Feeling jealous when encountering a girl with higher education and better looks than you, is that sick?

Hello, question asker! I'm going to answer your question.

We all feel envious when we cannot attain something or envy someone else's success. If the emotion is stronger, it is jealousy. It is a normal phenomenon to experience these emotions. From the description of the questioner, it can be seen that the questioner's own education may not be very high. What is the questioner's education? Has the questioner thought about continuing to improve?

First, we will determine what jealousy is.

Jealousy is a complex emotion. It is a combination of several simple emotions.

Let's take anxiety, for example. Everyone talks about it, and it's a combination of fear, guilt, pain, and anger. Jealousy is similar. It includes anger, disgust, contempt (the three emotions that make up hostility), resentment, guilt, and self-blame.

It is important to understand that some people will wish for the disappearance or destruction of something they cannot have for their own protection (I don't have it, why should you have it, I can't have it, and neither can you). It is easy to become hostile. The questioner must understand why they feel jealous of people who are better or more beautiful than they are.

You want what they have, but you can't have it. So, how do you deal with this jealousy?

Accept your jealousy.

We can learn from it by doing so. We mustn't let jealousy take control of us. When faced with something you like, you can have a jealous emotion if you can't get it. This emotion isn't just you. It's others too.

Admit your emotions, but deny the behavior.

Admit the obvious facts, judgments, or emotions (denial is too fake, and attacking is too silly), add an additional item, and absolutely deny the tendency to act negatively. That is, admit the obvious characteristics under the aesthetic standards of the public, add an additional item, and absolutely deny that you would take action.

For example, you could say, "Who wouldn't be jealous of someone as beautiful as her? I would like to be jealous too, but she is so warm and generous that I like her very much and I'm not jealous."

Be aware of the discomfort that jealousy causes you.

This is an effective method for identifying jealousy. The sooner you recognize it, the more effectively you can redirect it into more positive emotions.

If you feel jealous, you can look at what kind of experience it brings you. The questioner mentioned in the article that they feel pain and disgust. These experiences make them think, "Jealousy only brings me bad experiences and physical discomfort. I don't want these experiences."

Be curious and ask yourself what our jealousy is really based on.

Use this jealousy to make life, work, and important decisions better, rather than shrinking from it. Face your emotions head-on and identify their source. What is the deep-seated expectation?

You need to ask yourself why you have these emotions. You also need to identify the expectations, wishes, and views behind them.

Be grateful.

Be grateful for any insight you gain from feelings of jealousy. Be grateful to those who make you feel jealous. They may motivate you to aspire to a better life and higher education. Be grateful to them for setting an example for you to follow.

Distinguish between malignant and benign feelings of jealousy.

This ability will help you handle and control your reaction to jealousy while holding onto your bottom line and values. A person who learns from the best will turn jealousy into motivation and resentment into appreciation and liking. The above words are true.

I am confident that my answer will be helpful to the questioner.

Good day, I have a question.

It is important to recognize that jealousy is a universal experience. Therefore, it is unnecessary to place undue psychological burdens on oneself.

I am confident that you possess a keen ability to observe and reflect on your own behavior, which is a valuable asset. We often say that the first step to change is awareness.

You have already taken the first step.

Through my own process of confronting jealousy, I discovered that the deeper reason for jealousy is due to an extreme lack of self-confidence, lack of self-recognition, and dislike of oneself. It is not that we envy others, but rather that we do not recognize ourselves and do not love ourselves. Therefore, it is important to build deep self-confidence, as this will help us to achieve our goals without succumbing to feelings of jealousy and defeat when faced with superior individuals.

It is important to understand what true self-confidence is. Self-confidence is not external; otherwise, it is akin to vanity, which is an endless pursuit. Self-confidence is internal, which means we examine our inner selves to gain a deeper understanding of our strengths and weaknesses. Once we have identified these aspects, we must accept them fully, recognizing that no one is perfect and that we all possess both strengths and weaknesses. This is the norm. If we excel in every aspect, what is our next objective? Is there only a downward slope?

I would like to hear your thoughts on this matter.

In the future, when we experience feelings of jealousy towards others, it is important to acknowledge and accept our own jealous behaviour. We should allow ourselves to feel these emotions and avoid labelling ourselves as being unwell for doing so. Instead, we should be open to recognising our shortcomings in this regard and compare them to the behaviour of others. This can help us to gain a more objective understanding of ourselves and our emotions. Admitting the truth can help us to feel more relaxed and improve our overall well-being. It is often the case that we suffer as a result of our reluctance to admit the truth. By being honest with ourselves, we can work towards positive and goal-oriented improvements.

