How can you tell if you really don't like your major or if it's just an escape?

Hello, question asker.

I'm happy to talk about choosing a major in college with you here. When you're making a choice, you suddenly lose the criteria for judgment. It seems like everyone has a valid point, and there seems to be a paradox between these points. It's not just choosing the longest one from a pile of sticks. Weighing the pros and cons is really quite difficult. It's been twenty years since I graduated from college. When I took the college entrance exam, I was really quite random when it came to choosing a major.

Our education system has one way of evaluating students, which is faster, better, and more effective. But people aren't machines. Work isn't the only thing in life. Our work relationships affect our lives. When we were in high school, our goal was to get into college. But after college, our goals can't be measured by the standard of "more money, less work, and closer to home."

Sometimes it seems like choosing a career is all about logic, but when it comes down to it, your emotions can play a big part. Your mindset and overall state of mind can have a significant impact.

What you feel is most important at the moment will naturally influence your decision.

When I took the college entrance exam, I was originally offered a place at Shaanxi Normal University for a combined bachelor's and master's degree. My family wanted me to go to medical or teacher training college, but I'd wanted to be an entrepreneur since I was a kid. At the time, I read a magazine article about a girl who graduated from an agricultural university and went back to her village to start a pig farm, making her neighbors rich. My mom thought I should get away from farming, though, so I ended up at China Textile University (now Donghua University) and worked in the garment industry for over ten years. It wasn't worth it. I also got into traditional culture and some family problems made me leave the industry. I was a bit idealistic. I then tried the traditional Chinese medicine industry, and now I'm in counseling.

I can only say that different times call for different measures. There's no right or wrong, and life is unlikely to be plain sailing. Of course, you can set the same ambition as Premier Zhou Enlai, who said, "Study for the rise of China," when he was a young boy, and strive for this dream all your life.

When you're making career plans, it's important to consider your interests and hobbies, as well as the benefits and treatment on offer. Think about what you value most.

Right now, you just need to feel like you're making progress.

I saw that the words "interesting" and "a sense of accomplishment" were used in the questioner's evaluation of this major, which shows that these are your current psychological needs and that you're becoming more mature in respecting your own feelings. The other day, I read a passage by Tsai Chih-chung that went something like this: It's actually quite difficult to starve yourself to death by concentrating on doing what you like and doing it to the best of your ability.

We only need three meals a day, a roof over our heads, and a place to stand on the ground. The rest of our lives are long, and if we don't do what we like, it'll be boring.

There are lots of personality tests on the Yixinli platform. I think it'd be a good idea for the questioner to choose a few tests to get a better understanding of themselves. Then, a professional coach can help them make sense of it all. The major I was recommended for in high school was actually psychology. After decades of twists and turns, I've come back to this major because I know that my talent and my interest is to be a professional helper. Even though I missed out on the best and most energetic twenty years, I believe it's never too late to start.

I'm Zhang Huili, the Sunny Dolphin. I hope my answer is helpful to you. If you find it useful, please give me a like.

Hello,

It's hard to tell if you're bothered by your major because you don't like it or if you're just avoiding it. If you keep asking yourself, it might affect your confidence and patience. So, ask yourself: What are the qualities of a major you can love?

Think about this in the following ways:

1. When are you at your best?

2. What do you do when you're happy?

3. When do you feel the most accomplished?

4. What do you hate?

5. What's your plan for college and life?

6. Which jobs interest you most?

Answering these six questions can help you sort out your thoughts. Write your answers on paper. You can have multiple answers to a question. Then, using a nine-square grid or other model, find the most significant features. The major that matches the most majors may be the one for you!

You might avoid certain situations because you expect them to be bad. You want to avoid this by changing your major. But your grades are good, and you can still study for a postgraduate degree. You also plan to take a postgraduate exam in a different major, which shows you are confident in your ability to learn.

Practice the above methods when you are in a good mood.

Best wishes!

Hello, questioner!

From what you've told me, I can tell you're feeling a bit conflicted and regretful about not having chosen the right major. But you're already doing a great job of looking for a way forward, and I admire your wisdom!

