I feel empty in my spare time. What can I do to feel fulfilled?

Hello! I'm 33.

I used to think, "I don't have any tasks, so I have free time. What should I do with it?"

Once the goal is achieved, the light goes out.

When the direction disappears, motivation weakens. I will provide two suggestions based on my experience:

1. Instead of fighting it, accept it. We have all experienced the crazy "involvement" of our student days, especially during our senior year.

During that time, we were always told to keep going.

"You must study, or you won't get into college!" This kind of extreme statement propels us forward.

Many years later, even after we stopped going to school, we were afraid to relax.

Can we really not stop?

Last year, I got the flu on my way home and was sick for a week. I couldn't do anything, not even read.

I was sick for half a month and ate plain rice porridge every day. I woke up with a temperature of 39.8°C and took oseltamivir every day.

I can't make up for lost time.

Until noon one week after I fell ill, I didn't want to sleep. I opened the bedroom curtains and felt happy and fulfilled. Warmth is a sense of touch, and happiness is a feeling.

I wasn't wasting time. I was happy to be alive and basking in the sun.

Don't waste time. Don't feel empty.

Just be happy.

Bask in the sun.

2. Find your interests and discover new possibilities. Here is a recommended book called "Start Your Day After Work." The author teaches people to use their free time after work to grow.

Some of the ideas in the book are interesting and worth reading.

You can do both.

It's good to use your free time to improve yourself, but you can also rest. If you have the energy, you can work on yourself, but you still need to rest.

If you ignore your tiredness because you feel empty and force yourself to move, it won't help. Loving yourself is the most important thing.

I hope this helps! I'm glad I could answer this question.

Hello, I'm happy to answer your question and hope you find my input helpful.

"How can you make your life more fulfilling? How can you enrich your life, work, and study in general? I'd like to share my thoughts with you from three aspects for your reference.

[Connecting with Yourself]

Reading, mandalas, handicrafts, watching movies, running, tasting new flavors of food, etc.

It's also a great opportunity to spend some time on yourself.

You can also use your free time after work or school to spend time on yourself.

Maybe a period of "boring" time is exactly what you need to start creating your own beautiful life.

Reading a book is also a way to engage in a dialogue with the author, which can enhance your knowledge and help you figure out your direction in life.

Another way to understand your own life is through the stories of others, which you can do by watching movies.

Art and crafts also help you connect with your inner self in a really sensory way, and you can discover lots of new things about yourself.

In short, the questioner can follow their interests and go with their gut.

With an open mind, you can make the most of any period of "boring" time.

[Connect with others]

There are lots of great platforms out there for you to join, whether it's a book club or an online roundtable.

You can also find groups online based on your interests.

You can also take the initiative to meet up with friends or accept invitations from others offline. This way, you can experience the feeling of being with different people and slowly find and enjoy a comfortable relationship.

[Connect with nature]

There are lots of great options for getting out into nature, whether that's botanical gardens, zoos, natural history museums, aquariums, or parks near your home. You can do this on your own or with friends.

Photography, taking pictures, sunbathing, petting cats, setting up tents, flying kites, throwing Frisbees, walking dogs...

I think that once the questioner gets started, they'll enjoy every minute of it.

The best way is to take it easy. Since spring, you've been able to let your hair down a bit.

That's all I wanted to share. Wishing you the best, The world and I love you ??

Good morning, my name is Qiūqiū, and I am honored to have the opportunity to respond to your question.

I can relate to your question on a personal level. I frequently perceive time to pass more quickly when I am engaged in work or academic pursuits. This sense of fulfillment and happiness is often accompanied by a perception of being busy.

However, when work and study are relatively quiet, individuals often lack a clear understanding of how to occupy their time. Sometimes, they may engage in leisure activities such as watching TV series and videos, but subsequently experience feelings of guilt for having perceived their time as having been wasted.

However, it is not feasible to maintain a state of constant activity. Doing so will inevitably result in a depletion of energy, which can lead to physical, emotional, and social exhaustion. This phenomenon can be likened to the deterioration of a machine that is continuously operated at a high level of intensity over an extended period.

The question thus arises as to how this problem can be solved. In this regard, two thoughts are proposed for consideration.

1. Reevaluate the concepts of fullness and emptiness.

The feelings of fulfillment and emptiness are a result of our personal definitions. We tend to associate learning and work with the concept of "usefulness," which leads us to perceive these activities as fulfilling. Conversely, we often view leisure and daydreaming as "useless," which leads us to perceive these activities as empty.

One might inquire, then, as to what precisely is meant by the term "useless" in the context of one's personal life. Could it be that daydreaming and contemplating the absence of any particular focus is, in fact, a fulfilling activity?

All experiences and feelings are meaningful to us. Adjusting our definitions may facilitate a transformation in our overall understanding of life.

2. Fulfillment can be defined as a state of complete connection with one's inner self.

In light of the aforementioned definition, it can be posited that fulfillment is not contingent upon the completion of tasks that may be perceived as useful, but rather upon the undertaking of activities that facilitate a complete and profound connection with one's inner self.

