I can't control myself at all. Why do I always feel the urge to play games before an exam?

Good day!

From your question, I can empathize with the feeling of "always unable to resist playing games." It's understandable that in that moment, it can feel addictive.

It is important to note that gaming addiction can impact normal learning and rest. If you are interested in controlling it, it may be helpful to address it in a serious manner.

I will analyze and advise you as follows:

[Understanding gaming addiction]

The questioner's gaming behavior appears to have a number of concerning characteristics. These include the pleasurable nature of "excitement and excitement," the harmfulness of "already seriously affecting learning," the repetitive nature of "having to turn it on every day or else being in a state where you can't do anything," and the uncontrollability of "this time I completely lost control."

Due to the nature of gaming addiction, the questioner is experiencing difficulties in controlling their behavior.

[The potential harm of game addiction]

While gaming can undoubtedly offer a range of positive experiences, including pleasure, excitement, stimulation, relaxation, and stress relief,

On the other hand, the harm is more apparent.

Firstly, it might be helpful to consider reducing the time and energy you spend on studying. This could help to prevent a decline in your studies and a loss of interest in things other than gaming. As the questioner describes, "I have to play every day or I won't be able to do anything. And when I play, I can't concentrate."

Secondly, they may also experience feelings of frustration and anxiety. They often turn to gaming as a way of coping with these negative emotions, immersing themselves in the game world and temporarily escaping from reality.

Third, they are aware that gaming has a negative impact on their studies and that they cannot control their behavior. As the questioner describes, "I find it challenging to control myself at all."

[Advice to the questioner]

It might be helpful for the questioner to take some time to reflect on their own thoughts and feelings. It's important to remember that everyone has their own unique journey and that there is no one-size-fits-all solution. Believing in one's ability to overcome challenges is an important step.

You might consider having in-depth conversations with yourself. One way to do this would be to take notes on your own questions on the platform and the answers you are interested in from the teachers. Then, you could read them to yourself.

Another option to consider is to divert your attention to other activities. Gradually develop new interests, such as fitness or reading, and work towards reducing your reliance on gaming.

It might be helpful to socialize more, especially with people who, like you, also want to quit their gaming addiction.

It might be helpful to share each other's methods and learn from each other's strengths and weaknesses, which could also help to enhance each other's self-confidence.

I hope these suggestions are helpful to you.

I would like to extend my best wishes to you.

Hello!

From your question, I can tell you're dealing with the classic problem of wanting to do something important but being unable to stop thinking about and doing something enjoyable and relaxing. You're not alone!

It is human nature to seek pleasure and avoid pain.

I'm sure you've experienced the feeling of being in a situation where you think, "School is starting, research is due, and I can't do anything." It's a terrible feeling of powerlessness. It's like a heavy stone is pressing down on your chest, and you really want something to take the stone away.

This feeling is so unbearable that you may instinctively choose to walk away and not think about it. You find ways to distract yourself, and games are one of them. Games are readily available and cheap, and they're an escape from worldly pain.

You've realized that playing games only temporarily relieves your discomfort and doesn't solve the problem. You want to change this state, and you even uninstalled the game to help yourself. Now you've chosen to seek help.

These are all very good behaviors.

I don't know what other attempts you have made to change your obsession with games. I don't know whether there are other things in your life besides games that make you feel happy and fulfilled. I don't know how much interpersonal nourishment you get from your family and friends. I don't know if your current normal routine and diet can still be maintained.

If the answer to these questions is "OK," then you can definitely climb out of this hole on your own. Ask a friend for help, take some coercive measures like studying in a library without a computer, or find a classmate to study with you.

At the same time, you can also experience the same feelings when you play games. Apart from not having to face the problems that distress you, it also gives you a sense of "satisfaction" that you cannot get anywhere else.

If you answered "no," "seldom," or "unable to maintain a normal routine and diet" to any of these questions, you need to seek professional help. You said you're a university student, so you can try a counselor at your university. They'll be able to help.

The questioner, the present is good! Be grateful for having met.

After reading your words, I can tell you're feeling anxious. At the same time, you feel good physically when you play games with yourself, but you tell yourself you shouldn't. This makes you feel out of sync, and you don't feel comfortable, right? Let's talk about this topic.

1. Pay attention to how your body feels.

Our bodies are pretty amazing. They've been evolving for thousands of years, and we're the end result of that. It's important to trust your body and pay attention to the messages it sends us.

You always want to play games, and you actually feel very comfortable and enjoy playing games, but your mind tells you not to, so you suffer. It's important to be aware of what you get out of playing games that makes you feel good.

For instance, do games help you relax and relieve stress, give you a sense of accomplishment, and yield quick results that don't require long-term commitment? In contrast, studying, research, and exams all cause stress, aren't straightforward, and require perseverance.

People tend to avoid pain and seek pleasure, so when your body chooses to play games, it's actually helping you regulate your stress.

2. Pick something else to meet your needs.

If you want to be consistent inside and out and avoid unnecessary stress, you can choose other activities to satisfy these inner psychological needs. For example, playing a game of sports and sweating it out will also make your body feel relaxed and free from stress.

For instance, finishing a quick learning task can also help you feel more accomplished. At the same time, treat yourself to some rewards. You could enjoy a nice meal, take a shower, or listen to some music.

3. Be open to and accept yourself.

Sometimes playing a game is like sleeping in. Give yourself a break and accept that sometimes you just need to relax. I just played a game for a while, and I feel much more relaxed.

Now is the time to experience this sense of pleasure through learning.

Take a moment to notice how your inner parent is being harsh on you. Then, give your inner child a hug. You're aware that you're playing games with yourself, and you know it's not right.

So, we need to make some changes to our bodies as well. We need to reduce the amount of gaming we do and find new sources of pleasure that are good for us. Being aware of what we're doing is the first step to making a change.

I hope this helps. Best of luck!

Good day. I am pleased to see that you have requested assistance, and I hope that my input will provide you with the support and guidance you seek.

I commend you for recognizing that you are not adequately preparing for the upcoming school year. Awareness is the first step towards change.

It is important to understand that the reason an inappropriate behavior pattern continues to recur is that the person involved is better able to respond to and satisfy a certain inner need through this seemingly inappropriate behavior. Therefore, there is no right or wrong behavior. It is essential to be aware of the part of your needs that you are responding to and satisfying by indulging in games. When you have a clear awareness and understanding of this part of your needs, you may have found a way to better respond to and satisfy your needs.

The prerequisite for change is acceptance. This entails accepting and allowing yourself to indulge in games repeatedly before the start of the school year. When you want to indulge in games at that moment, refrain from judging your behavior. Instead, attempt to identify and address the underlying needs driving your behavior. This can be achieved by responding in a more appropriate manner, such as engaging in sports that make you feel comfortable and happy, or by nourishing and enhancing yourself by immersing yourself in your interests and passions. Additionally, you can connect with yourself better by talking to your inner self.

If you are unable to change your excessive gaming behavior through your own efforts, it is advisable to seek support or professional assistance.

I suggest you read "Mastering Habits."

My name is Lily, the little ear of the Q&A Museum. I extend my warmest regards to you and the world.