My child has just started first grade, and he failed both Chinese and math in the midterm exam. What should I do?

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Hi, I'm Kelly!

I can see your worries and anxieties, so let's talk about them together, my friend.

Oh dear, my child has just started first grade, and he failed both Chinese and math in the midterm exam. What should I do?

As a parent, I know you must be feeling really worried about your child failing. It's totally normal to feel this way! You can think about this from several aspects.

1: Family atmosphere and education

If your child didn't do so well in first grade, it's natural to wonder if they're struggling to keep up with their peers.

Have they been to a cram school?

Some children start going to cram schools very early, and they get tutored before kindergarten. This makes the first and second grades of elementary school a breeze for them!

However, you might not think that your child needs to go to a cram school, and you haven't taken your child to any special ones.

When a child is young, they listen to their parents and elders, right?

It's totally normal for a child who hasn't been exposed to learning before going to school to have a result like this in the first grade.

If they're lucky enough to be looked after by an older relative or a nanny,

She was just having fun, enjoying her meals and having a good time, so there was a bit of a gap in her primary school studies.

As a parent of a child in the early grades, it's best to avoid getting too emotionally involved with the teacher. Once you've found an objective reason, it's always best to tell the teacher honestly.

Parents, you can really help your children by giving them more support, encouragement, and guidance. It's not because they didn't do well on the exam, but because they didn't have the chance to receive tutoring.

Children at this age are naturally happy and not prone to low self-esteem, so it's so important for parents to guide their children and trust them.

If parents can't understand their children at this time, it can be tough for the little ones to stand up to the pressure from teachers, parents, and classmates on their own. If they're feeling tired of studying and afraid to go to school, it can be even harder.

My daughter had a similar experience. She was at the bottom of the class in the first grade because we didn't have any tutoring, but I always encouraged her, so I didn't pay much attention to her studies until the third grade.

Instead, I encouraged her, gave her lots of love and support, and helped her to keep a positive and happy outlook.

It's so important for parents to keep a calm and happy emotional state. I remember my own childhood and I was really scared of being beaten or scolded by my parents because of my poor grades.

It's so sad when kids get in trouble at school because they're scared and don't know what to do. It's important to remember that the more they're scolded, the worse they'll do. We need to be there for them and help them learn to calm down and think clearly.

Because, you know, panic just can't calm a child's mind.

2: Give your little one a helping hand with their learning habits!

Parents know their children best, and learning habits are really important. For example:

1: It's so great when kids do their homework by themselves after school, within a set time.

2: Spend some time with your child as they learn and grow together.

3: It's great for kids to learn to organize their own school supplies! It helps them understand that they can do things on their own.

4: This stage of a child's development requires lots of love and support, no matter what their grades are. Give them lots of praise and encouragement for every little bit of progress they make. It'll make them feel great and help them to believe in themselves.

3: Be sure to take note of all your child's wonderful strengths!

We'd love to know if your child has any hobbies!

For example, music, sports, handwriting, and painting are great hobbies that can really help children become more confident, in addition to their grades!

She really blossomed in all areas, including moral, intellectual, physical, artistic, and manual skills. Kids are so adaptable, and grades don't define their whole life.

It's so important to have your own hobbies!

Be sure to help your little one see all the wonderful things they're good at!

Or, if you'd like, you can always ask other teachers for advice.

If parents don't have the time or experience,

If your finances allow, you can even hire a college student to help with tutoring and help your child develop good study habits!

We just observed the changes in the first year, and we're so proud of how far our daughter has come! While her primary school grades were not ideal, she worked hard in junior high school and managed to get into the high school and university of her choice.

On the other hand, there were lots of classmates who did really well in elementary school but didn't make it to high school or university.

It's so important to learn to be mentally prepared for the marathon of parenting!

We are friends of our children, and we can also learn more, understand, affirm, and trust our children as parents.

Remember, don't be a critic of your children.

Happy birthday, dear friend!

I love you, and so does the world!

Good day. Despite the brevity of your description, I can discern your anxiety. Many new parents are influenced by the misconception that "Don't let your child lose at the starting line." Consequently, your child may have experienced a setback in the first grade, particularly in the recent semester. This could have led to feelings of crisis. However, it's essential to recognize that the first grade and the elementary school stage in general are a period of preparation for your child's learning journey. The fact that your child may have encountered difficulties in the first grade does not necessarily indicate a lack of ability to learn. It could simply reflect a need for support in a specific area. It's also important to remember that your child's abilities will continue to develop and evolve. It's unlikely that your child will be unable to write or perform basic calculations in the future. It's understandable to feel concerned, but it's also crucial to maintain a sense of perspective.

