Regarding the doubts about the inner parent and the inner child, would someone please explain the process in detail?

Hello, host. The inner child and inner parent are just different ways of understanding the same thing.

We can call them A and B instead of the inner parent and inner child.

He is a kind of classification.

We can classify 2, 4.6.8.10 as even and 3579 as odd.

He's not saying that only these numbers are even or only these numbers are odd. He's saying that they have the same nature, so we can group them together.

The inner child and inner parent are the same thing. They are a collection, not a single thing.

To explore your inner parent and inner child, you have to understand which type of family integration you have.

Then analyze it according to your rules.

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Hello question asker,

The questioner is a person who loves to learn and think. The inner parent and inner child internalize the parent's beliefs and lose the original child's healthy process of organism evaluation. This leads to rigid cognition and personality. The questioner loves to study psychology. Here is a useful reference book: "Helping Skills: A Three-Stage Model of Exploration, Comprehension, and Action."

Personality development theory

Babies evaluate every experience based on their feelings.

Babies cry when they are hungry and smile when they wake up. They trust their feelings, not what others tell them to feel. This is an innate inner guide that everyone is born with. It guides people towards self-realization. When people trust this inner guide, they can freely explore experiences that are beneficial to the organism.

Children also need unconditional positive attention, acceptance, respect, and love. When they feel valued and understood by others, they begin to love and accept themselves.

Parents are not perfect, so they set conditions for their children. Children must meet these conditions to be loved.

The child is confused and checks for inconsistencies between the organismic evaluation process and the value conditions. This is how the inner child is formed. Children often sacrifice their organismic evaluation process to gain their parents' love.

When a child internalizes their parents' value conditions, they become part of their self-concept. The more value conditions there are, the more distorted the true experience of oneself becomes.

The inner child gives up their own feelings to please their parents. This makes them confused and they lose their sense of self. When value conditions take over, the organism's evaluation process also stops working.

You can't recognize your own feelings.

[Reintegration]

To follow your true thoughts, you need to reduce value conditions, nurture yourself, or get positive attention from others. Read Cong Fei's book "Nurturing Your Inner Child" for more on the inner child and self-care.

Nurture the child within you: 1. Go within. 2. Look for expectations.

3. Find the logic and the lack. 4. Find the source.

5. Change the logic to make up for the lack.

The counselor helps the individual overcome their defenses and trust their own judgment. The helping relationship helps the individual break through limitations caused by values.

In a helping relationship, the helper tries to understand the subject and provide acceptance and care.

I'm Zhang Huili, the Sunshine Dolphin. I hope my answer helps. It's New Year's Eve. I wish the child in the questioner can break free from the inner parent and become a strong adult.

Good morning,

The original poster provides a comprehensive and illustrative account of the relationship between the "inner child" and the "inner parent."

Individuals respond to challenges in different ways, with varying outcomes. These can be broadly classified into two categories: maintaining a stable emotional state and experiencing emotional fluctuations.

Consequently, we will endeavor to enhance our emotional awareness, perception, and problem-solving abilities.

Ellis's ABC theory posits that correcting erroneous beliefs and irrational perceptions allows one to identify the interference of emotions and the resulting behavior. The most crucial aspect is the B assessment, which involves evaluating one's own perception and interpretation.

The "inner parent" and "inner child" have an interactive relationship. If the inner parent is healthy, it can provide nourishment for the inner child, direction and guidance, emotional reassurance, and attention. The inner child's emotions will be seen, he will feel relieved and accepted, and conversely, he will feel self-denial and internal pressure.

The "inner child" therefore has a lower level of mentalization and is more sensitive and vulnerable in its expression, while the "inner parent" has a higher level of cognition and can better control itself, such as by setting and achieving goals on a regular basis.

The "inner child" and "inner parent" are metaphors for the part of our self-relationship that we internalized during our growth process. The inner child is typically derived from traumatic memories, while the inner parent represents an idealized parent figure.

For instance, individuals who were raised in environments where loud conversations were the norm may experience feelings of nervousness and perspiration, potentially due to frequent scolding during childhood. Such experiences can evoke past trauma and lead to heightened sensitivity to situations where they feel denied or scolded.

Secondly, when faced with a challenging situation in adulthood and encountering difficulties in persevering, an encouraging internal voice will often emerge, providing motivation and support. This voice often originates from the way one was treated by their parents during childhood and has been internalized as part of their self-identity. When in need of strength, this internal voice offers unconditional support.

In the event of setbacks or difficulties, the inner child will emit a distress signal, indicating that it is in a state of distress. The inner parent will then attempt to identify the signal and determine the best course of action to address the issue. Individuals who possess a healthy inner parent and inner child will exhibit more stable emotions.

Best of luck, and I'm confident you'll succeed!

Hello, I am Fei Yun, a heart exploration coach. 2023 is going to be a happy year.

You have raised an excellent question, and I am pleased to share and discuss this fascinating topic of the "inner parent" and "inner child" with you.

When we face a person, we are dealing with more than just that person. We are dealing with a relationship. The way people interact with each other forms a pattern, and this person also has their own internal relationship patterns.

A person's inner self is reflected in their own self-dealing. The way the "inner parent" gets along with the "inner child" is a direct reflection of the person's inner self.

As you have correctly identified, the question concerns the various modes of interaction between the "inner parent" and the "inner child," their consistency and deviation, and the different feelings they evoke. To facilitate understanding, let's provide an example. Imagine A is criticized by a teacher. Let's examine it in detail:

The first situation is one of projection and identification.

The inner parent is critical and judgmental, and the inner child is being criticized and judged. The projection of the inner parent is identified with the inner child.

A will doubt and deny himself because the inner parent is critical and accusing, and his identity is reflected in real life.

If the "inner child" does not agree with the "inner parent," this will lead to emotions in one or both parties. This is the problem you mentioned: the inner child has his own ideas and does not agree with the projection of the "inner parent" to the "inner child." This causes internal conflicts and contradictions.

Self-knowledge and self-acceptance are essential at this time. They are challenging, but they are also achievable. We must keep learning and growing, and we must perceive our inner exploration through awareness.

The second scenario is this: self-love means that the "inner parent" loves the "inner child."

The inner relationship patterns we establish in childhood are, in fact, the parenting patterns we receive from our parents. It is a simple fact that regular affirmation, praise, and approval from our parents help to boost our sense of worth and build self-confidence.

The "inner parent" and the "inner child" are currently in a stable and compatible state. Conversely, if a child is constantly criticized, blamed, and rejected by their parents, the two outcomes of the first situation will occur.

When we are convinced of our worth, take the initiative in our lives, and regain our self-confidence, we are in the state of the "inner parent" loving the "inner child." At this time, we accept ourselves, identify ourselves, and affirm ourselves.

This is how we achieve self-confidence, self-respect, and self-love.

If the "inner parent" or the "inner child" is too strong or too weak, it's not conducive to self-acceptance. This disharmonious relationship brings a lot of conflicts and causes a wide range of emotions.

Our relationships with others and the outside world are reflections of our relationships with our parents and of ourselves.

I highly recommend "The Power of Self-Growth" and "May You Have a Life Illuminated by Love" for you.

I am confident that the above is helpful to you. I love you, and I love the world too. ?

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