I've got the baby blues. My epilepsy is gone, so why won't they believe me?

My name is Qu Huidong, and I am a psychotherapist who employs visual imagery as a therapeutic tool.

The patient is currently in the third trimester of pregnancy and desires a natural birth. However, she has been confined to the hospital due to a previous epileptic seizure, which has resulted in limited mobility and medical intervention regarding the mode of delivery. This situation elicits feelings of frustration and anxiety.

Firstly, it is important to recognise that induction and natural onset are not mutually exclusive. In some cases, natural onset may be delayed due to a number of factors, including the physical condition of the pregnant woman and the development of the fetus.

In this case, oxytocin can be used as an aid to facilitate a smooth delivery for the pregnant woman. It should be noted that a routine antenatal examination at 2 weeks into the 39th week revealed that the fetal biparietal diameter had reached the standard. The attending physician was aware of the patient's preference for a natural delivery and thus initiated oxytocin induction. It is noteworthy that a pregnant woman in the same gestational period would not have waited for her labor to commence naturally. Instead, she sought medical advice after the due date and was diagnosed with amniotic fluid cloudiness. This necessitated an immediate caesarean section to avert a potential crisis.

Therefore, regardless of whether labor is induced naturally or with the assistance of oxytocin, it is imperative that the procedure be conducted under the guidance of a qualified medical professional. The attending physician will evaluate the necessity for labor induction based on the individual circumstances of the pregnant woman and select the most appropriate method and timing.

For many pregnant women, natural childbirth represents a natural, healthy, and meaningful way to give birth, as it seems to represent a kind of understanding and cooperation between mother and baby. Therefore, when faced with the need for induction of labor or other medical interventions, pregnant women may experience feelings of unease, disappointment, or anxiety.

It is, however, important to recognize that natural childbirth is not a process that all pregnant women can or should experience. Each pregnant woman and fetus is unique, and in some cases, for medical reasons or the health of the fetus, induction or other medical intervention may be necessary.

It is imperative that you communicate your concerns and expectations honestly with your obstetrician and listen to their analysis of your physical condition dispassionately. It is this author's opinion that ensuring the safety of mother and baby is the doctor's top priority, and their advice must be based on health considerations.

Restricting your movements may cause you significant inconvenience, but the physician is also attempting to ensure your health and safety. In the medical field, there are established rules and procedures that must be followed to protect the rights and interests of patients and medical staff.

Moreover, you have indicated that your epilepsy has resolved. However, your family and physician may require additional evidence to substantiate this assertion. Epilepsy is a complex disorder that necessitates prolonged treatment and monitoring.

It is important to note that there is no guarantee that complications will not arise during labor. Therefore, it is possible that healthcare professionals may still recommend that you be admitted to the hospital so that you can receive timely treatment in case of an emergency.

Should one elect to await the onset of labor at home, one may encounter a multitude of unforeseen risks, including emergencies such as ruptured amniotic fluid and placental abruption. In the event that these situations are not promptly addressed, they may pose a significant threat to the well-being of both mother and child.

Regardless of the delivery method, the hope is that the infant will be born in a healthy state. Maintaining a positive outlook and placing trust in one's body and the abilities of the attending physician can facilitate more effective coping with the delivery process.

Best wishes to all pregnant women!

Hello, I'm Zeyu.

The questioner stated, "Regarding the worries of giving birth, my epilepsy has already gone away, so why don't they believe me?" Let's analyze the problem from an opposing perspective.

The cause of the matter is that the original poster gave birth to a baby, and because of the diagnosis of the doctor at the maternal and child health hospital, you were forced to be admitted to a major hospital and lose your personal freedom. This experience felt like being in prison. The original poster wanted to give birth naturally, but others did not agree with your point of view, which made you feel frustrated. The original poster believes that the reason for all this is that the other party does not believe that you have recovered from epilepsy. Let's now look at the problem from the other party's perspective.

Let's imagine that the doctor at the maternal and child health hospital has put a red label on us. Is that a good or bad starting point? I believe the other party is thinking of us and the child. It's required by their profession and regulations. Many people have similar experiences. The other party's actions are not deliberately targeted at us. They're a necessary process to avoid unexpected situations.

Let's focus on the hospital. We may feel fine, but the hospital and our family know we are not cured. If something unexpected happens during homebirth or natural childbirth, we must consider what to do. We lose some freedom in the hospital, but we gain safety for us and our unborn baby.