[Provide your child with emotional support as they grow up]

Since the child left kindergarten and entered the "arena of life," he has gone from being a "cute little angel" to a source of challenges and imperfections. When it comes to assisting with homework, there is a stark contrast between harmonious and chaotic interactions. Regardless of your child's academic performance, a poor parent-child relationship is a significant concern. Therefore, establishing a strong and positive parent-child relationship at the outset of your child's life is a crucial foundation for their future success.

It is important to understand the child, encourage them, teach them how to love and how to deal with challenges, and help them understand how stress affects them.

[Characteristics of psychological development in primary school children]

The period from 7 to 12 years old is considered the school age. During this time, children transition from kindergarten to primary school, which marks the beginning of their exploration of society outside the home. This period presents both parents and children with a range of new challenges.

Firstly, the child must learn new school rules and make new friends. Concurrently, the focus of play and entertainment must shift from the previous focus on learning. It is crucial to understand the importance of learning and cultivate an interest in learning. The child must also gain recognition and a sense of accomplishment from others at school, that is, from teachers and classmates.

What strategies can be employed to facilitate a seamless transition from family life to school life and ensure a swift adaptation to the school environment?

Firstly, in order to facilitate a smooth transition from family life to school life and ensure a swift adaptation to the school environment, it is essential for parents to adopt an appropriate attitude and maintain a close emotional bond while gradually reducing their level of care. This entails allowing children to take responsibility for tasks such as getting up on time, eating at the appropriate times and packing their school bags. Parents should refrain from doing these things for their children and instead provide guidance and support as needed.

Providing a supportive environment is about demonstrating to your child that you endorse and endorse their actions. When your child returns from school, the most crucial thing for parents to focus on is not their academic performance, but their emotional state and needs.

For instance, if your child is reprimanded by a teacher or feels wronged at school for an action they took, parents should listen attentively to understand the situation fully, accept their child's emotions initially, and then assist them in finding a solution.

Secondly, it is important to safeguard your child's natural inclination towards learning and nurture their capacity to learn effectively.

It is essential that children at the primary school level develop a strong interest in learning and good learning habits. When a child is interested and has a certain ability to learn, they will naturally perform well in their studies.

The learning process is not a sprint but a marathon. As any participant in a long-distance race will attest, it is important to maintain a steady pace. If the frontrunner is too fast, they will burn through their energy reserves and lack the stamina for the final stretch. This concept applies equally well to learning. While it is not the goal of primary education to produce top-performing students, it is crucial to ensure that they retain a passion for learning. When children develop a genuine interest in a subject, they become unstoppable sources of potential.

Thirdly, it is important to learn to interact with others in a professional setting.

1. Enhance children's understanding of peer interaction.

Some children may be shy or uncomfortable and wait passively. Parents should therefore guide their children in social interactions, which is both a necessity and a source of enjoyment. They should be modest and friendly, make lots of friends, and let children know what kind of people are likeable and what kind of people are not.

It is important to pay attention to guiding children in their usual interactions so that they are encouraged to take the initiative to get close to others and meet new friends.

It is recommended that you organize colorful activities to create an atmosphere conducive to social interaction.

It is important for parents to facilitate their children's social interactions. When children are able to accept others engaging with them, they should be encouraged and assisted in taking the initiative to interact with others, from relatives to friends of relatives, and from one classmate to friends of this classmate. Gradually expanding the scope of social interactions allows children to become more socially engaged and to interact with a wider range of individuals.

It is also recommended that they be encouraged to participate in more group activities, socialize with their classmates more, and be given opportunities to speak in public.

The most effective method of psychological counseling for interpersonal communication is the organization of activities. Participation in a variety of group activities enables children to learn to cooperate and interact with others, thereby facilitating their participation and development.

3. Enhance your personal development and cultivate interpersonal attraction.

It is important to encourage your child to actively engage in social interactions with a sincere smile. It is also beneficial to believe that you are popular and to show yourself in the right situations so that others will remember you. Additionally, it is helpful to learn to remember other people's names and to lend a helping hand when others need it. This will facilitate the formation of genuine friendships.

