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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Hello, questioner. I don't understand your actions. The adopted boy doesn't seem to bother you, but you just don't like him. Why? I'm Little Flying Fish Floater, a psychological counselor intern. I'll help you analyze your problem. Please provide more details.
In 1.14, a master told your uncle to adopt a son. In 1.15, you met the son your uncle adopted.
What do you dislike about this? Do you dislike that your uncle followed the fortune-teller's advice?
Do you dislike the child your uncle adopted? Or do you dislike the fortune teller and think your uncle shouldn't have listened to him?
Does he just dislike the child, or does he dislike the child's closeness to his grandfather?
People who want to tell their fortune have unanswered questions.
Maybe he wanted to know what the future held. This shows how empty people's hearts can be.
The uncle needed to fill an emptiness inside by fortune-telling. The master advised him to adopt a son.
He needs to adopt a child to fill the emptiness in his heart.
2. You resent your uncle taking money from your cousin to support the adopted child.
Uncle stole money from cousin to support adopted child. Did cousin tell you?
You're guessing. How would you know if no one told you?
Your cousin grew up with you, so you have a deeper relationship. But everyone has a compassionate heart. Since he was adopted, he has experienced something no one else has. He is a child who deserves sympathy.
The other party is sensible and can be scared with a look.
Your uncle didn't tell you when he adopted the child. You don't know when he started.
I don't know how old you were. Your uncle didn't need your consent.
This is a family matter for your uncle. He probably got your grandfather's permission.
If your grandfather accepts your uncle, why can't you? Is it just because you feel he's taken away your grandfather's affection?
If you love your grandfather, you should be happy to see that he has a grandson to keep you company. He still thinks it's good luck to have many children and grandchildren.
Having more grandchildren makes grandpa happy. You're his grandson, so why can't you be happy about that?
Your grandpa is your closest relative. You can't be there for him, but an adopted grandson will be there for him. Be grateful to him for being there for your grandpa when you can't.
So he doesn't feel lonely when you're not around.
3. Do you feel replaced when Dad mentions splitting up the family?
How do you feel like you're being replaced?
Do you feel like your grandfather's favorite is gone? You're irreplaceable. Did you and your dad break up?
Children grow up and live separately to make room for the next generation. This shows you are an adult and can take care of yourself. After you split up, will your family and friends treat you as an adult? It means you can support a family on your own.
If it's a split between grandpa, dad, and uncle, it's not your business. The split is about money, but it unites the family. Distance makes the family bond stronger. There are fewer financial disputes and suspicion, making the extended family more harmonious. You like children, but you don't like the child your uncle adopted. You haven't accepted that your uncle adopted a child. You'll hate this child even if your uncle adopts another.
You can think about it. Even if we raise a pet, we will develop an attachment to it. From your description, he is a very understanding child. Since you spend most of your time working and spend very little time with this child, he has been unhappy with you since he first came to this family. Now, 7/8 years have passed, and he has grown up. When you meet again, just look at him and see how much he has changed.
Will he have a sibling to help him?
I hope I haven't offended you. Please forgive me if I've offended you or if what I've said doesn't reflect reality.
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This story brings up a lot of mixed emotions. Adopting a child because of a fortune teller's advice sounds quite irrational and it's understandable to feel upset about the situation. My cousin worked so hard, and it seems unfair that my uncle would prioritize an adopted child over his own son. It's disappointing that family dynamics can be so complicated.
The idea of adopting a child based on fortunetelling is really strange. I can't help but feel angry at how my uncle treated his own son. How could he just bring in another child like that? It feels like there's no respect for the effort and sacrifices my cousin made. And to think my grandfather had to take care of this new child... it doesn't sit right with me.
It's a tough situation, especially knowing that my cousin worked tirelessly while being away from home. The fact that my uncle adopted a child under such circumstances and involved my grandfather makes me question his priorities. Even though I understand that children need love and companionship, it's hard not to feel resentful towards the adopted boy and what it means for our family structure.