The exam went well, but I chose a junior college teacher education program. What's wrong with my twisted and angry personality?

Dear Question Asker, From your description, it is evident that you are experiencing feelings of helplessness and confusion about your desired course of action, as well as a lack of confidence due to your appearance. I will endeavor to share my insights regarding the relationship between goals and confidence for your reference.

1. Identify your proclivities.

One might posit that interests, passions, and goals cannot be discovered. However, there is one thing that can be discovered: our inclinations.

Indeed, over the past two decades, one's personality has already been shaped by genetic predispositions and upbringing, often without conscious awareness. In interactions with the external world, certain traits have been reinforced, while others have been suppressed.

The objective is to identify these factors.

Some individuals may possess superior communication skills and the ability to interact effectively with others. Others may demonstrate keen observational abilities and an aptitude for discerning the emotional states of others. Some may exhibit a notable lack of emotional responsiveness, rendering them resilient in the face of adversity. These attributes represent tendencies that can be discerned and leveraged to enhance one's sense of efficacy and initiate the process of self-discovery.

2. Initiate with minor actions.

The conventional wisdom is that one can only excel at a task if one enjoys it. However, evidence suggests that the opposite is true: often, it is precisely because one is adept at a task and learns it quickly that one develops an affinity for it.

The simplest logic for developing an interest is to engage in activities that one is proficient at and finds meaningful.

Once consistent and continuous feedback is received, interest will naturally be developed.

Therefore, once an inclination has been identified, it is advisable to create opportunities and scenarios in one's life and studies, and to undertake small tasks that provide a sense of accomplishment. This will serve as a foundation and facilitate more substantial progress.

3. It is imperative to engage in external interactions and avoid remaining in a state of inactivity.

What is the factor that many individuals lack in the process of establishing their position? Interaction with the world.

This can result in a vicious cycle: the more one lacks interaction with the world, the more one perceives the world as "uncertain" and "hard to understand," and the more one becomes fearful of venturing outside one's comfort zone. When confronted with a challenge, one either seeks assistance from others or avoids it, never daring to step outside one's comfort zone.

Consequently, this approach restricts the individual to a narrow field of possibilities, precluding the development of a robust sense of self-efficacy.

It is therefore recommended that individuals attempt to undertake tasks independently, confront challenging issues directly, and address problematic situations.

4. It is imperative to differentiate oneself from the norm and to eschew the pursuit of perfection.

A common misconception is that one must be at an advanced level of proficiency before venturing out to explore and try new things.

This is an example of the "ultimate question" trap. The question, in this case, is whether one must be completely ready before embarking on a task.

It is, however, important to note that preparation is an ongoing process.

In the absence of a departure, there can be no moment of preparedness.

It can be posited that a simple piece of advice is to pursue difference, rather than the optimal outcome.

It is my hope that these thoughts will prove helpful to others.