I dream of becoming a writer, but I rarely read. How can I develop a good reading habit?

I am Mulan Mulan, a heart exploration coach, and I would be happy to answer your question.

If we are interested in making changes to ourselves, it might be helpful to consider a number of different factors.

If you aspire to become a writer, it's important to remember that the journey begins with a single step. Even if you only read three pages a day, you're already on the path to becoming a writer. What's crucial is to start, not to focus on what you've achieved. Every day, you can make a small change that adds up to a big difference.

It is worth noting that the path to becoming a writer is not without its challenges. In today's world, there are many individuals writing books, which can sometimes make it difficult to stand out as a writer. It's not always clear what defines a writer, and it's not always easy to distinguish oneself as a writer in the crowd.

Or perhaps you wrote a book that became a bestseller, or one that slowly became a bestseller.

Or perhaps you have written a book, but for various reasons it was never published.

This could be the path to becoming a writer. What does a writer look like to you? Perhaps this question will help you identify concrete steps to gradually start moving towards your goal of becoming a writer.

From your writing, I sense a certain feeling of powerlessness. I also perceive a hint of fear that you may not succeed despite your best efforts. This is a common challenge many of us face. We all aspire to succeed, yet we often feel more apprehensive about failure. When we encounter setbacks, success may appear distant and elusive.

When we work hard, we hope for success, but there will inevitably be two outcomes: success or failure. If we succeed after all our efforts, then we can be reassured that our efforts were useful, worthwhile, and worthwhile.

It is understandable that after investing significant time and effort, many individuals may feel discouraged if they have not yet achieved success. The fear of investing time and effort without seeing results can be a significant barrier to getting started.

If that's the case, it seems like you might be seeking the title of writer, but perhaps not the act of writing itself. I apologize if I'm mistaken, but I've found it helpful to consider whether writing is something you truly love.

If someone truly loves writing, it would be natural for them to want to express that in some way. Perhaps they might record their feelings about it in some way.

I also enjoy the opportunity to record and write about my experiences, which I feel helps to show my life in a way that is both personal and engaging.

Or perhaps it's an inexplicable love for writing. There are all kinds of things in front of you, and you may not choose to write every time, but you will choose to write at some point in time.

So, it could be said that being a writer is not just about reading a lot of books. There is also a process of input and output. It could be argued that it is when you have an inspiration inside you and a desire to write that you really start on your path to becoming a writer.

Of course, we all have dreams: to be a writer, an engineer, a successful businessman, or just a plain and happy worker.

And there are many events in life that may present challenges to following the path of hope and achieving the desired result. During these times, it's natural to feel lost, confused, powerless, or helpless.

I believe that attitude plays an important role in this situation. If we have the impression that we are destined to achieve nothing or that our dreams are just dreams, the result may not be as positive as we would like.

If we allow ourselves to think, "I don't care what the final result is, I just like doing this, even if I do it for 30 or 50 years, and in the end I don't achieve anything from it, I still love it," we may find that we can embrace the process itself.

Even if the final result is not as satisfactory as we might have hoped, and we do not receive any tangible reward, the process itself can be very healing and fulfilling, particularly when we are engaged in an activity that we truly enjoy.

I hope this message finds you well. Please accept my best regards.

My name is Mulan Mulan, and I work as a heart exploration coach. I hope my answer is helpful to you.

Okay, it looks like your dream is to become a writer!

I'd love to know if this is true!

I'm so happy you're pursuing your dream of becoming a writer! It's such a fulfilling career.

Also, I was once asked what my dream is, and I chose to answer that my dream is to be a writer!

I'd love to know how you confirmed your dream of becoming a writer!

For example, my idol is Haruki Murakami. Or the person I admire most is Lu Xun, and I really hope I can become like him!

I'm really proud of the work I've done so far, and I'm excited to keep developing my own unique perspective on things.

For example, I want to become a writer because I think I'll have some talent and enthusiasm for writing. When I was a child, I loved reading my compositions aloud in class and was always praised by my teacher. I also had the chance to publish some of my work in school and municipal journals.

I feel like I have a knack for observing current affairs and organizing text.

The above question is a great way to figure out what's really going on inside us. It's also a good reminder that we can learn a lot about ourselves by thinking about whether our driving force is internal or external. Do we follow the world or do we follow our interests?

In the first example, you have a goal and someone you really look up to. You have a role model, and you're excited to move forward towards your goal!

This is something that comes from inside you.

In the second example, you are willing to write and can express yourself sharply and warmly. You have had successful experiences, and for you this is an advantageous item that you must do. It is a talent, and you should be proud of it!

If you've had these experiences and are currently checking your phone a lot, it might be that you're using your phone as a way of avoiding studying.

It's a way of protecting ourselves, a defense mechanism.

For example, if I go to write, I will definitely write very well. But I didn't write, so it's not my fault, silly me!

There's another possibility, and it's a good one! It's called short-term happiness, consumer-based happiness, and growth-oriented happiness, which is long-term and rewarding.

In a nutshell, playing with my phone makes me happy in the moment. I know it's a bit of a contradiction, but it's true!

This might not be the best way to achieve my goals, but I'd rather enjoy the pleasure of consumption in the moment. We often refer to this as "nipple pleasure," and it's totally normal!

To get those long-term rewards, I know I need to read a lot and work towards my goal of being able to write a book. Then I'll need to spend lots of time reading, and there won't be any immediate output. It'll just need to be sustained.

It can be so hard to find the time to read when you're feeling lonely. It's a long-term, rewarding pleasure, but it's not always easy to see the value in it in the moment.

I would get caught up in all the little things that don't really matter in the long run.

If this is the case, then it might be helpful to think about some time management and goal planning.

Love is the best teacher, isn't it? I'm not sure how old the original poster is, but I'm sure they'll be just fine!

You've got this! You can clearly understand your talents and what you love. You can understand your strengths, too.

Then you're doing what you're good at and you're enjoying it, which is great!

If your strengths aren't in that column, no problem! You can also take a career assessment and personality test to understand your preferences and specialties. Then, you can make a corresponding plan.

I'm happy to answer your last question, too! How can you put down the phone and read more?

I'm so happy you asked about the Vogt Behavioral Model!

I'd like to mention Mr. Li Songwei's "Change 5%" as well.

You don't have to make a lot of big changes all at once. Just add a little bit at a time and then reinforce your positive results. If you want to know more about how to do this, just ask me.

Please, don't hesitate to talk to me about it.