It is important to recognize that nobody is perfect. Each of us is the most perfect version of ourselves right now. It is essential to acknowledge this and to affirm ourselves consistently. It is not necessary to wait for external affirmation, as this may not be a sustainable source of support. Even if I experience feelings of jealousy, I am still perfect. Instead of questioning my worth with "Am I sick?," it is important to recognize that this is also an act of not recognizing my imperfections. Do you see this? I wish you well and hope that you will soon recognize that you are the king of abundance, that you have everything you need, and that you are self-sufficient.

This is not a disease, my friend.

First of all, it's really important to view your own problems correctly. You are not sick, but this is just a manifestation of a low level of consciousness and a small mindset. Many people are like this, just varying in depth. You are also aware of these kinds of confusions, so it is still easy to change.

Let's talk about something really interesting! It's all about consciousness and energy fluctuations.

There are two types of people: leaders and led. And you know what? It doesn't matter whether you're the leader or the led. It has nothing to do with education, wealth, or appearance. It's all about energy. People with high energy produce a high vibration frequency, which affects people with low energy. This is what we usually refer to as a strong aura. So, people with high energy tend to become leaders, while people with low energy become led.

It's totally normal to feel like you have a low education and don't look as good as other people. These external factors can really contribute to feeling inferior. It's like you were already a person with low self-esteem, and when you encounter some unfavorable factors, you might make them seem even more negative, which can make you feel even more inferior. Inferiority is precisely negative energy, and your low-frequency energy can sometimes interfere with other people's high-frequency energy, making you feel uncomfortable and insecure. So you might feel the need to protect yourself through jealousy and self-blame.

Inner abundance, outer abundance

How can you overcome your inferiority complex and boost your inner energy? You are the only one who can change yourself, and I'm here to help!

Everything around you is a reflection of your inner world. You can't change your appearance because it's a reflection. But don't worry! You can change the source of the reflection, which is to change your heart.

First, you have to accept yourself. It is relatively easy to stop blaming yourself from this moment on. You have to tell yourself that your degree is only a testament to your past learning achievements, and it has nothing to do with whether you will be successful in the future and whether you will be happy. If you look at those successful entrepreneurs, how many of them have a high degree? And those professional managers, they all have a high degree, but aren't they all working for the boss?

Take a look at history and you'll see that Liu Bang, Liu Bei, and Zhu Yuanzhang all came from humble backgrounds. But they succeeded because they had inner strength!

I know it can be tough, but I promise you, as long as you figure it out, stop belittling yourself, and stop living with inferiority complexes, your jealousy will slowly disappear.

I'm here to tell you the fastest way to boost your energy is to let a dream rise up in you, so that it becomes a beacon, illuminating every corner of your life. It guides you forward and spurs you on.

When you're walking on the road of your dreams, you'll never get lost. And you won't be hurt by the rumors that come along the way, either!

I'm sending you lots of love and blessings!

Hello.

I am in a position to offer you some advice.

Let me be clear: your situation is not a disease, and you should not blame yourself too much. Everyone has certain expectations of themselves, and they all want to be excellent and good, and to be praised in the eyes of others.

In reality, we all have different strengths. We may think we are good at something, but others may disagree.

But we shouldn't let others' opinions stop us from pursuing our goals.

Given your situation, we must address the underlying issue. You have expressed feelings of inferiority regarding your education, indicating a sense of inadequacy. Is your educational level a bachelor's degree or a specialist degree?

This low bar doesn't mean that other people's expectations of you are low. It means you have a standard for yourself that you feel is not excellent because you have not reached it. There is a fundamental difference between these two things.

If you want to get a bachelor's degree or a postgraduate degree but you're not good at your studies, don't blame yourself. Everyone develops differently. Just because you're not good at your studies doesn't mean you'll be unqualified for a job.

You may say that nowadays many jobs require a 985 or 211 school background or a master's degree or higher. But I am here to tell you that if we look at the bright side of things, there are plenty of suitable jobs for us.

I am certain that we can find a job that suits you if we look carefully.

You need to know what suits you. Start by being self-aware. What are your strengths?

Tell me about your specialty. What subjects did you study, and why?

Tell me about your future career plans. You need to think this through carefully.

Don't let your educational background deny you a chance at success. Use your strengths and characteristics to find a job that suits you.

Another thing is that every time you see a very pretty girl, you feel envious and jealous. You know deep down that feeling jealous is not right, but you scold yourself for it every time. Don't blame yourself.

You want to be good and perfect. You don't want others to say you're bad or reject you. You think you don't have a very high level of education, so you feel guilty. You see girls who are prettier than you and you feel jealous.

When I see a pretty girl, I want to know if she thinks she's pretty because other people think she's pretty, or if she genuinely thinks she's pretty. If it's the latter, it's because she appreciates her own beauty, not because she's insecure and jealous.

