I feel as though I'm walking the path I want, yet my emotions are still crumbling.

Hello!

It's okay to cry. Tears help us release emotions. When we can't express our feelings, we can use other methods to express our inner unease and vulnerability. This is also a way to help ourselves release emotions in reverse.

In a relay race, runners look at the person in front, classmates running alongside, and hear "Come on!" to keep going.

I shouted, looked at my classmates, and felt proud. This made me keep going.

When you reach your limit, you will find you have transformed and your heart is strong.

We can cheer ourselves on when we're facing difficulties, but we still feel anxious and scared when we're faced with the uncertainty of the unknown. We can only bear the pain after hard work, but when we have the warmth of our boyfriend's company, it will replenish our inner energy and give us room to be resilient. Overcoming one uncertainty after another will turn into our inner energy, and we will continue to move forward. Our way of thinking will also become more open.

Life needs balance. Take a break and relax.

There's no such thing as an absolute work-life balance, but there's also no absolute one-sided lifestyle. We need to pay attention to ourselves, be aware of our emotions, and take short breaks even when we are busy. This will help us relax and face the heavy workload.

The questioner has been in the job for half a year. Don't worry. You can still find ways to cope with the work you know, have some free time, and treat yourself. Dealing with negative emotions at work will help.

Connect with your inner self and energy.

Happiness comes from the process of work, not the work itself. If a career doesn't make you happy, it's not the career's fault. It's a sign that you're lacking something inside.

People who are busy are less happy because they neglect their inner energy. We can pay attention to our emotions during the week. If we are sad, we can order a takeaway or some ice cream to change our mood. These are positive ways to release negative energy.

Look at the future positively and believe in yourself.

It's like running a race: before you start, you're full of confidence, but the hard work will make you doubt yourself. Thoughts will gradually become negative, making it hard to see the positives. The future is uncertain, but negative thinking won't help. When you encounter setbacks, the best way to overcome them is to think positively.

You can learn to manage stress and release inner stress by keeping a diary.

Good luck!

Dear Questioner,

You are a civil servant who has been employed for approximately six months. The civil service examinations are rigorous, and you have demonstrated that you are capable of distinguishing yourself from others, which indicates that you are an exceptional individual. As you have stated, your current circumstances are not representative of your past experiences. You have expressed aspirations for financial independence, job security, and personal autonomy. I believe you may have experienced a sense of fulfillment in the initial stages of your employment, and I would like to acknowledge this achievement.

It is possible that you are also judging yourself in this way. That is to say, you may believe that all of your previous wishes have been fulfilled, and therefore, you are still experiencing these negative emotions. The more you question yourself, the less willing you are to forgive yourself. I can relate to your feelings of confusion, helplessness, and powerlessness when you are far away from home and have just started working.

In light of your description of your work,

I am apprehensive about the prospect of having to undertake all of the associated tasks. I neglect to consume sufficient quantities of water on a daily basis due to the demands of my occupational responsibilities. The process of work and the necessity of engaging in conflict with others result in a profound sense of fatigue. Upon returning to the rented accommodation, I experience a pronounced state of immobility.

I empathize with your situation. As a recent graduate, you are confronted with a considerable workload, particularly in the context of the ongoing pandemic. The current circumstances are more challenging than what you may have experienced previously. At work, you interact with a diverse range of individuals, which can be overwhelming, especially when you are a newcomer to the social landscape. Additionally, you are in an unfamiliar environment, which can compound the difficulties. You have limited support systems in place, as you mentioned. When you return to your rental room, you are already fatigued, with no one to turn to for companionship. You are solely responsible for your own support and cooking. This situation is undoubtedly challenging. I extend my support to you.

In response to your query, I was immediately prompted to recall the scene in which I initially obtained my driving licence and began driving. I believe you should have also obtained your licence, would you not agree?

The skills I acquired at the driving school will forever be etched in my memory when I am on the road. I will never forget the first few times I was behind the wheel, especially the first time I saw a large vehicle approaching. I was so overwhelmed with fear that I was rendered incapable of doing anything. I would drive at a maximum speed of 25 miles per hour, merely swaying along. If I encountered any dangerous locations, such as crossing a narrow bridge, I would exit the vehicle and request assistance from other drivers to help me cross safely. I truly believe that driving is an exceptionally challenging and arduous task.

It is my estimation that approximately one year was required for me to become accustomed to the act of driving. It should be noted that I did not engage in driving on a daily basis during this period. Presently, I am able to discern a gradual diminution in the intensity of the cognitive strain that I experience following a period of driving. Consequently, I postulate that your current state of mind may be analogous to the one I experienced upon initially obtaining my license and taking my first drive.

In other words, it is imperative that we are permitted to adopt this mindset. This is a process that we must undergo from school to society. We must face society on our own. Currently, due to the demands of my work, I have not had the opportunity to drink water. It is challenging to maintain a constant state of busyness. Additionally, there is the issue of considering a break from work to drink water, which could potentially lead to disagreements with individuals who lack understanding. Initially, one might question the rationale behind such behavior. However, through engaging in these discussions, one can enhance their personal growth and learn to navigate these challenges with greater ease.

As long as humans are alive, they are all growing, and it is not easy. Anxiety, tension, and breakdowns can be said to be the obstacles in life that humans cannot escape. When these emotions arise, humans just let them happen. This is also a way to protect themselves. These emotions are already enough for humans to suffer. Humans just need to stop blaming themselves for these emotions too much. This is not just a problem for a particular individual; it is a stage that almost everyone has to go through. Humans should treat their current situation with an ordinary heart.

With regard to the unfortunate circumstances of your grandmother, who passed away a few years ago, it might be beneficial to consider the following: the reality is that the dissatisfaction associated with old age is something that is inevitable and universal.

Furthermore, it is imperative to recognize that no individual can be replaced. Therefore, it is crucial to value the present and optimize the utilization of each day. When we reach advanced age, we will not regret this approach. Conversely, given our current state of vitality and capacity for physical activity, it is evident that many elderly individuals would envy this period of life.

I once observed an elderly man in a hospital bed who was unable to move. He repeatedly implored the heavens, "Show mercy, allow me to recuperate so that I may still lead others in doing good deeds."

I believe you possess the capacity to overcome this challenging period independently, and I am confident that you will emerge unscathed. You have the support of friends and your boyfriend, who can provide you with a temporary residence for a few days, which should help you to recuperate. Furthermore, you still have the activities you previously enjoyed, such as movies, reading, and cooking. It is evident that you have a wide range of interests, many of which are romantic and elegant. I recall you as a dynamic college student with a great deal of energy.

I am unaware of your preferred reading material or films. Could you kindly inform me of your culinary expertise?

It is my sincere hope that you will be able to communicate effectively with all relevant parties, particularly given that April is Reading Month. I understand that April 23 is designated as Reading Day, and that various platforms are also holding activities. Otherwise, the present circumstances offer a valuable opportunity to engage with members who have a penchant for reading and to join a reading group. It is well documented that reading can facilitate the expansion of one's intellectual horizons, enhance one's knowledge base, and provide a substantial boost of energy.

As I continue to discuss these concepts, I am increasingly convinced that you have a firm grasp on the principles I have outlined. I believe that, as long as you maintain the conviction that once this challenging period has come to an end, you will have developed the resilience to handle your work with greater ease, you will be able to emerge from this painful phase with a stronger sense of self. It can be argued that the more intense the suffering you experience now, the greater your capacity to withstand it in the future. I find the following saying particularly insightful: being invulnerable now is akin to having endured a multitude of painful experiences.

For you, the present is the past. Therefore, if the past six months since you started working have been full of difficulties, it is to be hoped that through your hard work, you will become invincible in the future.

I am eagerly anticipating our next encounter. Adversity is merely a transient phenomenon. If one is driven by the aspiration to achieve financial autonomy, a secure employment status, a private residence, and the conviction that these objectives can be attained through assiduous endeavour, then it is inevitable that one will emerge from the challenging circumstances and actualise their long-term ambitions.

