The mother seems to have a persecution complex, and her moods affect me a lot. What should I do?

Hello!

Your mother has had paranoid delusions and a lack of self-awareness for 10 years, which may indicate a psychiatric problem. Recently, her mental state has deteriorated again. It's totally understandable that you're feeling worried, scared, anxious, and helpless.

In your mother's case, seeking medical treatment is the most urgent and necessary solution. However, over the years, neither you nor your father has been able to convince her. She believes that only abnormal people would do such things, and she does not consider herself to be ill. This is a typical example of a lack of self-awareness. The good news is that you and your father's family can work on being more patient and tolerant with her. You can also do a great job of persuasion and guidance, and try to persuade her to seek medical treatment by using inducements.

If he is willing to accept it, you should definitely try to be flexible! You could take her to see a psychologist first and tell him that even people without mental illness go to see psychologists. His resistance may be less, and then the psychologist can provide him with professional psychological help, empathize with him from a professional perspective, and guide him, persuading him to go to the hospital for examination and diagnosis.

This situation is indeed very difficult for you. But you can get through it! Dad is a relatively carefree person, so a lot of the pressure may be on your side. It is only natural that you experience these negative emotions and feel very depressed. But you can accept your emotions and not be too harsh or guilty towards yourself. This will help you feel more in control!

Second, it's time to let go of those emotions! Release them through reasonable channels, such as activating more social support systems and communicating with dad or other family members.

It's time to let go of that sense of omnipotence! Mom's been dealing with this for years, and it's not going to change overnight. But that's okay! We can't achieve every goal we set for ourselves, but we can still make progress. So, let's communicate more with dad and see what he can do to help.

Stay optimistic! Your mother's condition might not be as bad as you think. She's still able to go to work! Sure, there might be some abnormalities, but it shows that her social functions haven't been completely impaired.

An optimistic attitude is a powerful tool that helps us adjust our emotions and think in new and creative ways.

In short, you can absolutely get through this! It's time to embrace a positive and accepting state of mind, find a healthy way to vent emotions, communicate openly and support each other with your family, seek professional help, and encourage your mother to seek medical treatment as soon as possible, including psychological treatment with the help of medication. You've got this!

I really hope the reply from Red Rain helps! Thanks so much for asking!

Hello!

It's so great to see that the title character is finally able to acknowledge her anger and resentment. It's a really positive step for her to be able to recognize her emotions and show respect for them.

The struggles of two different generations

In your writing, I can't help but feel like I'm watching an old movie from the last century. It's so clear that your mother is fighting against something.

The shockwaves this caused in you were huge! There was so much going on, from the irrational to the embarrassing, the distressing, the desperate, and the draining.

You also need to fight, but because she is your mother, you naturally want to think of her and comfort her as much as possible. As you accompany her and comfort her, you feel helpless and at the same time seem to feel guilty.

It's so understandable that you're fighting against the constraints of motherly love and the injustice your mother feels that she has done you.

It's so hard when we feel like our loved ones don't love us the way we deserve. I'm so sorry you're going through this. You're fighting against the constraints of motherly love and the fact that your mother does not feel the injustice she has done you.

I'm so happy to hear that you're feeling better and starting to come out of your depressed mood!

I'm so happy to hear that you're feeling better and starting to come out of your depressed mood!

Living in university halls of residence and maintaining a distance from your mother has allowed you to develop your mind freely, which is great! Gradually, you have also been able to discover and attract more nutrients that help you grow, which is wonderful!

"Affecting her and her family's future." From a risk management perspective, your point of view is well-founded and meaningful. But the wonderful thing is, there is a treasure that can overcome those depressive emotions. It's called positive thinking!

Our lives may have their ups and downs, but they're also full of exciting adventures! You can build your own sense of security.

The questioner is brimming with love, optimism, and open-mindedness when replying to several respondents.

From my perspective, you are a person who has confidence in yourself!

3. Sing a song and write a poem for yourself, my friend!

You can really see and feel that the person who asked the question may have gone through more than many people of the same age.

You've taken on the amazing responsibility of raising two generations!

You're not spoiled and you don't rely on others too much, which is really great.

Every bit of independence you gain will need a little support from relationships. The title character uses your proud and beautiful heart to make friends, learn professional knowledge, and set your own future free.

So I just went for it and named the third title on the spot!

One day, you'll show your family with your actions that when people and society build a relationship of mutual trust, it will really bring out the best in you and in so many other lives, too.

Just a friendly heads-up! You can watch the recommended movie, "Deng Jiaxian," on Tencent Video.

Hello, question asker!

