My younger sister is addicted to the internet. Her parents' strict parenting style is very depressing. What can I do as an older sister?

Dear Sir/Madam, I hope my answer will be of some assistance to you.

You are a kind and sensible older sister who cares about and loves her younger sister. Your younger sister is fortunate to have a sister like you. By seeking ways to help her, you will undoubtedly have a positive impact on your younger sister and your entire family.

I would advise you to:

It is advisable to communicate with your parents, particularly your mother, and relinquish control. Yelling and smashing the iPad are ineffective and only address the symptoms, not the underlying cause.

I believe your younger sister is currently in the seventh grade.

In general, after puberty, a child's sense of self develops, and they require their own independent space and respect. If the mother only scolds her and confiscates the iPad, she can temporarily stop her sister from playing games. However, if she wants to find a way out, she will find it through other methods, as she does have money.

I am curious as to why my younger sister has such a significant amount of money at her disposal. If feasible, you may wish to consider placing certain restrictions on her access to funds and allocating a specific portion for her use, rather than providing her with an unlimited sum. Otherwise, she may lack an understanding of financial management and be prone to impulsive spending in the future.

It is crucial to identify and address our sister's underlying needs rather than merely reacting to her behavior. If her needs remain unmet, she may resort to repeating the same behaviors, as they provide a sense of fulfillment.

From your description, it seems that your sister grew up in a family where academic achievement was highly valued, yet she received less recognition than you and your brother. Was she also the one who received the most disciplinary actions? It appears that she craved recognition but often lacked it from her mother, who was quick to scold her and lose her temper. Uncertain of how to gain her mother's approval and recognition, she turned to gaming as a source of happiness and recognition.

If the mother continues to exert control, it will further alienate her sister, as she is not seeking control but understanding, support, respect, and help. The sister is aware that gaming is not beneficial and may be motivated to change.

2. It is important to understand your younger sister's reasons for being addicted to her phone. Once you have identified these reasons, you can provide her with positive guidance based on acceptance.

You have indicated that your younger sister has consistently experienced significant pressure. Consequently, it is important to recognize that addiction to games is not the primary issue. Rather, she derives pleasure from the content on her phone, particularly from platforms like TikTok and games. This is because she struggles to find joy in learning, while you are able to find joy in games. Due to her perceived failure in learning, she experiences distress and seeks an escape. However, in games, she experiences a sense of achievement. She feels a sense of competence and happiness, which are highly attractive to her.

It is recommended that you have an open and honest conversation with your sister about your concerns regarding her iPad usage. By demonstrating understanding and actively listening to her, you can facilitate a constructive dialogue about her preferences and experiences. This approach can help you build a stronger relationship with her and gain deeper insights into her needs and feelings. It is essential to communicate with her openly and with genuine interest. By doing so, she will feel heard and understood, which can lead to more effective communication. If you consistently educate and criticize her, it may hinder her willingness to communicate.

3. Once a relationship has been established, assist your sister in identifying sources of achievement and enjoyment in the real world.

As previously stated, my sister's addiction to games stems from her perception of inadequacy in the real world. She seeks to attain a sense of self-worth and accomplishment through these virtual pursuits. Your sister possesses numerous advantages that can be leveraged to offset this tendency. Her early training in piano and ballet, coupled with her proficiency in swimming at the national level, provide ample opportunities for her to feel a sense of accomplishment and competence in other areas.

It is therefore recommended that you refrain from blaming her for her lack of academic effort and instead focus on her strengths and help her find enjoyment in her daily life. When she can also gain a sense of achievement and pleasure in her daily life, she will not be so dependent on the online world.

Furthermore, it is important to note that learning remains a significant aspect of her life. Given her current challenges with her studies, it is likely that she is unsure of how to overcome these difficulties. You can assist her in identifying the root cause of the issue and share effective study techniques. You can also guide her in discussing the content of her studies with you. Over time, with your guidance, she will develop a stronger interest in studying.

Furthermore, it should be noted that this is a gradual process. It is not realistic to expect her to stop playing all at once, as this is difficult to achieve. Instead, a systematic desensitization approach should be employed. In the first week, reduce the time by one hour per day, and in the second week, reduce it by two hours per day, and so on, until it can finally be reduced to less than one hour of phone use per day. This can be negotiated with her, as both parties are working towards the same goal. When she feels that you are on the same side, rather than against her, she will be more willing to change.

Please refer to the above for further details. Best regards,

Give the questioner a big hug! I can feel the questioner's inner concern and anxiety about her younger sister. Family ties run deep, and I can understand why anyone would be worried and anxious if they saw their younger sister like this. However, the questioner also needs to be aware of what these feelings of worry and anxiety are expressing in her heart.

The questioner mentioned that her mother is a very strong woman with big mood swings. She didn't mention anything about her father. It seems like the family dynamic is one where strong women and weak men are the norm. It's possible that the questioner's father is more like a figure in her heart than a responsible male role model. When she encounters a problem, she might feel unsure of how to handle it.

This situation is also a big reason for her emotional ups and downs. When her husband isn't as involved, it's easier for him. But it means she's the one carrying the weight of the family on her shoulders.

It would have been great if Dad could have taken on some of the responsibilities and Mom could have taken on some of the others, so that they wouldn't have to work so hard. Dad would have been happy if he took on fewer responsibilities, but Mom would have had to take on the responsibilities that Dad wasn't willing to take on. Her burden would have become heavier and she would have become even more tired. The child was still young and couldn't take on the responsibilities for the child, and she couldn't express this feeling of being forced to take on the responsibilities to Dad. She was very tired and miserable, and while she wanted to take on the responsibilities herself, she also longed for her husband to help her take on the responsibilities. These two thoughts were mixed up inside her, and her emotions would naturally be affected and change from one thing to another.

It's only natural that her mother's strong personality and fluctuating emotional state will affect the entire family environment and impact every member, including the questioner and her younger sister. The younger sister is the youngest and doesn't have enough strength to face her mother's strong personality. She also knows that her mother is having a hard time, but she is unable to resolve the situation. She doesn't want to ignore her mother's pain, so she can only choose to escape. In comparison, the only thing she can choose to do is play games.

It's also understandable that she charges money to play games. When she's playing games, she gets to chat with someone else, which is great because it means she doesn't have to face the pressure and pain in her family. It's also a way for her to feel like she's existing and doing something that makes her happy. If she can't play games without charging money, she'll never get to experience these satisfactions, so she has to charge money.

