How to quit dreaming about pie in the sky and getting rich quick, and focus on doing the right thing

Hello, host. I'm honored to answer your question. From your information, I understand you've speculated in cryptocurrencies with ups and downs. You often think about getting rich overnight and making money easily. You've done many things with a strong gambling nature.

I want to get to work, but I can't stop thinking about making money easily. I'm in a daze, and I don't have any enthusiasm.

You've started to think about your lifestyle. You want to stop gambling and get a stable, safe lifestyle. I admire you for planning this.

People want to get rich overnight because they think it will make them more important and give them a sense of existence and value.

People want to get rich quickly to meet their basic needs and prove their worth. If we focus on proving ourselves, we only work hard when someone is watching. When no one is watching, we stagnate.

Life is a show.

There are laws that govern wealth accumulation. We can only accumulate wealth by following these laws and working hard. Some people who seem to be speculators have accumulated a lot of wealth quickly. However, because their wealth does not match their knowledge, they will eventually lose it.

You've been investing in cryptocurrencies for three years. You know that steady steps lead to success. Set small goals to accumulate wealth. Wang Jianlin's goal is to have more income today than yesterday and tomorrow than today.

I'm happy to have an appointment. 1983. Love you!

You've stuck with this for three years, and that's impressive. You know you still want something for nothing, but you've made progress. Cognitive adjustment takes time, and you're doing it. You still want to change, and you're looking for the deeper reasons, not just focusing on the surface.

You can adjust your perception in several steps.

First, adjust your perception of the world. It is only natural to want to get rich without working hard. But what is considered rich? The Internet and society say that a monthly salary of more than 10,000 yuan or an annual income of 300,000 yuan, as well as stock speculation and other investments that make a fortune of 30 million yuan, are the norm. This is simply not true.

However, this information does not prove the authenticity of the data. Even if it is true, it is only a few people at the top of the pyramid in human society. The average salaryman or the owner of a small or medium-sized business cannot reach the level of so-called getting rich.

Second, you must correctly perceive the income perception of each industry. There are people at the top of the pyramid in any industry, and those people can make billions of dollars. However, we cannot ignore the larger base group. Most people can make how much?

Third, it's time to get real about "rich people." They don't make their money by speculating and not working hard. Look at the development history of some celebrities or entrepreneurs (except for the second generation of rich people). The people at the top have never earned money without working hard, and they've had to pay for it.

Fourth, self-awareness. Everyone has a job that suits them and unique abilities. Use your strengths to do a good job.

You can do a good job by using your strengths to do something. Instead of doing something that everyone else can do well, you can do it well too. For example, everyone in finance can make money, but your strengths may not lie there at all. Entering this field is actually not the most suitable for you personally, and it is not a place where you can give full play to your strengths.

While adjusting your perception, your behavior must not lag behind. You can influence your thoughts with your actions.

For example, if you haven't speculated for three years, it's safe to say you haven't done nothing during that time. It's because you've been doing something that you've been subconsciously influenced not to speculate.

Your goal can still be the goal of your wealth dream, such as earning a small amount of money. We simply turn it into the ultimate goal, and then divide small goals into the process of moving towards the goal, so that you can achieve them slowly.

Hello, I'm June!

As the title asks, how do I quit the fantasy of getting rich quick and the pie in the sky because of previous speculation in cryptocurrencies?

There were ups and downs, but I still want to get something for nothing!

I just need to find a way to get motivated to do something serious. How can I change my mindset?

You described your experience of cryptocurrency speculation in your article, and I feel that the process should be dangerous and exciting. There have been ups and downs, which means that you have also had moments of making money!

That's why it's so addictive! It gives people hope. If you had kept losing money, you probably would have stopped long ago, because there are both gains and losses, which is why you can't stop.

Most people want to make easy money and get rich overnight, so your thoughts are totally normal!

#For me, cryptocurrency speculation is not suitable or high-risk. But I was carried away by the fantasy of getting rich overnight and making money easily!

I did a lot of things with a gambling mentality, and it was a wild ride! In the end, I lost time and money, but it was worth it.

Guess what! I haven't speculated for three years. #

From this text, it's clear you have a great understanding!

1. You know that cryptocurrency speculation is high-risk and not suitable for you, but you're still excited to learn more!