To illustrate, one of my preferred activities is to sit in the bay window of my room on a rainy day, observing the precipitation falling from the sky, noting the sound it makes upon striking the window, and then tracing its path down the glass, leaving behind either deep or shallow impressions. In such moments, I perceive the rain not as a cleansing force, but rather as a metaphor for the cleansing of my chaotic thoughts and anxiety, which have no place to settle.

Upon observing a scene characterized by precipitation, I find my emotional state to evoke a sense of transition, akin to the transformation of the atmospheric conditions following a rainfall. The visual imagery evoked by such scenes often prompts a comparison to the appearance of a rainbow, which often appears after a period of precipitation.

Such activities may appear uninteresting to the majority of individuals, yet they serve as a conduit for intrapersonal communication and are profoundly satisfying.

Therefore, if one can identify an activity that facilitates a connection with the self, it is possible to achieve a spiritually fulfilling experience without the need for deliberate action. Such activities may include reading, painting, planting flowers, or petting cats. The key is to explore and try different activities until one is found.

It is my hope that the above will prove to be of some assistance. Wishing you well.

Hello, question asker. I can see that you're feeling confused, and I want you to know that I'm here for you.

Could I ask why we feel empty and bored when we have free time?

Sometimes, it might be helpful to consider the influence of our own family of origin.

For instance, when I was quite young, my mother would often advise me to make the most of my free time.

I have always felt that having free time is not necessarily a positive thing. It can sometimes feel as though you want to fill your life with things.

When we have free time, we may sometimes feel a sense of emptiness or boredom. This could be because we're lacking a sense of purpose.

Perhaps you have too much free time and could benefit from some guidance on how to best utilize it.

At one point, I would think, "Perhaps I should make use of my free time."

It should be noted, however, that this can vary from person to person and from day to day.

For instance, if you don't have to go to work that day, it could be considered a day off. It's not necessarily about having to do something to feel fulfilled.

If you feel tired from work and would like to take a long nap at home that day, that is perfectly understandable.

Indeed, there are numerous possibilities for how we might spend our leisure time.

As an example, you might consider learning a foreign language at Duolingo.

You might also consider calling friends you haven't spoken to in a long time and catching up.

If you're unsure of what to do, you might consider tuning into the Meditation Planet for some mindfulness meditation.

One of the benefits of mindfulness meditation is that it allows you to bring your thoughts back to the present moment and connect with yourself.

If going out is not an option for you, you might consider giving your home a thorough spring cleaning. This could involve identifying items that are no longer useful and finding ways to dispose of them, with the aim of creating a cleaner and more organized living space.

I truly hope that the issue you're facing can be resolved soon.

I hope these suggestions are helpful and that they provide some inspiration.

I hope my answer is helpful and inspiring. I'm happy to share what I can, and I hope it's useful. I encourage you to study hard every day.

We at Yixinli extend our warmest regards to you and your loved ones.

If I may make a suggestion, I believe that...

Yesterday, I was talking to a friend about boredom. He had worked too much and it had caused physical problems. He wanted to go back to normal, but after negotiating with his boss, he changed positions. However, he felt confused and bored.

I said, "You seem awkward alone. Like two strangers, you want to check your phone to avoid awkwardness." He was silent, then said, "I realize I don't know myself. When I'm free, I feel like we're just staring at each other, and I want to escape."

Leisure is a time for yourself. If you can be at peace with yourself, you can recharge and face the world with energy and confidence. But often, we feel awkward and want to escape. We fill our time with things to avoid ourselves. So when I feel empty, I would rather suggest tolerating discomfort and learning to get along with yourself.

1. Say hello to yourself.

Hi, I'm glad we're meeting. I don't know what to do, but I'm willing to spend some quiet time with you.

2. Go through awkwardness to enjoy.

This is like when you start meditating or being mindful. Your mind is full of thoughts, making it hard to focus. But it's okay. When you notice this, don't judge or regret. Just bring yourself back to the present.

3/Talk to yourself.

"What are you feeling?"

"What do you like?"

"What do you need?"

What do you love?

...

I look forward to the day when you can be alone with yourself, enjoy your own company, and appreciate solitude.

Hello! You say you feel empty during your free time and want to feel fulfilled.

Time passes quickly when you're working and feel fulfilled. We don't care if time is passing quickly or slowly when we concentrate on one thing. The questioner said he feels empty rather than relaxed in his free time. Does he enjoy his free time when he's not working?

On the weekend, we don't need to do something to feel fulfilled. We can watch a movie, a documentary, or just get a good night's sleep. These things will make us feel fulfilled. We don't have to fill our daily schedule with things to do.

When we focus on the present and on our inner selves, we will feel fulfilled no matter what we do. The feeling of emptiness comes from the mind. There are many ways to enrich your life. It depends on the person asking. For example, relaxing, painting, traveling, and being a special forces soldier.

These are the things that come to mind. At Yi Xinli, the world and I love you!

Good morning, and thank you for meeting here. Allow me to extend a warm and powerful embrace to you all at the outset of our meeting.

It is not uncommon to experience a sense of fulfillment when one is engaged in activities or tasks. However, when one is idle or without obligations, a sense of emptiness may arise. This emptiness can be uncomfortable and may prompt a desire to engage in activities or tasks to fill the void.