I wish I could give you a simple solution for getting along with your mother, but I'm afraid it's a bit more complicated than that. Even so, I'd love to chat with you about it and help you see more possibilities when you feel angry or resentful.

It takes about ten years for the blood to cool down after drinking ice water.

It's clear from reading this that your situation is pretty tough. Your mom's been struggling with paranoid delusions for a long time, and it's been hard for her to behave in ways that make it tough for you and your family to understand her. It's been a rough road for you, especially during those years in school when you were feeling down and out. It would be so great if your mom could be more like an ordinary person and give you more care and companionship during your adolescence. Unfortunately, it seems like things haven't gotten better, and they've actually gotten worse.

It's also worth noting that despite your mother's struggles, she's been able to hold down a job and take on certain family responsibilities for ten years. Your father has been incredibly supportive and hopeful about her future. You, on the other hand, have always been a star student, getting into high school and then university. In psychology, there's a school of thought that views the family as a system and a whole, where everyone plays a certain role to keep the system functioning.

From this perspective, your family is doing pretty well, all things considered. Sure, there are some challenges brought on by your mom's mental health, but you've got a lot of resilience and you're still managing to get along pretty well.

[Try thinking differently]

In systemic family therapy, there is a special problem-solving approach that focuses not on what is logical, but on what is effective. For example, in your family, both you and your father have "repeatedly urged her to seek medical treatment," but your mother doesn't want to go. You might feel like this is not the most effective approach to the current situation.

In addition, you have also "seriously tried to enlighten" her, but your mother "has never listened," so you can also consider this an ineffective approach. Perhaps if you calm down, you can also list many ways that have not improved so far, and then please give up those approaches that do not work, no matter how correct and logical they seem. Think about whether there are other ways you have not tried.

[Show her love and support from the position of a mother]

Your mother's situation is not an isolated case. In the book Short-Term Psychotherapy for Difficult Cases, several similar cases are mentioned, and a relatively "bold" but proven effective approach is proposed. If you've already tried challenging the other person's beliefs and telling them that "your ideas are wrong and unrealistic," then what you need to do now is to tell the other person with words and actions that "your ideas are defensible."

It can be really tough when someone is in a state of delusion. It's natural to want to challenge their beliefs, but this can actually make things worse. It's not easy to do, and I know it might sound a bit unbelievable. If you're ready to try this approach, I'm here to support you. But remember, you might need the help of a more professional counselor. This is just another reference for you.

I really hope that the person asking the question will be able to devote more energy to their studies and life in general. I also hope they have a wonderful university experience!

My dear,

You should be proud of yourself for always facing the situation with your family members in a positive way and actively finding ways to participate.

The high competitive pressures of modern society and the complexity of interpersonal relationships mean that more and more people are suffering from various psychological distortions. Your mother has been suffering for ten years, and your family is no exception. Currently, your father is taking a philosophical approach to the situation and, out of respect for your mother, has not sought medical treatment. As a result, your mother's condition has not improved, and you have also been affected. Therefore, the top priority is to find the root of the problem and treat it accordingly.

It's not a good idea to avoid the truth. Both physical and psychological conditions deserve enough attention. First, you need to figure out what's going on with your mother right now, instead of letting things continue to develop.

When it comes to physical illnesses, our bodies can usually fight them off with antibodies. For psychological illnesses, we often need to rely on more than just our bodies to heal. We already have a good understanding of physical discomfort, but we often lack self-awareness and attention when it comes to psychological conditions. This can lead to self-destruction.

Third, creating a family atmosphere. When it comes to mental illness, it's not about letting things take their course, as some might believe. It's about scientific guidance and catharsis, or even professional scene reproduction or recall to clarify the source and get to the bottom of the problem. These cannot be achieved simply by letting things take their course. What's more, if things are let take their course without appropriate intervention, it's easy to exacerbate the patient's cognitive illusions, triggering unpredictable consequences.

Love your family, but take responsibility for them. Don't be indulgent and permissive.

Once again, it's about self-isolation and protection. Just because mental illness isn't contagious doesn't mean we can't be affected by the way we interact with each other on a daily basis.

We're not all born with the ability to be insulators. Even for kids, how their family members act can have a big impact on what they value. That's why we're so focused on our backgrounds when we're looking for partners or friends. Our original family is like the soil, giving us the most essential nutrients and growth factors. So, it makes sense that your mother has been like this for ten years and you've been affected. There are probably two ways to reduce this influence: one is to strengthen your own awareness to resist and weaken your mother's negative influence, and the other is to consciously isolate yourself from your mother's negative perceptions and influences.

This isn't a lack of love for your mother. It's more like a mask you wear when your mother has a cold.

Hello!

