In junior three, they always formed small groups and isolated me, hurt myself, and became sensitive and negative.

You're currently going through a lot of changes during your teenage years, and the third year of junior high is a big time for personal growth. You might have had some issues with friendships, which have made you feel like you have a lot of negative views of yourself.

For instance, if other people in the group isolate you, you might scratch yourself and hurt your body. You might also be sensitive and negative in various ways, and your reactions might seem slow in various ways. There could be some problems with your emotions, your inner thoughts, and your own physical laws.

People will also give you different nicknames, which makes you feel like you really dislike interacting with others and at the same time feel neglected and disrespected. If this goes on for a long time, you'll become more and more uncomfortable. You need to adjust this situation and try to see the bright spots in life.

Sometimes you'll hurt yourself. Take a moment to calm down and think about why you're doing this to yourself. Self-harm doesn't solve problems. Other people who hurt you aren't going to change. This state of mind might mean that your heart is broken and your mood is relatively low.

It's also worth noting that your homeroom teacher is very supportive. This is a positive aspect of your current situation. It can help you recognize your own strengths and gain a better understanding of your future path. It's not important if other people don't understand you.

It's not your fault that you were isolated by others. Some people just aren't very nice. This is something that starts early. They lack compassion and just go along with the crowd. Some people are like this. I recommend that you be able to undergo the necessary psychological counseling so that you can achieve the peace you want and be able to protect yourself more and make your emotions more stable. You can also talk to a heart exploration coach.

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From what you've told me, it seems like you're going through a period where you're feeling a bit down.

The good news is that the things that hurt your self-esteem the most, such as being isolated by classmates and teachers in elementary school and being given nicknames, are in the past. The even better news is that the emotions and feelings that these things generated at that moment have been remembered by your body, but they are no longer controlling your life! You sought help from your parents in time and longed to be understood and supported, and you got that help! What you got was neglect and rejection, which made you question your own abilities, but you got through that too! The indifferent attitude of your family made you feel even more hurt, but you got through that too! However, due to practical needs and because you were not capable of giving yourself better emotional support, you instinctively chose to suppress and hide your true feelings, but you got through that too! Your feelings of being aggrieved, disrespected, and misunderstood did not disappear as a result, but they were temporarily stored in your subconscious by your body's memory. When you encounter similar situations, these traumatic emotional experiences will be activated, but you will get through them too!

From your description, I can tell that you have a lot of internalized experiences from your past. It's possible that you've internalized messages from your teachers, classmates, and parents that you're not good enough or that you have problems. For example, in the third year of junior high school, you felt like you were getting slower and slower and needed to sleep for at least 10 hours. When you had physical education class, your hands would tremble. All of this was a form of self-suggestion and self-denial to a certain extent. And this lack of confidence you show internally will affect the way the people around you respond to you. For example, when your classmates say that your hands tremble, they'll likely respond in ways that deepen your lack of confidence (resistance to physical education class), inferiority complex, and lack of acceptance of yourself. These negative self-experiences will activate your early trauma, making you feel isolated and rejected. But the truth is that your classmates may not have treated you this way. It's more likely that you're just projecting the emotions of your inner self that you don't accept. What do you think?

So, go ahead and face the trauma of your early years head-on! It's the best way to see, express, and release those emotions and feelings. Try keeping an emotional diary to record your emotions and feelings. It's the safest way to express and release your emotions and feelings. You'll learn ways and methods to help you better experience, perceive, and understand your emotions. You'll explore the hidden needs behind your emotions and then try to respond and satisfy yourself through your own efforts.

You can also try to heal yourself by talking to the child who was once isolated, disrespected, and wronged, and embrace the neglected child hiding in the corner. Although he was hurt, he also received a lot of love, otherwise he would not have grown into the powerful self he is today. Tell him not to be afraid, for today he has the strength and resources to deal with whatever he faces.

I highly recommend you read "We Have All Been Hurt, But We Have a Better Life."

I'm Lily, the little listener at the Q&A Museum! The world and I love you!

Hello, question asker.

From what you've told me, it seems like your physical condition has gotten a lot worse over the past year. You're not as fit as you used to be, and your overall mental state and sleep time are all over the place. These things have really affected your life and thoughts. You feel like your life has fallen apart, so you're hoping to find a way to fix it, right?

It seems like you're currently in a pretty strong phase of inferiority complex, and a lot of negative emotions are affecting your physical and mental state. Your poor physical and mental state, in turn, reinforce the negative emotions, thus deepening the distress of the vicious cycle and losing balance.

It would be a good idea to try to break through this situation.

1. Try to avoid being exposed to negative influences. If you become immersed in negative thinking, it will only push positive thinking further and further away from you.

2. Then, set up a regular biological clock, diet, and work and rest schedule. This is really important. Your mental state is largely supported by your physical state. Even if you're affected by emotions, sleepiness, or stressful events, which prevent you from sleeping normally or affect the quality of your sleep, you should always stick to a regular routine. For example, go to bed at 10 p.m. every night, don't play with your phone, get up at 7 a.m., brush your teeth, and wash your face.

Start with the fundamentals and build a positive life. Best wishes!