The states of being full and being empty are two distinct experiences. When an individual is in a state of fullness, their body and mind are engaged in activity. Conversely, when an individual is in a state of emptiness, their body and mind are at rest. When an individual is in a state of fullness, their attention is directed towards their work. In contrast, when an individual is in a state of emptiness, their attention is directed towards themselves. When an individual is in a state of fullness, they tend to engage in less intense cognitive processes. In contrast, when an individual is in a state of emptiness, they may engage in more intense cognitive processes.

The experience of having free time at work and school can evoke a sense of meaninglessness and emptiness. While fulfillment can engender feelings of achievement, satisfaction, and pleasure, it is worth inquiring as to what benefits leisure can offer.

Leisure can facilitate entertainment, relaxation, and rest. Some individuals may perceive leisure at work as "fooling around," which suggests high efficiency and effortful work.

In the context of leisure time spent engaged in academic pursuits, it is essential to consider the underlying purpose of such activities. For instance, if the objective is self-improvement, it is sufficient to achieve the learning outcome, provided that it is not pursued merely for the sake of studying itself.

In one's leisure time at work, one can engage in activities such as rest, review of the day's work, contemplation of potential improvements, preliminary preparation for the next day's tasks, and, if desired, the acquisition of work-related skills.

In one's leisure time, one may choose to organize one's study notes, record one's study reflections, or search for new books in online bookstores. The process of searching for books can also be considered a form of learning. By searching for books, one may discover which books are more suitable for one's needs and interests.

One might consider the implications of the feeling of emptiness in leisure and its impact on the individual.

For some individuals, leisure is a period of comfort, a time to rest and replenish the body and mind. It is a space free from the KPIs of work and the complex interpersonal dynamics that often arise in professional settings. However, for certain groups, leisure remains an elusive concept. For instance, many factory workers have minimal leisure time during work hours, with only the allotted breaks serving as brief interludes.

For some individuals, those who have leisure time are fortunate. Conversely, you may perceive yourself as less fortunate in this regard. However, it seems that you are unable to accept this leisure time, and you feel that leisure time brings a sense of emptiness. At times, it is necessary to allow leisure time to occur, accept this leisure time, and when you experience the sense of emptiness in leisure time, carefully perceive that feeling, as it may evoke a different response.

In contrast, actions can also be employed to address the sense of emptiness that often accompanies leisure. The following suggestions may be deemed appropriate in this regard.

1. Formulate new objectives. Once a new objective has been established, one will endeavor to attain it through a concerted effort and an increase in activity.

2. Acquire new competencies. As the adage states, "a multiplicity of skills is not burdensome." During one's leisure time, pursue further learning to augment one's self-esteem.

3. The development of a hobby is recommended for those who do not currently have one. Potential activities include ball games, dancing, and others. The pursuit of a hobby can provide a sense of novelty and engagement.

4. Reading: In ancient times, the adage "a golden house and a beautiful woman are found in books" was posited, and in the modern era, the lament "it is a pity that we do not have enough time to read" has emerged, which fills one's mind.

5. Engage in offline reading clubs, offline psychological salons, and other activities. Such activities facilitate exposure to diverse individuals, facilitating communication and the exchange of ideas.

6. Fitness and meditation: Physical fitness contributes to bodily health, while meditation facilitates cognitive and emotional well-being.

7. Organization of the environment, whether through activities such as cooking or other means, provides an opportunity for self-care and self-care practices can be beneficial for mental health.

8. Viewing cinematic and televised dramas can provide individuals with an understanding of the world and exposure to diverse aspects of life.

9. It is recommended that one maintain a pet, as a life form is dependent on one's care.

10. Engage in shopping, social activities, observation of festive illuminations, and the consumption of alcoholic beverages.

It is my sincere hope that this will be of assistance to you, and that your day will be filled with joy and fulfilment.

The world and I extend our affection to you.

Hello, I'm Luo Hongmei, a listening therapist.

You are bothered by the fact that you always feel empty in your free time outside of work or study. You want every moment to be as fulfilling as work or study, and you also feel anxious about not knowing what to do in your free time.

You need to identify what's causing you to dislike your free time. What negative experiences do you have during this time?

Tell me what you're anxious about.

You will be able to look at your free time from a different perspective if you find the answers to these questions. For example, listening to music in your free time feels very good; taking a walk can also make you feel happy; watching a drama can also relax you.

When you have free time, you feel empty and don't allow yourself to relax. You must fill your life with work or study to feel secure. This means you feel unapproved or undeserving.

Work and study are only part of life. The rest of our time is also very important to our lives. This time gives us the opportunity to relax and rest.

Mindfulness meditation is an excellent way to calm yourself down, relax, and enjoy the present moment of leisure. It will help you to feel less empty. Alternatively, go out with friends for a chat or a stroll.

I am confident that my answer will be helpful to you.

I am Luo Hongmei, a psychological counselor. If you want to continue discussing with me, contact me on the platform!

Hello, I'm Yang Yiqing, a listening coach.

Reading your question, I thought of a period in my life when I was always restless and wanted to be busy doing something.