What is considered beautiful in terms of appearance? It is largely influenced by certain stereotypes in today's society. Just as Yang Guifei in the Tang Dynasty was considered beautiful because she was fat, nowadays we prefer someone who is thinner with bigger eyes. If we do not possess these characteristics, we will be considered not beautiful.

Once you understand this, you'll see that beauty and ugliness depend on how we define ourselves, not on how others see us.

We can choose to accept how others see us, and we must also objectively analyze whether it is consistent with our true situation. We should not blindly believe that the other person is always right. It's like when we give advice to others: we are only giving suggestions, but whether the other person adopts them or not also depends on their actual situation.

This comes from our respect for each other.

You don't need to worry about your academic qualifications or appearance. Just be yourself and you'll be fine.

I wish you the best.

If you want to continue communicating, click "Find a coach" in the upper right corner or bottom, and I will communicate with you one-on-one.

One Psychology Q&A Community, World, and I Love You: https://m.xinli001.com/qa

Hello, questioner. This article explores the human mind and I am confident it will help.

We all live together in a shared humanity. This means that the qualities others have are all present in us, including the jealousy we are going to discuss today.

Jealousy is a characteristic, and envying others is a psychological reaction. It is a normal psychological reaction. We must analyze it and sort it out.

We must stop using "morality" as a catch-all term for anything we don't like. It's wrong to be jealous of others, but we shouldn't throw it into the basket of immorality without recognizing it.

If so, we will become hypocritical, and our self-development and interpersonal relationships will suffer as a result. Let's analyze why it is said that being jealous of others is a normal psychological state, and not admitting it is hypocritical:

From the perspective of evolutionary psychology, being jealous of others is a normal psychological reaction. Every emotional reaction in humans is conducive to human survival and reproduction. Our emotions such as anxiety and anger seem negative, but they are our protective mechanisms throughout our long evolutionary history.

Anxiety is another example. Without it, humans would be blind to potential stress and danger. The same is true of jealousy. It urges individuals to surpass their peers and compete for limited resources to gain the opportunity to survive and reproduce.

We must recognize that being jealous of others is a normal psychological state. It is a psychological reaction that is in each of our bones, left over from evolution.

We only envy those around us, never those far away.

It's clear that we're jealous of those around us, those who are similar to us, and even those who are far away. We envy them, but we don't feel jealous.

For example, we may be jealous of our classmates who do well in exams and are smart, or of colleagues in the same office who are highly capable and appreciated by their leaders, and have been promoted many times.

We don't feel jealous when a teenager in Shanghai always gets first place in exams, and we don't feel jealous when an employee of a Fortune 500 company in the United States is repeatedly promoted by their leader.

This is also related to evolutionary psychology. People who are far away from us pose no threat, so we don't perceive their intelligence, wisdom, strength, or wealth as a big deal.

However, if someone close to you is stronger than you, it can easily pose a threat to you. In such cases, it is normal to feel jealous.

3. It is normal to be jealous of others, but it is not normal to envy them.

Let me be clear: there is a term in psychoanalytic psychology called "envy." This term is different from jealousy. They are two different things. Jealousy means that I envy you, so I try hard to get what you have. I surpass you, for example, by improving myself or buying something better than you. But envy is different. It's when your things are so good, I don't have them, and I assume that I can't get them at all, so I want to destroy them.

In our lives, many psychological counseling cases seem similar to jealousy. Upon analysis, however, they are not jealousy, but "jealousy." For example:

1. In the relationship between a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the mother-in-law's jealousy of her daughter-in-law is, in fact, jealousy.

The client, Wang Ning (pseudonym), has been married for a year and sought counsel because of her strained relationship with her mother-in-law. She made it clear to the counselor that her relationship with her mother-in-law was very bad and that her mother-in-law consistently made things difficult for her.

However, her mother-in-law is kind to everyone. Everyone says that her mother-in-law is a good person. Her lover once told her that her mother-in-law had suffered a lot in the past and had been "bullied" by her own mother-in-law, so she had a very hard time in the past.

Many people believe this is simply the mother-in-law being jealous of the daughter-in-law. However, a psychological analysis reveals this is not jealousy, but "jealousy."

This mother-in-law is undoubtedly thinking:

I had a hard time back then, and I finally made it to where I am now. I worked for it, and I earned it. Why should you have such a good situation so easily, without having experienced the difficulties I did? I can't go back to the good old days, so I'll ruin this good situation you have to make you understand how hard it was for me.

This is clearly a case of "jealousy," a psychological phenomenon. If jealousy is a normal psychological state, then "jealousy" is not. Jealousy makes a person want to surpass others. "Jealousy," on the other hand, makes a person want to destroy and harm others, which is obviously immoral.