2. You know that getting rich overnight is highly related to gambling—and you're ready to take the plunge!

3. You haven't gambled for three years after losing money, which shows that you also have the ability to restrain yourself.

You understand the reasoning, so why do you still have fantasies? I think there may be two reasons:

1. Dangerous excitement: An irregular life makes your heart beat faster and your emotions run high. Your brain will receive the wrong message and think you really like this kind of life.

The famous "suspension bridge effect" is based on this amazing principle:

Amazingly, when a person is walking nervously across a suspension bridge, their heart rate will increase involuntarily. If, at this time, they happen to meet another person, they will mistakenly interpret the increased heart rate caused by this situation as a physiological reaction caused by the other person making their heart race, and therefore develop feelings of love for the other person.

The fantasy of getting rich overnight is often based on the idea that "ideals cannot compete with reality," "abilities cannot support dreams," and "the heart is higher than the sky but life is thinner than paper." And it's a fantasy that can become a reality!

Many people are eager to achieve more and more, and why not? They've been living up to other people's expectations since childhood. When other people's expectations exceed their own abilities, they fantasize about having "superpowers" to change reality.

I really hope you can let go of those expectations, accept yourself, and embrace the ordinary. Take each step with determination and forge your own path in life!

Best of luck! I'm sending you all my best wishes!

Greetings, question asker.

I admire your good fortune in becoming wealthy with minimal effort.

Many individuals have experienced the fulfillment of their aspirations at your hands, and for you, it was a singular occurrence. However, it is a dream that the majority of people will never be able to pursue in their lifetime. Luck is a phenomenon that is inherently transient and difficult to quantify.

In the context of the Chinese Zodiac, the current year is that of the Rabbit. This leads me to recall an idiom from Chinese culture: "Wait by the tree for a rabbit." This idiom suggests that one should not always anticipate outcomes that are easily attained, as the probability of success without effort is low.

However, you are eminently prudent, having not terminated the employment of any individual for a period of three years. You continue to aspire to achieve outcomes without the requisite input.

Many individuals adhere to a similar mindset, and there is no inherent issue with this. As long as one does not engage in concrete action, there is no cause for concern.

The processes of thinking and doing are distinct. Thinking involves the formation of ideals and dreams.

"Do" is defined as "behavior" or "action."

You have indicated that you are unable to concentrate when engaged in serious activities. Could you please elaborate on how you would modify your perception and focus on performing the appropriate tasks?

One might inquire as to the reason for the inability to concentrate on serious tasks. Could it be that these tasks are not preferred?

Or are you unable to concentrate on any single task?

Perception is shaped by previous experiences. Your affinity for gambling ultimately led to the loss of both time and money.

This experience should have had a significant impact on the individual in question. It may have resulted in the formation of a negative self-image, which in turn has led to a lack of confidence and self-criticism.

One can choose to disregard these experiences and instead focus on one's strengths and advantages. It may also be beneficial to explore potential career options that align better with one's skills and interests.

Engaging in work that aligns with one's skills and interests has the potential to enhance one's emotional well-being.

Additionally, one may seek the guidance of a counselor to gain insight into the underlying erroneous beliefs and cognitive distortions, and subsequently implement gradual modifications.

Additionally, meditation can be employed as a means of enhancing concentration.

The world and I extend our affection to you.

Hello, question asker.

I'm going to give you a warm hug. Your question reminds me of two books I read before: The Soul of Money and Become a Better You by Wu Zhihong. I'm going to look at your current problem from two perspectives.

Money is like a nose ring. It leads us wherever it wants. We forgot that we designed it.

—Mark Kinney

The magic of money

This is an era of consumerism. Everything has a price tag. Every service has a price tag. Even the sacred institution of marriage, which represents love, has a price tag. There's no doubt about it: consumerism, with its emphasis on money, has penetrated every aspect of our lives. It's clear that 99% of problems can be solved with money. The author of "The Soul of Money" mentions that we have been plagued by three myths:

It is a simple fact that resources are scarce. There are not enough resources for all of us to sustain everyone's life, and someone has to be left out.

The planet is overpopulated. There is not enough food, not enough water, not enough air, not enough time, and not enough money.

More. Regardless of our financial situation, the pursuit of "more" will demand our attention, drain our energy, and deprive us of the opportunity to feel fulfilled.