I would like to take this opportunity to express my love for the world.

Dear Question Asker,

If circumstances permitted, I would extend a gesture of solace from a distance.

Your heart, which is afflicted with anxiety, isolation, helplessness, and a lack of power.

It would be beneficial to ascertain whether the current state of anxiety has had an impact on the individual in question.

Has it affected your ability to work or sleep? Have you experienced any physical health issues as a result?

In the event that the aforementioned symptoms are affecting the individual, it would be prudent to consider the use of pharmacological agents to regulate bodily functions.

From the materials presented thus far, it appears that there may be an intertwining of anxiety and depression.

The term "emotion" is used to describe the mental state of an individual.

Depression can be understood as an overcompensation of anxiety. Prolonged exposure to anxiety can lead to the development of depressive symptoms.

As a result of excessive internal consumption, the body will attempt to maintain equilibrium by engaging in the opposite process.

The following is a reaction to the aforementioned points.

It may be beneficial to consider the following:

Is the reason for your current state of affairs related to burnout caused by excessive work pressure?

Does this situation relate to burnout?

First, it is evident that you are an independent and self-reliant individual.

In this case, the individual in question is someone who does not rely on others to a significant extent.

Your tendency to overwork and over-rely on yourself has resulted in

The term "burnout" is used to describe a state of physical, emotional, and mental exhaustion that can result from prolonged periods of stress and pressure.

Secondly, the situation of being a female in an unfamiliar country, residing in a rental property, and experiencing a sense of solitude,

Furthermore, the absence of emotional support has resulted in a loss of emotional stability.

It is also possible that she is a strong-willed individual.

Furthermore, she has exhibited a reluctance to communicate with her family and romantic partner.

This has resulted in the passive and exhausted situation that is currently being observed.

Thirdly, the final straw that led to the breaking point.

It is possible that the grieving process was not completed in a timely manner following the death of the grandmother.

The repressed sadness is now activated by a life characterised by loneliness and exhaustion.

What is the most effective method for disrupting this cycle?

It is recommended that, if feasible, a vacation be taken at the end of the year.

It would be beneficial to return to your hometown for a period of relaxation and informal mourning for your grandmother.

Secondly, in the event that work is unavoidable, it is also necessary to address one's grief.

It is recommended that you write down what you want to say to your grandmother and then burn it.

This is a long-forgotten memorial service for family members.

Thirdly, it is recommended that the individual in question should endeavour to identify a relative, friend or partner with whom they can discuss their feelings.

It is recommended that you engage in open dialogue to express your psychological grievances, sadness, and unhappiness.

Fourth, it is advisable to learn how to adapt one's own work rhythm.

A balance between work and life is a crucial factor in achieving success. It is essential to maintain a clear distinction between one's professional and personal lives.

It is imperative to avoid overworking oneself.

It is also important to note that if the current feelings of collapse have a significant impact on one's

It is advisable to seek the guidance of a professional counselor with regard to sleep, diet, work, and interpersonal relationships.

Please be assured that I am always available to provide assistance at Yixinli.

Hello!

I understand your distress. Let me give you a hug.

The difficulties you have faced:

1. Being a civil servant in a new place makes her feel anxious and exhausted.

2. The civil servant's life is not what he expected. He used to like reading, movies, and cooking, but now he just wants to lie down.

3. I can't sleep, I'm anxious, I'm afraid, I've cried several times, and I feel worse when I think about my grandmother's death.

4. I don't know how to balance my emotions while improving my work and personal life.

A simple analysis of the problem

1. The questioner may have grown up with their parents taking care of them. Their parents may have met their material needs, but not their emotional needs, self-reliance, or the need to balance their life choices. This has made it seem like the questioner can take care of themselves, but when something happens, they don't know how to deal with it or maintain mental balance. They can't adapt or solve problems well, which makes them feel insecure and unable to satisfy their emotional needs.

2. The questioner may work as a civil servant in a different place, and the work, atmosphere, and living conditions may not be what they expected. There will also be relationships and pressure at work. This cannot be avoided, no matter whether you are inside or outside the system. Even some jobs in the system require overtime.

The questioner's anxiety is not the civil servant work itself, but the questioner's anxiety in the face of life's uncertainties. If the questioner were not in the system, but outside it, would the questioner not be anxious? The answer is yes.

3. The questioner's work and life situation seems to be caused by pressure, but it is a way of avoiding problems because he does not know how to deal with them. There will always be conflicts between ideals and reality. We can only find the best solution and achieve balance to the greatest extent possible.

4. I can't sleep, I'm anxious, I've had a breakdown, and my grandmother's death makes me feel depressed. The questioner's work pressure and self-pressure from extreme rejection make him feel alone. When he thinks about his grandmother, he feels lost and comfortless.

I'm not saying you should give up your civil servant job, but this is true for any job, inside or outside the system. You have to work overtime, and sometimes there are no holidays. The mundane and the poetic are two sides of the same coin. You just have to adjust your mindset and find the greatest common divisor.

The following solutions are provided:

(1) Organize your emotions, accept yourself, and tell yourself the situation is not the worst.

(2) Look at work objectively and rationally. A comfortable life and being far from home are not at odds. Contentment is poetry.

(3) Get rid of your past baggage. Work, communicate, and express opinions moderately.

(4) Stop worrying and thinking too much.

(5) Go on a trip, jog, go to the gym, or read a book.

(6) Find things to enrich yourself.

(7) Invite your colleagues to dinner, hang out with them, give them small gifts. No one will refuse.

(8) Accept your work. Don't reject it or worry about the future.

(9) Try to be the best you can be, learn to love yourself, and don't forget your original intentions. You are following your own plan, so just adjust your mentality and you'll be fine.

I hope this helps. I wish you happiness. The world loves you.

Hello, I'm Yi Ming, a mindfulness coach.

I'm Yi Ming, a mindfulness coach.

I've read your question and the answers from the other respondents, and I'd like to add a few more points in the hope that they'll be of some comfort and inspiration to you.

1. Pay attention to what your emotions are telling you, and try to take care of your body and emotions.

You said, "I feel like I'm on the path I want to be on, but I'm still emotionally devastated." You've achieved your goal of financial independence, a stable job, and personal space, but you're feeling anxious and having trouble sleeping because of busy work or arguing with people.

It's great that you're thinking positively about the reasons and asking for help!

You're already starting to make a change.

It's totally normal to have negative emotions when you're under pressure at work or when things don't go to plan.

It's clear that we're now facing some challenges.

For instance, if you're too busy, you might forget to drink even a little water at work.

This will naturally affect our physical condition.

We're consumed at work, and we don't want to do anything when we get back to our accommodation.

This is just the body's way of protecting itself.

This gives you a chance to rest and recharge.

So, at this point, it's really important to take care of your body and your emotions first.

For instance, during the breaks between tasks, even if you're really busy, try to take a moment to pause or slow down your inner rhythm.

Every hour or so, take a quick break to drink some water or go to the bathroom to relax for a few minutes.

Try to find a way to take care of yourself at work.

Some people like to look out the window, empty their minds for a couple minutes, or go to the pantry to avoid being disturbed.

Some people use their lunch break to head out to the courtyard and admire the flowers and trees to lift their mood.

In psychology, this little self-space, a place where you can relax, is called a "transition space."

Simply put, it's a buffer zone that provides some relief and release from the annoyance or pressure at work.

Believe in yourself and you'll gradually find a way to recharge that works for you.

2. Think about how work affects us.

From what you said in your responses, it's clear you're not afraid of hard work. You're happy to put in the extra hours to help fight the epidemic because you feel it's meaningful.

Could the issue be that your current daily work is both trivial and peripheral?

While work gives you financial independence and stability, it doesn't give you what you need right now.