In workplace relationships, jealousy between colleagues is jealousy.

Furthermore, this phenomenon is common in other relationships, such as workplace relationships, and is very similar to jealousy.

Some people see their colleagues as more capable and get promoted or have a pay rise more quickly. Rather than working hard to surpass them, they make things difficult and try to "make life difficult" so that they fail to get a pay rise or promotion.

This is not normal jealousy. It is a kind of "jealousy," and it is wrong. We resist it because it harms others without benefiting ourselves.

4. People with a strong sense of morality are hypocritical if they admit to being jealous of others.

Let's be clear: "jealousy" of others is immoral, but jealousy is not. As we've already established, jealousy of others is a normal psychological state.

It is clear that many people still do not admit to being jealous of others, especially those with a particularly strong sense of morality. They believe, at the mental level, that being jealous of others is immoral.

Admitting to being jealous of others is admitting to being an immoral person. It makes them feel ashamed, so they are reluctant to admit it.

But not admitting it does not make it go away. Jealousy is a normal psychological state, so it will appear from time to time. They may not admit it, but it will show up, which will trigger a psychological conflict and make them feel very uncomfortable.

Let me be clear: blindly pursuing high morals can easily turn someone into a hypocrite. In real life, we can indeed see some people who seek fame and fortune, and are unwilling to admit their true inner responses.

Some people who don't admit to being jealous of others are actually being hypocritical. We don't want to be like that. We want to be open and honest.

Admit it. Be open about it.

As we can see from the above discussion, being jealous of others is a normal psychological state. You should admit your jealousy openly as long as you are not "envious" of others.

Admitting your jealousy is the best way to avoid internal conflict and unease. It will also be good for you, your relationships and those around you.

For example, there is such an example:

Zhang and Wang are colleagues working for the same company. Zhang is very capable at work, so Wang is jealous of him. At a company dinner, Wang tells Zhang in front of everyone that he is jealous of him.

Tell Zhang loudly that he will work hard and surpass him sooner or later. Zhang laughs heartily after hearing what Wang says, saying that he welcomes such competition and that everyone admires Wang's honesty and approves of him even more.

We must acknowledge this normal psychology and use it as a driving force to surpass others and develop ourselves.

If we don't acknowledge it, it will damage our physical and mental health, damage our interpersonal relationships, and turn us into a hypocritical person.

It's not a sickness.

People envy others. It's an instinct.

Maybe you envy others' education or appearance.

But wherever you do well or excel, or even if you feel mediocre,

Someone might envy you too.

They might envy your job, family, parents, siblings, boyfriend, or lottery win.

Or you may be tall or thin, or you may have done something well or made a mistake.

You just don't know.

It doesn't matter if you envy others or not. They might still envy you.

If we feel this way, it doesn't mean we have a problem.

We may also despise, look down on, and envy.

Like and dislike, envy, and jealousy.

This is natural. It's how you think when you feel this way.

You want to eat when you're hungry and wear clothes when it's cold.

It's an instinctive reaction.

Don't suppress your feelings.

You can control how much you eat and how much clothing you wear.

How you feel, what you do, and what you do.

You can control it.

For example:

Respect is fleeting.

Or work hard to change.

Keep studying and taking exams until you achieve your goals.

For example:

If other people look good, you will want to know what makes them look good.

Is skin care and makeup really necessary?

Eating less and moving more is fine.

When you care and envy others, it's because you don't have it yet.

If it's not something others have, such as appearance or education,

What about competition?

If you have enough ability, you have the same chance of getting something. If you earn it, you get it. Will you still envy others?

You're the winner. You're satisfied with what you have, so you're not jealous of others.

He doesn't have it, and you do.

How do you win? How do you feel satisfied?

It's up to you.

You can lower your expectations and desires.

You can improve what you have or strive for more.

If you're unhappy with others because you don't have what you want, find a way to get it and go for it.

It's better than self-torture.

It's okay to envy someone and want to become like them.

You have to go, change, work hard, and do something.

You can do things without hurting others or yourself.

Life: the more you put in, the more you get out.

You reap what you sow.

If you plant confusion, you'll reap self-affliction.

This is a reference and may be helpful.

Hello, dear questioner! I'm so happy to have this chance to chat with you about a topic that I think is really important: Is it wrong to feel jealous when you meet a girl with a higher education and a better appearance than you?

We all have a little bit of envy in us, and that's okay!

It's okay, we all have things we're not so great at. Education is a tricky one, though. You might feel like you don't have a very high level of education, and you have always suffered from this. But every year, this topic just won't go away. This shows that most of the people around you have relatively high levels of education. When you're with them, you'll unconsciously compare your disadvantage of "not having a very high level of education" with them. As the saying goes, "Absence of comparison is absence of harm." So, you feel pain about your not-very-high level of education. But here's the thing: every one of us, whether subjectively or objectively, will have something that is inferior to others.