I'm a mindfulness coach, and I believe learning is the body's greatest treasure.

From what you've told me, I can see you're going through a lot.

I'm not going to get into how your emotions are affected by your mother's, but I do have three pieces of advice for you:

First, I suggest you try to understand and accept your current situation.

It'll make your heart feel a bit lighter, which will help you think about what to do next.

You said your mother has been having persecution fantasies for 10 years but wouldn't get help. Now you're worried about her mental state and how it might affect her and the family. You're also angry and resentful towards her. It's understandable, as we all hope our mothers will provide a happy family atmosphere. However, your mother has been in a poor mental state for nearly 10 years. You need to try to understand and accept yourself. This will give you mental energy to think about other things, otherwise your mind will be filled with negative emotions.

It's also important to understand that if you can accept yourself, you'll be better able to make changes in the situation. I know it sounds a bit strange, but it's true. When you accept yourself, you're allowing for change.

Secondly, I suggest you take a step back and look at things rationally from your own perspective.

Rational thinking can help you understand yourself and reality better.

To take a rational approach, you need to do two things:

One thing to keep in mind is that your mother's mental state isn't great. That's her business, and you can only be responsible for your own emotions.

I'm not saying you should ignore your mother and cut her out of your life. I just want you to understand that there are some things about her that you cannot replace, and that she needs to deal with and change on her own. At this time, you need to try to "separate the issues."

Second, remember that you can change the current situation because you have the power to make a change.

If you take the initiative, your mindset will naturally shift. Since you and your mother are still interacting, if you change, she may also change, which could improve your state of mind.

I'd say you should focus on yourself for a while and think about what you can do to feel better.

When you take a step back and think about the situation rationally, you may also know what to do. At this point, it's time to focus on yourself and do your best.

For instance, you could have a good chat with your father. He's always been patient with your mother, but he might not realise that her mental state is getting worse. So you could have a proper conversation with him and help him understand your mother's situation. He'll probably work with you to get her to go to the doctor, which might make you feel better.

If you can't take your mother to the hospital, you can go to a professional and authoritative hospital and ask what family members should do in a situation where your mother refuses to seek medical treatment. I think doctors at the hospital have probably encountered this situation before, so they may also be able to give you some advice, which will also make you feel better.

It's also a good idea to try not to let your mother's emotions affect you. It can be tough, but if you can do it, it'll really help. And remember, you can only take care of your mother if you take care of yourself first.

You can also talk about all kinds of negative emotions, including anger and resentment, with your family and friends. This can help you feel better because when you express your negative emotions, they start to heal. Plus, your friends and family can support you and make you feel better.

You can also try the empty chair method or diary therapy when you're angry or resentful towards your mother and say everything you want to say. This kind of "expression" can also help you feel better. In short, you need to know that you can do something to improve the situation.

When you start taking action, all those negative emotions will start to dissipate. Sometimes, taking action is the best way to deal with negative emotions.

I hope my answer helps. If you want to talk more, just click on "Find a coach for an interpretation – online conversation" at the bottom, and I'll chat with you one-on-one.

Your mother has been paranoid and persecuted for ten years. You've had to deal with this while your father has been easygoing and tolerant. This has put double the pressure on you.

You want to help your mother and yourself.

You may feel helpless. I hope this sharing helps you.

1. Try to get her to see a doctor or a psychiatrist.

People with delusions of persecution have lost some of their self-awareness. This means that your mother's refusal to seek medical treatment is not just due to her strong personality. It is also due to her inability to understand the situation she is facing. As relatives, you want to support your mother. However, you are not professionals in the fields of psychiatry and psychology. You also have your own worries and concerns in your daily lives. You may not have the corresponding professional coping strategies when dealing with your mother.

If she refuses to seek medical treatment because she thinks only "abnormal" people would do such things, try to get her to agree to a hospital examination.

If you can't convince your mother, you can try an online clinic. You can also ask a psychiatrist or other experts about your mother's situation. They can tell you how to help her get medical treatment and how to help her stabilize her condition.

Second, don't let your mother's situation affect you.

Your mother's situation affects you, especially when you're young. Your depression didn't improve until you went to college.

You care about your mother but are also involved. Feeling helpless may make you angry and resentful.

If you want to adjust your anger or resentment, try mentally distancing yourself from your mother. She has her own life and issues.

As children, we can't replace our mothers, but we can support and strengthen them.

I hope this helps.

I'm a psychologist who cares about the human heart. I wish you well.

Hello, I am Qu Huidong, a psychological counselor who employs imagery as a communication tool.

From what you have shared, it seems that there is a great deal of narrative about your mother's problematic behavior.