If you believe in and obsess over the promise of "more," you will fall into a bottomless pit. It doesn't matter how much you have, it is never enough because "more" is better.

This is simply the way things are. We lack sufficient resources, and the more resources there are, the better. However, we can only have more of them if someone else has less.

This is unfair, but we must continue playing this game because that's simply the way things are. It's a hopeless, helpless, unequal, and unjust world, and there is no way out.

These three myths and the feeling of deprivation influence each of us to create our own "golden rules" when it comes to money. The first thing most people consider when they open their eyes every day is how to accumulate a large amount of wealth faster, more effectively, and more efficiently.

I don't know which myth the questioner is most influenced by, but I know which one I am not.

Money is neither good nor bad. It has no inherent power. Our problems with money arise from our interpretations and interactions with it. However, this also provides us with opportunities for self-discovery and personal transformation.

[Get rich quick and all-powerful narcissism]

In Wu Zhihong's "Become a Better Version of Yourself" video series, he gave an example about his sister that impressed me. My sister, who didn't study much, has always been ambitious and has tried many investments, all of which have ended in failure.

Take cooking as an example. Mr. Wu made it clear that when a person is unable to settle in the present and always wants to get rich overnight, they are trapped in the state of omnipotent narcissism and unable to extricate themselves. They have an unrealistic and mysterious confidence in themselves and unrealistic expectations of success. They feel that they are naturally gifted, omniscient, and omnipotent, and only see the glamorous side of the rich, ignoring the accumulation of small amounts and long-term hard work. As the saying goes, "great wealth comes from fate, while small wealth comes from hard work." Money that comes easily is often not easy to keep. News stories about people becoming rich quickly and then falling back into poverty are commonplace.

From omnipotent narcissism to omnipotent rage, and then to complete helplessness, it is easy to be defeated by setbacks. They give up too easily, without even trying to understand why they failed. Instead, they start a new round of fantasies.

Let's examine the nature of the feeling of deprivation.

Yan Geling's new book, "Macao is a City," makes a clear and compelling case that the sense of disaster is the mental shame and trauma left by poverty. The author's thesis is that because we lack the opportunity and time to get rich, it is inevitable that we will have a sense of urgency and crisis when we get rich. This, in turn, leads to a shortsightedness and eagerness for quick success and instant benefits.

We sense that the deadline is near, that the system is about to change, that the policy is about to change, and that if we don't seize the opportunity, it will pass us by. The rich want to get rich quickly, and they want to get rich quick.

And all wealth can be gained quickly, but nothing can be gained as quickly as at the gambling table. The inventor of Bitcoin also exploited people's desire for a quick fortune, proclaiming that this was a new way to get rich quickly. As the old saying goes, no pain, no gain. Everyone wants to get something for nothing, but that's not how it works.

In the casinos of Las Vegas, even though the wealthy and powerful have already found a way to make a fortune and have become successful, they cannot overcome the genetic code that has been passed down through our nation for thousands of years. This code is the sense of disaster and the mental shame and trauma left by poverty. How long has it been since the Chinese got rid of internal and external troubles?

In less than a century, we have created enough living space and enough to eat and wear for everyone. There is no reason why any Chinese person should lack the decency and dignity of food, clothing, and shelter.

These continue to affect our collective subconscious, perpetuating our nation's millennia-old worries and fears about poverty and famine. This innate fear and sense of worry that comes with our lives, independent of our will, makes our hunters and heads of households—Chinese men—always secretly harbor a dream of getting rich quick.

The questioner undoubtedly found the root cause of their own perceptions and thoughts. Who doesn't want to get rich overnight and solve their problems once and for all? But just like stock trading, there is a technical component to cryptocurrency trading. Who doesn't want to buy low and sell high? The dealer is the only one who can seize or create such opportunities.

Replacing scarcity with abundance and omnipotent narcissism with healthy narcissism is the answer.

Changing one's perception and achieving unity of knowledge and action is not easy. Gambling is something even a three-year-old knows is not a good thing, yet in casinos, you can always see gray-haired old people eager to turn a profit. Why?