It doesn't matter if you're a boy or a girl, it can be a bit uncomfortable when someone next to you says you have a high level of education. We all care a lot about our education, don't we?

I've got a couple of suggestions for you. I think you'll find them helpful! It is suggested that adjustments can be made in the following two ways:

1. Be good at discovering your own strengths. It's okay if your education level isn't as high as others. What matters is your work ability or life ability. Recognize your own strengths and work on your weaknesses. You've got this!

2. If you feel like your education is a bit of a weakness, don't worry! You can always pursue further education to stay in a learning state. And improving your education is definitely something to consider.

It's totally normal to feel envious or jealous when you see a pretty girl. We all want to be beautiful, and when we see someone who is, we can't help but admire them. But there's more to a person than their looks. Everyone has their own set of advantages and disadvantages. Being pretty might be one advantage for a girl, but there are many others. We're all unique, and I believe you are special too. While we might envy others, they might also admire us.

Of course, we all feel pain or disgust at our own actions and thoughts sometimes. It's totally normal! We just need to adjust our state of mind and the best way to do that is to live a life that makes us feel comfortable.

Good day.

When it comes to the issue of not having a particularly high level of education, I often find that when I mention my education, I feel a certain degree of discomfort. Similarly, I sometimes experience feelings of envy when I see other individuals who I perceive to be more attractive or charismatic. These feelings of discomfort, envy and jealousy serve as a reminder that these are the things we care about, the things we want for ourselves, and the expectations we have of ourselves.

At the same time, it may also indicate a certain level of discontent, a lack of acceptance, and a discrepancy between your current circumstances and your aspirations.

When faced with an explanation, we have the option of thinking in two different directions. We can either dwell on uncomfortable emotions and feelings, letting ourselves live in envy and jealousy of others, or we can accept the real self in the present and strive towards the direction we want, to get everything we want.

First of all, regarding academic qualifications, it is important to remember that just like many people who envy others for having a higher academic qualification after graduating from university, or many people who have not attended university, there is always the option of improving one's academic qualifications later in life.

There are two possible avenues to consider. One is the academic qualifications needed for your job, and the other is your personal requirements for yourself, which are your feelings and knots. It would be beneficial to determine whether you truly desire to identify an appropriate avenue, seize the opportunity to enhance your academic qualifications, and obtain tangible certificates and diplomas, or if you simply wish to address and release your feelings and knots about your academic qualifications.

Additionally, it might be helpful to consider ways of enhancing your self-confidence and self-identity, particularly in relation to how you perceive other girls who are very pretty and have a lot of charisma.

I agree with you that before the age of 25, our appearance and temperament are largely determined by our parents and are often seen as fixed traits. However, after the age of 25, our personal growth and experiences shape our unique appearance and temperament. It's important to recognize that we have the power to cultivate our strengths and become the best versions of ourselves.

Hello, question asker!

From what you've shared, it seems like these feelings are something you experience annually. It's evident that you're actively seeking to express them here.

I can appreciate the pain and anxiety you feel when these emotions take over. I hope my answer will help you gain a deeper understanding of these feelings.

I would like to take a moment to address the topic of jealousy.

It might be helpful to think of jealousy as one of the feelings we experience when our needs are not being met.

It may be the case that when we express jealousy, we are actually expressing a need of our own.

Perhaps it would be helpful to identify your underlying need.

It might be helpful to take a moment to recognize and acknowledge the underlying need that jealousy is trying to express.

It might be helpful to actively seek ways and means to satisfy this need.

It may be the case that when our needs are met, the negative feelings will slowly subside.

Could I respectfully propose that we consider the story behind the jealousy?

From the description in the text, it seems that the other person has a higher education than you and the other girl is prettier than you.

It can be challenging to discern the narrative behind our emotions. The significance of jealousy is often shaped by the story we tell ourselves, rather than solely by the emotion itself.

If I may, I would like to invite you to consider the following:

Could I ask what belief jealousy might express?

Could I respectfully inquire as to its source?

I would like to take this opportunity to be as honest as I can be.

In your article, you mention that when you are consumed by jealousy, you also feel conflicted and self-blame, and that you are unable to face yourself.

Admitting to your jealousy is a courageous act. It demonstrates that you are willing to confront your own contradictions and conflicts.

Perhaps if we can admit to feeling jealous, we could try talking to a friend about it.

For instance, I must admit that I do feel a little envious.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider that...

Perhaps honesty could bring about a different change in our state of mind.

In honest communication, we can gain the insight that not only do others possess strengths and advantages, but we ourselves also have strengths and advantages.