A perfect career would be one that combines your interests, values, and abilities.

Your current job might not be that interesting or meaningful to you.

This can make us anxious and trigger a sense of loss.

Because you can't really satisfy yourself psychologically.

So, see if these two factors are affecting you and find out what you can do at this stage to make the right changes.

How can you give yourself a boost, give yourself more positive messages, accept yourself, and not be too hard on yourself?

If someone can't express their interests and values at work or feels their work is somewhat marginal, it's only natural they'll feel uncomfortable.

This is totally normal. It's important to recognize your own difficulties and give yourself a bit of a break.

Or you could speak to your manager to see if there are any work adjustments that could be made.

In the workplace, we can also learn to ask for help when we need it.

Or just ask your colleagues what they think are good ways to deal with the situation.

And don't be afraid to ask for help.

3. Take a step back and see the situation from a different perspective.

Psychologist Zeng Qifeng said, "People are animals of play, and everything in the world can be approached and participated in with a playful attitude."

Have you ever played a game?

Do you enjoy playing games?

When we're at work and facing difficulties or various pressures, it might not be the best way to resist or escape.

When we try to make work a game, because it is difficult and because there are many problems to face, we are the players. How can we get past this hurdle at work?

This means that work can be seen as another game that requires our own wisdom.

Have faith in yourself.

Everyone is an expert at solving their own problems, but they often doubt themselves.

From now on, don't be too hard on yourself. Instead, encourage yourself and believe that you can get out of your current situation.

And you'll gradually find the approach that works best for you.

I wish you the best of luck!

I just wanted to say that I love you, the world and I!

Hello, host. I am confident that my answer will be helpful to you.

If you want to cry, do it. Don't suppress your emotions; express them. Crying is a way to express yourself. Figure out why you're anxious. You are your own best counselor, and you will find your own answers.

My advice to you is this:

Know the core reason for your emotions.

When emotions come, I identify the reason: anger, sadness, or depression. I ask myself: What needs of mine have not been met?

You can find the core reason for your emotions through constant self-awareness and reflection. Once you have identified your core problem, you can work hard to solve it and fundamentally improve your emotions.

For example, I used to get angry a lot when other people's behavior didn't meet my expectations. I expected my mother-in-law not to control me, my husband to be with me all the time, and my children to be proactive in learning.

When they don't meet my standards, I feel bad. I later discovered that my core problem is using my standards to demand others meet my standards, and when they don't, I get angry.

When I let go of my own standards, accept each of them, and don't force them to be the way I want them to be, my emotions become much more stable.

The core reason for getting angry is different for each person because everyone has different needs. We get emotional because our needs are not being met.

My friend gets angry when others don't recognize and accept him. But the real issue is that he doesn't recognize and accept himself.

There is a law in psychology: when we lack something inside, we will seek it outside.

If you're always seeking affirmation and recognition from others, it's a clear sign that you don't fully recognize and accept yourself. Keep looking outward for recognition and you'll find that others are unstable and can't always affirm and recognize you. You also can't control the actions and thoughts of others, which will often make you feel unrecognized and unaccepted, entering a negative cycle.

We must look within, affirm ourselves, recognize ourselves, accept our imperfections, and accept ourselves as a whole.

My friend learned to affirm and accept himself. As a result, his heart became more and more harmonious. He no longer experienced huge emotional swings due to external evaluations. He said, "After I accepted and recognized myself enough, I found that my world really changed a lot. I'm no longer so emotional about other people's negativity because I know what kind of person I am. They only negate me because I don't meet their evaluation standards. Of course I'm also happy when others affirm me, but I know that they only affirm me because I meet their evaluation standards..."

Human cognition, emotions, and behavior are closely linked. They are like gears meshing together: as soon as one of them moves, the other two will definitely follow. You can improve your emotions by perceiving the core reasons that make you angry and adjusting your cognition and behavior accordingly.

Accept all your emotions.

We must accept our emotions, whether good or bad, because they are part of ourselves.

You don't need to deal with bad emotions deliberately. Just take them with you to do things. Emotions are neither good nor bad. They're useful. They help us understand ourselves and feel the world.

It is essential to cultivate a positive view of emotions. This means not judging any emotion that arises and not determining whether it is good or bad.

You will naturally follow good emotions like happiness and joy and avoid bad emotions like depression and irritability when you judge whether emotions are good or bad.

You must let go of the good and resist the bad. This will free up your energy and stop you from getting caught in a cycle of emotional turmoil.

Maintain a positive mindset and don't waste time on emotions. There's no good or bad. Don't divide your emotions into two camps. That just creates inner conflict and struggle.

Treat your emotions with detachment and they will have less power over you.

You will then have real control over your emotions.

Use reasonable ways to release emotions.

Emotions cannot be suppressed. As Sigmund Freud said, "Emotions that are suppressed will surely find an appropriate opportunity to erupt in a more violent way."

Yes, we can cry to release emotions. Crying is a way to release emotions, but it can only have a temporary effect. We can also use the following methods to relieve emotions:

If you need to escape from pain, express your innermost feelings and thoughts in writing. It doesn't matter if your handwriting is messy or if your thoughts make no sense. Just express yourself. Find the right person to talk to. Express your inner worries and stress. At the same time, feel the love and support of your friends.

If you're self-negating, you need to improve your sense of self-identification, give yourself positive and positive evaluations, and practice self-affirmation. You can also improve your cognition by reading books like "Accept Yourself: Transcend Your Inherent Weaknesses," "Accept Your Imperfections," and "Rebuilding Your Life."

If you are sad because of someone, find the person you want to connect with, have a sincere exchange, and express your needs to them. Only when we express our needs and feelings will our hearts not be so depressed.

If you need to release anger, do it. Go for a run, hit the boxing gym, play some football. Squeeze a stress ball, pound a pillow, tear up paper. Use the technique of an empty chair to release emotions. Place an empty chair in the room, sit in it, and let it absorb your thoughts and feelings.

Grief healing for the death of your grandmother:

You must find ways to express your grief and say goodbye to your grandmother.

Write her a letter. Express your emotions and feelings. Don't worry about neat handwriting or logic. Just write as much as you like. At the end, say: "Dear ..., I am grateful you appeared in my life. I am grateful for the love and strength you gave me. I am saying goodbye. I wish you all the best. Please wish us all the best. I will live a good life with the strength and love you gave me. Goodbye!"

Expressing your pent-up emotions and feelings will make you feel much more relaxed. You will slowly stop being constantly caught up in these emotions and be able to sort out your feelings so you can continue living your life.

We must maintain a healthy ongoing connection with Grandma.

It is crucial to use positive and healthy methods to deal with the ongoing connection between the living and the deceased and to relocate the deceased relative in our hearts. This is an essential process of grief healing.

1. The deceased can provide positive inspirations for living, such as loving life, cherishing life, paying attention to health, helping others, being kind and generous, etc.

2. You can feel warmth and joy when thinking of the deceased, in addition to sadness.

3. Use the deceased to encourage yourself, cheer yourself up, and fill yourself with courage when encountering difficulties.

4. Accept that the deceased has passed away. Love them and face the future with a positive attitude.

5. Do what the deceased wanted to do but couldn't.

6. Use different rituals or ways that make you feel comfortable to mourn the deceased.

7. Do charity work in the deceased's name and be proud of it.

8. Maintain normal spiritual communication with the deceased. This can be done by talking to others about the deceased, writing about your memories of the deceased, and finding warmth and encouragement in your memories.

9. Handle the deceased's belongings, such as making photo albums. It is important to gradually adopt more inner connections rather than relying too much on external forms or objects. For example, keeping in touch with the deceased by borrowing their belongings is an effective way to maintain an inner connection.

I wish you the best of luck.

Good morning, My name is Gu Yi, and I am as modest and self-effacing as ever.