If we are now at home waiting for the baby to be born and need the help of a doctor because of pre-birth pains or other problems, but the doctor and nurses are not there, who can come to protect the safety of you and the baby? The original intention of the questioner to give birth naturally is for the good of the baby. Let's look at the problem from a different perspective. The hospital, doctors, and nurses have more experience than us, so they are bound to be more professional and experienced than us. The position and starting point of the other party is definitely for the sake of you and the baby.

Finally, we will tell the doctor our original intention and reasons for wanting a natural birth. We will listen to what the other party has to say. If possible, we will ask the other party to do so and not arrange it according to our wishes. The hospital will definitely be able to give us a full explanation.

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As a mother, I fully understand the OP's desire to provide her child with a safer natural environment through natural childbirth. However, regardless of whether it is induced or uninduced labor, or even a painless delivery, the safety is already very high. The OP may not have to insist on natural childbirth.

I gave birth naturally without an epidural. The pain was so intense that I questioned my ability to survive. Natural childbirth is a significant test of a mother's physical and psychological endurance. Despite optimal conditions for natural childbirth, unexpected complications can arise. If the family is equipped to provide a supportive maternity experience, the mother may not have to endure unnecessary pain.

The risks associated with childbirth cannot be eliminated through blind trust. The questioner's expectations may align with the optimal outcome, while the doctor's actions may inadvertently lead to an unfavorable outcome. It is essential to consider all factors, including the questioner's physical fitness, and to implement the most secure preparations. In fact, the doctor's primary objective is to ensure the safety and well-being of the questioner. In the event of complications, the consequences could be more severe than the inability to give birth naturally.

Some people say that women are queens for a day, concubines for ten months, and nannies for life. Although this may be an exaggeration, when your family is willing to provide the highest level of care, you may be able to accept it with an open mind. If you refuse your partner's kindness once, you may be less likely to receive it in the future. If you consider this, will it make you feel more at ease?

The questioner may inquire as to whether their resistance to the proposed arrangement stems from a sense of unfreedom or from concerns about the financial implications. Given that the questioner is currently in a waiting period and may not have to remain in the hospital for an extended duration, it may be advisable to adopt a more flexible approach. If the primary concern pertains to the financial aspect, it may be beneficial to reassess the situation. After the birth of the baby, the questioner has the option to resume their professional activities.

It is understandable that individuals prefer not to be arranged. Based on the author's statements, it appears that the author and I are upset about being treated differently (ordinary hospitals do not accept us). However, it is crucial to consider the original intention, which is also for the author's benefit, and this may help to reduce resistance.

During the process of a woman becoming pregnant and giving birth, hormone levels will change due to the process of nurturing a new life. Potential risks (such as diabetes, high blood pressure, uterine epilepsy, etc.) that do not normally appear may appear during pregnancy. It is preferable to err on the side of caution. In this way, will the insistence of the doctor make the patient feel that it is for the best?

It would be beneficial to view this time alone with your child from a different perspective. Once your child is born, you will be able to take them with you wherever you go. You may wish to consider baby products, eunuchs, and so on, which could make the author's waiting time more enjoyable.

The family's insistence may not be a lack of trust in the questioner, but rather a desire for the questioner to be safer. After all, hospitalization also incurs costs, and they are willing to bear those costs but not willing to take the risk of the questioner. Will this make the questioner feel satisfied?

It is important to consider all options and not make assumptions. There is no definitive evidence that natural childbirth is inherently superior to other forms of delivery. Anecdotally, a colleague of mine had a natural childbirth that did not go as planned and ultimately required a C-section, which introduced additional stressors for her. However, as long as the decision is made by the attending physician after a thorough evaluation, the baby's health is not necessarily compromised regardless of the chosen mode of delivery.

I would like to suggest the following reading material: "A Change of Heart."

Best regards,

Good day. I extend my sincerest regards to you in the form of a 360-degree hug.

It has been approximately ten days since you posed this question, and I assume your baby has already been born. I am unsure if your mood has improved.

In regard to the decision of whether to give birth naturally or induce labor, I had previous experience in this matter. My child was born nine days after the estimated due date. In fact, in the last few days of the estimated due date, the prenatal checkups were conducted frequently, just to monitor the condition of the mother and fetus.

By the 40th week of pregnancy, there was still no fetal movement, so I went to the hospital to consult with the doctor. After examining me, the doctor advised that if there was still no movement, I should return in a week for admission to the hospital. I therefore returned home. By the 41st week, there was still no movement, so we packed our belongings and proceeded to the hospital.

Upon arrival at the hospital, the doctor promptly arranged for our admission to the labor ward, initiated fetal heart monitoring, and initiated oxytocin administration. The doctor explained that the fetus was over 41 weeks, the placenta would age, and the amniotic fluid would become cloudy, which was not conducive to fetal well-being.