If we take the time to recognize our own strengths and accept our weaknesses,

Perhaps, then, we can begin to see that jealousy is not necessarily a terrible thing that cannot be tolerated.

I hope my answer has been helpful. Thank you for your question.

Hello, Questioner. I can sense your self-blame from your description. Allow me to extend a warm embrace.

1.

It is only natural to experience feelings of envy and jealousy when we observe another individual's beauty. It is also natural to aspire to attain a similar level of beauty. However, feelings of jealousy can lead to a loss of equilibrium and a decline in happiness.

2.

When we observe an individual who is exceptionally attractive, we express our admiration for their appearance.

He has invested in a range of attractive initiatives in the past, and is now reaping the benefits. We are pleased for him and look forward to seeing his continued success.

When we adopt this mindset, we can expect to become beautiful in the future. Why?

By rejoicing in his admirable undertaking, we can achieve a result as commendable as his.

3.

It is only natural to feel a sense of discomfort when we observe that others have achieved a higher level of education than ourselves. This is a normal human emotion. We all possess a desire to excel and outperform others. However, it is important to maintain a positive mindset and celebrate the achievements of others. By doing so, we can achieve a greater sense of inner peace.

4.

It is possible to enhance the quality of education. However, is this a pressing concern? It does not appear to be a significant issue. What tends to evoke feelings of envy is the presence of individuals who are not far behind in terms of their capabilities. Conversely, when the gap between oneself and others is considerable, it is not envy but rather a sense of inadequacy that arises.

Ultimately, ability is the key to success in the business world. Hard work, dedication, a willingness to learn, and a positive attitude will also contribute to success.

5.

The world is splendid precisely because of our differences. These differences allow us to live out our own unique brilliance. I am me, a unique me. I encourage you to live out your own value.

The achievements of others have no bearing on your own performance.

I would like to extend my congratulations to you on your success. I hope that my sharing has been of some assistance and inspiration to you. I encourage you to continue your success.

Hello, questioner. You are simply envious of others.

Let me tell you what jealousy is. It is commonly known as "red-eye disease, jealousy, or being jealous of others' success." Jealousy, in terms of internal feelings, is initially manifested as a sense of pressure from comparison to disappointment; in the medium term, it is manifested as a psychological sense of frustration from shame to humiliation; in the later stage, it is manifested as an outburst of behavior from dissatisfaction to resentment and hatred.

Jealousy is a complex emotion that includes anxiety, fear, sadness, suspicion, shame, self-blame, depression, disgust, hostility, resentment, and other unpleasant psychological states. It can be directed at another person's natural figure, appearance, and intelligence, which become apparent day by day. It can also be directed at other factors related to social evaluation, such as honor, status, achievements, wealth, and prestige.

What is education, anyway?

Academic qualifications refer to a person's learning experience and usually refer to a diploma obtained after completing or graduating from school. In practical life and work, it refers to the final and highest level of academic qualification. Academic qualifications that have been approved by the education administration department and implemented by schools and other educational institutions with recognized national diploma issuing authority are used as proof.

You may feel that your education is inferior to others, which makes you envious. But you need to consider a matter of ability.

What is ability?

Education is just a stepping stone. It's not just about learning knowledge. It's also about dealing with social problems, work, handling family relationships, and so on. These are all very important abilities. A high degree doesn't necessarily mean high ability.

So when you envy or are jealous of someone else's higher education, they may also envy your ability to get along with people. Don't envy others. Work hard to improve your abilities.

Good day,

I would really like to give you a hug.

You mentioned that you were aware it was not the right thing to do, but we cannot control our thoughts. I am currently experiencing a great deal of distress and unease. Would you recommend seeking professional help?

I feel compelled to reassure the questioner that this is not a disease; it is simply human nature.

I recently came across this story.

I spent 30,000 yuan on a watch, but my father shared with the relatives that I had only spent 300 yuan on it.

I am a 211, a graduate student from a 985 key university, and I earn 500,000 yuan a year at the age of 30. My father often mentions that the city is stressful, that consumption is high, that money is spent everywhere, that the house was bought on credit, that he is busy every day without a break, that life is tight, and that money is needed everywhere.

It was challenging to extend an invitation to relatives for a home-cooked meal. During the dinner, my Flying Sky was discreetly placed aside by my father, who instead served Luzhou Laoxi liquor, priced at over 100 yuan. While the liquor may not have been to my liking, the relatives seemed to enjoy it.

I was not at my happiest during the entire meal. On our way home, my father kindly offered some words of wisdom: "One day you will understand that in this world, there will always only be a few people who are happy because you are doing well, and no one truly hopes that you will do better than they are."

It would be interesting to know what inspiration this story might offer the questioner. It is worth noting that, throughout history, there have been numerous instances where famous people have turned against their teachers and apprentices, driven by feelings of jealousy and resentment.