I've always believed that a meaningful life is a busy one. When I'm at home, I often feel panicked and always want to find something to do.

Looking back, I think it might be that during that time, I struggled to accept myself as an "idle person" and as someone who wasted time.

So I'd like to answer your questions like this:

1. The Root of Emptiness

It seems like you enjoy the process of achieving flow at work and the process of being busy. This also makes you want to be busy and find things to do for yourself in your free time. I'd like to invite you to reflect seriously on the following:

1. Why do you crave the "fulfillment" of being busy so much?

2. Are you not quite satisfied with your current situation? Or are you unable to accept that you're not fully fulfilled?

3. What do you see yourself as being like? What does the ideal version of you look like to you?

2. Look for a healthy balance.

It's important to remember that a life that is too busy is not healthy. It's essential to find time to relax and slow down.

Life is about more than just work. It's important to enjoy your free time between busy workdays. Work is important, but you need to find a good balance between work and life, and understand the different roles you play at work and in your personal life.

Sometimes, when we're too busy at work, we forget to live life to the fullest.

2. Look for more possibilities in life. Life should have more dimensions, and each one has a different rhythm.

For instance, you can't rush meditation, and you need to experience and appreciate art with your heart. These activities can transport you to a spiritual world, where you can't "work productively" while being busy on a physical level.

You can also sign up for some offline courses to explore your interests and enjoy socializing at the same time.

3. Give your daily routine a boost!

Small changes can make a big difference. Look for ways to add new elements to your daily life, such as changing your commute, trying new foods, or changing your daily routine.

Another great way to enrich your life and connect with others is to volunteer or get involved in community activities.

[Book recommendation]

1. The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown

This book encourages readers to embrace their imperfections, recognize their self-worth, and find genuine contentment and fulfillment in their daily lives.

2. "How to Live a Good Life" by Jonathan Fields

This book offers a variety of strategies and suggestions to help readers find a sense of satisfaction and purpose at different stages of life.

3. Gretchen Rubin's "The Happiness Project"

The author shares her experiences of finding happiness every day throughout the year and provides practical advice and strategies to help readers find happiness in their own lives.

It's important to keep a sense of balance and fulfillment in your life, even when you're busy or have free time. You can find beauty and satisfaction in life at any stage by exploring new interests, engaging in meaningful activities, and focusing on personal development and well-being.

It's important to remember that the quality of our lives depends not only on what we do, but also on how we approach life.

I'm Yang Yiqing, a life coach. Life is a challenge, but every step is worth celebrating. Let's go forward together.

Please feel free to get in touch if you have any questions or need any help.

Hello, questioner. Your text describes the situation many of us are in right now.

I'd like to share my thoughts from a psychological perspective.

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It's totally normal to feel a bit empty and idle when we're in a period of relative leisure at work or study.

You're not the only one who feels this way. Many people experience a similar sense of unease when they suddenly have more free time on their hands. It can feel like you've lost your sense of purpose.

From a psychological standpoint, a sense of fulfillment often stems from the process of achieving and realizing our self-worth. When we engage in activities that are purposeful, challenging, and meaningful, our brains release neurotransmitters like dopamine, which make us feel happy and enhance our sense of satisfaction and fulfillment in life.

So, try setting yourself some small goals to work on in your free time. You could try learning new skills or enhancing existing ones through projects like reading, painting, fitness, cooking, or programming. These can all help to fill your time and make your life more fulfilling.

Tell us a story from your life:

One of my friends signed up for an online language course in his spare time at work. At first, he just wanted to kill some time, but by sticking with it and studying every day, he not only improved his new skills but also made new friends from all over the world. This made his spare time much more fulfilling and productive.

Plus, free time isn't just about having nothing to do. It's also about having the chance to do the things you want to do but haven't had the opportunity to do yet.

We can view this time as an opportunity for self-exploration and recharging. This could include activities such as deep thinking, meditation, organizing thoughts, planning for the future, and even devoting oneself to volunteering and public welfare activities. These activities can help us grow personally and contribute to society.

In a nutshell, the key to making the most of your free time is to take the initiative and get involved. That way, you can turn every idle moment into a chance to improve yourself and enjoy life.

At the same time, keep an open mind and accept that life moves at different speeds. Whether you're busy or relaxing, live your own wonderful life.

Good morning, my name is Jane. I found the question to be particularly relevant to my own experiences.

I frequently experience periods of boredom and emptiness as well. When I feel bored, I often attempt to occupy my time with additional tasks that I find less engaging. However, rather than being productive, this approach often leads to feelings of guilt and frustration.

Why do we experience a sense of boredom?

As you noted, when we are engaged in work or studies, we often feel a sense of fulfillment, and we seek to maintain this feeling. Because being fulfilled makes us feel that time is worthwhile and that time is not being wasted, it also reflects our hope that we can spend our time doing meaningful work. We have high expectations of time.

Conversely, when we feel fulfilled, we feel full of energy and are more productive. This is because happiness is an energetic emotion.

However, reality often differs from expectations. From a physiological standpoint, an individual's energy levels are subject to fluctuations. Following a period of elevated energy, a decline in energy may be experienced, accompanied by a corresponding shift in mood.

