I want to die so badly; I'm almost without the will to live. I can't hold on much longer.

Hello, I'm Shu Ya Qingzheng. I want to share my thoughts and support you.

Hurt by your parents' words? Hug yourself!

In the face of their inappropriate language, you can understand your feelings and seek help. You're great!

Martin Seligman, the founder of positive psychology, said, "The best way to live is to change what you can, and accept what you cannot."

Many people feel ambivalent about their parents.

Your parents' behavior is not your fault. You can't change it until they do.

But when you learn about psychology, you can see things more clearly. We can look at the world together.

02. Parents' words are irreversible. Imagine them as white clouds and let them exist. There are many clouds, and our sky is wide.

These words come from immature people who lack strength. When they feel your energy, they panic and can't befriend or guide you. They try to control you with words.

You need a bigger and richer life with more support. This can be a teacher, a counselor, a hotline, or even just yourself.

Try to see the innocence behind their words. They worry that your independence will affect your development. They don't know how to help.

They love you, but don't know how to show it.

Try to understand them.

03. Everything has a crack, and light shines through.

When you're alone, listen to the platform's FM and some psychology books by great teachers.

Many people on this platform have their own problems. I have too. There are also many good teachers, articles, and courses.

The platform story session column has many true stories by young people. Writing helps them see their sadness and feel supported.

Mindfulness meditation is a good way to relieve stress. It is perfect for doing when you are alone.

When you're alone, give yourself a hug and say, "You are great!"

I love you. I will take responsibility for myself, grow, become a better person, and love myself.

There can only be a pair of 60-point parents. Some things will be unsatisfactory, but everything is just right. This means that the parents' dissatisfaction is their problem. Self-care, self-acceptance, self-growth, and loving yourself well are your own business.

After learning, try to apply what you have learned to make some changes.

When you love yourself, the world will love you!

The world loves you and wants to help.

It's hard for you to live in that environment. It seems like neither of your parents can deal with their emotions, so they vent them on you.

You're tired and scared from taking on their emotions.

You're under 18 and can't support yourself, so you have to live with your parents. The first thing you can do is try not to take on all their strong emotions. Their rages and insults are a result of feelings they can't deal with, so for now just try not to take them on.

You also need to make yourself stronger inside to protect yourself from their emotions and make your own life better. This means doing your own thing, studying hard, working hard to gain skills, and becoming less dependent on your parents.

When you grow up, you can support yourself. Then you can deal with your parents' problems.

The stronger you are, the less you will fear.

Fear psychology