Is being cared for and understood here contingent upon having a good background?

Hello, questioner.

You have a good point about background.

Everyone is special and deserves love. Some people focus on those who seem perfect, but there are many others who are just as worthy of attention.

You feel ignored and abused when you ask questions. You've even been accused. I understand why you're angry. It's like a fan complained about Li Jiaqi's price on September 11, 2023. Li Jiaqi said, "Look at yourself. Have you been working hard? Has your salary gone up?"

People think he disdains the working conditions of fans and is dissatisfied with his wages.

People who say you're not strong enough are wrong. If they encourage you to be stronger, they mean well.

Second, think about it from another perspective. Hopefully, those words of criticism will help you gain more experience.

The phrase "everything happens for the best" is positive and optimistic. It means we can find the good in all experiences and learn from challenges.

This mindset helps us cope with changes and setbacks in life. It makes us more resilient and adaptable. By looking at things positively, we can find opportunities in difficult situations, learn valuable lessons, and become stronger and more mature.

It's not easy, especially when facing difficulties. But by thinking positively and being resilient, we can learn to see the benefits in things.

Everyone has different needs when they are in a difficult situation. Some people need practical help, while others need emotional comfort.

We should care for and accept ourselves, and not rely too much on others.

If you feel like no one is listening, try writing in a diary, talking to a friend, or joining a support group. Learn to understand other people's views. Their response might not be what you expect, but it doesn't mean they don't care.

Love is a pure emotion. It's not limited by factors like birth background, education, or insight.

This is the link between knowledge and action. I wish us a happy life.

The questioner, the present is good! Be grateful for the encounter.

From what you've said, I can see you're struggling with some inner doubts and sadness. I'm here to support you, so let's talk about this together.

1. Be aware of the emotions behind your words.

Your words show that you hope someone will respond to you and give you the support you want, and that you also hope someone will pay attention to you, respect you, accept you, and understand you. But you are also worried that you won't get the response you want and that you will be criticized or blamed.

There are some internal contradictions, and some of your emotions are copied.

It's normal to have these emotions. We've all been there. It's something we all share as human beings, so there's no need to feel bad about it.

2. Believe that you also have your own light.

It doesn't matter if you don't come from a good family, don't have a good education, or don't have a glamorous job. You still have your own light and advantages, and you deserve to be respected, understood, accepted, noticed, and supported. We are attractive not only because of our external conditions, but also because of our inner qualities.

So when we don't get what we want, we can take a look at ourselves and see what we need to do to attract people with high energy to our side.

3. Take care of yourself on the inside.

When you can see and satisfy your own inner needs, you won't need to look outside for them, and you won't have the disappointment, anger, or frustration that comes with unmet expectations. What we need to do is enhance our inner capabilities in order to attract more high-energy people to our side.

You've got what it takes. There's no need to feel inferior. You just need to focus on developing yourself and tapping into your inner resources. You'll see results.

I hope this helps. Best of luck!

Good day, question asker. It is likely that there are four potential explanations for individuals who are easily noticed and cared for by others.

Those who value and love themselves are more likely to leave an unfavorable environment in search of one that respects them. They are also more likely to venture into a positive environment where they can receive the attention and care of new friends.

The foundation of self-respect and self-love is the capacity to believe in oneself, to be worthy of respect.

3. The optimal level of self-esteem and self-love entails the prudent investment of time, the acquisition of essential life skills, the avoidance of unnecessary trouble, and the protection of friends from adverse circumstances.

It is possible that those in one's social circle may express gratitude for one's actions, particularly if one avoids placing them in unfavorable circumstances. There are individuals who are currently experiencing challenging situations, and if one refrains from perpetuating the difficulties they are facing, they may eventually express appreciation.

In contrast, individuals who lack self-efficacy or believe they possess minimal abilities often encounter difficulties in self-respect and self-love.

Not everyone is willing to embrace self-love. Those who lack the ability to effectively manage their own lives and have not yet achieved significant accomplishments are often unable to convince themselves of their inherent worth and deservingness of love and respect. Consequently, they often refrain from asserting their own interests and needs.

For example, individuals with self-respect and self-love are reluctant to request the same level of attention from others. Those who care for another person will not be subjected to mistreatment, and those who offer assistance will not receive repayment in kind.

Therefore, individuals who possess self-respect, self-love, or a sense of pride will be inclined to challenge others, comprehend their perspectives, and observe their behaviors. They will also utilize firsthand information and the most recent insights to make optimal decisions in life. This series of operations is, in fact, largely unknown.

Alternatively, they may be unaware of their own actions, yet still receive considerable affection and attention from others.

It is unclear whether an individual who demands self-respect and self-love is more likely to tolerate a hostile environment when confronted with bullying or insults from others. If one lacks understanding of one's social environment and is reluctant to inquire further, it becomes challenging to discern the underlying causes of one's current circumstances.

In the absence of a clearly defined objective in an unfavourable setting, it becomes challenging to identify a viable route forward.