If you're facing problems in this kind of family environment, you can try to express to your mother the feelings you have about the overall atmosphere in the family. It's possible that she might find it hard to accept, and she might even accuse you. This is because it's easy to make her feel that you're questioning and denying her efforts and sense of worth. Of course, she may also be a little surprised. Perhaps she has never thought about it this way either. You'll only know what your mother's reaction will be when you express it.

The questioner can gently suggest that her mother seek psychological counseling while doing what she should do, such as helping her mother take on some of the housework, consciously doing her own schoolwork, and consciously managing her own life in terms of clothing, food, housing, and transportation.

Dear Questioner,

My name is Kelly, and I am deeply moved by your display of sisterly love. I will attempt to make some assumptions and analyze the situation.

My younger sister is addicted to the internet and feels repressed by her parents' disciplinary approach.

Let us begin by discussing the personality of the younger sister as the second child. Currently, psychology lacks a definitive answer regarding the impact of birth order on individuals.

However, we can make the assumption that

The eldest child is typically surrounded by a sense of responsibility and expectations.

The middle child is adept at regulating their emotions and concealing them.

The youngest child displays a combination of rebellious and innovative traits.

Your family has three outstanding children, and I believe your parents have made significant sacrifices during your upbringing. As the second child, I did not experience the same level of maternal affection in my original family. The term "love" in this context refers to the attachment between mother and child. I did not observe a notable age difference between you and your sisters.

My brother and I are three years apart, but only two years, and as far as I can recall, my mother was consistently present with my brother. When I was young, she would hold him in her arms. I was intimidated by my mother and felt somewhat resentful simultaneously. My sister received considerable support from my mother, and my brother was shielded by my mother because he was younger.

I distinctly recall numerous instances from my early childhood, approximately two or three years old, when I perceived a lack of affection from my mother, including a lack of physical contact and a sense of being overlooked. I chose to suppress my negative emotions in response.

The purpose of sharing my experience with you is to gain insight into my sister's emotional state from a psychological perspective.

Regarding my sister's academic performance and abilities:

Regarding my sister's academic performance, I believe she has been engaged in piano and ballet since elementary school, in addition to being a nationally-ranked swimmer. It is likely that she has experienced significant challenges and pressure that are beyond the scope of what is typical for an individual. It would be valuable to ascertain her level of interest in these activities.

Or is there a preference for her to pursue academic studies?

If it is in line with her preferences, she will be satisfied. Conversely, if it is in alignment with her mother's expectations, it may lead to stress.

The questioner should inquire as to whether the subject enjoys these activities during their conversations with their sister.

You may also inquire about her aspirations.

If she has expressed an interest in ballet and piano, she will undoubtedly persevere in this field.

If she does not enjoy it due to her mother's expectations, you can empathize with your sister by imagining yourself in her position. What emotions would you experience? How would you communicate with your mother?

Please describe the process you will use to select future hobbies.

It is important to recognize that time is a limited resource. As the questioner mentioned that his younger sister does not have the same level of athletic ability as he does, it is clear that there are few individuals who possess exceptional talent. However, with dedication and effort, it is possible to achieve good grades in academic studies and to excel in one's chosen field of interest.

Similarly, my younger sister has achieved such outstanding results at such a young age. Even if her academic performance is not as strong as it could be, it is more a question of her not being as adept at studying as she might be, rather than a reflection of her ability.

(The questioner may also wish to communicate with her mother to help her understand her sister's pressure.

Additionally, it is important to recognize and appreciate your younger sister for her efforts and achievements. Show her your support and understanding, provide guidance and assistance when needed, and listen to her concerns.

My daughter is an art student. She did not take any academic studies during her three years of high school, instead devoting all her holidays to painting and training. At the time, I fully understood that her academic results were average, not because she was not good, but because she simply did not have enough time.

Because I was aware of the situation, my daughter was able to relax. The three years of high school were challenging, but because I did not exert pressure on her, she was able to maintain a positive outlook. She had a strong support system in place, and later reflected on the three years of high school as a positive experience.

Subsequently, the results of the college entrance examination met expectations.

1:

I encouraged my younger sister to cultivate a support network of friends with whom she could share encouragement, discuss study methods, and collaborate on achieving shared goals.

2:

My younger sister also enjoys the company of friends with whom she can laugh and converse.

3:

Your younger sister has the opportunity to release her emotions.

[The strength of a mother]

Please clarify whether your mother raised you alone, with minimal involvement from your father due to his work commitments.

Or is there a high level of interaction between all parties? Does your father participate in your learning, interact, accompany, and educate you?

I assume that your father is occupied with work and that your mother is responsible for your upbringing. There are numerous demands on the family, and the pressure is considerable with three children. As you mature, your mother will also experience anxiety.

Fortunately, you are all highly capable, and your mother is also an exemplary parent, having raised three children. I believe your mother is also a very disciplined individual, and has been under significant pressure for many years.

A strong mother may also have a vulnerable and unknown side. Additionally, she is a first-time mother, and if she is not strong, she will not have the advantages you have.

There are two sides to every story. As you mentioned, your sister is not as talented as you, she doesn't get good grades, but she is talented. Your mother is strong, but she has raised three outstanding children.

Therefore, you can provide encouragement to your mother, whom you have described as "strong."

1. The siblings sent a letter to their mother on their parents' birthday, expressing gratitude for their upbringing.

2. It would be beneficial to express your emotions more often and communicate with your mother about your feelings.

3. It is important to remember that your mother is your primary caregiver and source of love and support.

[Conflict between Sister and Mother]

I am currently studying family therapy. When the mother forbids the younger sister to play, the younger sister's emotions rebel, which demonstrates that the younger sister is a person with her own thoughts and personality. At this juncture, it is possible that the conflict may prompt the mother to reconsider her approach.

It is possible that this method of communication has prevented her sister from recognizing her mother's educational approach.

1. She is utilizing gaming as a means of emotional catharsis and rebellion.

2. It is important to recognise that families progress through different stages in their life cycles. As such, it is essential to adapt the way in which you interact with each other in a timely manner as you grow up.

3: Address the issue promptly and directly. (It is not advisable to avoid confrontation with your mother, as she needs to address this problem.)

4: Engaging in appropriate gaming activities can also serve as an effective stress management strategy. It is possible that gaming provides your sister with an outlet for emotional release.

5: Why does my younger sister have such extensive spending power? (She is provided with appropriate control over her finances, and she is not permitted to charge items to her account.)

6: A reward and punishment system can be implemented (for example, phone usage can be permitted, but not completely restricted).

7: Could my father's anxiety be linked to my younger sister's preoccupation with her phone? How does he feel about it?

