How can I influence my newlywed wife to have a religious belief?

Hello, my name is Strawberry!

I can relate to the questioner's confessions and troubles. I've been there! It's like when you learn something new and it makes your life better. You understand yourself better and have a different attitude towards everything. You want to share this beneficial knowledge with the people around you, especially your new wife.

The questioner's wife doesn't have any religious beliefs. You think that if she did, she'd be better at being kind to people and keeping the family together. I think that's a great idea! Even if she doesn't have any religious beliefs, she can still do what you say. She married you, and you have these beliefs. If she spends a long time with you, she'll learn them too. So it doesn't matter if she needs to join a religion or not.

I'd love to know how I can use a systematic approach to influence my wife to believe in Buddhism or Taoism.

1. Try to communicate.

Everyone is an independent individual, and we have the right to choose our own affairs. The questioner's thoughts can actually be explained to his wife through communication, and then he can listen to her own thoughts.

If she's open to it, it shows that the questioner's dedication can make an impact. If not, that's okay too! We all have our own paths to follow. That's why the questioner was drawn to his wife and decided to tie the knot.

Second, it's important to accept that everyone has different ideas and beliefs.

Maybe after talking, the questioner's wife felt like his ideas were a bit unusual. It's true that how kind someone is has little to do with religion. But it's always good to spend time with people who think similarly to you!

If your wife thinks differently and doesn't accept your advice, that's okay! We all think differently and see things in our own way. Accepting that others think differently from you doesn't mean you're wrong.

It's so important for couples to have things they enjoy together, but if they don't, there are always other things they can enjoy together too!

3. Empathy

I'm sure you'll agree that it's great that the original poster chose his wife! And before you got married, you also knew whether each other had religious beliefs or not. So, since the original poster chose his wife, he naturally can accept her lack of religious beliefs.

Just put yourself in their shoes for a moment. If you have religious beliefs, would your wife ever try to make you give them up? These days, lots of couples have different religious beliefs, but they can all accept each other's beliefs and won't force one person to follow their own.

So, take a step back and look at the situation from a different angle. You'll see that this is actually a great opportunity for you and your partner to chat about it together.

I really hope my answer helps the original poster. All the best!

Hello, I'm Gu Yi, modest and consistent, and I'm thrilled to be here with you today!

People have faith, nations have hope, and countries have strength!

Faith usually doesn't have a big impact on ordinary people, but it can have a profound impact on people when it comes to important matters or long-term perseverance. So, the first thing about faith is freedom, and the second is influence—and that's something to get excited about!

It's not important whether a person can be kind or maintain this relationship with their beliefs.

The wonderful thing about faith is that it can influence people in so many different ways. Not everyone who has faith is necessarily kind, and not everyone who doesn't have faith is necessarily unkind.

So, there's no need for the questioner to dwell on this!

You're studying philosophy yourself, which is great because it'll broaden your horizons! If you want to be on the same wavelength as your wife, you can influence her through your personal strength.

Most love is based on understanding, which is great news! First, we should tell our wives stories about this in our daily lives, so that they are not unfamiliar with what you believe in and have some understanding of what you love.

Secondly, faith can help and change you. Everyone will become better and better because of the things they love. It is the advertisement of your own beliefs. Your change will be the most profound experience for your wife. If you benefit, your wife will naturally be interested as well.

3. Belief is a spiritual culture that requires a long period of accumulation. Don't worry! It is said that couples who have lived together for a long time will develop a couple's appearance, and this is actually more scientifically based.

I really hope that under your influence, your wife will share your love!

Wishing you the best!