You mentioned that you switched your major after a while at the start of the semester. After studying for a while, you realized it wasn't quite what you expected. You're also interested in graduate school, but you're not sure if you're as excited about your studies as you once were. This reminds you of your high school dream of studying computer science. You're thinking about applying to graduate school in computer science, but you're having some internal conflicts. You want to find a way to resolve these conflicts and make a good decision. Is that right?

This feeling is something that most people experience. It's totally normal! What you don't get is always in turmoil, and what you get is not as precious.

If you want to understand your true thoughts, it's really helpful to be aware of what you want and to ask yourself what the contradictions are.

What's your own basis? Then, think about what kind of goal you want to achieve, what kind of purpose you want to achieve, and what kind of achievement you want to achieve. All the answers are in your heart! If you can't make a choice, you can list all the advantages and disadvantages, which may be of some help to you.

Based on what you've told me, I've got a few tips that might help. I really hope they'll help you see beyond the clouds!

First, adjust your state of mind.

I know you're a very ambitious person who also wants to achieve a sense of accomplishment. In the process, you may encounter some confusion and contradictions. At this time, the more difficult the situation, the more distracting the thoughts, the more we should adjust our state of mind. This is the best way to help us uncover the clouds and the infield. Here, you can calm your mind through deep breathing exercises, meditation, positive mental suggestions, etc., which will be of some help to you.

Secondly, it's so important to respect your feelings.

I saw that you said you didn't feel like you'd accomplished much in your second major, but you were still on the list for guaranteed admission. That shows you're really good at what you do, and you're super motivated and have great decision-making skills! We're all experts in our own problems. What we need to do is respect our own feelings and ask ourselves why we keep changing majors and why we want to switch from this major to computer science. What's my true feeling? Just close your eyes and ask yourself a few more times, and respect your own feelings. You'll be able to give yourself an answer!

And don't forget to exercise more!

We are often our own worst enemies when it comes to conflict. There are so many factors at play, some external, some internal, and others still. When we're feeling stuck and can't seem to find a solution, it's okay to put it aside and do something else, like travel, exercise, or sports. These activities are great for producing dopamine in our bodies, which can bring a sense of pleasure to our brains. When our brains are relaxed, we'll often find that we know which profession we prefer.

And finally, don't be afraid to seek help from a professional counselor.

We all have those moments when we just can't seem to adjust our emotions in the moment. That's okay! There are plenty of resources out there, like professional counselors, who are there to help. They'll use professional techniques to adjust our perceptions, help us to constantly be aware, clarify, and reshape our goals, organize our thoughts, and provide us with great help!

And finally, I want to tell you something really important. Ask yourself more questions! Write down all the things you feel good and bad about. Organize them. Read them over a few times. You will have a choice within yourself.

Greetings, I am Xin Tan, your coach, Fei You. I wish you a happy 2023.

Studying a subject one is uninterested in is not only an unproductive use of time, but also a source of distress. The text allows the reader to gain a deeper understanding of the challenges and monotony associated with the daily process of learning.

Nevertheless, it is encouraging to observe that you have at last resolved the issues and established a clear direction. Your positive and optimistic outlook, coupled with your courage in confronting challenges and devising solutions, is commendable.

This raises the issue of self-career planning, which we will address in the following discussion.

1. The capacity to make decisions in life is always within one's own control.

During the college entrance examination, many students or parents, due to a lack of awareness of career planning, end up studying for the sake of studying, going against their interests and ambitions, compromising or settling for second best by choosing a major they dislike, just so they can attend college and attend a good college.

However, the optimal choice may not align with one's intrinsic preferences. It is essential to cultivate a passion for one's chosen field of study and to pursue learning opportunities that align with one's genuine interests. When individuals possess the autonomy to make informed decisions and possess the capacity to do so, "learning what you love" naturally emerges as the primary objective. This approach offers a viable solution to the dilemma of selecting a field of study that may not align with one's intrinsic preferences.

Despite being currently eligible for guaranteed admission to graduate school, your chosen first and second majors do not align with your preferences. When studying under emotional and pressurised conditions, your efficiency is naturally reduced, which may subsequently impact your future career choice and work motivation.