From your description, it is evident that you have achieved a lifestyle that aligns with your aspirations. However, I also perceive a sense of restlessness and urgency.

Please clarify your objective.

I believe you, a civil servant in a different position, have invested significant effort to achieve your goals. However, I question whether this is the lifestyle you truly desire, or if you are merely pursuing it because others have encouraged you to do so.

In recent years, the pandemic has led to a new understanding of stability, with people pushing their expectations of this stability to a higher level. This level of stability has prompted a rush of people forward, feeling that by entering the system, they will have a guarantee and their sense of well-being will increase significantly. However, this kind of promotion has led to further confusion.

It is beneficial to enter the system according to one's own preferences. However, human nature is insatiable, and situations often have multiple aspects. When we are not part of the system, we value stability. However, when we become part of the system, we may feel that the trivial and meaningless work at the grassroots level does not align with our personal values. It can be challenging to achieve a sense of balance.

This kind of irreconcilable internal conflict has a negative impact on our well-being. Since it cannot be avoided, it is essential to implement effective regulatory measures.

How to adjust:

It is important to understand the nature of grassroots work. The role of serving the people requires individuals to forego personal gain and comfort in order to dedicate themselves to the task at hand. For young professionals, the reward is a stable future with minimal stress. However, it can be challenging to accept this trade-off when it differs from one's personal aspirations. Therefore, it is essential to gain a clear understanding of the situation before attempting to achieve a balance between work and personal life.

It is important to distinguish between work and personal life. Some individuals may not perceive a distinction between the two, but it is crucial to maintain a clear separation.

However, if you closely examine your own state of mind, you will realize that our lives have been disrupted by work. It is also possible that you have recently started a new work routine and are still adjusting to it. Therefore, it is essential to adjust your state of mind as soon as possible. While taking care of yourself outside of work, it is beneficial to make more friends to avoid loneliness. Despite the Internet's ability to connect people, face-to-face communication remains crucial.

It is important to let go of distracting thoughts. Many young people who do not want to work in the civil service believe that the current situation is a preview of what the next few decades will be like, and that life is not challenging.

When we strive to live our lives to the fullest, we may find ourselves feeling overwhelmed by the demands of daily life. It is important to remember that while we can create our own unique experiences and perspectives, the expectations and challenges of the modern world can sometimes feel overwhelming. It is natural to experience a range of emotions in response to these pressures, and it is essential to recognize that taking time to process these feelings is a crucial part of maintaining resilience and well-being. Reasonable venting and intentional adjustment can help us regain a sense of balance and positivity.

Best regards,

Good evening! I'll give you a big, warm hug!

It's clear you're still quite young, just starting out in the working world, living in a different city, and renting your own place. You've achieved your goal of financial independence, a stable job, and personal space. But, I can see you're feeling a bit down, anxious, and scared.

But if your boyfriend comes over, or if you have friends over, you'll feel so much better!

So, in my opinion, what you really need is probably a relationship, a closer relationship with others, or a closer relationship with yourself.

I've also spent many years working and living alone in a foreign place. I remember that at the time I was in Guangdong, living in a company dormitory.

On weekends, my local colleagues would naturally head home. Some of my roommates would go home to another city. By the time I was in the later stages, I was basically the only one left in the dormitory on weekends.

I go to the gym alone, I go shopping, and I go out to eat. I remember that at the time, the most I ate was the Guobashi rice noodles. I went into the restaurant, picked up a magazine (back then, there were no smartphones yet), and ate while reading.

The small plates and bowls at Guoqiao Mixian are so plentiful and delicious! It's been so many years, but I still miss that restaurant.

It's often said online that loneliness can range from shopping at the supermarket alone to having surgery alone. I've probably done everything except have surgery alone!

But I went to the doctor's by myself, and it was a rainy weekend.

I usually like to have some time to myself in my dorm or rental apartment, where I can relax from the moment I get off work on Friday until I leave in the morning on Monday.

When I'm alone, I love to use the time to read, watch American dramas, sleep, and cook. I've read so many random books and even got a certificate!

I love watching American dramas whenever I get the chance. It's a great way to unwind! When I first graduated, I was really nervous about speaking English. But as time went on, I worked with some lovely British people and had to write emails and attend conference calls in English, so I was able to build up my confidence. I even took the postgraduate entrance exam and passed the English level 6 exam, all thanks to the sense of language that came from binge-watching English dramas back then!

This kind of life continued for more than ten years, from the Pearl River Delta to the Yangtze River Delta, from graduating from university to getting married and starting a family. It was quite the adventure!

Back then, I always carried my ID card with me when I went out. It was a good thing to have in those days! I carried my ID card because I was afraid that if something happened to me, the police wouldn't know who I was and I would become a nobody.

I'm not the type of person who needs a lot of interpersonal relationships. I can have fun on my own just fine! I'm okay with close relationships, and I'm also okay with not having them.

Of course, I have a lot of friends, and I get along really well with them!

From your question, it's clear you have high expectations when it comes to relationships. You want to have a closer relationship with them, which is totally understandable!

But the reality is that you're all alone in a foreign place, and you're a civil servant. I totally get it! I believe that many people are local and are eager to go home after work. It is difficult to develop a personal relationship with your colleagues and hang out together on weekends.

I bet you don't want to go out on weekends to meet people your age either. But it's clear that you really need relationships, both with other people and with yourself.

You can also join groups like yoga, running, reading, or groups with common interests. It's a great way to meet new people and make new friends! Now that we're in the Internet age, it's super easy to find people around you who share your interests.

Internally, the only thing I can think of is reading! You can make a plan for your reading. See if you want to improve your professional skills through reading, grow yourself, start a side business, etc. In short, give yourself a plan!

Then, you can even get a certificate or something!

And then, of course, reading must be output! These days, there are so many great self-media platforms where you can write down your thoughts and share them with more people. You can also link to more people with the same frequency!

I truly believe that a sense of meaning is our last bastion as human beings. And for ordinary people, we often find our meaning in our relationships with others and with ourselves.

I'm often both Buddhist and feeling a bit down, but I'm also an occasionally positive and motivated counselor. And I love you, the world, and everything in it!

You've been working as a civil servant in a different city for half a year. It's been tough living and working alone for the past six months.

You are experiencing anxiety due to work pressure.

If you live alone and have no one to share your happiness or confide your worries in, you will feel exhausted and like you can't go on alone.

The current work situation may not be what you expected, but you can handle it. You knew it would be difficult, and it is. But you can get through it.

Lie down and rest.

Take a break when you're tired and do something else when you feel better.

You are a very strong and brave girl who can handle any difficulty on your own.

The strongest person needs to rest and care and support.

Ask your boyfriend and best friend for support. Or ask a trusted colleague or leader at work for support.

They will be happy to help you. It will make them feel valued and important.

The annoyances at work may be so trivial that you don't even know why you're annoyed.

Our mature psychological defense mechanisms suppress and isolate negative emotions so we can continue working without being affected by them.

But after being suppressed and isolated, these emotions remain in our subconscious, surging and turbulent, and they will make you feel like you're about to collapse.

You should record the things that make you uncomfortable and unpleasant during your work. This will improve your ability to perceive.

I want to know why this place makes me feel uncomfortable.

I need to know if I'm particularly sensitive to these scenes.

I need to know if I have similar emotional wounds.

I need to know what I can do to deal with such people and things.

When you can identify the source of your frustration, whether it's a specific issue or a larger problem, you can find a solution and overcome your anxiety.

I'm confident this will help.

1. [Adaptation process] It is good to become financially independent as soon as you start working. Having your own space is also a way of achieving your dreams. Many people work hard to earn money, and the work of civil servants is already good compared to many other jobs. You feel too busy and tired at work because you have not experienced it. You have lived a privileged life since childhood and have not experienced hardship. This is a process of growth.

