How to coexist with a roommate who has a dark personality?

Hello, Phil here. I'm sorry you're having a rough time.

We're sorry you're having trouble.

The dark personality is a popular topic since Cartell's theory began.

Some researchers believe people are unstable.

Some people act this way because of unstable tendencies.

They have unstable emotions, are prone to excitement and impulsiveness, and are reckless.

They lack self-control, act recklessly, and even commit crimes.

We often think this is because:

They lack judgment and analytical skills. They are easily provoked.

They act in ways that are hostile, aggressive, and destructive towards others and society.

Some people prefer this "bad" personality.

Some people avoid or hate them.

Our personalities are complex and diverse.

It's not just about uniformity.

Our education, family life, and experiences influence our personalities.

Our personalities change. They are not always the same from beginning to end.

Who is timid or afraid to speak?

They may become unusually cheerful and talkative, which can be unacceptable to others.

A child who was mischievous and naughty.

As they grow up, they become mature and reliable. This is normal.

Just because he has a dark personality doesn't mean everyone is like that.

You said he has some of these characteristics.

Then it means that from your point of view, based on your understanding of a dark personality,

We may think someone is like that just because we have a few things in common.

First, we shouldn't judge people like this.

A dark personality can change.

You said he's still a good person even without these traits.

This shows he isn't really a dark personality.

We should be honest and sincere with each other.

Look at what he has done, not just what he has said.

If a person has no problems in daily interactions

What impact will it have? No matter what kind of personality he is.

Does it matter to us?

It's wrong to say that someone's personality or problems justify treating them differently.

We must treat them differently or reject them.

If you can't get along with someone, just avoid them.

Don't socialize unless necessary.

Avoid contact unless you have to interact.

This is a good solution.

I hope this helps.

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Hello, I see where you're coming from and I hope I can be of help.

It seems like your roommate has some of the same characteristics as a dark personality, which is making it a little difficult for you to get along with them. I understand your feelings very much. We can adjust together from the following aspects:

First, don't make things worse. If you don't really know someone well, don't jump to conclusions. Even if the other person has some possible traits, don't categorize them deliberately. This will help you let go of some prejudices caused by labels, not look at the other person through tinted glasses, and also reduce unnecessary psychological pressure.

Second, set some boundaries. Whether you're roommates or classmates, you'll probably interact a lot with this person. You've probably noticed that they have different views and behaviors than you. It's okay to maintain a distance from them, learn to get along with their strengths, and block out the parts that make you uncomfortable. You need to have clear boundaries, maintain your own thinking and judgment, and not be led by them.

Third, keep an open mind. You and the other person are both growing and changing. Give yourselves and each other time and space to adjust, learn, and improve. Seeing each other with an open mind will make you more open-minded, and you'll meet more friends and partners.

We're all imperfect, and we should give each other the space to grow and improve.

Have a great day!