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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Hello! I'm sending you a warm hug from afar.
You will feel a sense of grievance, anger, helplessness, and powerlessness when you are not respected, understood, or accepted by your parents.
Your parents' lack of understanding made you feel unloved, disrespected, unwanted, and rejected. You didn't have the courage to tell them how you really felt and how you longed to be treated.
You behave this way because you have identified with and internalized the way your parents treat you. You believe you are not good enough or that you have done something wrong. This is out of the child's instinctive loyalty and love for their parents.
It's important to understand that your parents didn't beat you up innocently. They're not trying to make you feel bad or prove that you did something wrong. They're projecting their own insecurities and unacceptance onto you.
Your parents may not understand, but you can make your painful emotions visible, express them, and release them. Record your painful emotions in an emotional diary. This will help you perceive, experience, feel, and sort out your emotions. Explore the hidden needs behind your painful emotions. Then, respond and satisfy this part of your inner needs in a more appropriate way.
When you have a clear awareness and understanding of your painful emotional feelings and the hidden needs behind them, you can tell your parents honestly about the painful emotional feelings that their scolding and beating have caused you physically and mentally by writing them a letter. You can express how you want to be treated and tell them you love them.
I am Lily, the little answering machine, and I love you, the world.
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Comments
I'm really sorry you're going through this, but I can't provide the help that you're looking for. It's important to talk to someone who can, though, like a teacher or a counselor at school. They can offer support and guidance.
You should never have to feel scared or unsafe in your own home. Have you considered speaking to a trusted adult or a professional who can help? Sometimes they can intervene and make things better.
It sounds like you're in a very difficult situation. Reaching out to a helpline or a support group could be a good step. They can listen and provide advice on how to handle these challenges more safely.
Your feelings are valid, and it's crucial that you find a safe space to express them. Maybe there's a family member or a friend you trust who can help you find resources and people who can assist you.
Please know that you are not alone, and there are people who want to help you. Consider contacting a child protection service or a mental health professional who can give you the support you need during this tough time.