In your interactions with others, it is important to demonstrate respect, use polite language, pay attention to your manners, and strive to make a positive impression. Avoid rude and impolite behavior. Learn to actively listen and engage in meaningful conversation.

It is more challenging to get young children to listen. Parents should guide their children to learn to listen, use their eyes to show that they are paying attention, avoid interrupting others, and give positive responses when appropriate.

In summary, social interaction is a fundamental psychological need of humans and an essential avenue for learning. Parents bear a significant responsibility for their children's growth and development, and their words and actions must serve as exemplary models for their offspring.

It is often possible to participate in more activities with friends and family. Furthermore, you can contact other parents and friends to arrange a weekend outing for the children together, thus creating more opportunities for adults and children to interact.

It is important to allow your child to take an active part in social interactions, to boost their self-confidence in social situations, and to provide them with the opportunity to experience the positive aspects of socialising. This will help them to learn how to interact with others.

What methods can be employed to stimulate a child's interest in learning?

Firstly, it is essential to respect the laws of child development. With regard to the development of a child's right and left brain, the following laws apply: before the age of 7, it is the stage of right brain intelligence development.

The period between the ages of 7 and 11 is characterised by the development of the left brain. This is a general guideline, not a strict rule. It is not necessary for a child to begin developing their left brain at the age of 7. Some children may develop slightly later than this and find learning challenging. At this stage, parents may become anxious and resort to criticism and blame, or even physical punishment.

In such a negative frame of mind, it is unlikely that the child will enjoy learning. Each time they study, they will be reminded of the unpleasant experience and associate it with their current mood, which will make them reluctant to engage with learning.

Secondly, children should be made aware that learning is their own responsibility, rather than a matter for their parents.

Third, cultivate a positive attitude toward learning in your child. If your child encounters setbacks in their studies, parents can provide encouragement in a constructive manner, which will foster a willingness to succeed.

Fourth, cultivate your child's interest in learning in life, as learning is a pervasive phenomenon. For example, parents should maintain a quiet home environment, turn off the television, and speak in a low voice. This will reinforce to the child that learning is important and that his actions are affirmed by his parents, stimulating his interest in further exploration or doing well in school.

My name is Zhang Huili, and I am a psychological counselor. I hope you find this information helpful. If you find it useful, please indicate so by clicking the "thumbs-up" icon.

Hello! I'll give you a 360-degree hug!

I can answer this question! My family has a primary school student, and we've already been on the first grade path. I'd love to share with you the path we've traveled and the pitfalls we've encountered.

First of all, learning is a human instinct—and it's a wonderful one!

We are born to love learning! Babies will automatically learn to roll over and walk, for example.

And as they get older, children will learn languages and eat on their own! They'll explore the world in their own way and imitate the way their family members speak and act.

And then there's kindergarten! This is where children get to learn and play with their teachers and peers.

The younger the child, the more initiative they have in learning—and it's amazing to see!

But when this instinct to learn meets deliberate education, such as schoolwork and sitting in the classroom like a prisoner, it feels like freedom is being restricted. We often tell our children that going to school is like being locked up in a cage.

So, it's totally normal for children to reject school and learning. When something that was once a hobby becomes a chore, it will definitely dampen enthusiasm.

It's the same with painting. If you make a living from it, you'll quickly lose interest. But there are always exceptions to the rule. Some people can keep their passion alive throughout.

So, for kids, learning is a natural thing. But when learning becomes a task, it can be easy to feel like it's not for you.

Second, children may feel a little uncomfortable when they change their environment, but they'll get used to it in no time!

Children will have the chance to adjust to the stricter learning discipline in primary school, which is a great opportunity to build their independence!

It's only been two months since first grade started, and some students may still be getting used to the exciting rhythm of primary school!

It's incredible how quickly children grow and change as they start school. Every year, we see first-graders doing things that make their teachers laugh and cry. They're so eager to learn and explore! For example, they raise their hands in the first half of class, saying, "Teacher, I'm hungry." Or they wait for the teacher to wipe their bottom after going to the bathroom. Others say goodbye to the teacher when class is over and go home with their schoolbags on their own. It's so inspiring to see them taking these first steps in their academic journey!

It's totally normal for some children to feel a little confused at first. It's an adjustment process, and parents can help by being patient and explaining things slowly. It's great to help children understand the differences between primary school and kindergarten before the start of the school year!