2. Being alone and having the ability to be alone are two different things. If you lack the ability to be alone, you will have emotional problems. If you are not emotionally independent and are in a state of dependence, it will be hard for you to be alone. You think of your deceased grandmother because she gave you a lot of love. If you lack the ability to be alone, it is because you are emotionally dependent. This comes from a lack of love. A lack of love is related to your original family. Did your parents give you enough emotional care?

This aspect needs more attention. You can talk about it.

3. If you don't want to do things you like, it will lead to problems. People only do two things every day: think or do things. If you're doing things, it's hard to think.

If you stop doing things, you'll start thinking about them. This can lead to anxiety and depression. So how do you stop thinking about things?

To stop thinking, do things you like.

Hello!

To put it simply, you're working alone in a system outside your hometown, which is causing you to feel negative emotions. These emotions are affecting all aspects of your life and work.

My advice is:

1. Accept and acknowledge negative emotions (anxiety, confusion, unease, a sense of nothingness, etc.). This means not fighting them, including denying them, distracting yourself, etc. You need to be aware of your emotions, constantly remind yourself that it's normal to have emotions, and ask yourself why you have emotions. What event made you emotional?

Wouldn't not doing this help the situation? What kind of life do I really want?

...

If you don't want to ask yourself questions, then just do what you want to do. This thing you want to do has to make you feel relaxed and happy.

2. If you're feeling unmotivated, it's likely that you've burned through a lot of your physical and mental energy, and you need to give yourself a break. Everyone recovers in their own way, but generally speaking, doing things that nourish you is a great way to recharge. For example, reading, watching movies, sunbathing, exercising, meditating, cooking, eating, daydreaming, painting, listening to music...

3. When you have a moment, think about the problem that's been on your mind (why are there people with an organized life who are still unhappy). Also, think about whether you're a perfectionist. Did your family have high expectations of you, or did you grow up with the idea that you should be a good child, not yourself?

Or do you think that success or happiness means achieving one goal after another? It's important to think about questions like these on your own because anxiety often comes from your inner values, way of thinking, and the influence of your family of origin.

If you're still stuck, I suggest reading some philosophical works or growth-oriented talk shows, and at the same time, keep a journal of your thoughts to track your progress.

Hello!

I am a mindfulness coach, and learning is the treasure of the body.

From your description, I can clearly see your inner anxiety, worry, emotional collapse, pain, and helplessness.

I'm not going to get into the nitty-gritty of the issues that cause you to have emotional breakdowns. What I will do is give you three pieces of advice.

You need to figure out why you're still having emotional breakdowns even though you're on the path you want to be on.

You said you don't know why you're having an emotional breakdown. Relax and think about it. You know yourself better than anyone.

Your description suggests that your new job may be a contributing factor. It's understandable that you're adjusting to a new role and learning a lot of new things, including how to navigate interpersonal relationships. It's natural for this to take a toll on your mood.

You also mentioned that thinking about your grandmother's death when you're in a bad mood makes you feel worse. This clearly indicates that your lack of care and support from loved ones is also a reason. As you said, your mood will improve slightly if your boyfriend or friend comes to visit for a few days.

There must be other reasons. Ask yourself what you are anxious about and what you are afraid of. Look within yourself. You need to find out why you are having a breakdown.

You have to know the reason to get out of the situation.

Second, you need to think about why you found this.

Rationally looking at things allows you to recognize yourself and reality more clearly.

To do this rationally, you must do two things:

You must learn to view yourself with a developmental perspective.

From your description, it's clear that work is the main cause of your emotional collapse. You need to learn to look at yourself with a developmental perspective. You've only been employed for half a year, so you still have time and energy to improve and perfect yourself. You need to see the power of time.

You must also recognize your own strengths and focus on your positive qualities. You may think you lack strengths, but you're wrong. Everyone has them, and you're no exception. You've achieved your goals, you're financially independent, and you have a stable job. This is remarkable. I can also see from your description that you're not a bad speaker. The fact that you've come here for help shows that you're motivated, so you see, you have many strengths, which will boost your self-confidence and in turn soothe some of your inner anxiety and worries.

Second, know this: the status quo can be changed because you can change it.

Take the initiative and your state will naturally change. If you are emotionally broken due to a lack of care and love, seek support and understanding. Your mood will change.

I strongly suggest you focus on yourself and think about what you can do to make yourself feel better.

When you take a rational look at the reasons for your emotional breakdown, you will also know what to do. At this point, you focus on yourself and do your best to succeed.

For example, when you are anxious due to work pressure, you can give yourself some time, accept your current state, and tell yourself, "I've just started working, I'm a little tired and a little irritable, which is normal." Make these positive suggestions and accept yourself, and you will feel better. What's more important here is that when you try to accept yourself, you can promote change in the current situation. It may sound contradictory, but that's the way it is, because change is based on allowing things to remain unchanged.

You should also have a good chat with your boyfriend or friends and ask them to come over and keep you company more often. This will improve your state of mind.

You should also communicate with your parents. Talking about your feelings will help you release negative emotions and gain their support and understanding, which will improve your mood.

When you feel better, do the things you used to enjoy, like reading or watching movies. Your life will change, and your mood will improve. Take action and make a change.

Take action and all kinds of negative emotions in your heart will naturally be resolved. Action is the enemy of all kinds of negative emotions.

I am confident that my answer will be helpful to you. If you would like to communicate further, simply click "Find a coach" at the bottom of the page and I will communicate with you one-on-one.

Insight into the mind, let sharing become a habit! I am talking to myself, and I'm so excited to share what I've learned with you!

Today, I'm thrilled to share with you the fascinating topic of the subconscious mind! I hope that my sharing will spark some thought-provoking ideas for the questioner.

From childhood to adulthood, we have always had a sense of self. That sense of self has been with us since we can remember as children, accompanying us as we went to school, studied, got married, and worked. So there is one thing that has always remained unchanged within each of us, even though our bodies, emotions, feelings, knowledge, and experiences are constantly changing. We still retain a basic inner true self, which acts as an observer witnessing everything. Isn't that amazing?

This inner truth is something you are born with and it lasts forever! It can observe the amazing changes that happen in life, appreciate the sunrises and sunsets, the rise and fall of clouds, and the passage of the years and changes in the environment.

The amazing thing about us humans is that we can play so many different roles in this world! But sometimes, these roles can get in the way of us truly being ourselves. But here's the good news: anyone can shed their false identity and embrace their true selves! All you have to do is let go of the thoughts, emotions, and bodies that are holding you back. When you do that, you'll be able to show the world the incredible characteristics of your true self!

I have to respectfully disagree with you. I truly believe you are not yet on the path you want to be on. That so-called feeling you have that you are already on the path you want to be on may actually be hiding you from yourself.

To put it bluntly, reality may deceive you, but your subconscious has the power to reveal what you truly want!

The human subconscious is an amazing thing! It controls our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and reactions to people, things, and events, as well as our interpersonal relationships and decision-making processes.

It is an incredible, invisible world that dominates our external reality. Our consciousness, self-understanding, thinking, rationality, judgment, and emotions all come from the subconscious. Our conscious perception of ourselves, our likes and dislikes, only accounts for 1% of the full picture of ourselves.

The subconscious mind is an amazingly powerful force that has a complete influence on our self. It's incredible to think that 99% of it is unknown to us!

I truly believe that there is a direct link between your current emotional problems and the long-term isolation in this lonely environment. From the outside, this environment seems to be what you have wanted for many years. However, what your heart desires is not the same. This "path you want" has blinded you for many years, making you simply feel good from the outside. But this cannot deceive your own subconscious mind! What your true inner self wants is not the "path you think you want" as it is currently presented.

You can ask yourself: What is it that you really want? What is it that you really want?

Have a good talk with yourself! You'll be amazed at what your true self has to say.

You are so much more than your work, your performance, your success, and your failure!

These external things cannot shake your inner true self. I truly hope you can see the real you inside!