They lack "flow" and the experience of living a life of abundance. The Yi Xinli platform is currently running an event called "Experience the Flow of Good Fortune and Find Your Sense of Well-being." The questioner should take this opportunity to experience the little moments of happiness in life, discover that what they already have is actually more than enough, and understand that all they need is three meals a day and a place to call home.

The deep-rooted sense of fear will be dispelled, no doubt about it.

You must move away from the all-encompassing narcissism that ultimately leads to the shattering of dreams and move towards a healthy form of narcissism. Wu's advice is this: find the object of your life's seed – a person or an event – connect with them, love them wholeheartedly, and devote yourself to doing things. You will be able to establish a reasonable perception of yourself and appropriate expectations for success. Does the questioner have anything they particularly like and are particularly good at doing?

You can discover it and experience it.

I am Zhang Huili, the Sunny Dolphin. I am confident my answer will help you. As we welcome the new year, I wish the questioner great success, good health, and all the best.

Dear questioner,

From your question, I can see that you are now questioning your perception of things like "pie in the sky" and "getting rich overnight." I can understand how you feel.

Given your previous experiences, it's understandable that you're feeling uncertain about how to navigate this situation. Our perceptions are often shaped by our beliefs and expectations. For instance, if you believe that the likelihood of a pie in the sky is low, you might feel more inclined to take a chance. However, it's important to recognize that the probability of such an event actually occurring is quite low. It's essential to have a firm belief that the probability of a pie in the sky is zero and that this kind of luck may not come to us. When we have this kind of belief, it's natural for us to have less desire or thoughts about gambling.

Here are a few suggestions for how you can solve it:

[1] Consider adjusting your perception.

As an example, if there is something we believe may happen, we can choose to define it as unlikely to occur, which allows us the flexibility to engage in the activity on an occasional basis. However, if we anticipate that it will happen frequently, it may lead to challenges.

[2] Perhaps it would be helpful to consider doing the things you think are important first.

In this situation, we can identify the one important thing for us in the present moment, and then gradually complete it one by one, while also learning to let go of some things that are not as important to us, such as gambling, or always fantasizing. By doing so, we can focus on the things of the present.

[3] There is still an opportunity to take action.

For instance, we may feel that we are unable to take action, but it is never too late to start moving forward. By addressing these issues and taking the necessary steps, we can potentially reverse some of the negative outcomes. The key is to avoid becoming overly preoccupied with things that are not real and to avoid engaging in activities that are not productive.

[4] Perhaps it would be beneficial to consider rejecting fantasies and stopping daydreaming.

Perhaps it would be beneficial to reconsider the idea that only we each have, that all fantasies are fantasies, and that they are unlikely to come true. It might be helpful to explore letting go of our whims and fantasies. It may be challenging to let go of these two things, so it could be useful to identify our inner needs and find our own needs.

I hope you find the above opinion helpful.

Hello, question asker!

From what you've told me, it seems like you're feeling a bit powerless and confused. But you're also aware of this uncomfortable feeling and actively looking for a solution.

This is a pretty common question, and it's totally normal to have it. We all hope to make a lot of money and own a lot of things. It's human nature. And there are also plenty of people who have always been daydreaming. Even though your investment didn't work out, you were willing to give it a shot. I see that as a kind of courage, and I admire you for it.

You're already on your way to making a change when you come here and actively look for solutions to problems.

I'd like you to think about the times in your life when you felt really fulfilled and focused on what you were doing.

In your description, you said that you haven't bought any stocks for three years, which is great. How did you manage that?

These are your resources, and you can look for ways to tap into them.

If a miracle happens and your uncomfortable feelings disappear, what will your life situation be like? What have you done to make this happen?

How will you be different after the miracle? Who will be the first to notice your change?

Based on what you've told me and how I feel about it, I'd like to give you some advice in the hope that it will help you adjust your mindset.

First, try using some positive self-talk.

We're all just ordinary people, and we'll all face problems at one point or another. It's normal. Once we're aware of the negative emotions these problems bring us, we need to use our own mental suggestions to adjust our state of mind. This helps us relax, become more motivated, and think more positively. This can also give us more motivation to change.

Second, learn to trust yourself.

Often, we know what we can't do. The reason we can't do it is because we don't really believe in ourselves. We lack the determination to follow through. This is why many of us fail to achieve our dreams. If you want to change, you have to believe that you can change your ways and your thinking. Believe that you will get better and better, and that you will find your own breakthrough.