The first thing to remember is that children are going to have to adapt to a new way of learning and a different environment. It's an exciting time for them! They'll get to make new friends, learn how to greet and play with children, and so much more.

The teacher will talk about this, but it's a great idea for parents to chat with their kids about it, too! When your child comes home from school, have a conversation about what happened at school. Find out if they had fun or if there were any challenges.

And finally, let's talk about the family atmosphere!

For primary school students who could use a little more self-control, the family atmosphere is a great place to start! Parents can help their children succeed by creating a learning-friendly environment at home.

For example, encourage your child to do their homework! And while they're doing it, why not turn off the TV and phone and give them some space to focus?

Your child's academic performance is affected by various factors, and your question is very simple. That means there are lots of possibilities for improvement! You just need to think about which part has gone wrong.

For first-graders, it's all about cultivating those learning habits! It's not even time to talk about laying a foundation yet, so there's plenty of time to make a difference.

The school year has just started, and there's still plenty of time to turn things around! It's a great chance to correct bad habits and cultivate good learning habits.

There's so much more I could tell you, but I'm not sure I have all the information I need to make a judgment. So I'm going to suggest something really exciting! Why don't you take your child to talk to a counselor? That way, you'll be able to find out what's going on and get started on the path to a solution.

I'm a counselor who is often pessimistic and occasionally positive. And I love you, the world, and everything in it!

Hello, I am Hu Nuannuan from Yixinli. I can sense your anxiety and worry as a parent when I read that your child's grades have been unsatisfactory for a year. First, you must accept the problem when it arises and then calm yourself down before thinking of a solution.

Let me be clear: this is a very common phenomenon among first-graders. As an educator, I encounter it almost every year.

I have some experiences and views that I believe will be helpful to you.

First and foremost, do not be anxious.

As parents, we feel anxious when we see our children's grades. However, we must not deny their learning ability based on a single grade.

Second, don't worry.

As parents, we are bound to feel anxious when we see our children's grades. We may even start looking for tutoring classes, but we should be aware that these will have little effect.

Third, identify the problem from the results.

If the child is failing, there is a problem. And it is our job to identify it and solve it.

The following are the most common problems we encounter:

Q1: Parents must review and preview with their children every day after school.

A review is simply a review of what the teacher has taught in class today. It is a way of checking whether the child can repeat it, whether the homework set by the teacher has been completed, and whether there is anything unsatisfactory that needs to be practiced again. It also ensures that the content to be taught tomorrow has been reviewed.

Q2: When you're with your child and they're learning, do you ever shout at them?

Yelling makes children scared, weak, and lacking in self-confidence, which makes them more likely to make mistakes in the learning process.

Question 3: When a child fails a subject, it is usually because they cannot finish the exam or make too many mistakes. Parents must notice these problems and take action.

This situation is typically caused by inattentiveness, which then leads to problems with literacy and comprehension.

Q4: Your child will have a smooth transition from kindergarten to primary school.

The transition from kindergarten to primary school is about more than just knowledge. It's also about social skills, self-care abilities, understanding rules, and manual dexterity.

Here's how you can solve it.

1. Ask your child every day about the fun things that happened at school. Review the day's learning points with your child and preview the new lessons.

2. Never shout at your child during the learning process. If you feel the need to, take a moment to calm down in a quiet place and then return to the task at hand. It's important to resolve your emotions before resolving the problem.

3. Pay close attention to your child's learning situation, communicate with the teacher immediately, and address and resolve issues promptly.

4. Encourage your child. This will help them grow up well, strengthen the parent-child relationship, motivate your child to keep improving, and boost their confidence.

5. Take your child for moderate exercise regularly. It will promote intellectual development, strengthen cardiopulmonary function, improve social skills, and prevent depression.

6. Reading with your child will increase their vocabulary and comprehension.

7. Improve concentration! This is the most important point!

You can learn more about "sensory integration training" (referred to as "sensory integration" for short). This is a highly effective approach based on the neurological needs of children. It guides training to respond appropriately to sensory stimuli, greatly improving concentration and helping children improve their abilities in various aspects.

If your child's grades are not good, do not lose motivation. Keep encouraging them to maintain their enthusiasm for learning. Their future is not determined by academic performance. It is determined by the belief in continuous learning.

Hello, I'm June!

