I am occasionally happy at school, but miserable when I get home. I don't know if I'm depressed.

Hello! You grew up in a pretty repressive family environment, and your father's beatings and scoldings caused you a lot of internal pain.

You told your teacher, but they didn't help. As a result, more people found out about your situation, which made it worse. You're now at a loss as to what to expect from life, and you're stuck in a cycle of pain. I empathize with you, and I want to give you a hug!

I want to help you understand your pain.

The way your father treated you has really affected you. You say he used to beat you all the time, and you feel like you really hated him.

I imagine it was pretty traumatic for you growing up with a father who beat and scolded you.

You grew up with this anger in your heart, so you looked at your father askance, felt uncomfortable when you heard his words, and even hated men, because in a child's world, the father represents masculinity, and your hatred of your father generalized to all men.

You told your teacher about your parents beating you, which was a kind of self-help and asking for help. For a child, having this kind of awareness is very valuable. Unfortunately, the teacher didn't help you in the right way, but instead told others about it, causing you to suffer a second time.

You once told your teacher about your parents beating you, which was a way of helping yourself and asking for help. For a child, having this kind of awareness is very valuable.

Unfortunately, the teacher didn't handle it the right way. They told others about it, which caused you to suffer a second time.

You're currently in your third year of high school, which is a very critical stage in life. However, you lack motivation because you don't have high expectations for the future. The pressure from schoolwork and the pressure from your family situation are too heavy, and you seem to be on the verge of collapse.

Take some time to think about how you really feel.

The impact of the original family on a person can be significant. You mentioned that your parents physically disciplined you. During your upbringing, it's likely that your parents didn't express much love and warmth, right?

The impact of the original family on a person can be significant. You mentioned that your parents hit you. During your upbringing, it's likely that your parents didn't show you much love and warmth, right?

Maybe they think the best way to educate is through a lot of correction, but what a child really needs is attention and love.

Kids don't understand why they're always being beaten, but they instinctively get angry when they're beaten. This anger makes them hate and distance themselves from their parents.

On the other hand, this kind of treatment might also have been directed at you when you were a child. You might feel that you don't deserve love, which is why you were scolded and beaten by your parents.

It seems like you don't have a strong sense of self-worth. You say that your father's words have made you think about suicide and that you have no expectations for the future or motivation to work hard. These thoughts seem to indicate that you don't feel your own worth internally.

Your parents' approach to discipline is not the best way to educate you, but you're afraid that others will find out and you'll be hated by your teacher. This shows that you view your parents' disciplinary methods as a source of shame because you identify with how your parents treat you and feel it's related to your perceived "badness" and "worthlessness."

Let's find a way out of this dilemma.

I can only imagine how tough it must be to be in a repressive environment for so long without any help. I really hope I can help you get out of your current situation and find some comfort and relief.

I've got a few tips for you.

First, get some professional help. You've been in pain for too long, and you're in a tough spot right now, like your senior year of high school. This is too much for a child to handle on their own, so you should get some professional help to get yourself out of it as soon as possible.

First, get some professional help. You've been in pain for too long, and you're in a tough spot right now, like your senior year of high school. This is too much for a child to handle on their own, so you should get some professional help to get yourself out of it as soon as possible.

You can talk to the school psychologist or seek professional counseling. It's not your fault that your parents treat you abusively, and you shouldn't feel ashamed.

And professional psychologists all agree to keep things confidential, so asking for help is the way to go. It's also likely to be the most effective.

Second, try to accept and affirm yourself. Nobody gets to choose their parents or their family of origin. It's like the cards we're dealt by God. We can't change them even if we don't like them. You just have to know that it's not your fault.

Focus on yourself and recognize your own strengths. The fact that you can identify your inner anger shows that you have a good sense of self.

Asking questions here shows you're ready to get out of your current situation. These are your assets.

Focus on the present moment and don't put too much pressure on yourself to get everything done perfectly. Just take it one task at a time. Once you've finished each task, give yourself a well-deserved pat on the back. This is a great way to build self-confidence.

Third, don't get stuck in the present. Some people say that suffering is a blessing from God in disguise.

