She possesses her own thought process and logic, why does she have such thoughts and feelings?

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The issue with this is that everyone has their own unique way of thinking and their own perceptions of the world.

It is akin to a situation where we are curious and uncertain about the other person's logic. In such a scenario, the other person is also curious and uncertain about our logic. They may also perceive our communication style as unintelligible and feel compelled to adapt their own logic or beliefs. It is natural to have differing opinions and beliefs. However, it is essential to understand the underlying reasons for such differences. If someone consistently believes their ideas are right and mine are wrong, and insists on accepting their suggestions, it can lead to misunderstandings and conflict. In such cases, it is crucial to identify the underlying reasons for the differences in beliefs and opinions. If I do not accept the suggestions, it may be perceived as stubbornness on my part.

It is important to note that this phenomenon is not exclusive to any particular individual or group. While we may not fully comprehend the experiences of others, it is also true that the other party may not fully understand our perspective.

The same can be said of empathy. Those who are empathetic are likely to be curious about why some individuals may lack this quality. When they observe someone who has recently ended a relationship, they may find it challenging to comprehend the emotional state of the person in question.

Individuals who are not particularly empathetic or who do not tend to empathize with others' emotional experiences may be curious about why you are so invested in the emotional well-being of the person who is heartbroken. It is important to recognize that your feelings of empathy are directed towards the person who is experiencing heartbreak, not towards you.

It is possible that some individuals perceive love as a significant aspect of life. Consequently, when they observe a person in their immediate vicinity who has experienced a loss of love, or when they view a film or television drama in which the protagonist has also experienced a loss of love, they may be able to empathize with the other person's situation and understand the emotional distress, sadness, and upset that the individual is likely to experience during this period. As a result, they may also experience these same emotions and be able to provide the individual with appropriate comfort and companionship.

There is also another group of people who are not keen on love. They do not believe that they must choose love in their lifetime. Instead, they prioritize their family, friendship, or career over their own feelings. Consequently, they do not view being heartbroken as a significant issue. Therefore, when they observe someone else experiencing heartbreak, or when the protagonist is heartbroken in a movie or TV show, they do not feel sad. Consequently, they are unlikely to offer consolation.

It is akin to offering consolation to an orphan, as one cannot fully comprehend the experience of having no parents from infancy to adulthood.

Furthermore, when we engage in conflict with our parents and harbor negative sentiments toward them, orphans are similarly unable to provide solace due to their lack of comprehension regarding the reasons behind our animosity toward something they have consistently striven for.

The crux of the matter is that each individual's growth process, including personality and even life experience, is unique.

For example, regarding empathy, it is possible that in the past, he was like us, empathizing with and comforting those around him. However, he once experienced that when offering comfort, he was hurt in return. For the sake of self-protection, he will never care about the people around him from now on. It is better to do his own thing than to risk further hurt.

It is important to note that this state of affairs does not necessarily constitute indifference. This is because we have not experienced such circumstances ourselves, and therefore cannot speak lightly on the matter. We must ensure that the other person reciprocates with gratitude while still maintaining empathy towards others.

There are two potential scenarios regarding an individual's receptivity to external advice.

One individual may adhere to traditional thinking, be averse to change, or be reluctant to acknowledge missteps, which may manifest as indifference or disregard for the advice of others.

In this case, our advice is not necessarily based on the fact that our advice is unreasonable or that he does not think our advice is desirable. Rather, it is because he is unwilling to follow the commands of others and unwilling to admit that his previous ideas were wrong.

In this case, regardless of the nature of the advice provided, it is unlikely to be effective. While the recipient may not openly acknowledge the merits of the advice, they may still make adjustments in a way that aligns with their preferences.

The second possibility is that our advice may not be suitable for the other person.

Our feelings, perceptions, and suggestions are based on our own experiences and may not be applicable to other individuals, families, or social relationships.

As an illustration, the surrounding environment is noisy, and mediation by the property management company has been unable to resolve the issue.