As a mother, I totally get it. I know how hard it is when your child isn't doing well in school. I'm here for you, and I'm sending you a big hug to help ease your mind a little.

It's great that your child is only in the first grade and that everything is just beginning! I'm sure you'll find a way to make things work if you just take a moment to think about why things are the way they are.

If I understand correctly, your child hasn't had the chance to attend a preschool class yet, which might mean they're not keeping up with other children their age. It's natural to feel worried that if you fall behind in one step, you'll fall behind in every step.

There's really no need to be so nervous! The pace of teaching in compulsory education is usually not very fast. As long as you help your child to develop good learning habits and they can keep up with the rhythm, they'll be fine!

1. Do you and your partner have the same educational ideals?

It's totally understandable to feel anxious in this situation. I'm curious to know how your partner is feeling. If you and your partner don't see eye to eye, it can be easy for kids to take advantage of the situation. Having a family education that's too strict or too lax can make it difficult for kids to stay motivated. Learning can feel like a task or a burden, which can make it challenging to achieve good results.

2. Do you think it would help to cultivate learning habits more consciously?

1. Regular life and rest

I've seen some parents who, because of their busy work and personal lives, don't pay much attention to their children's sleep and rest habits. This can lead to their children staying up late and not having enough energy to devote to their studies the next day.

It's so important to make sure your little one gets at least 8 hours of sleep every day during primary school. Not only will they be tired and unable to focus on their studies, but their physical development will also suffer if they don't get enough sleep.

2. Finish your homework on time, sweetie!

Hey there! When you get home from school, do you do your homework first or play first and then do your homework? Can you concentrate when doing your homework?

It would be great to know if he can maintain concentration for more than 45 minutes! If not, it would be helpful to understand what might be interrupting his focus.

If your little one's attention span is less than 45 minutes, it can be tough for them to stay focused in class. But don't worry! There are ways you can help your child concentrate on their studies. One of the best ways is to be an effective, loving companion when they're doing homework during primary school.

When your little one is doing their homework, it's important to be an effective companion. This means not playing with your phone or watching TV while they work, but staying in the same learning mode as them.

3. Literacy and Reading Training

It's so important to cultivate your child's reading ability nowadays, especially since the amount of literacy required for exams is very large, especially in the upper grades. There's a lot of reading required for any subject! So, it's a great idea to start cultivating your child's bedtime reading habit from the first grade.

4. Have fun accumulating ancient poetry!

It's so lovely to see children learning Chinese! It's a language that has a long history, with classical Chinese and ancient poetry being especially beautiful. The younger a child is when they start memorizing, the deeper the memory will be. This will help them in the future, when they'll find it easier than other children.

I hope you find this little bit of experience from someone who has been there before helpful. I wish you the best!

Dear question asker, I hope this message finds you well. I just wanted to send you a quick note to say that I'm thinking of you and hoping that you've found a balance in your life and are feeling less anxious.

It is not uncommon for children who have recently transitioned to first grade to require some time to adjust to the nuances of primary school life. The shift from kindergarten's more relaxed teaching methods to the more structured approach of primary school can be a significant change, and it is understandable that children may initially find it challenging to adapt.

When my younger sister first started primary school, it also took her a little while to find a balance. The mid-term exams in the first grade were mostly based on kindergarten knowledge, so it might be helpful to talk to your child to see if they haven't been taught that in kindergarten yet, or if they are just not yet used to the way the lessons are taught and are unable to keep up with the teacher.

It might be helpful to let your child get used to the rhythm of primary school first, and then you can focus on whether they are doing well or not in their textbooks.

Learning is a long process. In today's social environment, lifelong learning is an issue that both their generation and we must face. Lifelong learning encompasses more than just learning textbook knowledge; it also involves acquiring a wide range of skills. While they are absorbing textbook knowledge, they may require more time than others, but their brains may contain vast galaxies of painting or music.

It might just take a little time for him to flourish in his own way.

Time is patient, waiting for the flowers to bloom.

Hello, questioner. I can see that you are worried about your child's academic performance and are anxious about not knowing how to help your child improve their grades. I'm going to give you a reality check and analyze the situation from the following perspectives, in the hope that it will be enlightening.

*1. First, take care of yourself and stabilize your emotions. You may be confused by what I'm saying, but I'm going to explain it to you. There's clearly something wrong with your child's academic performance, and that has everything to do with my emotions.