Every day of life is a live broadcast, replete with opportunities and challenges, rendering it all the more exhilarating. Each of us matures and grows through trial and error. Now that you are pursuing higher education, the cost of trial and error is significantly reduced in comparison to the cost of trial and error associated with career and professional development in the future.

Secondly, the ability to continue one's studies at the same university demonstrates a high level of academic proficiency and the capacity to make a new decision. The subsequent step is to ascertain how to evaluate or comprehend one's interests.

2. It is always possible to identify multiple solutions to any given problem.

The field of study pursued in college will have a direct impact on future career options. It is therefore essential to engage in career planning. It is crucial to understand one's preferences, strengths, and weaknesses.

There are numerous assessment methods in career planning. When selecting a major and future career, the primary reference is a comprehensive assessment of interests, hobbies, personality traits, and personal values.

For example, the Holland Interest Theory can be used to assess an individual's suitability for a particular role based on their interpersonal skills, manual dexterity, cognitive abilities, and level of logical thinking. It can also be used to determine an individual's aptitude for business management and operational work.

For example, individuals with differing personality types, namely introverts and extroverts, can both become teachers. However, their personalities are inherently distinct, and thus, their strengths and advantages will naturally vary. Additionally, there are values that teachers may espouse, such as altruism, the importance of colleague relationships and the working environment, or the desire for greater autonomy.

It is recommended that you search for books related to career planning by Hou Zhijin and the content of live broadcasts on his public account, and consider your current major from the perspective of long-term development and the thinking of "the beginning is the end."

In other words, there are several options currently available: one may choose to continue studying one's current major with a reserved demeanor, apply to a graduate school to change majors, cultivate an interest in one's major, or pursue other avenues.

Meditation allows one to fully maintain a meditative state, stimulate one's original wisdom, think actively, find the answers one seeks, and identify superior solutions.

It is my sincere hope that the above will prove beneficial to you. With best wishes, Love,

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Hello, question asker. I'm Evan.

From what you've said, it seems like you're facing a choice of major and are unsure of how to make a decision based on your own characteristics. It's understandable to feel confused about the future. When it comes to your own life, it's often difficult for others to provide detailed answers. It's up to you to find and grasp your own path.

I'll give the OP a little encouragement here. We often can't predict our future, and it's often because we don't know enough about ourselves or what we're suited to do. We can only find a path that suits us by finding out more about ourselves.

What's right for the questioner often depends on the decision they make. No matter what path you want to take, once you've made up your mind, you've got to go for it with determination. The most important thing is that you can think about it: when you're old and look back at the decisions you've made in the past, what do you want to be remembered for, and what impression will others have of you?

Since this was asked on a platform, I can't go into a lot of detail, so I'll just give you a few simple tips:

Be honest with yourself.

It's important to be honest about your choice of major. We all have different reasons for wanting to work in a certain industry. Some people choose a major just to earn money, while others are good at it.

Everyone has different reasons for choosing a major, so it's important to be honest with yourself. What are your goals for studying this major?

What are you hoping to achieve by studying this major?

What are you hoping to get out of this major?

What are you hoping to get out of this profession?

How competitive are you in this profession?

What do you think you need to succeed in this profession?

Write down what you love.

You can also write down your own loves, the people and things you love, and the life you want in the future. Learning professional knowledge is how we can better survive and live. If you love the prospects of the industry, then the related industry is an interesting place for you to work.

Work is just a part of life. Figuring out what you love and who you love to work with can help you focus your energy on your goals and interests. If the major you studied is an industry you are interested in, you should also think about how far you can go in this career and how you can go far. You need to have your own plan and keep improving yourself, otherwise you will face many obstacles and find it difficult to advance in this industry.

It's natural to want to turn your hobbies into careers, but it's important to consider the challenges you might face. If you're not prepared or don't fully understand your strengths, you can combine related majors to develop your skills. For instance, if you're interested in a subject that combines literature and science, you can explore which majors align with your interests and seek advice from those who have studied related subjects. This can help you make an informed decision about your career path.

