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I grew up in my father's shadow. How should I handle my relationship with him?

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I grew up in my father's shadow. How should I handle my relationship with him? By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024

I grew up in the shadow of my father. He was a particularly explosive person who liked to hit and scold people. My mother and I were beaten and scolded by him since we were young. He never let go of even the smallest things, and he would beat and scold us for everything. He never asked about my studies, and he always blamed my mother for spoiling me. He liked to take small advantages, and he was uneducated. He spoke abusively and acted without thinking. I was beaten and scolded countless times by him since I was young. My mother wanted to divorce him when I was young, but she didn't because I was young.

I hate him with all my heart, and I've gradually inherited his hot temper. I'm bursting with anger, and I dare to argue with him. As we get older, the conflicts have not only not decreased, but have actually increased. I've even gotten into physical fights with him. He can't beat me, but he's still always looking for trouble. I don't know how to deal with this anymore, it's driving me crazy. He also believes in his own logic and thinks he's right about everything.

He is also stingy, has a short temper, and often makes trouble for no reason. He blames everything on other people.

He has no friends.

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Alina Miller A man is known by his deeds, not by his words.

I can't imagine how tough that must have been growing up. It's heartbreaking to hear about the pain you've experienced. It seems like your father's actions have had a profound impact on you, and it's understandable that you're feeling so much anger and frustration. Finding a way to channel these feelings in a healthy manner might help you cope better with the situation.

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Michelangelo Davis Life is a battle against mediocrity.

That sounds like such a difficult upbringing, filled with fear and unpredictability. I'm sorry you had to endure that. It's clear his behavior has left deep scars on you and your relationship. Maybe seeking support from a counselor could provide you some guidance on how to handle these intense emotions and conflicts.

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Remy Miller Diligence is the lantern that lights the way through the dark tunnel of challenges.

Wow, what an incredibly challenging life you've had. It's no wonder you feel overwhelmed by rage and conflict. It's important to recognize that you're not alone in this, and there are people who can offer support and strategies to manage the inheritance of your father's temper and the ongoing issues you face with him.

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