Then, find a hobby to give you a boost.

Sometimes we get caught up in our thoughts and feelings. When this happens, we can distract ourselves by focusing on something we enjoy, like our interests and hobbies. This can give us a sense of accomplishment, boost our self-confidence, and help us build a solid foundation for the future.

Next, be more aware and clarify.

All things and problems have a root cause. It's important to be aware of why you have these thoughts. Could they be influenced by your family, education, or environment?

Or is it related to your life experience? In that case, you need to figure out what you want.

For instance, if you're here to talk and get answers, it's important to clarify your goals. That way, you can start taking action.

Then, just make a little progress every day.

When we become aware of it, it means that we already know that we shouldn't do it this way, but it still takes time to get there. What we need is to make a little progress every day, not comparing ourselves with others, but with the past and yesterday, to see how much we have improved today compared to yesterday, and how much we are better now than in the past. This may give us more inner motivation, so that we will be more fulfilled and confident when doing things.

If you're interested, I suggest you seek help from a professional counselor or learn more about psychology to help you grow and heal.

Hello, dear questioner!

I have to say, I admire your reflective attitude!

I'd be happy to walk you through this and see if I can help.

1. Recognize the benefits of fantasy, and we can work towards a more positive relationship with it.

You know as well as I do that getting rich quick and becoming rich overnight are fantasies.

Given your past experience, indulging in fantasies has wasted time and money.

But now they still want something for nothing.

I'd like to share with you:

A lot of people fantasize.

We all have unfulfilled desires in real life.

For instance, we might want to be wealthier, have a better job, a higher status, more respect, or more love.

There's nothing wrong with fantasies. They just show us that we'd like a better life.

So,

There's nothing wrong with fantasy. The issue is how we approach it and whether we indulge in it.

It's easy to fantasize. It lets us temporarily escape the harshness of reality and feel a little comfort.

And then you'll start to see what kind of life you want to lead.

Fantasies are good for you. They give you a little hope.

At the same time, we also know that fantasies are just that—fantasies. It's tough to achieve our goals by relying on them.

At this point, we need to think about how fantasies like "pie in the sky and overnight riches" meet our psychological needs.

Do you think you could work harder?

Don't you think you can achieve your ambitious goals through hard work?

Take a moment to think about what kind of life you want to lead.

Ask yourself a few more questions and you'll probably get a better idea of what's really holding you back.

You should know that there are plenty of young people who think the same way you do, but they just keep their thoughts to themselves and get on with what they're supposed to do.

2. Living in the moment is a great way to get a reality check.

I'm pleased to see you've said you haven't fired anyone in three years.

Kudos to you!

You've actually said goodbye to those unrealistic fantasies with your actions.

At least you're not facing the risk of being fired, which is a good thing.

What's on your mind right now is the idea of getting something for nothing. You're not quite able to muster the energy to do the right things.

I'd like to ask you, how would you define serious business?

Are you happy with your current situation?

Sometimes, we set ourselves ambitious goals or ideals, knowing they're the right or proper thing to do.

But we often find it difficult to put this into practice and lack the motivation to do so.

This is because we've been taught since childhood that doing serious work is slow and painful.

That's why people often say that you can't gain anything without pain.

For instance, we're often encouraged to study hard and persevere through challenges when we're younger.

Of course, we'd like to think we can get everything we want in one step without any effort.

But we've forgotten that life is all about the experience.

If we're not happy now, it'll be tough to be happy later.

So, it's really important to find a way to live in the present.

There are plenty of real-life examples.

For instance, some families became wealthy after being demolished a few years ago. Their spending caused problems, and some had a worse time than before.

If you catch yourself daydreaming, just come back to the present.

3. Start with small things.

Start with small tasks you're willing to take on.

Taking action is the best way to find solutions.

For instance, you could try reading more books.

It can help us gain new perspectives and enhance our comprehension.

If you learn to look at all the problems in the world dialectically, you'll be less likely to fantasize.

Just focus on the present and do something that will make you happy.

It doesn't have to be anything major.

For instance, if you enjoy good food, when the opportunity arises, treat yourself and allow yourself to experience happiness.

Now that we're happy, we'll stop daydreaming.

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Wishing you the best!