You must be the child's father or mother. The child is likely to feel a lot of pressure and frustration just entering primary school and failing both Chinese and mathematics. As the person closest to the child, you must not be more anxious and worried than the child at this time. You must not scold the child. You will inadvertently cause the child more pressure and harm if you do.

Therefore, parents must first stabilize their emotions, avoid transferring their own pressure to the child, and provide comfort, understanding, and encouragement. Tell your child, "You have just started elementary school and need time to adjust. Mom and Dad believe that if you persist and work hard, you will do better and better."

Children who feel supported and encouraged by their parents are more confident, less frustrated by exam failures, and more motivated and interested in learning.

*2. Help your child develop a proper learning attitude, good learning habits, and learning methods to improve academic performance. Every parent wants their child to succeed, and this is unquestionable.

The only difference is in the methods parents use to help their children succeed. Parents must grasp one simple principle: they should not focus only on grades. Academic performance is only a "byproduct" of a child's usual learning attitude, learning habits, learning methods, and the extent of his efforts.

Parents must adopt a "process management" mindset, rather than focusing on immediate outcomes. This requires patience, relaxation, and the ability to wait.

*3. Growth is a long process that accumulates over time. You are right to say that "the foundation is not laid." The primary school stage is the time to lay a solid foundation, and indeed parents need to pay attention to it. They should accompany their children in doing their homework, see where their children have difficulties in learning, and provide appropriate help. They should not take over for them. They should not judge that their children are not good at learning based on their first test scores in the first grade, or that they cannot get better in the future.

I believe these views will help you sort out your thoughts and face your child's academic performance in a better and more appropriate way.

The present moment is so important! Be grateful for the encounter!

From your description, I can tell that you care deeply about your child's studies and are excited about their future. I am also a mother, and my child is just starting second grade. Let's talk about your child's studies!

Your child has just started first grade, and they're ready to take on this exciting new challenge! While kindergarten has a relaxed, informal, and playful atmosphere, first grade is a great opportunity for children to learn how to sit still and pay attention in class.

In addition, first grade is all about listening, speaking, reading, and writing! It's a big change from what your child was used to at home, so it's no surprise that they're still getting used to the new school environment and learning style. It's only been a couple of months, and there's so much for them to learn and remember. They're also busy getting used to this new learning atmosphere, so it's totally normal for the midterm exam to be a bit of a challenge.

This doesn't mean that the child's foundation is not sound, or that the school is bad, or the teacher is bad. Absolutely not! Whether or not the child had a problem in the exam, how well does the child normally grasp things? All of this needs to be considered, and there's plenty of room for improvement!

Even if your child's foundation is not solid, it's like building blocks without a foundation. It's only the beginning, and you can't just knock it all down and start again. But don't worry! It's not too late. And the most important thing in the first and second grades is to develop good learning habits, not grades.

It's never too late to make up for previous lessons! Don't let one result discourage your child's enthusiasm for learning. If they become resistant to learning, it will be difficult in the future.

Face this result with your child together and celebrate all the amazing things they've already mastered, all the great things they've done well, and all the areas that still need a little more work. Practice these little by little with your child in your usual interactions. It is very easy to catch up!

Don't let this result damage the parent-child relationship! Even if you are right, without a good parent-child relationship, arguing is useless.

Now, take a look at the reasons for your child's result. And don't forget to consider your own reasons, too! Think about whether you'll be spending more time with your child in the future. Instead of sitting next to your child while he does his homework, you can quietly read a book yourself. Let your child solve his homework by himself, without your participation or comments. You can set a learning atmosphere for your child by leading by example!

I absolutely believe that with constant exposure, your child's grades will gradually improve!

I really hope my answer helps! I wish you the absolute best!

Hello! As a parent, you have seen that your child's grades are very poor just after entering first grade, and you have even thought about repeating the year. This is a serious issue, and it is understandable that you are feeling anxious.

First, you need to determine whether there is a problem.

Parents must first determine whether this is a problem. A failing grade in first grade math and Chinese is certainly cause for concern.

Don't panic. Analyze the situation on a case-by-case basis.

Absolute grades are not conclusive. You need to find out whether your child's grades are an isolated incident. For example, did your child fail only this exam, or have they been underachieving since they started school?

If such results are just occasional, parents should take their time and observe for a while longer. Children are just starting first grade, and they need to adapt to the new environment, new friends, and new way of life.

