I often ordered takeout during pregnancy, and my boyfriend accused me of being irresponsible towards the baby, then he choked me and scolded me.

Hello, my name is Strawberry!

I see you're feeling a little down, so I just wanted to send you a big, warm hug! It's totally normal to feel like you can't stand the smell of cooking fumes when you're pregnant. It's like your senses are changing, and that's okay! It'll probably get better after about four months.

Once the questioner shared the happy news that she was pregnant, her boyfriend was eager to start cooking for her. It's so lovely to see how thoughtful he is, and his desire to ensure she eats healthy, nourishing food is truly commendable. It's not just about her wellbeing, but also that of her little one, who is already growing and developing inside her.

However, since pregnancy makes us more prone to nausea, we often crave spicy foods. So the questioner ordered takeout more often and ate spicy foods. After the boyfriend found out, he got upset and said that the questioner was eating junk food and was being irresponsible to the baby.

I can imagine you felt pretty upset at the time. Apart from the change in appetite, you were still adjusting to the various reactions of pregnancy, such as drowsiness and morning sickness. I can see how this concern from your boyfriend hurt you.

I'm really at a loss as to what to do. Is there really a wrong or right here? Why is this happening to him? I'm so disappointed.

1. Different views on each other

It's totally normal for the questioner and her boyfriend to have different views on pregnancy because they're still learning and growing together. This is probably related to the lack of communication. Communication is a bridge and is very important to a relationship. Because she has no appetite, she just wants to eat something spicy or sour to open her appetite. This has been experienced by many women. It's not that we don't want to eat light food, it's just that our appetite can affect our mood.

It's totally understandable that your boyfriend feels this way. He cares about you and your child, and he's worried about their development. When you refuse to let him cook for you and prefer to order takeout, it can make him feel like you don't need him. It's a tough spot to be in. The good news is that you can work through this together. Have a good chat with your boyfriend to let him know that you really have no appetite at this time and that you only eat like this occasionally. Explain that it won't cause any harm to the child. You'll both feel better if you can talk through this together.

As long as you two can talk about this, I'm sure you'll be happy together. After all, your boyfriend is a pretty considerate man.

2. It's so important to be aware of your boyfriend's vulnerability.

I think the boyfriend's reaction to the topic starter eating takeaway might be a little extreme. Before he met her, what problems had he experienced in relation to pregnancy?

For example, if he saw similar major harm caused by pregnancy during his growth process, it would naturally cast a shadow over his mind. It is also possible that he particularly likes children. He is very happy to know that the love between you two is growing and he wants to give you the best he can, but your actions make him feel that you don't cherish or appreciate him. What he fears is that the baby will be hurt. This is his lack of knowledge about pregnancy. It would be great if someone around him who knows about it can give him a science lesson!

3. Let him know that the emotions of a pregnant woman have a greater impact on the baby.

The thing that the question asker's boyfriend is struggling with is that the food the question asker eats is not good for the baby. He doesn't know that when a pregnant woman is emotionally unstable, it is even more harmful to the baby in the womb.

After you've had a chance to chat, it's important to let your boyfriend know how you're feeling. It's also a good idea to let him know that he's not alone in this.

When you understand and appreciate each other, you can get along harmoniously. For example, if the questioner can't stand the smell of cooking fumes, no problem! She can just go upstairs or downstairs, or she can always keep some sour plums on hand to reduce the nausea when she feels sick.

I really hope my answer helps the questioner. Sending lots of love!