8: How would you respond if your mother treated you in this manner?

9: Identify alternative activities that may be more engaging for your sister, such as reading, drawing, singing, or watching videos. You may also consider reading books online and offering a reward upon completion. This approach could help to redirect her attention.

10: Be bold and try it. Experiment. Discuss with your mother and set a time limit for your sister's playtime. For example, allow her to play for half a month, up to ten hours a day, with no sleep restrictions. If she is currently playing for eight hours, set the time limit at ten hours. Do not allow her to sleep until the time is up. Set her playtime at two hours in the morning and three hours in the afternoon, for a total of five hours.

As an alternative, this approach could be trialed.

11: You may wish to consider involving your father to assist you. You could focus on your studies and allow your father to communicate more with your sister and mother.

12. Should the issue remain unresolved, it may be advisable to seek the guidance of a professional counselor. It is not uncommon for individuals to experience occasional conflicts.

13. Please clarify whether your younger sister has any psychological issues. She should be assessed by a qualified medical professional at a reputable medical facility. Video gaming alone does not indicate the presence of psychological problems. These concerns should be evaluated in conjunction with other factors.

However, you indicated that your sister is typically very happy.

You can be confident that your mother will be pleased with your continued academic success.

I encourage you to maintain this positive progress.

Your mother is pleased to have such exemplary children as you, your sister, and your brother.

I would like to extend my congratulations to you.

My name is Kelly.

I would like to take this opportunity to express my gratitude to you and your family for your kind words.

It's clear that you love your younger sister very much and feel lucky to have such a talented and outstanding younger sister. It's also understandable that you're a little concerned about her going through a rebellious phase and sometimes doing things her own way, which might worry you and your family. However, I'm sure this phase will pass.

It is also important to remember that a period of rebellion is a natural part of every child's growth and development. If a child does not experience this, it could be a cause for concern.

It would be beneficial for us adults to try to understand children who are in the rebellious stage a little better. They especially need to be cared for and supported.

For instance, you express concern that your younger sister may appear outwardly cheerful and talkative, yet may be grappling with significant internal challenges. Have family members had the opportunity to engage with her on this matter?

My younger sister may not have achieved as good academic results as the other two children, but she has achieved remarkable results in sports and the arts. She has worked hard and endured a lot of pressure to achieve such results, which is commendable. Perhaps it is not as simple as achieving good results in studies, but my younger sister has gone through it alone. However, up to now, most people tend to focus more on academic performance, as it can have a more direct impact on one's future.

Could I perhaps ask you to consider my sister's situation from the perspective of her strengths being overlooked and her temporary weaknesses being compared with the strengths of other children?

My younger sister is quite passionate about games and has a tendency to invest a lot of money in them. Games can be a source of satisfaction, both in terms of success and in terms of failure. If a person plays games well, they may feel a sense of accomplishment that is not necessarily reflected in reality. Could it be that my younger sister is seeking a sense of achievement and recognition that she may not be able to find in other areas of her life? Is the feeling she gets from the game what she is addicted to?

The incident of the tablet being smashed may have had a greater impact on her. It's possible that her most intuitive feeling may be: Why do you all oppose everything I like? Why can't you see the things I do well?

It might be helpful to start with support and praise, acknowledging her past achievements. It would also be beneficial to help her learn from her successful experiences. Could you tell me if these experiences relate to learning? "Sports is hard work, and most people can't do it, but you can become a leader in sports. Do you find learning easy? Even if you're just average at it, your current grades already prove that you're excellent, and your sister and brother can't do it.

Perhaps you could try giving her confidence like this and then slowly guiding her onto the right path.

Hello! Thanks so much for asking. I'm Fei, a listening therapist at One Mind.

First of all, I can feel your concern and love for your younger sister. It seems that all three children in your family are outstanding, which is something you can be proud of. At the same time, you will find that your younger sister's addiction to the Internet seems to worry and distress you a lot. And you said that you smashed your younger sister's iPad, and you also feel very guilty and self-blame, feeling that you have acted excessively. At the same time, it seems that you will also say that your mother is too strict with you. Generally speaking, your mother's strict discipline is also part of the reason for your outstanding academic performance or outstanding performance, but it also puts a lot of pressure on you, giving you a sense of oppression or depression. It seems that your excellence and hard work are for your parents, which is a great thing to be proud of!

I'm excited to find a solution to my sister's problem! It's clear that this issue didn't develop overnight, so it'll take some time to resolve. For now, let's put aside preaching and focus on other ways to help. It seems that words no longer have any effect on my sister, and she's not open to listening to her parents or sister.

Let's put aside the fact that my sister is addicted to games. There must be some deep psychological reasons for her addiction to games, and it's not just something external and simple like being addicted to games. In other words, addiction to games is a manifestation of her outward appearance, and the deep-seated reason is family-related, or something happened at school. Now, from your description, I can only see family reasons. I think family reasons may be one aspect, and I'm excited to explore this further with you!

For example, as an older sister, wouldn't it be great if you could have an honest conversation with your younger sister? And let's communicate well once, but let's not limit ourselves to one, two, or three communications—let's keep going until we find the perfect solution!

One question I've been thinking about today is: What is the truth? It is said that truth is told to those who are willing to listen. If your sister is no longer willing to listen to you, then lecturing and explaining to her will only make her more resistant, more resentful, and more addicted to games, and it will go in the opposite direction. But don't worry! There's still hope.

So, it's time for a change! We need to switch up our communication method because the old one wasn't getting us anywhere. So, how do we communicate effectively?

For example, you can take some time with your sister when she is in a good mood. We need to ask our sister why she is addicted to playing games, why she plays for eight or nine hours a day, and why she doesn't study hard.

I'm sure there's something going on! Surely there's a problem!

I'd love to know why you charge so much! I'm really interested in your reasons for playing games.

There must be a deep-seated reason for this, and I'm excited to find out what it is! My sister didn't just do this because she was ignorant or because she just deliberately wanted to cause trouble. I don't believe that's the case. So we have the opportunity to first figure out the deep-seated reason for her playing games and becoming addicted to them. Once we understand that, we can solve this reason and fundamentally solve the problem!

So, it's really important to choose a great place and an awesome way to communicate. Let's ask her some deeper questions instead of questioning her, denying her, or criticizing her for playing games. Let's explore with her why she's like this and see what we can learn!