This is a common sentiment: why is happiness so fleeting? Emotions are transient.

During these periods of low energy, we may experience feelings of fatigue, a lack of motivation, and a sense of aimlessness. It is important to recognize that these are normal phases and to accept them as part of the process.

What measures can be taken to address feelings of boredom and emptiness?

As previously stated, emotions are in a constant state of flux, oscillating around a balance point.

Firstly, it is important to accept these moments as they are not frightening and are a normal part of life. It is also important not to doubt yourself due to these uncomfortable emotions.

Furthermore, it is not productive to resist our emotions. Instead, we should take action.

Do not allow yourself to become overly emotional or to place excessive demands on others.

When faced with a lack of stimulation, individuals may experience a lack of motivation and a sense of inactivity. This can result in a perception of an inability to engage in activities that may otherwise be considered enjoyable.

I recommend that you attempt to form relationships during this period.

In terms of relationships with others, it may be beneficial to engage in conversation with family members or seek out new connections.

? Relationship with nature: Take the opportunity to appreciate the unique scenery of the season in a natural setting, and explore the lesser-known areas of this familiar city.

?Relationship with small animals: Kittens and puppies are highly beneficial for stress reduction. They provide valuable lessons in carefree living. When we can emulate their behavior, it greatly enhances our quality of life.

It is also beneficial to cultivate a positive relationship with oneself. This can be achieved by taking the time to understand oneself better. It is important to recognize that we cannot always accurately guess what others are thinking. Instead, we should focus on understanding ourselves. This process can be challenging, but it is essential for personal growth and development.

One may consider engaging in activities such as painting, reading, or singing.

Ultimately, determining one's preferences is a challenging process. It necessitates continued effort and exploration.

I hope my response was helpful.

I hope you have a happy life.

I encourage you to proceed.

Hello!

You say you're really busy with work and studies and feel really fulfilled. But when you have more free time, you feel really empty.

You also want to make your life more colorful and enriching.

From what you've written, I get the impression that you're very diligent and energetic, full of passion and vitality. You like a fulfilling life and don't want to be idle. You want to keep charging and enriching yourself, and don't give yourself any free time.

Maybe you're the type who's always looking to improve, a hard worker, eager to learn, and someone who loves life.

My mother is always on the go. Even after she retired, she didn't have any free time.

She kept the three meals a day in perfect order, and the house was always spotless. When she had some free time, she would take out some fabric and some wool and start cutting, sewing, and knitting, transforming old clothes.

Or she might start making small snacks that require complicated processes and that she doesn't usually have time to make. In short, I never felt that my mother could ever sit still. If she did, she would get bored.

I always feel that this is a reflection of my mother's work ethic, and she will always be passionate about life.

If you're the same, you can choose to do whatever you like in your free time. Read, listen to music, dance, exercise, write, draw, do crafts, etc.

During vacations, you can also catch up with friends, go shopping, drink tea, and relax from the stress of work and study.

I'm interested in psychology, and in my free time, I'll answer a question I'm interested in on Yi Xinli. It'll help others and also reflect on myself. I'll feel enriched and satisfied in the process of answering.

I especially like getting feedback from the person who asked the question or recognition from the platform. It makes me feel good about my progress and satisfaction with myself.

You can also check out Yixinli, read articles that interest you, listen to books in the reading club, listen to the radio on Psychological FM, meditate on the Meditation Planet, ask or answer questions in the Q&A section, and communicate with strangers on a spiritual level. You can also join some groups that interest you, chat with like-minded friends about topics that interest you, and explore the world of psychology to enrich your spiritual level.

As long as you enjoy it, you can use your free time to do these things to enrich your inner self and fill every spare moment.

My son likes to sleep and play games. He spends his free time sleeping and playing games.

My mother thought he was wasting his time, but he was also satisfied and fulfilled, and not at all empty. He rested well, and when he studied, he would work even harder. As the saying goes, "sharpening a knife does not delay chopping wood," and it is also a good way to spend leisure time.

I don't think you need to ask everyone to be the same and not use any of their free time. As long as work and study don't get in the way, and you work hard when you should, you can do whatever you want with your free time.

We all have different preferences, so we all behave differently to live the kind of free life we want, as long as we are satisfied with ourselves.

Emptiness and satisfaction are both psychological feelings on a spiritual level, and they are just the opposite of each other. Have you ever thought about what you do in your free time? Do you do the things you like? Do you feel like you're wasting your free time? If so, you might be feeling dissatisfied with yourself for wasting your time, which could make you feel empty.

Take a moment to reflect on what brings you joy and how you would spend your free time if money were no object. Having more spiritual abundance will help you feel less empty.

Dear Question Asker, I am honored to engage in discourse with you on this matter. I previously shared your sentiment of apprehension regarding idleness. Consequently, I am particularly cognizant of the sense of emptiness you describe in your free time. When one is engaged in work or studies, time can indeed be utilized in a productive manner. However, when one has more free time, it is not uncommon to experience feelings of being overwhelmed.

The following suggestions are offered to assist in the pursuit of fulfillment:

1. Select a pastime.

It is recommended that you identify activities that align with your genuine interests, such as reading, painting, writing, learning a musical instrument, and so forth. By immersing yourself in these pursuits, you will find that the time passes more swiftly and you experience a greater sense of fulfillment.