Take related career tests.

These tests can help you figure out if a certain type of work is a good fit for you. Some popular examples are the MBTI, PDP, and other personality or career test scales.

These scales are just a starting point. There are many possibilities, and there's no need to follow them exactly. The most important thing is what the subject wants to do and what they enjoy.

And take a look at where you are in life.

As the old saying goes, "At twenty, one is young; at thirty, one is established." The questioner is still exploring themselves, and from a biological point of view, the questioner's brain is still developing and won't be fully developed until the age of thirty. So, the questioner can set aside some time to explore what's right for them.

We all play different roles every day, or label ourselves with different behaviors. So, what does the questioner know about himself, and what role does he play in society?

Our roles may include "student," "technician," "programmer," "introvert," and so on. Jot down your identity labels on a piece of paper.

Think about which role is the most sustainable and which role is the most important to you.

Think about the roles you'd like to play in the future.

Some roles are pretty much set in stone, like "son" or "researcher." These are the nouns that can be used to describe you as a person when you're no longer around.

Then think about which roles you find really stressful and which have a negative effect on your life. You might be able to take these roles less seriously in the future.

You can also use this time to think about what you want to achieve. If there's a job you like and that pays well, you can also think about whether similar jobs are available.

What kind of major are you interested in? What can you do with this major? If you like this major and are motivated to develop it further, you can write it down.

Take a moment to think about what major you want to choose.

Think about why you chose your current major, or why you want to work in a certain field in the future. To create a life plan, you need to know what your main goal is right now.

Think about the role you want to fill in the future and whether you want to continue studying your current major. Why did you choose your current major?

One way to get the questioner to think about these reasons is to imagine your funeral (this might sound a bit morbid, but it really works!). Who will be at the questioner's funeral?

Question asker: Can you picture how people will see you? Maybe what you really want to hear is that you're a great electronic researcher and that people respect you.

I'd still like to hear your thoughts on other aspects of the question owner.

When it comes to making a choice, it's best to follow your heart and choose what's right for you. If you need more information, you can always choose a major that's a better fit. Either way, it's important to think carefully.

I hope my answer helps the questioner out.

Hello, I'm Qu Huidong, a counselor who likes to speak in images.

You're being invited to answer your question.

After reading the question, I thought of two words: "unwilling" and "capable." You hated your major when you entered college, but you changed it your freshman year. You didn't like your new major, but you kept yourself in the guaranteed transfer program. As someone who works in higher education, I know how difficult it is to take these two steps, and I want to give you credit.

If you don't like it, you can still do well and find a better platform. You can do anything well with perseverance.

Your classmates and teachers have probably said similar things, but you don't see these "achievements" as such. You want to do what you love and let your abilities flourish in your passion. But do we really know what we love?

You didn't like your major, but you did well in it. Did you gain nothing from it?

I also read the other responses. We saw the stories behind many of the choices. Can these responses help you think about choosing a major?

Do we really like our least favorite major, or do we just not want to admit defeat?

Now that MOOCs are better and you can audit classes at universities, if you like computer science, how much relevant knowledge have you gained?

If you're sorry, finish your major and get better resources for postgraduate studies. You'll have more resources and opportunities.

A university major doesn't determine your future career. What matters is the learning experience. Break away from the concept of equality and you'll reap the rewards of a more open life.

I studied agriculture and spent a year in the lab raising mosquitoes during my postgraduate studies. I also published several papers. During my third year of study, my supervisor hoped that I would continue my doctoral studies and remain at the university to teach. I chose to work instead.

Do you have any regrets? I do, but I have to do this job well.

I switched from working with animals to people and felt lost. I became a counselor and was the first at the school to get the Level 2 qualification. I met teachers at the school's center and started working there part-time.

I became a full-time teacher at a psychological center nine years ago. I love this work. Over the past few years, I have learned, grown, and helped others.

Was that early university study useless? Do you remember when I said that I had kept mosquitoes in the lab for a year? That experience helped me understand my visitors and be patient with them.

Every experience is precious. Do your best in the moment, and you won't waste your life.

Best wishes!