Some individuals refrain from engaging in disputes and do not compete for the attention of others. They mature in a peaceful manner at their own pace, pursue the activities they find rewarding, and that is the extent of their involvement.

As we mature, we require the assistance of our family and friends. It is through their respect and various forms of support that we can develop in a healthy manner. It is inevitable that we will encounter conflicts as we interact with others. If we persist in seeking additional assistance from others due to the help they have previously provided, we will fail to recognize that we cannot always anticipate or control the actions of others. From the perspective of others, the assistance and compromises they have previously offered may not be as valuable as subsequent disagreements over interests, which can be a significant source of disappointment.

Hello! I'll give you a 360-degree hug!

Seeing this question, I realized that no matter what I say, I will not be able to speak to your heart. But that's okay! You may think that I am accusing you, but I'm not.

But it could just be a statement of the situation! It's like you're holding a hammer and seeing nails everywhere.

To you, your hammer is probably that everyone else blames me, that they can't empathize with me, that they only like people with a good background, a higher education, and knowledge, and a beautiful family of origin.

If you approach others with such a hammer and preconceived notions, you will make them defensive or even aggressive. Others will sense your hostility and naturally will not treat you kindly. But here's the good news: even if others are kind to you, you can choose to see them as anything but hypocritical or pitying. You can choose to look up, not down!

In short, other people are a wild ride!

I'm excited to hear your thoughts! Have these words offended you? Made you feel accused? Or do you think that I, like everyone else, don't like you?

All I can see is your words, and there's so much more I'd love to know! You answered anonymously, so I don't know much about you other than these few hundred words.

Your background, education, knowledge, family, etc., are all unknown—and that's a great thing!

This information is revealed in the question description. If you ask other questions, such as about work, studies, anxiety, etc., and do not mention this information, no one else will know. Since you have brought it up and feel that these are the reasons why you are not being treated fairly, it is possible that you actually care more about your background, education, and family of origin than other people, which is great because it means you have a lot to offer!

Have you noticed that things like origin and family of origin are things we can't change? It's so interesting how quickly we form opinions about people based on stereotypes!

Take, for instance, a child from a mountain village. They may have a more limited perspective than a child from a first-tier city, but that doesn't mean they're any less capable of greatness!

The great news is that education and insight can be acquired, and we can change them. Even work can be changed through hard work!

There's this incredible person who went from a technical secondary school to a doctorate, which is so inspiring! Education isn't a must, but it's still a great option!

The great thing about knowledge is that it can always be improved through learning. And the best part is that it has nothing to do with your origin or your family of origin!

People from a poor background may need to take more detours and spend more time on the journey, but as long as they are willing to keep going, they will find their own way! Recently, it happened to be the Chinese New Year, and Liu Qiangdong, a native of Suqian, gave the villagers New Year's gifts, as did Yu Chengdong of Huawei, who also returned to his village for the New Year, very down-to-earth!

We may not be able to change our origins, but we absolutely can control our own future!

Of course, it is not impossible that some people like to see their origins and look at their family of origin. For these people, just stay away! Just as you cannot change your origins, you cannot change his opinion.

In this situation, the best response is to stay away and focus on your own path!

From your question, it's clear you care deeply about what others think. It's a natural human trait to want to fit in and be liked. But, you might be holding yourself back from being your true self. It's time to embrace your unique qualities and shine your light!

But you know what? Your state of mind will also affect how other people perceive you! It could be those people you mentioned who seem glamorous and bright, or it could be the so-called underclass people similar to you.

I highly recommend talking to a psychological counselor, where you can share as much or as little information as you'd like. You can also check out some public welfare counseling.

I also want to remind you that you may encounter people who treat you kindly or people who don't like you. It's not your fault, but you need to accept all possibilities—and embrace them with open arms!

I am often a Buddhist and sometimes a pessimistic counselor, but I also love to be positive and motivated! The world is a wonderful place, and I love you all!

Hello, question asker. I can sense that you feel the world is unfair and unjust, and I can also sense anger and sadness.

You said you were born into a bad situation, have no qualifications, work in a menial job, and have encountered difficulties. I believe you have experienced misunderstanding and neglect.

You want more people to see you and understand you. When you ask a question on the platform, you want to receive some comfort, too.

Tell me what kind of response you need from others.

You said that other people like shiny things. I take it you also want a better life. We can't change our circumstances, but we can choose and take responsibility for our lives.

If you want others to see you and like you, you have to like yourself first. You have to be willing to come and see yourself and understand yourself.

I can see that your problem is distressing you. You have encountered too much blame in the past. As an adult, you must stop allowing yourself to be "blamed."

This is a public platform, and people will pay attention to topics that resonate with them. If you want more attention, write about your distress in a way that will help people understand you better. If you need more in-depth help, seek professional services geared towards individuals.

The world is never fair, but you have the freedom and right to be yourself.

You will find love and be loved.