Secondly, it is advisable to seek out volunteer opportunities.

Furthermore, volunteering provides a sense of fulfillment and accomplishment. It is therefore recommended that individuals seek out volunteer opportunities in their local communities, selecting projects that align with their interests.

3. Acquire new competencies.

One may utilize one's free time to acquire new skills, such as languages, programming, and cooking, among others. By learning, one can not only enrich one's knowledge base but also enhance one's competitiveness.

Fourthly, it is recommended that one engages in physical exercise.

In addition to its benefits for physical health, exercise has been shown to have positive effects on mental wellbeing, including stress and anxiety reduction. It is recommended to select an activity that aligns with one's preferences, such as running, yoga, or swimming, and to integrate it into a regular routine.

5. Cultivate interpersonal relationships.

Interacting with friends, family, or colleagues and participating in social activities can foster feelings of love and support. The formation of positive relationships is an essential aspect of a fulfilling life.

6. Engage in new experiences.

One may endeavor to expand one's experiences by sampling new restaurants, travel destinations, films, or music. Such endeavors can enrich one's life experience and engender novel sentiments and ideas.

Individuals may define fulfillment in different ways; thus, it is possible to select activities that align with one's preferences and needs. However, it is essential to maintain a balance between work, study, and leisure time to fully engage with the various aspects of life.

I extend my love and blessings to the world and to you.

Hello! Reading this topic reminds me of a famous quote from Lu Xun's textbook: "Despair is as false as hope."

The defining characteristic of the current era is the "era of the individual." The sense of boundary of an independent individual is crucial! Due to the progress of today's society and the application of cutting-edge technology, independent individuals have evolved into intellectual strongholds. It is more suitable for "one person to achieve self-sufficiency" and use the advanced power of technology to break through things that were difficult to do in the past. Whether it is corporate management in society or choosing a workplace or home that does not distinguish between the sexes, the gender differences between men and women are becoming smaller and smaller. This is the product of the progress of the times and the development of technology.

The individual finds relaxation and order in leisure and strives to achieve a sense of fullness. In other words, a sense of emptiness is the antithesis of a sense of fullness.

It is a feeling of the self, closely related to the sense of meaning of the self, whether it is fullness or emptiness.

I am going to tell you what emptiness is and how you can resolve it. When you resolve emptiness and gain a sense of fulfillment in life, you will also think about your daily lives.

Let me be clear: what is emptiness?

Emptiness is a passive state of mind. It is characterized by a lack of things to do, boredom, idleness, and loneliness.

In real life, even though there are many things to do, there is still a sense of emptiness from time to time. This feeling of inner mentality mostly comes from the "soul having nowhere to go."

You enjoy being alone, but you also experience constant loneliness. You cannot escape the real world or the intricate interweaving of human relationships. The diverse relationships between people make it impossible to avoid enjoying absolute solitude. However, you cannot bear to be alone, and this is a feeling of emptiness.

Let's examine the metaphor of childhood toys and reflect on it.

I define fulfillment as the sense of purpose and achievement that comes from realizing your self-worth. It's about connecting with your identity and envisioning a future where you feel whole and meaningful.

Let me be clear: a person's life situation is like a child's toy "building blocks." The self is one of these blocks—no matter what shape it is. When many blocks come together, they can be arranged in many patterns and real scenes. The self, on the other hand, is like this single block. No matter how you arrange it, there will be no new breakthroughs or changes. It will fall into a state of psychological entanglement, not knowing what to do with it, where to put it, or what position to put it in.

If you casually discard your time, you're also casually discarding your life. Your feelings about life and yourself, and the meaning of being alive, are all part of your spare time. Emptiness is everywhere.

You can solve emptiness and gain a sense of fulfillment in life.

In this era of anxiety, there are many uncertainties, as well as unspeakable pain and unhappiness. The essence of the problem is that you must feel a sense of happiness and fulfillment within yourself. You must be willing to find and participate in sources of happiness, instead of just enjoying the empty process.

(1) Adjust your mindset. Establish a boundary between relaxation and tension. Take control of your life. Don't be influenced by the outside world or manipulated by others. Avoid setting ultra-idealistic goals. Don't lose interest in the distant future. Focus on living in the present and on yourself. The mind cannot fall into nothingness.

(2) Set new goals in life. You should "feel a sense of satisfaction" to simplify and enrich life. Pay more attention to and listen to the true thoughts in your heart so that you can respond to every feeling you have, affirm yourself, and appreciate your own initiative.

(3) Try new groups and focus on positive, influential circles. Delete the "consumptive or destructive" group circles from your life. Make time for meaningful, fulfilling interactions!

It's not about quantity. It's about simplicity and a sense of joy that comes from being at ease.

(4) Awaken the positive energy within you. Live in the present moment, connect with yourself and those around you with positive energy, and experience the joy of being grounded and mutually supportive. Gain freedom and let go of feelings of emptiness.

Be a clear-headed person in the current era of anxiety. Be wise and fulfilled in a complex situation.