For instance, we might consider the cases of Sun Bin and Pang Juan, or David and Faraday.

It might be said that everyone experiences jealousy to some extent, but it is generally accepted that some people are jealous without being hurtful.

It would seem that the questioner is not jealous of others and is not suffering from any illness.

It would be beneficial to approach jealousy in a constructive manner.

First and foremost, it is essential to treat ourselves with kindness and understanding.

Everyone has both strengths and weaknesses. It is important to be able to recognize both in ourselves and to understand them well.

While academic qualifications may not be our strong suit, we may have a knack for interpersonal relationships.

Perhaps the next step would be to try to put ourselves in other people's shoes.

It may be helpful to observe ourselves from the perspective of a third party and view problems from multiple angles. This could potentially transform feelings of jealousy into a learning or goal-setting experience.

In conclusion, it is important to ensure that our feelings of jealousy remain within an acceptable range.

I hope my answer proves useful to the questioner.

Thank you for your time. I am Jiusi, on Yixinli, World and I Love You.

Hello!

Let me be clear: jealousy is not a disease!

It's normal to be jealous of girls with higher qualifications than you. Many people feel this way.

The main reason is that universal values consider a high level of education to be a sign of excellence and therefore of success.

The reality is that there are plenty of examples to prove this is not the case.

You can still feel a sense of accomplishment from your work and enjoy the happiness in life even if you don't have a high level of education.

So, let me ask you again: is it really just a high level of education that you're jealous of?

You also say you envy pretty girls and get jealous. This is a very common phenomenon.

I am certain that if you had a choice, almost all men would want to look handsome and all women would want to look stunning.

But let's be real. Most of us are ordinary people, neither strikingly handsome nor stunningly beautiful. So, how do we make our lives enjoyable?

Apart from looks, we also have many personality traits that are unique to us: such as bravery, strength, modesty, perseverance, hard work, kindness, etc. We are complete people because of the combination of these inner qualities and our external appearance.

What inner qualities do you possess? How do those qualities combine to make you who you are?

You envy others, which shows you have high moral standards and kind qualities.

Accept your own thoughts and allow yourself to be jealous. But don't let jealousy control you and turn you into someone you don't like.

Be the best version of yourself, use your strengths, and live your life to the fullest. Don't let jealousy stand in the way of your success.

My name is Fangyuan, and I am a psychological counselor. I wish you all the best!

Hello, questioner!

I'm Liu Hongyan, a listener.

I can see you're distressed and I empathize with you. I feel pain and self-hatred for having such emotions as jealousy.

I just want to say that jealousy is a specific emotion that we all experience at one time or another.

We typically categorize emotions into nine groups: fear, anger, disgust, sadness, shame, guilt, jealousy, love, and joy.

Every emotion serves a specific purpose. Anger, for instance, motivates us to confront challenges or avoid them altogether. Sadness encourages us to prioritize self-care and seek assistance when needed.

Jealousy is when someone threatens to take away something we value, so we protect what we have. It also shows our desire to have what they have.

So, when you see someone else with a higher degree and surrounded by beautiful girls, you can see what we need.

Here are a few ways you can deal with jealousy:

1) First, recognize that you're feeling jealous and think about what you really want.

2) The second step is to admit when you're feeling jealous and free yourself from the negative feelings that come with it.

3) The third step is to accept that you're jealous, learn to live with it, and face it head-on to see what it's really about.

4) The fourth step is to transform envy and improve oneself, so that one has the motivation to move forward. As I mentioned earlier, the reason we envy others is often because we lack something we want. So, if we can see this and work hard to obtain what we want through real actions, in the process constantly discovering our own strengths or creating our own advantages to improve ourselves, envy may well disappear.

5) The fifth step is to accept others and have the wisdom to love. First, we accept ourselves, let go of jealousy, and view others with a calm mind. Even if we encounter someone who is better than us, we won't envy them. We'll change our perspective and avoid comparing ourselves to others, especially avoiding the trap of comparing ourselves to others.

I hope this helps and inspires you!

I love the world and you!

Dear questioner,

I am the wind of June, and I feel your pain. But I am also comforted by your self-awareness!

Let's dive into your narrative and explore the fascinating topic of jealousy. Jealousy is a complex emotion that arises when we compare ourselves to others and realize that we're not as good as they are. It's a natural human instinct that can manifest in many different ways, including anxiety, fear, sadness, suspicion, shame, self-blame, depression, aversion, hostility, resentment, and revenge. Understanding jealousy is essential for navigating relationships and life in general.

This is a human instinct, and it's totally reasonable!