Many children from less fortunate backgrounds choose to help others or give their own children a happy childhood after growing up because of the challenges they've faced.

So you see, anger is actually a resource. You're now in your senior year of high school, and you're actually on the verge of leaving your parents and supporting yourself.

What kind of life you'll lead in the future is up to you. You can think about it, plan for it, and figure out what you're good at and what you're interested in. When you're in control of your own life, you can really move on from your family of origin.

I'm Teng Ying, a psychological counselor, and I hope this is helpful!

Hello! I just wanted to give you a warm hug from afar.

I'm grateful you reached out. I hope my input can offer some support and guidance. I also commend you for recognizing the pain and trauma caused by not being treated kindly by your parents in your original family. Awareness is the first step towards positive change.

Every child has a basic psychological need to be recognized, accepted, affirmed, and loved by their parents. This need is the main source of a child's confidence and sense of worth. If this need isn't met well, the child will do whatever it takes to get this emotional response and satisfaction from their parents as they grow up. They'll even hurt themselves and others to get it.

So, accept that you still need your parents' support, even though they've hurt you. For instance, you could try to seek psychological counseling or emotional support from your homeroom teacher after being beaten by your parents, but you were hurt again unexpectedly. This has undoubtedly damaged your inner sense of trust to a large extent, and you have unintentionally attributed it more to the fact that you are not good enough and not worthy of love.

This could make it harder for you to protect yourself when you're hurt, don't you think?

I want to tell you that when your parents hurt you with their words or actions, you can do your best to express your feelings and needs in that moment without judging them. Let them know how their words and actions have hurt you.

It's also important to understand that your parents' behavior isn't a reflection of your worthiness or unworthiness of love. It's likely that they were also treated poorly by their own parents and experienced a lack of love and affection during their childhood. When they didn't have a good understanding of their parents' inappropriate parenting styles, they may have unintentionally brought this pattern into their own parenting.

They can't give you the emotional support and responses you want because they haven't been treated kindly.

All you can do is try to heal and repair the emotional and emotional trauma caused by your parents' inappropriate parenting methods in your original family by actively learning and growing under the guidance of this self-awareness.

I suggest you read "The Family of Origin," "A Life Not Controlled by Your Parents," and "We Have All Been Hurt, But We Have a Better Life."

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Hello, I'm Mido. I'm very happy to meet you here. I can see that you have some concerns about this situation. You wonder if your situation might possibly fall into the category of depression.

Dear questioner, I hope I can be of some help to you. I think it's important to remember that we are all ordinary people, and we all have seven emotions and six desires. Sometimes we are sad, sometimes we are happy, and our emotions accompany us throughout our lives. These are all perfectly normal things.

If there are times when you are happy at school, could you please describe those times for me? You can also think back to those happy moments and replay them in your mind more often! Meanwhile, when you get home, you feel a bit sad. You can also tell me in detail about the feelings you have at home when it is convenient!

Could I ask why you feel unhappy when you get home? Is there perhaps some pent-up emotion, or is the atmosphere at home tense? Or is there something that you don't like about the situation that you could talk about?

Finally, we should consider whether it might be helpful to seek professional guidance to determine whether this situation could be indicative of depression. It's important to note that a diagnosis of depression requires a comprehensive assessment by a qualified professional in a regular hospital setting. It's not always easy to make such a determination on our own.

It's natural to experience some degree of sadness or despair from time to time. We all have emotions that can make us feel this way, and it's important to recognize that these feelings are normal. When we're in this state, it's essential to learn how to care for ourselves, how to acknowledge these emotions, and how to coexist peacefully with them. This is an important topic to explore, and it may require some time and attention.

If I might suggest, we could perhaps break down such a state into several parts. The first part would be what event or situation triggered it, and what content touched us, giving us an unhappy, sad, or depressed mood. In the second part, in the midst of this emotion, we could consider how we feel and what our inner activities are like in this kind of mood.

Third, it would be beneficial to learn how to live with this situation that may not be to our liking. It may help to see it, cherish it, and think about it. There are also various strategies and methods for coping.

I hope you can find something to be grateful for in this encounter, in the world, and in me. Please know that you are also welcome to talk to me anytime if you need to.