My younger sister may have a lot of problems of her own, and there are some reasons she can't talk about, so she bottoms them up inside. Her behavior is to indulge in playing games. In this way, she will seem a little more relaxed. Whatever the reason, for example, if her parents are overbearing, if studying makes her feel a lot of pressure, or if something happened at school and she wants to escape the pain, then she can rely on playing games to relax herself and make herself feel better. Perhaps it's just because games are fun! I think this is generally rare, because my younger sister used to be very good, and I believe she should know the consequences of playing games, so why is she still so addicted to playing games?

There must be some deep-rooted reason. You need to find out the reason before drawing a conclusion and discussing it with her. Generally speaking, there must be a deep-rooted psychological reason behind an addictive behavior. You need to overcome and solve this psychological reason first in order to fundamentally solve the problem. Otherwise, if you solve the problem of playing games by forcing her not to play games, she will find a way to vent in other ways next time, or even in a more serious way, because you have suppressed her in a certain way. This is an amazing opportunity for her to find new ways to express her feelings!

OK, as an older sister, I know you care about your younger sister and have already thought of many solutions. We can find a more reasonable and appropriate solution together! If you don't know how to solve this problem, you can ask some relevant teachers for solutions, or take your younger sister for psychological counseling to find out the deeper reasons and solve this problem as soon as possible, because she is still young.

If we can solve this problem quickly, we can avoid creating psychological shadows and pressure, which may make it more difficult to solve. At the same time, if we pressure her too much, it will also cause her to reject and resent the family, which will only backfire. At the same time, it will cast a shadow over her childhood, which will not be conducive to her future development. Of course, this is a more serious approach, so how the family deals with the problem is very important, not the problem itself. The way we solve the problem is also very important. A good way can solve the problem, but a bad way will only make the problem worse.

OK, thank you for your question! We absolutely need to know that there must be a psychological motive behind the behavior, not just the behavior itself. The behavior itself is only an outward manifestation. We can totally solve psychological problems in order to overcome external problems. For example, stress itself, emotions themselves, or cognition itself are all part of the solution and need to be constantly grown.

Sometimes the problem itself is that we take this matter too seriously, causing us to be very anxious. Then my younger sister senses our anxiety and herself also feels very anxious, thinking that her situation is very serious. This will in turn aggravate her behavior. But when we don't take this matter as a very important and serious matter, and calmly and lightly explain it to her, she will instead treat this matter as a trivial matter and handle it properly! Sometimes it is also the case that the family atmosphere exaggerates the matter itself, causing the matter to become really serious. But this is also a way of thinking: treating family conflicts and problems with a relaxed attitude will lead to better solutions!

OK, the world and I love you!

Hello, I'm Wang Ying, your friendly neighborhood psychologist!

From what you've told me, I can tell you love your sister very much. As an older sister, you're looking for ways to help your younger sister, and you're trying to find a way out of the difficult situation your sister is in.

It can be tough for parents of multiple children! Each child has their own unique characteristics, and parents who haven't studied education or psychology often find themselves learning on the job when it comes to their children's growth and academic issues.

In your family, the three children, you and your younger brother, have good grades, while your younger sister is not quite at the same level. Even if she is very talented in other areas, I believe her strong mother will not see it, because her beliefs are still based on traditional concepts, and she will only believe that grades are king. I suspect that your younger sister will often be compared like this at home, and she is not quite as good as the other two children in the family. Over time, she will even come to feel that she is not quite as good as others, that she is not quite good enough, worthless, and unloved, and this has gradually formed her beliefs.

However, she hasn't been able to properly release these pressures and emotions, so when she comes into contact with online games, she becomes deeply immersed and cannot extricate herself. It's a similar situation with children who grow up in an environment of love and freedom, who also become addicted to games because the design of games itself is addictive and conforms to the human brain's patterns.

But children who grow up normally will correct themselves because of the repression they have experienced. Just give them time, and they will make decisions that are good for their growth. It's so important to remember that children who grow up repressed, like your sister, will not be able to find recognition in real life and will look for it in games.

On the other hand, it's also because in her upbringing, she interpreted her mother's behavior as: "My mother doesn't love me." And poor grades and an Internet addiction can attract her mother's attention, and she regards this attention as love.

Of course, all of this is going on in her subconscious mind, and she isn't even aware of it herself!

I think the main issue here is your sister's addiction to online games. But it's also about her relationship with you and your mum.

Your mother is a very strong woman who is very controlling. I can see why you think this is a bad thing, but I think there's another way of looking at it. It seems to me that your mother is not satisfied with her own life and feels powerless to change it. This makes her want to live the life she wants through her children. If your mother is not aware of this and continues to control the lives of her children, it might not be good for her or for you. But I'm sure she doesn't mean to cause you pain.

It's so hard when our siblings act out, especially when it's something like an addiction to online games. It can feel like our parents are doing the wrong thing when they try to discipline us, especially when we're in that rebellious stage of adolescence. But it's so important to remember that our parents love us and want what's best for us. They just need to learn how to show us that love in a way that we can accept. The second thing to remember is that our parents are human, too. They have their own experiences from childhood that they're processing, and they might not know how to show us love in the way we need. So, it's up to us to repair our relationships with them. We can start by asking them to hug us more often, tell us that they love us, and create an environment where we can have a good chat about some warm and loving growing-up experiences. And if they've done something wrong, like using the wrong method to show us love, we can ask them to sincerely apologize. We can say something like, "I love you, but I used the wrong method, which made you unable to feel my love and caused you to feel aggrieved."

It would be really lovely if the family could take your younger sister to do more meaningful things or things she likes to do, such as going on trips, spending time in nature, going for runs, participating in public welfare activities, etc. This will rely on the strength of the family, and the power of family love to warm your sister. At the same time, don't pressure her academically, cultivate her talents, and give her the greatest support.

When the younger sister feels loved, her heart is opened, and she also has something she loves to do, the problem of Internet addiction will be solved by itself.

Of course, both children and mothers need to grow up. It's so important for children to learn to break free from their mothers' control, to learn to gently say no to their mothers, to tell them: "We have grown up, we have our own lives, you also have your own life, we need our own space, it is time for you to reasonably withdraw from our lives." It can be really hard for children to reject their mothers, but it's so important for them to learn to face the guilt that comes from rejection.

Mothers also need to learn to respect their children, learn to make a graceful turn in their children's lives, go live their own lives, and take responsibility for their own lives. It's so important for mothers to learn to let their children grow up and become independent!

There's nothing in this world more powerful than love! It can solve any problem.

I really hope my answer helps! Sending you, your sister, and your whole family lots of love and best wishes!

Hello, I'm Teacher Yuxin. After reading your description, I have a mental picture of three siblings together, and I also have some questions and assumptions to share with you.