(Baidu General Medicine)

We can also simply understand it as the greatest pain in life is not one's own failure, but the success of others. Jealousy makes people crazy, and it is targeted, persistent, and confrontational.

Guess what? The appearance and intelligence of others are the first targets of jealousy! And social honors such as others' honor, status, and achievements are also easy targets of jealousy.

Let's dive into the world of jealousy and explore its negative effects!

Shakespeare said, "Beware of jealousy, it is a green-eyed monster!" Jealous people cannot tolerate the excellence of others and may resort to various methods to destroy it. Some fabricate rumors and slander, while others use illegal means. They are inferior and gloomy, and they cannot enjoy the beauty of life, which may lead to physical pain.

What a person is jealous of also indicates where their inferiority complex lies, and thus where their self-esteem lies, and in turn where the goals they may pursue lie. Therefore, a lot of "jealousy" can be directed towards the right goals and directions, or it can be used to motivate a person to improve themselves and show themselves off—it's a great motivator!

The POX model of Heid's balance theory offers some amazing ways to change your relationship with jealousy.

?1. Have a correct understanding of the value of life!

Having the right values in life is a fantastic way to get rid of all selfish thoughts, be open-minded, not care about immediate gains and losses, and not spend time and energy envying the success of others. Instead, you can realize the value of life through your own positive efforts!

?2. Embrace your strengths and celebrate them!

"Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses." It's totally understandable that you may not be as good as others in some areas.

So, let's recognize our strengths, face up to our weaknesses, explore our potential, constantly improve ourselves, and strive to change the status quo!

3. Deal with jealousy correctly. Jealousy is a denial of oneself, a threat to oneself, and damages one's own interests and "face." But there's a way to turn this around!

A person's success depends not only on their own efforts, but also on the help of everyone! Jealousy only harms both the envious person and the person being envied.

Turn an enemy into a friend and achieve a win-win situation with the other party!

It's not realistic to think you're always going to be better than everyone else. We all have different strengths and weaknesses. The key is to like and accept yourself, but also recognize the strengths of others. This is the best way to turn jealousy into healthy competition and improve yourself!

There's a fascinating law in psychology that says when everyone is good, everyone is really good!

5. Get motivated and run faster!

When the other person is better than you, it's a great opportunity to grow and become stronger! It allows you to realize your full potential when under pressure.

6. Self-soothing and distraction!

When we become aware of jealousy, we should seize the opportunity to turn it into something positive! We can do this by actively participating in various beneficial cultural and sports activities or doing things that interest us to divert the expansion of the jealousy.

Change your self-perception and your life will finally bloom! Positive jealousy is your driving force.

I love you, world! And I love you, too! ?

Dear Question Asker, Reading your words evokes the experience of meeting someone in person. I perceive a sense of envy towards others and a painful inability to attain one's desired outcomes. This emotional state is not uncommon, but the crucial aspect is how we respond to it.

Envy is a common emotion that arises when we observe others possessing what we desire. This emotion can manifest in two distinct ways: negative envy, which motivates us to destroy what others have, and positive envy, which encourages us to emulate others and strive for self-improvement.

Both envy and jealousy can elicit hostile behaviors or attitudes toward the object of one's envy or jealousy. In extreme cases, these emotions can manifest as a desire to harm or even destroy the other person. This phenomenon is commonly referred to as "what I can't get, no one else can get either."

The original poster, it is important to note that your experiences are not anomalous. The impulses and pain caused by jealousy that you are experiencing are a result of the human brain. In fact, jealousy is just as common an emotion as human love and fear. Jealousy itself is not a bad thing; it is simply part of human nature. There is no need to feel ashamed of your jealous thoughts.

Firstly, honesty with oneself represents an essential preliminary step towards assuming responsibility for one's actions.

Although one cannot always control one's thoughts, one can take responsibility for one's actions and their consequences.

Furthermore, jealousy can be indicative of a robust sense of self-esteem, and it is possible that you are unable to tolerate inequitable treatment. It is essential to acknowledge one's shortcomings and to recognize that jealousy serves as a form of self-preservation, safeguarding against betrayal.

It is important to recognize that feelings of jealousy can actually enhance one's abilities, rather than being a hindrance.

I extend my best wishes to you.

The world and I love you.

As the title indicates, the issue of education is of particular concern. I do not possess a high level of education, and I have experienced significant personal challenges as a result. However, the topic inevitably resurfaces annually. When I encounter individuals who have attained a superior level of education, I often feel a sense of inferiority and distress.

Furthermore, upon observing an attractive female in the physical realm, I experience feelings of envy and jealousy. I am aware that this is an inappropriate response and, as a result, I berate myself mentally.

Nevertheless, I am unable to resist feelings of envy. This is a source of considerable distress and self-loathing.

What is the appropriate course of action to address this affliction?