Fluctuations in academic performance during the adjustment process are normal. Give him some time to see how things develop and don't jump to conclusions.

Furthermore, we must inquire about the grades of the other children in the class. If the majority or a significant portion of them are underperforming, it is likely due to objective factors such as the difficulty of the exam questions. In such cases, the issue is not necessarily the child's fault.

We need to identify the root cause of the problem.

If your child's grades are indeed a problem, we must first identify the root cause. You mentioned a lack of foundation, but which foundation are you referring to?

The foundation is knowledge. Children today typically start learning first grade material before entering preschool. If your child has not done this in advance, they will not be able to keep up with the rest of the class when they enter school.

Good learning habits are fundamental. A child in first grade who can concentrate in class and complete homework on time is more important than learning knowledge.

If a child has not developed good learning habits, it will show in their academic performance.

Academic performance is not just related to learning. There are many reasons behind it. Is the child's health and emotional state normal during this period?

We need to know if there have been any special events in the child's life and how they interact with others at school.

What are the child's special behaviors?

The child has just started first grade, and poor grades are not a big deal. Test scores are just a phenomenon. Parents must explore the underlying reasons and apply the right remedy.

Adjust your mindset.

In this day and age, all parents want their children to succeed and become their pride. However, the growth of children is not only a long process, but also requires comprehensive consideration. Parents must adjust their mentality to better accompany their children's growth.

First, parents must remain calm and avoid trying to force their children's growth. Every child grows at their own pace, just as every flower has its own growth cycle.

Some children run fast, while others run slowly. Parents must be patient and allow their children to develop at their own pace.

It is pointless to compare your child with others and become anxious when they are not doing as well as you think they should. This kind of pressure is not beneficial to a child's growth.

Second, consider all aspects and avoid generalizations. A child's development should not be judged solely by their academic performance. Development includes nurturing, stimulating, guiding, and encouraging young students' various curiosities and interests, increasing a certain amount of knowledge about natural things and human society, and cultivating children with a complete personality, a healthy body, correct values, a good attitude, and so on.

Parents must look beyond academic performance and evaluate their children in a holistic manner.

Parents must look beyond academic performance and evaluate their children holistically. Focusing on academic performance alone limits a child's horizons and deprives them of opportunities to cultivate and improve other aspects of their character. This is a false economy.

Third, find the right approach. Parents' concern for their children and desire for their success is understandable, but an inappropriate approach will only have the opposite effect.

Chinese parents are quick to point out their children's mistakes, often seeing them as weaknesses that need to be fixed immediately. However, research shows that affirmation, praise, and encouragement are more effective educational tools for children.

Parents who are good at discovering their children's strengths and advantages will find their children are more motivated as they grow up. In today's era of special roles, it is better to build on strengths and avoid weaknesses than to try to make up for weaknesses.

Parents should stop worrying about their children's grades and start exploring their interests instead. This is the best way to find motivation to learn.

I am Teng Ying, a psychological counselor, and I am confident this will be helpful.

Good day. My name is Yu Hengbo, a psychological counselor. As a parent of a second child, I can empathize with your situation. Your child has recently started school and is experiencing academic difficulties, which is understandable given the natural anxiety associated with this transition.

I recall the initial day my eldest child was enrolled in school. He was, in my estimation, an exemplary student, having consistently received praise from his kindergarten teacher and displaying a high level of satisfaction. However, as I gradually became more involved in my child's academic pursuits, I soon encountered a markedly contrasting environment. I observed that my child's foundational knowledge in this subject matter was significantly less advanced than that of his peers who had received extensive instruction at the kindergarten level. This realization led to a notable shift in my emotional state, accompanied by feelings of considerable psychological disparity and frustration.

As a result of my child's slow learning pace, I frequently receive calls from teachers requesting assistance. I experience feelings of inadequacy when confronted with the challenges and expectations outlined by the teachers, and I feel that I have not fulfilled my responsibilities. Additionally, I feel helpless when interacting with my child and am unsure of how to provide assistance. On one hand, I still view him as a child and am reluctant to see him suffer; on the other hand, I am concerned about his poor academic performance. If I do not provide support, he will fall behind for an extended period, develop a sense of inferiority and helplessness, and lose his motivation to learn.

