible to emotional challenges?

Emotional resilience is a psychological ability. It is important to recognize that everyone's emotional resilience is different. Some people are strong, while others are more vulnerable. Some people carry strong emotions for a long time, and it is not uncommon to experience a range of emotions. Some people may feel that life is not worth living when they experience even a slight emotional challenge, and it is understandable that this can be a painful experience.

It is also worth noting that we all have different sensitivities. Some people are naturally highly sensitive, while others are highly rational.

For those who are highly rational, life is often lived according to a sense of right and wrong. Having grown up with this way of thinking, they may find themselves wanting to eliminate negative emotions as soon as they appear, because these emotional experiences can sometimes cause discomfort.

2. Emotions are concepts that can be understood within the context of psychology. The emotional center is not in the cerebral cortex, but in the hypothalamus. In other words, the generation of emotions is not solely controlled by reason, but is also influenced by external events, perceptions of events, and our deeper inner desires.

From this perspective, it could be said that emotions are valuable and meaningful. If we were to consciously explore and perceive the meaning behind emotions, it might be the case that we would grow and be able to understand consciously and rationally what people and things make us feel and what emotions we feel.

When we become aware of this, it can be helpful for us to consider adjusting our current and past relationships.

3. It's important to remember that emotional problems are not something to be afraid of. By following the principles of how emotions arise, gradually recognizing these emotions and understanding the source of these emotions, we can find the key to controlling our emotions and become the master of our emotions, rather than being led by them and overwhelmed by them.

4. You mentioned your emotions. It seems that you feel that it is difficult to control them, and that their existence makes you feel very unhappy. It might be helpful to remember that emotions are subjective experiences and do not have a material nature.

Many people hope that there is a specific method that, once implemented, will make their emotions disappear immediately. While this may be a good idea in theory, it is unfortunately not a realistic or practical solution when dealing with emotional problems.

It is likely that the processing and reduction of emotions will gradually take place.

5. Emotions can be influenced by external factors and personal experiences. When we feel dissatisfied with the outside world, we may experience a range of emotions, including anger, frustration, and helplessness.

When we are dissatisfied with ourselves, we may also experience complex emotions such as low self-esteem, remorse, and resentment.

The external environment is subject to change according to our wishes. We always have the option of growing ourselves, challenging life, keeping a clear mind, avoiding the loss of opportunities, realizing our best potential, and creating our own life and way of living.

6. If, after trying some common methods, such as exercising, chatting, or asking for help, the emotions persist, it may be helpful to become aware of and understand the value and meaning of the emotions in order to facilitate personal growth.

You might consider trying mindfulness or meditation to gain insight into your inner thoughts and desires.

7. When emotions are particularly intense and overwhelming, it may be helpful to seek guidance from a counselor. A counselor can assist in navigating these emotions and promoting inner peace.