Is the younger sister the second child in the family? Did the parents ever hope she would be a boy?

I'd like to know if the child was sent away for fostering at a young age, and what the physical and emotional state of the parents is like.

The parents' expectations and how they welcome the newborn affect how the child feels about their place in the family. This sense of certainty is closely related to the child's sense of security. Both expectations and the degree of welcome are felt by the child through the parents' and child's interactive attitude, which is why I have the above questions.

It's also important to note that these feelings originate from the pre-verbal period, which is basically feeling memory. This always has an impact, but it's not always easy to express and communicate. That's where another relatively mature person can help.

Kids who don't feel secure enough in their family may either withdraw and become sensitive or become over-competitive and aggressive. It seems like your sister swims to gain recognition from her family, but she still has some pretty big fears and worries [what if she isn't good enough one day?

If these worries aren't addressed, the child will likely withdraw. Many addictive behaviors can be seen as a way of avoiding withdrawal.

It's clear that the mother's attitude towards her younger sister's mistakes is not helpful and could even be harmful. I'm curious about how the mother interacts with her younger sister on a daily basis.

If the mother only reacts emotionally when her younger sister makes a mistake, it's likely to cause the child to engage in compulsive behaviors, such as addiction. If the mother only reacts when the child is helpless, it's likely to cause the child to develop self-abusive personality traits, such as excessive exercise or insisting on suffering pain.

The seventh grade age range also includes psychosexual development and the psychological need for gender identity. This anxiety may be mixed in with the overall anxiety of the younger sister.

You care about your sister and think she needs help, but you don't know how to talk to her about it. This seems to be a common issue in your relationship with her. You care about and like each other, but there's a lack of trust. Maybe you don't trust your sister to trust you, or perhaps you feel that your relationship is not deep enough to talk about your feelings, or maybe you used to be able to talk to each other, but the past six months have seen a distance develop between you.

If you can get past your own concerns, accept the risk of being rejected by your sister, and take the initiative to approach her and express that you're worried about her and want to help, I believe this attitude will give your sister strength.

If there's something you don't understand or don't like about how you communicate with your sister, don't blame yourself. Just tell her you're willing to take her with you to seek professional help.

These are all just suggestions based on assumptions, though. What's really going on inside your sister's heart is something only someone close to her can really know.

Finally, be happy that your sister has you as a sister.

Hello, host. From what I can tell, you have a strong bond with your sister. It's clear that you're concerned about her internet addiction and the potential impact it could have on her studies and talent. I'm heartened to hear that you're there to support her.

I would like to respectfully propose that we consider the following aspects in our discussion of children's internet addiction.

First of all, it's important to understand that there must be a reason, a motive, for a child to become addicted to the internet, or for an adult to become addicted to drugs. For example, a child who lacks attention may join a gang to gain attention, even if it is critical attention. An adult may become addicted to drugs because they have no way out of the failures in their family and work lives, and they can find a moment of satisfaction and peace in addiction. Another example is becoming addicted to the internet to gain a sense of existence and worth that they cannot get in reality, or to gain social sovereignty.

It would be helpful to understand what motivates her behavior. By identifying the root cause, you can better support her.

Secondly, she spends a great deal of time online. As a mother, sister, or brother, you might consider offering her other activities that interest her to replace the time she spends online. For example, daily chats after meals, a family outing once a week, movie time once a month, and so on, could be enjoyable alternatives. When she feels that being with you is more enjoyable than the internet, her internet addiction may gradually diminish.

Finally, it might be helpful to allow the rebound and give her enough love. Rebound is normal, and it's something adults do too, so it's important to give her time.

It would be helpful to avoid expressing concern as criticism, to pay positive attention to her, and to avoid blaming her for her reactions. Otherwise, it might make things worse.

Furthermore, I would like to suggest to my sister that you are the member of the family who is able to express emotions and look at things objectively at the same time. When you chat with your mother and sister, their views are fluid. It would therefore be beneficial for you to play your role and become a bridge between your mother and sister, so that they can understand each other's true desires. For example, you might consider arranging a part of your life so that they can be honest with each other, which could potentially lead to different results.

Hello, question asker! I'm Zi Ding Ya Xiang. It's so lovely to connect with you like this!

I really hope I can help you.

The questioner says he loves his younger sister very much and is worried about her going through some changes right now. He says that even though his younger sister's grades aren't as good as his or his younger brother's, she has so many amazing qualities.

Let's focus on all the great things about your sister!

When problems come up, let's work through them together.

1. The environment in which the younger sister grew up. From the perspective of the whole family, the questioner and younger brother are doing really well in school and are very good at it, and their mother has a short temper and is easily angered.

In this environment, my sister is actually under a lot of pressure. It's likely that my mom pays a lot of attention to your studies, and my sister's grades aren't the best, so she gets more scoldings from my mom.

My sister just needs to let it all out through her videos on TikTok or playing games.

2. My sister is going through a rebellious phase, and the questioner also went through a similar period, although it wasn't as obvious as my sister's. It's totally normal for kids to want to test the boundaries during this time.

They're totally hooked on video games for eight or nine hours a day, and they also have this habit of charging money. It's enough to make any parent lose their cool!

Do you think your parents often compare your sister to you in life? I'm sure they love you both equally! What efforts were made when they first encountered electronic products?

I'd love to know how much time parents spend playing electronic games in the family. And what's the schedule for the questioner and his younger brother playing electronic games?

How do you keep your little ones from playing with electronic products? And after the first time, do you not take any action for recharging?

I'm so happy to be able to give you some suggestions and inspirations in response to your questions!

First of all, parents need to change their parenting style. Children in the rebellious stage need more care and guidance, and we're here to help!

If you confront your child, it will definitely backfire. Try using positive discipline instead! Make good use of the things that interest her, and put her grades aside for the time being.

For example, if she likes playing games, why not have a chat with your sister about how long she should play for? After all, your sister has lots of other talents. She's a fantastic swimmer, so why not encourage her to take part in more swimming activities to help her focus on her strengths?

And don't forget to give your younger sister lots of love and care! Every child is special and different.

Parents, it's important to remember that grades aren't the only measure of excellence. We all have different strengths, and it's okay to celebrate them!

There are so many different paths to success! And Rome can be reached every day! Focus more on your sister and create a warm family atmosphere together.

Let's encourage her to make good use of her strengths!

I really think it would be a great idea for the mother to take her younger sister to a professional counseling agency for a psychological consultation. I'm sure that with the help of a professional counselor, she'll be able to completely get over her obsession with electronic products.

