Every day is busy, yet I avoid doing things. What should I do?

Dear Sir/Madam, I hope my answer proves useful to you.

In today's fast-paced environment, it is not uncommon to feel overwhelmed by the demands of daily life. However, it is crucial to identify whether your avoidance of certain tasks is due to fatigue or a genuine difficulty in completing them. It is also important to assess whether the task in question is truly challenging or if your reluctance stems from an unwarranted sense of pressure.

Please find below my thoughts on the matter.

1. It is important to recognise that human energy is limited and that it is necessary to learn how to manage this energy effectively and use it wisely.

It is important to recognize that our energy is limited. When we allocate our energy to tasks that are not as critical, we risk depleting our resources for more important endeavors. Without sufficient energy, we may not be able to complete these crucial tasks, leading to frustration.

It is therefore important to manage our energy and complete important tasks when we are most alert and in the best spirits. For example, once these most important tasks have been completed in the morning, the resulting sense of achievement and positive feedback will provide energy for the whole day.

2. Should the key objectives prove challenging, it may be helpful to break them down into smaller, more manageable goals.

If these tasks are too challenging, you can divide the goal into smaller, more achievable steps. Research indicates that moderately difficult goals are the most effective in motivating inner drive.

If the objective is to jump 2,000 times a day, attempting to do so all at once will likely result in feelings of inability and significant resistance. However, if the goal is broken down into 10 jumps, with one jump per hour and 200 jumps per time frame, the individual will likely experience a shift in confidence and recognition with each completion.

3. Initiate the task by taking incremental steps and provide positive reinforcement to sustain continuous motivation.

Often, the most challenging aspect of undertaking a task is simply getting started. Once you have taken that initial step, you will often find that you are able to achieve more than you initially anticipated. To facilitate this process, we can utilise micro-actions to help ourselves get started on tasks. To illustrate this with an example, if you want to memorise an ancient poem, it is not realistic to expect to memorise it in its entirety at once. Instead, you can start by reading it, and then continue reading until you reach a point where you feel you can start to memorise it.

Once you have achieved your goal through your own efforts, it is important not to take it for granted. Instead, provide yourself with positive feedback, affirm your achievements, and appreciate your own efforts. This will help you to maintain continuous motivation.

Please refer to the above for further information. Best regards,

The questioner appears to be experiencing a conflict between two sets of emotions. On the one hand, they are extremely busy and do not allow themselves time to rest, indicating a continued desire for a sense of accomplishment. On the other hand, they are avoiding tasks that are essential to their responsibilities by engaging in activities that are not as pressing or important.

The question then becomes how to respond to a request for assistance from the questioner. It can be determined that the questioner is reluctant to make a clear and definitive choice. They are fearful of the responsibility that will be required of them after making a choice and the "challenging situations" that they are reluctant to address. This reluctance to make a decision is driven by a desire to avoid discomfort. Regardless of whether the questioner makes a clear choice or not, they have already made their own choice and are taking responsibility for it. This is analogous to the questioner's current discomfort being the most effective way to address it.

The questioner's decision to "choose nothing" has resulted in a clear and painful conflict within. Should the questioner opt to confront the necessary actions and cease avoidance, the resulting pressure would be lessened, and the conflict and pain would be reduced. Additionally, this approach would allow for enhanced cognitive development, improved practical abilities, and a boost in confidence.

The questioner must decide whether to continue avoiding the issue and suffer the consequences, or to confront it directly. If I were in that position, I would choose the latter. The problem may not be as significant as I believe, and I may be able to resolve it successfully.

Even if I am unable to resolve the issue immediately, I can seek assistance from others. It is a straightforward process. As long as you are willing to do so, there are always more solutions than challenges.

Hello, host!

I'm excited to help you and I'd love to hear your feedback!

Reading the question description, I can totally relate to the anxiety and helplessness of the poster. I want to give the poster a big, warm hug!

Before we dive into answering the original poster's question, let's explore two fascinating concepts: fact judgment and value judgment. Imagine taking an exam where there's a standard answer. If you were asked how tall you are, you could simply measure it and get an answer.

But when it comes to value judgments, there may be no standard answer! For example, if I say you are too tall.

This is a value judgment, and it's an exciting one! After all, everyone has a different standard for what it means to be tall.

I'm excited to explain these two concepts first, so that the poster can understand that our answer is actually based on our own understanding, our own experience, and our own values. Therefore, the perspective and direction of the answer, as well as the train of thought, are just meant to provide the poster with a tour. I hope the poster will not regard our answer as the standard answer, but rather as a springboard for their own creative thinking!

The original poster asked an interesting question: The original poster is very busy every day, but doesn't really get anything done. What does this mean? Does it mean that he keeps doing the things that other people want him to do? Or does it mean that he keeps putting things off? So this is a matter of value judgment. If you help someone else, of course they won't think you're not getting anything done.

Then there's the other problem, which we call procrastination. You need to start doing something, but in order not to do it, you find many other things to do, just to find an excuse. It's not that I don't want to do it, it's just that I don't have time.

Absolutely! We can lie to others with this kind of excuse, but we can't fool ourselves. So let's ask ourselves: what is the host avoiding when it comes to doing something that really needs to be done? According to psychology's explanation of procrastination, there are several fascinating psychological mechanisms. One mechanism is that it's too difficult to do, but they don't want to admit it because if they start doing it, they'll reveal that they can't do it.

Another fascinating explanation is identity anxiety. Let's consider an example. The original poster used to do something else, but suddenly needs to do something else, and this thing may change the current identity. Imagine this: if you are an employee and you do this kind of thing well, you can become a leader! This identity of a leader may be something you don't want, but it's an exciting possibility nonetheless.

Since the original poster didn't give us all the details, we've had to use our imagination to come up with some ideas.

There are so many books out there with amazing solutions!

For example, we can increase our self-awareness to know when we are avoiding doing what we should be doing. We can also accept the imperfect self we are now and celebrate that we are not yet so brave!

The most important thing is to do what needs to be done, to live with the anxiety and pain. If this is something we should do, and we know it is a bit difficult, but if it is needed, we still decide to do it and bear the anxiety and pain. We can just do a little less every day, as long as we persevere. The hardest part is often the beginning, but if we can start doing it and break the ice, we can do it!

And in the process of perseverance, we will see hope!

I really hope this helps! Every contribution is eager to be seen and to receive feedback from the host and other interested parties, as well as attention and likes (useful).