The recommended course of action at this juncture is mediation, with both parties making constant adjustments to accommodate each other's needs.

However, for individuals with substantial financial resources, such as those with 10 million dollars, the recommendation may be to purchase a new residence and relocate.

It is evident that the former will be rendered speechless upon hearing the latter's advice. This advice is not something I can consider at all, as it is not applicable to my circumstances.

In this case, the other party may feel that a reasonable suggestion has already been made, but not accepted. If this is the case, the issue will remain unresolved and the problem will persist.

In regard to whether or not to accept the advice, it may be more a matter of the individual who made the suggestion concluding their remarks. The decision of whether or not to implement, modify, or disregard the advice is at the discretion of the recipient.

For the individual receiving the advice, it is more a matter of considering all aspects and selecting the advice that is most suitable for implementation. In the event that the advice is unsuitable, the individual can also make decisions based on their own situation.

Ultimately, the recipient of the advice is the one who benefits. The advisor is acting out of goodwill and offering a solution based on their best judgment. If the advice is not applicable, not accepted, or unable to solve the problem, it can also be used as a way to identify potential improvements to the approach.

For those who accept advice, regardless of the nature of the advice provided, the initial step is to offer assistance. Even if the advice is not applicable, expressing gratitude for the intent behind it is still important. Rejecting the advice does not negate the need for reasonable and gentle communication.

In the course of socializing with people in general, ordinary friendships or acquaintances will not delve into these topics in great depth. If we discover that our values and the other person's temperament make it difficult to accept advice, we can avoid these subjects in our future interactions.

Through self-awareness, you can recognize that your curiosity about the thoughts of this group of people is not a problem with the social interaction between the two of you. It is possible to think about it appropriately and consider the personalities and habits of different people from different perspectives. There is an opportunity to learn from each other's strengths and compensate for each other's weaknesses in the process of social interaction. As the saying goes, there is always someone to learn from in a group of three.

In instances where the character of another person may not appear favorable, there is an opportunity to learn from this state of mind. It is important to ensure that future social interactions are conducted in a manner that is respectful and professional.

Similarly, when we encounter individuals with positive personalities, we can learn from their exemplary qualities and incorporate them into our own conduct.

I hope that through self-reflection and comprehensive consideration, you can identify a more suitable response to this question, which will facilitate a more seamless social process.

I would like to take this opportunity to express my love for the world and for you.

Dear questioner, I can see why you're confused and curious. We all think and act differently because of where we grew up, what we've been through, and our personalities.

I think we can try to understand her thoughts and psychology from a few different angles when it comes to the person you mentioned.

First of all, everyone has their own views on love and marriage. Just because she's looking for someone who can make concessions and compromises doesn't mean her way of thinking is different. It just shows she values harmony and balance in the relationship more.

Her sense of belonging to a group might be a way of protecting herself, and she tends to blame herself more than others. This stubbornness and strong sense of self might be related to her upbringing and personal character.

It's only natural to feel the urge to argue and resist when we encounter situations that don't align with our beliefs. This doesn't mean she doesn't listen to other people's opinions, but that she has strong beliefs in her own views.

On the other hand, her attitude towards love might also be related to her life experience and personality traits. She may be more focused on personal independence and growth than on emotional dependence and entanglement.

In psychology, this could be related to her cognitive style and emotional expression style. We all have different cognitive styles; some people prefer rational analysis, while others rely more on emotional experience.

On the other hand, the way we express our emotions also affects how we understand and feel the emotions of others. She may prefer to keep her emotions to herself rather than express and share them.

We can try to see her stubbornness and love of arguing in a positive light. Maybe she's just sticking to her own opinions and positions, not intentionally opposing others.

At the same time, we can also try to communicate with her more deeply to understand her thoughts and feelings, so we can build a relationship based on greater understanding and respect.