I really like the brother who loves his sister and noticed her changes before her parents did. He's such a sweetheart, and he wants to help his sister in any way he can.

I really hope the questioner's wishes come true!

Good day, host. It is somewhat belated, but I am compelled to respond to your query nonetheless.

Firstly, the relationship between your sister and your mother appears to be somewhat contradictory and conflictual. This conflict may have aroused certain emotions in you. Despite your desire to help them calm down, you feel very powerless, which has motivated you to seek assistance. Is this an accurate representation of your feelings? If so, it would be beneficial to consider what motivates you to feel the need to help them resolve this issue.

It is possible that they are afraid of conflict or that they are concerned about your sister or reluctant to see your mother experience distress. Regardless of the reason, your positive influence within the family is evident.

Secondly, it is possible that your sister's excessive gaming is caused by psychological reasons. Regardless of the underlying cause, you have been able to care for her and have done what you can for her. It is now time for her to solve the problem independently. You can provide her with advice and suggest that she try psychological counseling. This is what she needs, and you should respect her journey through life.

It is also possible that your mother is experiencing anxiety. It would be advisable to provide her with comfort and refrain from attempting to assist her in resolving her issues, as there may be underlying anxiety that is not readily apparent. It is likely that she would benefit from addressing this anxiety directly.

Ultimately, each family member occupies a distinct position. When a member "crosses the line," the family dynamic becomes disordered, akin to a tangled rope. In such instances, it may be beneficial to allow the situation to unfold naturally. The issues that should be addressed by the mother and sister are instead placed on the child, which can lead to feelings of helplessness. Concurrently, the mother and sister miss the chance to assume responsibility and grow.

I wish you the best and encourage you to prioritize your own well-being.

Hello! I understand your concerns about your sister. You, your mother, and your sister are the three people involved.

First, you need to see how serious your sister's internet addiction is. Check with her teachers about her performance at school.

Your sister is an excellent child in the first year of junior high school. She should only use the internet after school and on weekends. If she is not doing badly at school, then maybe she is just looking for a way to relieve her study pressure.

As long as there's pressure, there needs to be an outlet.

Second, about what your mother did. She did what was best for your sister.

It doesn't matter if the approach is right or wrong. It's already done. As a child, I know it's hard to change your mom's mind. If you can talk to her, you can work out a way to stop your sister from spending a lot of money.

A child in the first year of junior high who charges thousands of dollars easily may need to think about where their money comes from and who looks after it.

The best way to solve your anxiety is to deal with your own worries.

Exercise helps you feel less anxious. Your sister will be more influenced by you when you are not anxious.

Finally, talk to your sister about other things she can do besides gaming. If she has other interests, she'll spend less time addicted to the internet.

Hope this helps!

Hello, question asker! I can tell you're a very caring sister from reading all the things you've written about your younger sister. You're feeling distressed by your sister's situation, but at the same time you want to help your mother. I'm excited to help you figure out how! Let's dive in and see how we can help your sister.

Let's dive into the fascinating world of my younger sister and explore the incredible psychological characteristics of her age group. My younger sister is in the seventh grade and is in the midst of puberty. From the perspective of psychological development during puberty, it's a truly amazing time! After children enter puberty, they gradually begin to develop an independent personality. Puberty is a transitional period, and it's a wonderful opportunity for growth and discovery.

This is a time of great change and growth! It's normal for kids to be more rebellious during this period. Especially for children whose parents are strong and controlling, they will release some previously repressed things during this period of adolescence. In addition, during this stage of adolescence, children have high hormone levels and their brain and nervous systems undergo great changes, so their emotions are not very stable.

So at this time, children often show that they are particularly emotional and excitable, feeling that the people around them do not understand them. Then they have their own ideas and pursuits, unlike before, when they would do whatever their parents told them to do, and felt that their parents were right, even if they felt that what their parents said did not quite match their own wishes, they would put up with it. But once they enter puberty, if they are not allowed to do something, they will express their rebellion very strongly, which is a great way for them to stand up for themselves!

If parents still suppress her and don't let her express herself, she will become even more depressed. This is because at this time she is pursuing personal independence and longs to be respected, understood, and approved.

When she doesn't get the respect, understanding, or approval she craves, she loves to indulge in all kinds of exciting things like the phone and the internet!

In this virtual world, she can find happiness and excitement! Her phone won't get upset with her, disagree with her, or criticize her. She'll get rewards and encouragement after playing the game. Even if she loses, she can play again, and the sense of defeat is not strong. The game satisfies her psychological needs, so she's happy to play with it. But when she's with the people around her, her psychological needs may not be met, and there are conflicts and contradictions. She feels bad, so she avoids it and becomes more addicted to the game.

If this situation occurs, it is still important to pay attention to it and help your sister adjust as soon as possible. Because if it is not adjusted, it is easy to develop an addiction, and it will be even more troublesome if a vicious cycle is formed. But don't worry! There are ways to help your sister.

Based on the above analysis of the characteristics of adolescence, I'm excited to make a few suggestions!

First, try to get closer to your sister. You can chat with her about what games she plays. Then, gradually get to know your sister better through this process and find out why she is so interested in this game. It'll be fun!

What did she hope to get from it? It's also a great idea to understand what she is dissatisfied with about her parents and you. Why is she dissatisfied? What are her thoughts? What are her needs?

Second, calmly and confidently communicate this situation to the parents. Be sure to tell them what the psychological characteristics of an adolescent child are, and explain how they can help their younger daughter. It is also recommended that the parents change the way they communicate with their younger daughter. Instead of a strong communication style, they should adopt a respectful and understanding style of communication that involves mutual consultation.

The good news is that there's a simple way to improve the relationship between the younger sister and her parents, especially with her mother.

Third, once you've got your relationship back on track, it's time to add more family activities that your sister is interested in. Take her out and participate in these activities more often, and gradually reduce the time she spends playing games. Don't force her to limit the time she spends playing this game – let her enjoy herself!

Otherwise, it will damage the relationship and may make the younger sister more obsessed with games. But don't worry! There is a way to do this. You can reduce the time spent playing games through facts, or you can coordinate.

Fourth, if the above is difficult for the questioner to achieve, it is recommended that the mother seek help from a professional counselor. This is a great option to explore!

A relative of mine also used this method with great success! Before, his son played games so much that he stopped going to school and just stayed at home playing games all day, doing nothing.

Then the father improved his relationship with him, spending more time with him and playing games with him. It was amazing to see how their relationship improved! He was slowly allowed to do more other things. By pulling her out of it, slowly this child gave up his Internet addiction.