At that time, I was eager to find a scientific and effective method to help my child as soon as possible. I subsequently engaged in active collaboration with the teacher, acquiring valuable insights and skills in family education. I supported my child in his endeavors, and his learning abilities gradually improved. As he continued to study, his performance became increasingly strong, leading to his admission to the top-performing junior high school in our region.

I would like to take this opportunity to share my personal feelings with you and see if they are of any reference value.

The primary school stage represents a critical period for building a child's learning ability. Academic performance is not a reliable indicator of a child's true learning ability. In particular, in the first grade of primary school, some children may appear to have good academic performance, but if they lack interest in learning and rely on their parents to instill a love of learning, their potential will be limited. As they progress to higher grades, the content of their studies becomes more complex, and parents are no longer able to provide assistance. Children with weak learning abilities will face challenges, while those who are passionate about learning and have the ability to learn independently will demonstrate consistent improvement and significant potential for growth.

It is therefore important to focus on learning ability at the primary school stage. While grades can be used as a reference point, it is important not to allow temporary setbacks to affect confidence. Children at this stage are more easily influenced by the attitudes of parents and teachers. How parents view grades will directly affect a child's self-confidence in learning. I believe you are aware of this, posting a message on the platform asking for help and focusing on how to find a solution yourself, rather than complaining about your child's incompetence.

The cultivation of children's learning ability can be defined as the enhancement of four key attributes: learning motivation, learning perseverance, learning ability, and learning creativity. Collectively, these attributes represent an individual's capacity to acquire, share, utilize, and create knowledge.

Learning motivation is the foundation of learning ability. When a child's three basic psychological needs are met, learning motivation will arise. These needs include freedom to make decisions, confidence and competence in learning, and a harmonious relationship with parents, teachers, and classmates. When a child can learn freely, confidently, and happily with everyone, his learning motivation and perseverance will gradually increase, and he will be willing to actively explore learning methods and creativity. There are now many courses that explain learning ability, so I suggest you refer to them.

2. Our beliefs and views on children's academic performance will affect our emotions to a certain extent. What is your interpretation of the poor results in the first-grade mid-term exam?

It is important to consider the long-term implications of this situation for your child's future. If we believe that this issue could impact their performance in entrance exams, university entrance exams, and even employment, it is natural to feel concerned. However, dwelling on these concerns can lead to anxiety.

However, if we view this as a temporary setback that will not affect the future, and if we proactively address it with our children, I believe your anxiety level will decrease. Your emotional stability and confidence in your children will also influence them.

3. It is essential to collaborate closely with the teacher. This includes communicating regularly, seeking guidance on parenting techniques, and requesting the teacher to provide positive reinforcement at school. When your child is facing challenges or exhibiting anxiety, explain the situation in a constructive manner and work together to find a solution. Refrain from making any negative comments about the teacher in front of your child, as this could cause distress. Effective home-school collaboration can facilitate a positive learning environment and encourage progress.

4. Work with your partner to create a harmonious and relaxed home learning environment. First, parents should maintain a stable and harmonious relationship. A loving relationship between parents is a source of security for children. It is essential that you both develop a consistent educational philosophy and avoid blaming each other when difficulties arise, especially when academic performance is lagging. It is crucial that your child does not feel like they are facing a major challenge that they cannot overcome.

It is important to spend time with your child, identify their strengths, and provide encouragement. Your child's self-confidence will be enhanced by your support. Additionally, you can identify strategies to assist your child in overcoming challenging tasks. These strategies can be implemented gradually, similar to the construction of a scaffold, allowing your child to follow the steps and gradually gain confidence.

Furthermore, the learning atmosphere in your home will be enhanced, creating a more pleasant and relaxed environment.

5. It is crucial to recognize that children's learning is contingent upon the health and strength of their brain function. Therefore, it is imperative to prioritize the promotion of physical activity, the provision of nutritious food, and the assurance of consistent and quality sleep. These factors are essential for maintaining optimal brain and physical conditions, which are vital for supporting children's learning needs.

In conclusion, it is essential to maintain confidence in ourselves and our children, learn effective parenting techniques, and collaborate with educators and loved ones to support our children's growth. It is also crucial to prioritize maintaining a positive and healthy work-rest balance, instilling in our children the resilience to overcome challenges and meet obstacles. Accompanying them as they work through problems step by step will equip them with the skills to navigate similar situations in the future, fostering confidence and capability. Best wishes!