It's time to see clearly the false identity of the ego!

You mentioned that you've been working for about six months now and that you're feeling anxious. You're concerned about how you're handling everything at work and feel overwhelmed by the fast pace and the disagreements with colleagues. You're tired when you get home and don't feel like doing anything on the weekends.

I had a few good crys, and when I thought about my grandmother, I had a bit of a breakdown. If your boyfriend or friends come to see you, you'll feel better. I'm not sure what to do right now.

It's normal to feel frustrated at work and to have a bad mood as a result. You've expended a lot of energy at work, so you're exhausted when you get home. You might not want to do the things you used to enjoy doing on holiday. This is because human energy is limited. When you devote a lot of energy to work, there's no spare energy to devote to other areas.

Your work is just a job, an exchange of value, where you trade your labor for a salary. Why do you invest so much energy in your work? I suspect you have high expectations, hoping that work will bring you more, such as self-fulfillment, recognition from others, a greater sense of accomplishment, and so on.

If you give a lot but don't get what you want, you might feel a bit out of balance. You might also feel tired when your abilities don't meet your expectations.

You might also feel tired when what you imagined doesn't match up to reality.

It's possible that the job you dreamed of isn't what it's like in reality. The civil servant you imagined might be pretty laid-back, but that's not how it is in real life. Work is busy, and you often forget to drink enough water. Plus, there are complicated relationships with other people, and you have to argue with them at work.

It can be tough to handle everything on your own. You might feel especially helpless, especially tired, and especially broken.

First, don't bottle up your sadness. You can reach out to your parents, your partner, or friends to talk about it. I'm sure they'd be happy to help. Relying on others is not being independent. It'll make your relationships stronger.

If you're having trouble opening up to them, you can also find a counselor to help you work through your issues.

Second, you need to recognize your limitations, accept reality, and do things within your capabilities. It's definitely exhausting to set the bar too high for yourself and your work. Don't compare yourself to a veteran employee who has been with the company for many years; you're not on the same starting line after all.

Finally, the more you learn and grow your professional skills at work, the more confident you'll be in tackling work-related challenges. This takes time, so take it slow and don't rush.

Best of luck!

Hello, question asker!

I totally get where you're coming from. You're already on the right track, but there are still a few hiccups along the way. It's totally normal to feel a bit overwhelmed. Let's take a look at the following:

I totally get where you're coming from. You're already on the right track, but there are still a few hiccups along the way. It's totally normal to have some emotional ups and downs. Let's dive in and see what we can do about it:

I have achieved my previous wishes of being financially independent, having a stable job, and having my own personal space! However, I seem to have become easily agitated.

I have already achieved my previous wishes of being financially independent, having a stable job, and having my own personal space. However, I have also discovered that I have become easily agitated.

It seems that their wishes have come true, and they should be happy! But, new problems have arisen, and they even doubt themselves a little.

It's so great to see their wishes coming true! They should be really happy, but they've also got some new challenges to face. It's all part of the journey!

First of all, I want to give the questioner a big thumbs-up! It's not easy to successfully get into the civil service, but it's worth it! Secondly, I want to say that when making a wish before, I only thought about the beauty of the wish, but I did not consider some of the problems I would encounter in reality. Now that is the time for that reality to come, and I may have only thought about getting into the civil service before, but now I'm excited to see what it's really like!

First of all, I would like to give the author a big thumbs up! It is not easy to successfully get into the civil service, but it's worth it! Secondly, I would like to say that when making a wish before, I only thought about the beauty of the wish, but I did not consider some of the problems I would encounter in reality. Now that is the time for that reality to come, and I may have just thought that getting into the civil service would mean having a secure job, and that I would be financially independent and rent my own place with my own personal space. However, the actual work of a civil servant is complicated and tiring every day, but it's also very rewarding!

The questioner should write down all these specific differences, accept the difference between ideals and reality, and then—once they've accepted it from the bottom of their heart—they'll be less anxious. Anxiety is more about a sense of unease and worry about the future, so this is a great way to prepare for it!

"I'm excited to tackle all the work that comes my way. I sometimes forget to drink water while running around the office every day, but I love it! The process of work and arguing with people really makes me feel tired, but it's all worth it in the end."

It's totally understandable that it might be a bit daunting for someone just starting out in the workplace to face these challenges head-on.

I can imagine that it is really difficult for someone who is just entering the workplace and has to face these things, but it will get easier!

Another great way to get advice is to ask previous employees. We've all been there before and there may be some points that you haven't thought of or ways to improve work efficiency. Furthermore, even if you're busy, you should remember to take care of yourself and carry a water bottle with you!

Here's another great idea: make a plan for the next day before you go to bed. When you wake up and go to work with a plan, you'll feel more at ease and less tired!

Here's another great tip: plan your next day's work the night before! When you go to work the next day with a plan, you'll feel more at ease and less tired.

"After returning to the rented apartment, I was basically paralyzed. Then I had this amazing realization that now, even on weekends, I don't want to do anything."

Absolutely! This does happen when you're tired. The questioner needs not to blame or feel guilty. If you don't want to feel so "paralyzed," you can set a time limit for yourself, such as how long you want to spend on your phone, and then how long you want to spend cleaning and tidying up. But do everything according to your own schedule.

This is what really happens when you're tired. And it's totally normal! The questioner doesn't need to blame or feel guilty. If you don't want to feel so "paralyzed," you can set a time limit for yourself, for example, how long you want to spend on your phone, and then how long it will take to clean and organize your room. But when things go according to your plan, you won't feel as tired. On the contrary, you'll feel a sense of accomplishment!

"I had a few tearful moments, and thinking about my late grandmother made me feel all the more emotional. But I'm getting through it!"

"I had a few good cry sessions, and thinking about my grandmother's passing a few years ago made me even more emotional, but it was a good kind of emotional."

It's totally normal for people in a bad mood to associate it with more negative events. But here's the good news: you don't have to suppress your emotions!

It's totally normal for people in a bad mood to associate it with more negative events. But here's the good news: you don't have to suppress your emotions!

And guess what? It's absolutely okay to have a breakdown! The world can be a tough place for adults, so when you need to cry, find a place where you can let it all out. Once you've released those negative emotions, you'll feel a whole lot better! There are also lots of other ways to regulate your emotions, like distraction, breathing exercises, muscle relaxation, and more.

Furthermore, it is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of or embarrassed about to have a breakdown. The world for adults is not easy, so when you want to cry, you can find a place where no one is around and just let it all out! After letting out all those bad emotions, you will feel better. You can also try other methods, such as distraction, breathing exercises, muscle relaxation, etc., to regulate.

The original poster mentioned that it gets better when friends come over. You can also try spending more time with friends in the early stages, and then slowly get better before spending time alone again. It's a great idea!

If you've tried everything and you're still stuck in this rut, it's time for a change! Take a few days off work and go on a mini-vacation. Get out in nature, soak up the spring scenery, or just write down whatever's on your mind.

If you've tried everything and you're still struggling to escape this state, it's time to treat yourself! Take a few days off work and go relax. You've been under too much stress recently, so go hiking, soak up the spring scenery, or write down some of your inner feelings and changes.

I really hope my answer is helpful to the original poster! Best wishes!

I really hope my answer is helpful to the original poster! Best wishes!

From the message, it is evident that the questioner is concerned about his work situation. On occasion, contemplating the demise of his grandmother precipitates further fluctuations in his emotional state. Work has a profound impact on one's life, and he has frequently experienced feelings of anxiety, fear, and even despair.

Such a state is characterized by profound suffering. The following account is offered in the hope of providing some perspective and alleviating the current sense of helplessness to some extent.

1. The inability to adapt to change represents a significant source of stress.

It has been approximately six months since you commenced employment, and you are still a novice in the workplace. The demanding tasks and the intricate interpersonal dynamics are likely to overwhelm you.