Therefore, we proceeded with the induction of labor. However, I encountered an issue where, following the administration of the induction medication, I experienced contractions. However, after a brief cessation of the medication, I no longer had contractions.

In summary, the cervix remained closed, the frequency of contractions was insufficient, and the fetus could not be delivered. The following day, after the physician examined the amniotic fluid, she determined that it was somewhat turbid but advised that further monitoring could be conducted with the expectation of a spontaneous delivery.

We continued to administer oxytocin, but the result was unchanged.

On the third day, the doctor presented the recommendation for a caesarean section, citing the length of the induction process, the rupture of the amniotic sac, and my age as the rationale. We concurred with the decision.

On the way to the operating room, I experienced an increase in the intensity of the contractions. Upon arrival at the operating room, I was promptly delivered via cesarean section.

As a result, the birth occurred nine days after the expected date.

It is understandable that the waiting room can feel uncomfortable. These spaces often lack natural light, are brightly lit, and have a series of doors leading to different areas. Seeing others enter the waiting room and proceed directly to the delivery room, with one individual going from entering the waiting room to giving birth in less than two hours, made me envious.

The doctor's assessment indicated that the situation was favorable, and the recommendation was to attempt a natural birth if possible, with a caesarean section as a secondary option.

Our rationale was that doctors are undoubtedly more experienced and qualified than us when it comes to medicine and childbirth. It is therefore unreasonable to expect them to engage in unprofessional behavior, such as tormenting their patients or attempting to gain financial benefits from them. If she had a preference for a caesarean section, she should have proposed it.

We opted to follow the doctor's guidance and recommendations.

I believe the doctor is more qualified than we are to determine whether a natural birth or a C-section is preferable, as well as the optimal timing for labor induction. There are specific criteria that must be met for a natural birth, and there are also indicators that should be considered when deciding whether to induce labor.

As laypeople, we lack the requisite knowledge in this area. However, doctors are professionals, and they possess a superior understanding of our bodies and fetuses.

At this juncture, it is my recommendation that you heed the advice of the doctor, refrain from making your own decisions, and avoid seeking input from your husband's family. It is clear that the doctor's primary objective is to ensure the well-being of both mother and child.

You have expressed reservations about labor induction and the delivery room due to your epilepsy, which the doctor has highlighted in red on the High-Risk Pregnancy Scoring Standard. This standard classifies the risk associated with occasional seizures as level A, with a score of 5.

These scoring standards have been tested in practice, and there may be actual cases behind each standard. Childbirth itself is a high-risk event, and pregnancy can also cause significant hormonal changes in women, which may lead to the onset of previously undiagnosed conditions, such as gestational hypertension.

The doctor issues the red label for the safety of you and your child. Hospitals that do not admit patients with a red label may be concerned that they lack the resources to manage complications that could arise from inducing epilepsy during childbirth.

The People's Hospital has the necessary resources, including qualified medical professionals and state-of-the-art equipment, to effectively handle such incidents and ensure the safety of both mother and child.

You have previously experienced epilepsy, which may have been an accidental seizure. However, there is no guarantee that it will not occur during childbirth. What would be the consequences of such an event? At this juncture, it is not a matter of whether the doctor believes it or not, but rather they have to prepare for all possible accidents. You have previously experienced epilepsy, and although many years have passed, it is always prudent to be prepared in case it happens again.

If, in the end, there is no labor, then all parties are satisfied. Just as before surgery, blood types are tested and blood is prepared because there is no way to predict what may happen during the process. It is always preferable to be prepared for potential scenarios than to be caught off guard when an unexpected event occurs.

It is the doctor's obligation to issue a red label, or it is her prerogative to do so for self-protection.

If the doctor accepts your explanation, diagnoses you with epilepsy, and does not issue a red label, and complications arise during labor, you or your family may hold the doctor responsible. Therefore, if I were a maternal and child health doctor, I would issue a red label for the benefit of the mother and yourself.

If you must dislike it, it is nevertheless preferable to a lawsuit.

The method of delivery is irrelevant. Medical professionals possess greater expertise in this area than the general public, and their primary concern is the well-being of the mother and child.

I am unaware of your current circumstances, but I understand that you are pleased to have a daughter. In any case, when it comes to highly specialized matters like medicine, it is advisable to seek guidance from professionals.

I wish you the best of luck.

I am a counselor who experiences periods of depression and optimism. I extend my appreciation to the world and to you.