I really hope the above is helpful to the questioner!

Hello!

Host:

From reading the post, I can see you care about your sister and are worried about her addiction to games. You have also shown you are willing to get help, which will help you understand your sister and games better.

Next, I will share my thoughts, which may help you see things differently.

Why is your sister addicted to games?

The host said your sister is addicted to games. There's a big conflict between games and your mother, so the host is worried and doesn't know how to help.

I understand how you feel. Let's explore your sister together.

Let's think about why my sister is addicted to games.

What benefits does playing games bring to your sister? We are only addicted to things that benefit us.

If it didn't benefit us, we wouldn't do it. So, landlord, you can look at what you know about your sister and talk to her to find out what she is thinking and feeling.

Don't criticize, just observe and understand.

If we want to help others, we shouldn't criticize them. No one likes criticism.

However, understanding and being neutral can help people more.

2. Understand my sister from the perspective of the whole family.

We talked about why my sister plays games and what she gets out of it. This will help us understand her better.

I also want to look at your sister's behavior from a psychological point of view with the host and from the family's larger perspective.

If my sister is addicted to games, there must be something going on inside her that makes her do it.

This motivation can be explored from the family system. Many students are addicted to games nowadays, and the reasons vary.

This has to be looked at on a case-by-case basis. There are limits to what can be discussed in this Q&A session, but we can go into more detail on some issues.

Some people play games because they don't want to study. Others are addicted to games because they want love and attention.

Many parents only care about their children's grades after they start school.

His parents noticed him after he became addicted to games. There are also children who play games because they want more autonomy, but their parents are strict with them.

He can't confront his parents, so he expresses his dissatisfaction this way. Start with the family system and basic human needs to understand and get to know your sister.

3. Make up for what is lacking.

We can help our sister by meeting her needs. For example, she may need companionship and understanding. We can spend more time with her, chat with her, and meet her needs. Will she still be addicted?

To solve a problem, we must first understand it. After exploring her needs, we can satisfy them and give her other options. If her psychological needs are met, she will not be so addicted to anything.

4. Learning

The original poster said her younger sister is in the seventh grade. I don't know if you're an adult and have the resources to help her. We say that after exploring the needs, we can better help our sister. But if we don't have enough resources, we can't help her much.

If you can, get professional counseling. If you can't, learn more so you can help your sister.

You can learn how to communicate with adolescents and children. This may help my sister.

Often, "problem children" don't need to change. It's the parents who need to change. Parents may not meet their children's needs, so children find other ways to satisfy themselves.

I hope these comments help and inspire you. Click Find a Coach for one-on-one support and advice.

Give the questioner a hug. You're a great sister and daughter who wants to help your mother and give your younger sister good advice. That's great. I'm sure you must be in a happy family. These days, it's not common to have three children. The pressure on parents to raise three kids can be imagined. And I can clearly feel that you want to share the burden. That's great!

Your mother is a strong person, and her strength may have been shaped by her experiences. When faced with pressure, she may not be as careful or gentle at home, and may deal with problems in a decisive manner, but she may also be a bit rude.

You love your sister very much. In your eyes, she's a great athlete, maybe even a national-level one. That's pretty impressive!

It seems like your mother has invested a lot of time and energy into training your sister. She's more versatile, so it's fair to say she's stronger than you were at her age. When your younger sister becomes addicted to games and your mother deals with it roughly, you're understandably concerned.

Let's think about it together: 1. What are your sister's hobbies? Apart from being an athlete, has she studied ballet or piano? Are those her real hobbies?

Or is it that your mother has enrolled her in learning classes to cultivate her? 2. Your sister likes to play TikTok. One of the main issues with TikTok is that it fragments knowledge through short videos. It's not a good thing for anyone to become addicted to it.

So, when your sister became hooked on TikTok, did you try to convince her to stop? Or what steps did your mother take?

3. Many kids like to play games. How many children's studies have been negatively affected by their addiction to online games? Grades have suffered, and it is often only when grades decline that they realize how harmful this game is.

And your sister not only plays games but also charges money. Given your family's financial situation, it's likely that she has thousands of dollars in her hands.

I've got a few suggestions that I hope you'll find helpful.

1. Take away your sister's financial power. It's always best to treat the symptoms first, then the root cause. Without money to spend on games, the fun of playing games will be halved.

It can be tough to make progress on your own, especially when you're just starting out. 2. Set a time frame for the game and decide how to make sure everyone sticks to it.

For instance, if she's finished her homework but it's not yet time for recess, how long can she play? Or if there's an exam, how many points does she need to get to be able to play for as long as she wants at the weekend?

3. Show your sister you care about her feelings. You might be able to help her see that she's feeling pressure. Most people who are addicted to online games do so because it's a way to escape from reality and relieve stress. You can listen to your sister's true feelings and help her relieve stress and face reality.

You say you don't know how to ask her, but you can try to find out from her teachers and close friends, and then ask her directly. Generally speaking, younger sisters are quite close to their older sisters. I don't know how close you are with your sister, but you love and care for her so much, so I'm guessing she is also very close to you.

Asking the question is often the first step. It makes it much easier for your sisters to confide in each other in the future.

4. What healthy and positive hobbies do you have? Can you get your younger sister involved with you?

You have three children, so you can keep each other company, which is much better than any family with only one child. Since you're the eldest, you can also be a planner and participant in family planning at a certain age. This lets you find topics and games that can increase the cohesion of the family, enhance the sense of intimacy among family members, and even shape the values of your younger siblings.

These suggestions are based on the idea that your mother needs to be involved. So, it's important to communicate more with her. It's not helpful to scold or beat your children, especially when they're going through a rebellious phase. It's better to resolve issues than to avoid them. You can also encourage communication between your mother and your sister. If your mother is unable to do this, you can take on the role of executor with her support.

Your mother will feel better, and you can also help your sister. Of course, the actual situation is much more complicated and difficult.

The suggestions I've put forth are pretty straightforward. I'm just hoping they'll spark some ideas and be helpful.

I hope your family can find a solution as soon as possible and that everyone can be happy.

From the first sentence I read, I thought this might be the epitome of many families nowadays: the father doesn't care, the mother is very strong, the sister and brother get good grades, and it seems like they think they are worthless. It's so sad! They always have their older brother or sister as their role model, and it seems like they can never escape their mother's control, and they will always live in the shadow of their sister or brother.

You can ask your little sister if she's feeling overwhelmed, if she's scared her parents will be disappointed, especially her mom, or if she's scared she's not good enough, or that she'll never be as good as her sister and brother. You could also ask her if she likes to learn piano and ballet, and if she likes to learn to swim!