When an individual is compelled to navigate a multitude of uncontrollable variables and perceives that their subjective initiative can only exert, or even fail to exert, any meaningful influence, they experience a loss of control over the external environment and a subsequent sense of imbalance. Furthermore, when an individual transitions to a novel environment or system, the impact of the external environment on the individual is both profound and subtle.

The inability to adapt to change and a lack of agency in the face of change are significant sources of stress, leading to feelings of being overwhelmed and subsequent disruption to one's inner equilibrium.

2. Stress converted into anxiety or accompanied by depression has the potential to impact an individual's physical and mental health.

From the information provided thus far, it can be surmised that…

Upon returning to the rented apartment, I experienced a sense of paralysis. I then came to recognize that, even on weekends, I lacked the motivation to engage in any activities.

Previously, I derived pleasure from activities such as watching movies, reading books, and cooking. However, at present, I am disinclined to engage in any of these pursuits. Additionally, I have noticed a decline in the quality of my sleep.

The specific source of distress is unclear. However, the subject exhibited a tendency to become emotionally overwhelmed, evidenced by episodes of crying and heightened emotional reactivity to reminders of the subject's late grandmother, who passed away several years ago.

At least one of the following conditions has been met:

1. Fatigue

2. Decreased interest

3. Pessimistic Mood

4. Alterations in sleep patterns have been observed.

The duration of the aforementioned circumstances is unclear. Should the period exceed two weeks, it is imperative to seek immediate professional psychiatric care to ascertain the presence of depressive or anxiety disorders.

If an individual is subjected to prolonged stress and is unable to effectively cope with it, the stress may manifest in the body, potentially leading to physical and pathological symptoms.

The metaphor of a rubber band that has been stretched taut is useful here. If the band is stretched to a certain limit, it can be restored; however, if the limit is exceeded, the band may not be able to spring back naturally. At this juncture, professional intervention is necessary to facilitate recovery.

3. One may attempt to employ a few straightforward self-help techniques for emotional regulation.

As previously stated, this was the optimal life that the original poster had aspired to:

This has also been perceived as a fulfilment of my previous aspirations of achieving financial independence, attaining a stable employment position, and securing a degree of personal autonomy.

However, the work environment was not anticipated to be the source of such significant distress.

The discrepancy between the realization of a dream and the pressure of work reality can have a significant impact on an individual, potentially leading to emotional distress.

Once it has been established that the emotional damage is not pathological, it is possible to attempt to regulate one's emotions in order to achieve a state in which sadness, worry, and joy are all present.

The following section outlines a number of potential strategies for consideration.

1. It would be advisable to seek favourable social support in order to ascertain the likelihood of modifying the current situation at work.

Given that work is the most direct source of stress and that you are one of the screws in the unit, you are subject to the control of your leader. You have been working here for almost half a year and are still learning to adapt to and understand the rules of the organization's operations.

Given your current state of exhaustion, it may be beneficial to collaborate with a trusted senior colleague to gain insight into the pace of work and potential future changes in the content of your responsibilities.

It would be beneficial to learn communication skills that are more recognized within this institution. Additionally, it is important to defend and fight for your legitimate and reasonable rights and interests, while avoiding the introduction of new pressures.

Additionally, when engaging in discourse with family members, romantic partners, or friends, it is advisable to alter one's cognitive processes and inform them that while one does not solicit counsel, the fact that they are individuals in whom one places trust makes the act of conversing with them a means of alleviating feelings of solitude.

In this manner, one can identify an appropriate social support system and feel more at ease relying on it.

2. Mindfulness meditation is an effective method for remaining present with emotions and returning to the underlying meaning of the emotions themselves.

Emotions are a fundamental psychological activity of human beings, serving significant functions and roles. Negative emotions, such as anxiety, serve as a reminder that significant stress and fear of the unknown are currently being experienced. Their role is akin to that of a pointer, guiding the individual to take action to release and relieve them.

Therefore, on the one hand, when emotions arise, it is advisable to employ mindfulness techniques to remain in the present moment. Conversely, on the other hand, it is beneficial to confront the functions that emotions serve in order to alleviate the predicament caused by adaptation challenges and occupational stress.

3. It is imperative to compel oneself to move at a designated point in time and to assume the initiative to disrupt the stagnation of the vicious cycle.

As fatigue increases, the probability of succumbing to exhaustion rises, as does the likelihood of spending an inordinate amount of time in a state of collapse. It is therefore recommended that one attempts to resume one's erstwhile pastimes in a gradual manner.

It is not necessary to make significant changes all at once. Instead, begin with a modest alteration and observe the resulting sense of control that it provides.

This will put an end to the vicious cycle and allow for a new beginning.

Ultimately, if self-help methods prove ineffective in addressing your concerns, it is advisable to seek professional psychological counseling or services as soon as possible. These professionals can provide a more systematic and comprehensive approach to support you in addressing your issues. As the saying goes, "It takes more than one day to form a deep freeze."

It is not uncommon to be unable to resolve life's challenges immediately. One may also choose to seek the guidance of a professional, who can assist in navigating these difficulties.

I am not probing human nature per se, but rather a therapist who is attuned to the nuances of the human heart. I extend my best wishes to you.

Hello!

Let's give you a big hug! You know, the kind that makes you feel like you can take on the world? Or, let's take three deep breaths together now. Do you feel better already?

Life is like this: after you achieve your perfect version, it's always different from what you imagined. And that's a good thing!

Financial independence, a stable job, and having your own personal space may sound perfect at first, but when you achieve all of this, you realize that it's just the beginning!

Embrace the change! Adapting to a new environment and work rhythm is an exciting opportunity to embrace a busy and dynamic lifestyle. You may also have the chance to strengthen your relationships with others. Life is full of challenges, but it's also full of possibilities.

There's no better way than to let go of the imagined perfection of life, face the difficulties head-on, and learn more ways to deal with it!

1. Learn ways to adjust your emotions!

Our emotions are actually like a child that needs to be accepted and held. When faced with stress and new environments, it is still impossible to avoid being stressed and tense, and emotions tend to become tense. But there's no need to worry! You can learn some methods of adjusting emotions at this time to help relieve stress and relax the mind.

Absolutely! Learning some methods of adjusting emotions at this time will help relieve stress and relax the mind.

The first step is to accept your bad mood mentally and understand that your emotional problems are caused by the pressure of work and facing a new environment. This is totally normal and nothing to be ashamed of!

Doing what you love is the absolute best way to change your mood! Think about all those things you used to enjoy, like watching movies, reading books, and cooking. If you can get back to doing those things, the pressure of work will melt away!

Be aware of your emotions. When you are in a bad mood, think of things that will make you happy! Don't let yourself wallow in bad emotions for a long time. For example, if you are already in a bad mood and keep thinking about sad things, it may make your emotions worse. But you can change that!

There are so many ways to relieve stress! Try exercise, such as yoga, swimming, or walking. You can also try meditation.

It's time to develop a positive emotional pattern and learn to look at things optimistically!

2. Mobilize your social support system! Being in the company of friends reduces your anxiety and stress, which shows that your social support system is very effective for you.

When you're feeling down, there's no better way to feel better than having a good chat with your family, friends, or your boyfriend! It's a great way to unwind and let off some steam. But if you want to really get to the heart of the matter, it's always a good idea to seek the help of a professional counselor.

3. Get excited about actively finding strategies to reduce your stress!

For example, use communication skills at work, be good at learning from other colleagues some efficient methods at work, explore better ways of teamwork, reduce arguing, and improve work efficiency.

Or you can express your needs to your leader, gain their understanding and acceptance, reduce your workload, and give yourself more time to adapt.

4. Learn to balance work and life—and enjoy the benefits!

Embrace the power of relaxation and arrange your life with goals and plans, striking a perfect balance between work and life, and between gains and losses.