Read these books: "The Age of Emptiness" and "How to Design a Fulfilling and Happy Life." They will inspire you.

I am Peiwen, and I love you, the world.

1. Have you ever noticed that when people are busy, they feel like time flies and they are fully occupied? It's amazing how we can feel this way when we're using our time effectively! But once they have some free time, some people start to feel bored and empty. This is an opportunity to explore new ways of spending your days! There are many reasons for this, but in the final analysis, it probably comes down to whether you are self-disciplined or externally-driven, and whether you are self-driven or driven by others.

It's a shame that some people in the workplace feel lost when they retire. They don't know how to spend their time, which is a real shame. Perhaps their purpose in going to work was to punch the clock and earn money, and to complete the tasks assigned by their leaders. So when no one asks them to do anything anymore, and no one gives them a goal or direction, they completely lose themselves, and their days become tasteless.

2. Do you remember the movie "The Shawshank Redemption"? It's a great one! The old man in the movie had been in prison for almost his whole life. He was used to institutionalization and obedience, and after getting out, he was unable to adapt to the real world. He couldn't find a sense of worth in life, so he ultimately chose to commit suicide.

Andy is the male protagonist in the story. Despite being confined behind high walls, he never stops dreaming of regaining his freedom. He builds a library, appreciates music, and even uses his professional advantages to help the warden launder money. Every move he makes is moving him closer to his goal!

There's nothing better for combating the emptiness of leisure time than following your inner values, making good use of your strengths and resources, and advancing towards your goals with unwavering conviction and perseverance!

3. What else can I do to enrich myself? In my own experience, one of the best things you can do is to do something that will enhance your knowledge, such as reading, listening to lectures, attending book clubs, listening to podcasts, etc. These activities always bring me new energy and perspectives, which are very helpful in opening up the limitations of the mind.

The second is to do something that makes you feel a little challenged, like working up a sweat in a sport once a week. I'm actually a lazy person who doesn't want to move, but I know that as I get older, exercise is definitely a necessity in life. It's definitely worth it to get out of your comfort zone in order to stay beautiful and healthy!

Let's cheer each other on!

In light of today's three questions, I have chosen to focus on the topic of enriching our lives and work through small, regular activities.

I believe it is because I have had the opportunity to gain personal experience and understanding in this area.

The questioner is a person who loves to think and love life. Many people have expressed on the Internet that they feel empty in their spare time and are unsure of how to deal with this feeling. This is a common problem faced by generations from ancient times to the present. The famous poet Li Qingzhao wrote the lines, "Searching and searching, cold and lonely, miserable and miserable."

The poet Yue Fei of the Song Dynasty once said, "When spring first returns, it is still cold; it is most difficult to keep the fire burning." In light of today's three questions, I felt compelled to choose this topic: "How can we enrich our lives and work through small activities?"

I believe it is because I have had the opportunity to gain personal experience and understanding in this area.

The questioner is a person who loves to think and love life. Many people have expressed on the Internet that they feel empty in their spare time and are unsure of how to deal with this feeling. This is a common problem faced by generations from ancient times to the present. The famous poet Li Qingzhao wrote the lines "Searching and searching, cold and lonely, sad and miserable."

As the poem says, "When spring returns, it is still cold, and it is most difficult to keep warm." As modern people, we have more resources than emperors in the past. Even if we leave home and our parents, we can still have food and clothing without worry: if we are hungry, we can order take-away; if we are tired, we can stay at home from work. It seems that we can control everything in our own hands.

I wonder if that is truly the case. It seems that an increasing number of people are relying on their parents for support, that more and more people are suffering from depression, that an increasing number of people are either not marrying or having children, and that more and more people are becoming cynical. The world seems to be becoming increasingly confusing, and it is becoming more and more difficult to distinguish between what is real and what is not.

We are fortunate to be living in the modern era, which offers many advantages. Looking back, it is clear that there have been significant challenges in the past. For example, forty years ago, many people struggled to meet their basic needs. Similarly, sixty years ago, the Sino-Japanese War was a major global conflict. Eighty years ago, the Chinese people faced significant difficulties. Given the limited lifespan of humans, it is important to appreciate the opportunities we have in the present. Regardless of your family circumstances, it is crucial to seize the chance to make the most of your life.

It is important to persevere in the face of challenges and to maintain a sense of humility. The course of history is unfolding, and it is essential to take an active role in shaping your own destiny.

Having worked for 40 years and now approaching retirement, I am grateful to be able to contribute to social welfare activities, make time for family dinners, enjoy the company of friends, and find moments of relaxation. I enjoy swimming, cycling, and walking, embracing a sense of movement and flexibility. I try to live in the present and find a sense of inner peace.

Hello! I know that today's fast-paced life seems to be fulfilling overall, but there is something missing inside. I think that life needs to be left blank sometimes. Even if the day is filled with appointments, you can always squeeze some time out of it and save it for yourself.

This period of time can be as short as five minutes or as long as an hour. It's a great idea to look for something that isn't related to utilitarianism. Something you do purely for the pleasure it can bring you! For example, some people like to collect pretty candy wrappers, some like to make herbarium specimens, and some like to read paper books. You can also just do nothing. Stay there quietly, letting your thoughts wander wherever they want. Daydreaming is great, or just looking at the scenery.