It's totally understandable that she'd want to escape the pressure for a while. We all need a break sometimes! TikTok and games can be great ways to bring herself some sense of pleasure, some escape, and to make herself feel comfortable and happy. But, if you think about it this way, is it really a reason to have bad grades and do badly in exams?

You could also ask her if she's feeling tired after playing for so long. I'm sure her eyes must be sore and her shoulders must be tired and stiff!

On top of all that, she's in seventh grade, which is a tough time for girls in middle school. My younger sister is under a lot of pressure, and since she was so strictly controlled as a child, she's even more likely to rebel during adolescence.

I think you are an amazing older sister who cares so much about her younger sister and wants to help her so much that she wants her to be as good as she was before. I think you should spend more time talking to your younger sister in a sisterly way.

First, try to understand her. She's working hard and it's not easy for her. She's under a lot of pressure.

It would be really helpful for you to find out what happened before she first started playing TikTok and being outstanding. You can talk to her more to understand. It may be that something is weighing on her, causing her to encounter some difficulties and making her feel that she cannot overcome them, so she starts to find temporary satisfaction in TikTok and being outstanding.

Then have a chat with her about your views and insights on the future. I truly believe that an adolescent child can already start planning their future. You can have a lovely conversation about what you want to do in the future and what you can do for your future self now.

Finally, you can agree with her that in order to achieve her goals, she needs to control the time she spends playing short video games and playing games. If she needs to play short video games and games to relieve stress, then agree on how much time a day is not to be exceeded, and how to remind her when it is exceeded. When she is not playing games, help her find her favorite interests and things to do.

Of course, it's not enough just to deal with my sister's emotions. I also need to communicate more with my mother.

It's so great to see how sensible you are as a daughter, and how strong your mother is throughout the year. When it comes to your younger sister, it's so important for you to communicate more with your mother. She's doing a great job, but it's also important for you to understand how difficult it is for her, the sacrifices she's made for the family, and that her high expectations for her children are because she hopes they can all do well in life. You can also tell your mother that her children have all grown up. Look, your youngest sister is already in seventh grade, and she has also begun to have her own dreams and her own little secrets. We need to respect her ideas and stop pushing her to do things. We can also try to trust her and believe that she can start taking care of herself, right?

I know you're an amazing sister, and I'm sure you'll do a great job! Show your mother and your younger sister more love and attention in your life. You've got this!

Good day, From your correspondence, it is evident that you are concerned about your sister's well-being.

You are concerned about the financial implications of your sister's gaming habit, which has resulted in significant expenditure on game charges. You are motivated to provide assistance to your sister.

You also believe that your mother's approach is inappropriate, but you are unsure of alternative ways to help your sister overcome her online gaming addiction. What factors contribute to your sister's addiction to online games and spending thousands of dollars on in-game items?

Let us examine the reasons behind her addiction to online games. You and your younger brother are regarded as model children with excellent academic records. Your mother is generally satisfied with you.

However, your sister's academic performance is in the middle to lower range, and the pressure is high. In the current educational context in China, parents prioritize their children's academic success.

Your sister is already under a significant amount of pressure due to the comparison between you and your brother. Additionally, your mother is a strong individual who is occasionally emotionally unstable. This often results in a controlling parenting style.

In particular, when the child's behavior does not align with her expectations, she may exhibit heightened control. The child who is controlled may experience mounting pressure and discomfort, leading to an internal need for stress relief.

It is often the case that children who are unable to meet their parents' expectations find it challenging to relieve stress in a manner that aligns with their parents' expectations. In such instances, they may turn to alternative means of stress relief, such as gaming.

It is probable that your sister is also in this situation.

You indicate that your sister is also highly regarded by you, and that she is a national-level swimmer and plays the piano exceptionally well. This demonstrates that your sister has demonstrated remarkable talent in a number of areas.

In your everyday interactions with your sister, do you acknowledge her stress about her studies by pointing out her strengths as a national-level athlete and how she compares to others? By doing so, you can help her recognize her own value and feel seen and heard, rather than blamed.

From my observation, it appears that your sister's need for recognition and acceptance has not been met.

Furthermore, your mother's disciplinary actions, including scolding, slapping, and dropping the iPad, may intensify your sister's feelings of neglect and rejection.

Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory suggests that there are five levels of human needs. The first level is the need to survive, to stay alive. The second level is the need for safety, to be free from danger.

The third level is the need for love and belonging. The fourth level is the need for respect.

The fifth level is the need for self-fulfillment.

In general, most people have their Tier 1 and Tier 2 needs met. The need for love and belonging is often expressed as a need to be recognized and to recognize.

It would appear that your sister has unmet needs in this area at home. You and your brother are different from your sister in terms of studies, and he is unable to interact with you more frequently in this area.

Despite his proficiency in sports, you may dedicate more time to academic pursuits, limiting opportunities for interaction.

In regard to the need for respect, based on your description of your mother's treatment of your sister, it is evident that your mother does not respect her. While your sister's addiction to online games is a cause for concern, the disciplinary approach she employs is causing her discomfort and disrespect.

His needs are not being met, which may result in feelings of worthlessness. The need for self-realization is a key driver in the process of finding one's own value and realizing one's self-worth.

To return to the matter at hand, your sister is addicted to online games. How can you assist her in overcoming this addiction? From a psychological standpoint, it is essential to address her underlying psychological needs.

It is probable that she derives a sense of satisfaction from playing games, which is why she is so addicted to them.

If the subject in question has reached a relatively high level of play in the game, they will be sought after and followed by those with lower levels. Should you choose to frequently top up the subject's game account, they will be able to purchase superior equipment, which will make it easier for them to win battles and level up faster.

Achieving victory and advancing to the next level more quickly in games can fulfill his desire for accomplishment. It can also enhance her sense of worth.

If we also allow him to experience his sense of worth in reality, ensure that he is aware of his respect, love, and acceptance by the entire family. This will eliminate the need for him to seek fulfillment in the virtual world of games.

In general, if we want to solve a problem from a psychological perspective, we will give him more positive affirmation. We must truly respect him as a person and communicate with him on an equal footing.

It is important to ensure that he understands that, despite his academic performance not being as strong as yours or your brother's, he has his own strengths and is valuable in his own right.

Affirmation and a gentle attitude may yield unanticipated results. If you care about your younger sister and wish to assist her, you may wish to consider these approaches.

I hope this information is useful to you. Please remember that you are valued and loved.