To help her better understand and manage her thoughts and emotions, I suggest the following: First, she can learn some communication skills and emotional management methods, such as deep breathing and active listening, to better express her views and accept the opinions of others. Second, she can cultivate some empathy and try to understand problems from the perspective of others, which will help her better connect and communicate with others.

Finally, she can also look into getting some professional psychological counseling to gain a deeper understanding of her own thinking logic and emotional expression.

In short, everyone has their own unique way of thinking and psychological characteristics, which is normal. We need to respect and understand each other's differences, while also paying attention to our own inner needs and emotional expression.

I hope this friend can find happiness and satisfaction on her own, and at the same time, build better relationships with others. Best wishes to her and you!

Good day.

It is often the case that people are inclined to conform to the prevailing norms of a particular group or community. When we find ourselves in a situation where our views differ from those of the majority, it is not uncommon for us to choose to align with the majority opinion instead.

This can contribute to our social interactions. It's understandable that popularity and being the subject of negative attention, or mobbing, can be seen as signs of conformity.

It is understandable that some people are firm in their choices and stubborn in their views. The decision to follow the majority or to be a loner is ultimately up to the individual. As long as they feel comfortable with their choice, there is no difference between the two.

The person you have observed may exhibit some of these characteristics, and there are aspects of her that are somewhat unconventional, like a loner. I imagine it's not common to encounter someone like this. Now that you are close to her, you have discovered that although she is firm in her opinions, she has a good sense of self and is reluctant to change.

She is a unique individual, and her approach to life is not easily defined. This has piqued your interest and prompted you to seek a deeper understanding of her logic and psychology.

People form their own ideas, with a combination of genetic and experiential influences. When it comes to views on marriage and love, young girls often desire a partner who loves them, treats them well, dotes on them, and takes care of them. In contrast, she may be seeking someone she really likes, with whom she is willing to make concessions and compromises.

She may not be the most collaborative team member. She seems to lack an inferiority complex or confidence, but is stubbornly convinced that it is other people's problem. It's possible that she doesn't see the need to compromise. She may be reluctant to listen to different opinions and may react strongly if her views are challenged.

It seems that she may lack empathy for those around her. She appears to display a range of characteristics, including stubbornness, independence, narcissism, and sensitivity.

It seems that this person still plays an important role in your life, and you have come here to seek advice. I am also trying to gain a little insight into her here for reference only.

This is a quality she possesses. She will approach her studies, her life, and her future marriage and other matters in her own way. It is important to remember that some people who may initially seem aloof and stubborn may in fact achieve great results by handling the events in their lives in their own way.

It would seem that the world does not have a uniform standard, nor is the process uniform, but that the result may be the same. It is often the case that different paths lead to the same destination.

It could be said that it is precisely because of these different people that our world is more diverse and that we humans are worthy of study. Our world could also be said to be more tolerant and more accepting of people who are different from the majority, such as showing more compassion and helping the disabled.

For example, attitudes towards homosexuals have changed significantly in recent times. It is now more common to view them as equals. I believe that this has led to a greater level of tolerance towards them. Even if there are some views that we do not fully comprehend, it is important to avoid judging or discriminating against them.

We will treat her with the same respect and consideration we afford all individuals, with perhaps a little extra understanding and tolerance. We may also be intrigued by her, and at the very least, her resilience is a quality we can all learn from.

You might find "Personality Psychology" a suitable book. If you're interested, you could read it.

Hello, question asker. I'm Gu Daoxi Fengshou Slender Donkey, your Heart Exploration coach.

I don't know why the questioner was curious about the other person, but this kind of thinking must have made a difference.

Everyone has their own way of understanding the world. We may not like it, but we should respect it. When the questioner is curious about the other person, the other person may also be wondering why so many people like to conform.

The questioner might try to explore:

What's the relationship between you and the other person? Why do you want to understand their thinking and logic?

Do you want to understand the other person? Do you want to persuade them?

Or change the other person? Different purposes lead to different perspectives.