Embrace the journey of adapting to a new environment! It's a process that takes time, and it's something we all experience. Even when you're feeling busy, don't let go of your passion for life. When things get stressful, remember there's always a solution. And, there's no need to be perfect at everything — it's okay to show your weaknesses and learn from them.

I really hope that Hongyu's reply helps you! Thank you so much for asking!

Good morning,

I would like to take a moment to address the poster.

My name is Zeng Chen, and I am a heart exploration coach. I have taken the time to carefully read the post and observe the poster's anxiety from the content. At the same time, I would like to acknowledge the poster's courage in expressing their distress and seeking help on the platform. This will undoubtedly help the poster to better understand and know themselves, so as to adjust themselves and encounter a better self.

I hope my observations and thoughts on the post will be helpful in offering a more diverse perspective.

1. Could you please share some insights on what circumstances might lead to feelings of anxiety?

From the post, it seems that the poster is currently experiencing a high level of anxiety, and is unsure of the cause. This feeling may be perceived as somewhat unusual.

Perhaps we could discuss together why we get anxious and in what situations people are prone to anxiety.

Psychologist Cong Feicong once suggested that we may be more prone to anxiety when we have a lot on our plates. It's understandable that when we have a lot of tasks to complete, we might feel overwhelmed and frustrated.

From the post, it seems that the poster is very busy and doesn't have much time to drink water during the day. Additionally, her work involves engaging in disagreements with people.

I believe this may be a challenge that many young people face, as engaging in arguments can often be exhausting and draining. It's possible that this could be a contributing factor to the poster's feelings of fatigue.

On the other hand, it seems that the host is a civil servant in a different place, and that their working time is approximately half a year.

For those who are just starting out in the workforce, the social environment can feel quite different from that of school. In school, there may still be many friends and classmates around, which can help to foster a sense of belonging and support.

In society, there is often less support and the relationships among civil servants can be complex. At this time, there may be less sense of belonging and support, which could make it challenging to adapt.

Naturally, this is just one perspective. It might be helpful for the host to explore themselves from this perspective.

2. It might be helpful to try learning some small exercises to relieve anxiety.

From the post, it can be observed that the poster is experiencing fatigue after work on a daily basis. This may be due to a depletion of energy.

It might be helpful for the host to consider how they can best manage their anxiety when it arises. When we experience these emotions, it's natural to feel uneasy, and it's understandable that we might not always want to face them head-on.

So, what might be a more constructive approach?

Many people may find themselves choosing to fight it or suppress it. In some cases, this can lead to a cycle of pain and exhaustion as we try to push through difficult emotions. Similarly, suppressing them can also drain our energy.

Given the already considerable demands of work, it is perhaps understandable that we may feel tired. It is also likely that suppressing and fighting emotions will consume energy, which may contribute to feelings of fatigue. It may therefore be helpful to consider some simple exercises to relieve anxiety when we become aware of it.

As an example, one may consider using abdominal breathing as a method for alleviating anxiety. One can breathe in slowly, filling up the lungs, and then hold it for a few seconds. Then, one can exhale slowly through the mouth, relaxing the body as much as possible while exhaling.

In many cases, this can help to relieve anxiety in just a few minutes. The idea behind this simple exercise is to focus on the present moment and return to our breathing.

It is also worth noting that our emotions often manifest physically as well. To illustrate this, when I am feeling anxious, I notice my heart rate increasing and a sense of discomfort in my heart. It is not possible for our bodies to simultaneously be in a state of relaxation and tension. Therefore, when we relax our bodies, we can expect to experience a sense of relief from our emotions as well.

3. Consider learning to express your emotions in writing.

It may be helpful to express our emotions in a reasonable way before they disappear. One way to do this could be by writing.

It may be helpful to consider that when we write down our feelings and thoughts, we are also listening to our emotions. At this time, our emotions are expressed and listened to, and they may often transform.

On the other hand, writing has another potential benefit: by recording our feelings and the situations in which we feel a certain emotion, we may gain a deeper understanding of ourselves over time. This could make us more attuned to our emotions and help us better comprehend our inner selves.

It may be helpful to consider what might be driving your anxiety.

You might like to try meditation or yoga.

You may wish for the host to try meditation and yoga because these two practices have been known to help calm emotions and restore energy, which in turn helps the body and mind to recover.

Another option is to be nourished in these two ways. This is also a method used by many counselors.

I hope these suggestions will be of some help and inspiration to the original poster. If you have any questions, you are welcome to click on Find a Coach to find me for one-on-one communication, companionship, and growth.

Hello!

I saw your post yesterday and wanted to write you something right away, but I couldn't find the words. I also thought about my own low point when I read it. Today, I think I should write something to help you.

I'd like to tell you about myself, then talk about what you've said.

I went back to my hometown to work for a state-owned company right after I graduated. My hometown is a third-tier city, and I am an only child. I like going home because I don't have to worry about many things there and I can relax. Then I followed the normal path of life: I got married and had children. My work was stable. I stayed in the same company and changed a few positions. I didn't get a promotion, but I did achieve some results at work. Ten years passed like this. Then suddenly, for a period of time, I became very anxious. I kept struggling with one question:

"I started working ten years ago. What have I got after ten years? Now, if I keep going like this, I'll still be in the same situation ten years from now. What can I give my family?

What can I give my child? I don't have status or money!

"

I felt anxious and confused.

Anxious because I don't see much change between my future and present selves. I can't see any career advancement, and without a certain position, I won't have a corresponding social status. I can't bring a corresponding sense of self to myself or my children.

I'm torn between quitting my job and starting my own business or choosing a higher-paying industry. My salary is stable, but I can't make a lot of money. It would be difficult to change jobs.

This lasted for about a month. I was in a bad mental state, unable to see the positive, lacking motivation, and losing interest.

I told some childhood friends about my anxiety about the future. They had similar thoughts. Some were civil servants, some ran their own businesses, and some were middle management.

Everyone worries about the future. Some people make changes, while others don't. I felt like I wasn't the only one with these anxieties. Everyone has their own problems.

After that, I thought about why I was so anxious. After some time, I came up with the following points:

1. My stable work and life has given me time to think, but my negative emotions got in the way.

2. My work is boring and frustrating. I want to escape, but I can't.

3. As my children started school, I had to deal with conflicts between my mother, wife, and children. My children's attitude and grades were not what I expected, so I tried to take care of their future, but I couldn't.

4. I've never had a hobby I'm passionate about, so I don't know how to relieve my inner annoyance.

After thinking about these points, I found the source of my anxiety. I told my family what I was thinking, and they helped me. After another 5 or 6 years, that feeling of anxiety in my heart has not reappeared. I think some of the things I am doing are precisely to eliminate the anxiety I had at the time.

I hope my experience helps you.

Here are a few thoughts on what you described:

1. Work is tiring.

Civil servants are busy. Their work is tiring, both physically and mentally. You may feel that the conflicts at work are unnecessary and that the job is not what you thought it would be.

Work takes your energy, so you feel negative emotions.

If so, you need to calm down and think about your views on work. This will help you feel better.

2. Being alone makes you feel lonely.

You are alone in a city. You didn't mention your parents, so I don't know. But you want to leave your city. You must have a close relationship with your grandmother. Thinking about her makes you sad.

As a girl, you need family and friends. Otherwise, you'll feel lonely. After work, you can make friends in the new city. Friendship helps you feel better.

You should follow your own principles when making friends.

3. Confidence makes you strong.

You can achieve your goals through your own efforts. You are resilient. You will not be defeated by life. Think about what you did during the civil service examination. At that time, you must not have had anxious thoughts.

You can overcome negative emotions. Set a new goal or just make it a goal to overcome negative emotions. You can do it.

A harmonious family environment is also important. I don't know how your relationship with your parents is, but you can handle family relationships. You are in control!

I wrote whatever came to mind, but I hope it helps!