This is your time, your own little space in the world, separate from everything else. It's the perfect chance to really immerse yourself in the experience. Try to stay away from electronic devices, and just let yourself be there.

Such experiences can make us feel really happy and help us to connect with the present.

When you feel empty, your body is just trying to tell you that you need to focus on yourself for a while. Take a moment to stop, take care of yourself, recognize your current state and feelings, recharge with some self-care, and be yourself again.

Keeping an eye on new things is a great way to explore things that we can experience and enjoy. Life is also a kind of spiritual practice. Sometimes it is good to indulge ourselves a little and break with convention. You never know, you might just discover that the beauty of life is just that!

It's so true that when we feel empty, it's often because we're lacking in spirituality. It's so important to keep our bodies and souls on the road! If you can, it's a great idea to travel to the mountains and seas to look up at the Milky Way and admire the majesty of the mountains on a romantic journey. If not, you can stay at home and read books to see what others feel and think about life.

Life is always there to reward those who are determined. You can be, too!

Hello, I'm Ying Keyu Xuan, and I totally get where you're coming from. When you're busy at work or studying, it's true that time flies by and you feel really fulfilled. But when you have some free time at work or studying, you feel a bit empty and don't know how to fill yourself up during your free time.

I've found that setting small goals for myself in my free time really helps me make the most of my time at work or study. It could be learning a new skill, reading a book, or finishing a manuscript. Once you've set your goal, break it down into achievable tasks and schedule them on a calendar to help you track your progress.

You should definitely try to find activities that interest you! Things like painting, photography, cooking, or sports are great. When you incorporate these hobbies into your daily life, your free time will be so much more meaningful!

In my free time outside of work, I love to read, exercise, bake, or get a good night's sleep. I also love to go on trips to explore the local customs and culture. Sometimes I arrange get-togethers with friends, family, or colleagues, or participate in public welfare activities. And if I have time, I also arrange short or long trips for myself!

I also spend my free time alone, reflecting on my life, work, and studies, and growing through this process of reflection. Day after day, I gain a fulfilling and happy life, and I'm so happy to share this with you!

I really hope these personal experiences I've shared will be helpful to you. I wish you a happy life!

Dear Question Asker, It is evident that you derive a sense of fulfillment from your professional endeavors and academic pursuits.

In your leisure time, I would like to learn some small activities that will enrich my life. It appears that you have some ideas about making changes to yourself.

Furthermore, you appear to have a strong work ethic and high standards for yourself. It would be beneficial to ascertain whether you typically have elevated expectations of yourself.

Individuals who are highly demanding of themselves tend to avoid relaxation and rest.

He may attribute his lack of learning to self-blame during his time off, which could be perceived as a form of anxiety.

Anxiety is characterized by uncertainty about future events. This is consistent with the observation that the individual in question is a meticulous planner.

From another perspective, it can be seen that you are somewhat concerned about the future. This may result in an inability to fully engage with the present.

If one is unable to live in the present, one's entire being becomes disconnected. The only solution to this disconnection is to first become aware of this thought and pull oneself back, whether it is anxiety and worry about the future.

One may also choose to disengage from emotional states such as memories of the past, feelings of guilt, or experiences of regret. Instead, one should focus on the present moment, allowing oneself to rest and engage in simple, enjoyable activities. These may include observing a large tree by the roadside, admiring the flowers and plants, watching birds fly across the sky, gently stroking the leaves by the roadside, or closing one's eyes and feeling the wind caress one's skin while listening to the sounds around one. This will facilitate a deeper understanding of the meaning of life and foster a sense of completeness and abundance. It is important to cultivate self-love and to embrace positive experiences in the present moment.

Hello, questioner.

As someone who gets a little stressed out every day when they fill their schedule to the brim, I'm excited to share this with you when I see it.

First of all, even though everyone's talking about it, I just want to remind you of the most important thing: make sure you get enough sleep and exercise regularly. As they say in the National Taiwan Normal University psychology of happiness course, sleep and exercise are not only important for your physical and mental health, but also a great way to improve your sense of happiness.

I've got a tip for you:

And you can even fulfill a childhood wish. I wonder if you have any unfulfilled childhood wishes? For example, I wanted to learn to paint when I was in junior high school, but I gave up because of the cost and my schoolwork. A few years ago, I signed up for an online painting course. I recommend that you give it a try too. Not only will it make you feel fulfilled, it will also heal the little child inside you who still has regrets. The satisfaction and joy you feel when you finish is really great.

It's always a good idea to explore and learn what you're interested in. Doing something you like and are interested in can relieve fatigue and unhappiness in life. On the other hand, doing what you like can easily put you in a state of flow. (A state of flow is accompanied by a high degree of excitement and a sense of fulfillment. For details, see Wikipedia.)

When you're bored, just go earn some money. A few coins can solve a thousand problems, and the more the better. I won't go on and on about it.

In any case, no matter what you do or how you organize your time, remember that your original intention is to pursue the joy of fulfillment, so you have to be moderate. Do you want to be comfortable, happy, and at ease every day?