Not following traditional concepts can lead to happiness. Doing what you want can make you feel happier. I have people around me who are celibate, who are DINKs, and who are married with children, but they are all wonderful. If the other person's choice is different, can you accept and respect it?

Try to understand why the other person argues. Is it about right or wrong, or is it simply because they don't like the attitude?

I like to argue, but I argue about the matter, not the person. I insist on what is right. If you argue about the matter, the other person is serious. If it's about attitude, the other person may not listen, so there's no need to force it.

It's not unusual for someone in their 20s to not understand heartache in their 40s, or for someone who's never been in love to not understand sadness after being dumped.

If they're honest and open, they're not hypocritical.

A strong sense of self-awareness means the other person may not care about their status. This can be good or bad. It depends on the situation.

If you use it to cope with setbacks, it can be good. But if you use it to manage relationships, it can make others feel frustrated. You can give advice, but you can't control how others act.

Self-centered people may also be favored by their parents.

Be aware of the pros and cons of this way of thinking. We can learn things from it, like a strong sense of self-awareness and not caring what others think.

If we look at things differently, we can learn from her and gain something.

Read "A Change of Heart."

Best wishes!

I can see why you're confused and curious about this friend. She has a very distinctive way of thinking and behaving, which is shaped by her own unique growth experience, personality traits, and values.

Let's take a look at this from a psychological point of view.

She tends to find someone who is willing to give and compromise. This shows that she's looking for a deep emotional connection and an emotional interaction that touches her heart. She may value active involvement and self-sacrifice in a relationship more, because she believes that this is a sign of true love.

She thinks she isolates everyone, rather than being isolated herself, which shows she's very self-centered and independent. Maybe in her world, relationships with the outside world depend more on her own choices than outside influences. This may be a sign of both confidence and a way of avoiding external judgment, so she doesn't have to admit her own discomfort or conflict.

When she comes across different opinions, she strongly counters, which could be because she has a high degree of self-esteem and sticks to her own beliefs, or because she's had to protect herself by defending her views in the past. At the same time, there's a huge range in empathy skills. She might not understand or empathize with other people's emotions in certain situations, but she can be moved in specific situations (like TV dramas), which shows that her empathy skills aren't completely lacking, but that she just expresses and uses them in a special way.

Her "indifference" to love may not necessarily be a lack of affection. It could be due to her personality, which values personal space and independent living. Or it could be that subconsciously she has some kind of fear of intimacy or unresolved psychological issues, making it difficult for her to get involved in emotional entanglements.

To sum up, this friend's behavior and thinking patterns come from a lot of different psychological motivations, including but not limited to personal experiences, personality traits, emotional management styles, and a unique understanding of interpersonal relationships. To understand her better, it's a good idea to communicate and interact with her in an open and accepting way and encourage her to explore herself. This might help her find a lifestyle and interpersonal interaction model that suits her better.

Good day, questioner. I am honored to answer your questions and hope that my answers will be of assistance to you.

Firstly, his lack of empathy for other people's emotional issues. From my own experience, this may be related to his upbringing. He did not receive much care or love from his original family or the surrounding environment during his upbringing. His emotional needs were consistently ignored. As a result, he has become less caring, or more specifically, he lacks empathy. In other words, he did not learn how to care for people during his growth process, so he does not care for people now.

However, emotional demands that are ignored will become subconscious "shadows" that will resurface from time to time. His fondness for "fighting back" and "quarreling" when he encounters disagreements is, to some extent, also the result of his subconscious "shadow" at work.

His actions are designed to attract attention.

It would be beneficial to consider the following: your own actions, the actions of others, and the actions of the heavens. His words and deeds are his responsibility; it is important to respect them.

What are your thoughts on this matter? It is ultimately up to you to decide how to proceed. As long as he has not caused you any significant harm, it may be advisable to adjust your mindset and ignore him.

I hope this information is helpful to you.