I don't want to presume to judge whether my mother's problem is "persecution mania."

If I may, I would like to elaborate on the impact your emotions have been subjected to.

You mentioned that you experienced family-7255.html" target="_blank">depression and repression during your time in junior high and high school. After leaving that environment, you went on to college.

And her own situation gradually improved. After returning from vacation, she once again faced the problem. In addition to wanting to improve her situation,

It would be beneficial to recognize that her own heart is filled with anger and resentment.

From what you have shared, it seems that your mother's situation during your teenage years may have contributed to your current feelings of anger.

It might be helpful to remember that you are growing up, and that depression is often caused by internal factors. It seems that your mother's situation was a trigger for your depression back then.

I want to reassure you that this is not your fault. Now that you can feel anger, it is a sign that you are developing your own identity apart from your mother.

If it is an option for you, you might like to consider taking a closer look at your anger and resentment.

It might be helpful to consider whether these worries about her future are entirely realistic.

As long as there is room for doubt, we can consider the possibility that things might not turn out as we expect.

In addition, you mentioned that your father is very Buddhist and has always been able to tolerate your mother's behavior.

I wonder how Dad managed to do it. Did he simply ignore her, or did he take some other approach?

I wonder if Dad might not argue with Mum about whether her ideas are right or wrong?

It might be helpful to avoid arguing about right and wrong.

Mothers often have a strong sense of insecurity. When we can listen to her stories carefully,

It would be beneficial for her to feel accepted by her family, as this can help to stabilise her emotions.

You may feel that you listened to her comments, but that they made you feel a little disgusted and upset.

Perhaps now is a good time to refocus our attention on her as a person, beyond just what she is saying.

Perhaps you could tell her that you can sense her fear, worry, and panic.

It would be beneficial to offer her comfort on an emotional level, regardless of what she says.

For a long time, she has been surrounded by negative and pessimistic thoughts, and it seems as though her emotions have been suppressed.

With the new school year just around the corner, you are aware that your mood may benefit from a change of scenery.

Perhaps the best place to start would be to accept your mother's emotions. Once she has been listened to seriously,

Perhaps she might also be open to the idea of seeking medical treatment.

As a family, let's come together to address this together.

Questioner: From your description, it seems that you are aware that your mother's behavior may be somewhat unusual. It's also clear that you have been affected by it.

Perhaps it would be helpful to try to understand how things have developed, how long the delusions have been going on, and what may have triggered them in the first place.

It seems that paranoia is often a result of a previous experience of persecution. The victim may be timid and weak, sensitive and vulnerable, and may have long suppressed themselves, constantly in a state of defense.

From your description, it seems that the mother's work environment may be experiencing some challenges in terms of interpersonal relationships, and that her behaviors may be influenced by long-term tension, depression, and speculation. Fortunately, you have a Buddhist father who is tolerant and generous.

Perhaps it would be helpful to learn from your father and be more tolerant of your mother, offering her care and support from a distance.

It is likely that you will be greatly affected emotionally. Since most of us often do not have a protective layer, we are easily affected by the emotions of others.

It would be particularly beneficial to consider the influence of those closest to us. At this time, it would be helpful to focus on taking care of yourself and your own wellbeing. It might be useful to analyse the situation objectively and observe from an independent and mature perspective the causes of the mother's problems and what we can do to help her in a way she can accept.

And when we are unable to do so ourselves, how might we seek help from others in the most effective way?

I hope you will take care of yourself and find ways to help your mother effectively. It would also be helpful for you to resolve your emotional troubles.

If I may suggest, try to see the events in your life as gifts from God.

First of all, give the original poster a hug. You have been troubled by your mother's delusional state of being persecuted, and you were even depressed about it in junior high and high school. Well done to the original poster for getting over depression!

As a child, your mother's worsening condition and your father's detached attitude have caused you emotional distress. Generally, children at this age are still enjoying the love and support from their parents, but you have had to take on responsibilities that you shouldn't have had to. This has filled you with anger and resentment. But if you look at it from another perspective, it is precisely because of these circumstances that you have had to take on a lot, and objectively speaking, it has also made you very capable and mature at an early age.

I just wanted to say that you're a great guy. You're well-educated, knowledgeable, and responsible. You're trying to help your mother, and you're also very aware of your emotions. It takes a lot of courage to express your anger.

Based on what you've told me, I'd like to offer some advice.

1. You need to work with your father to find a way to take your mother to the psychiatric department of a hospital for treatment. You can persuade her or be less than truthful with her. From the symptoms you describe, it is likely that she has a mental illness and needs to take medication.

The disease won't get better just because you've retired. If you don't seek medical treatment, it'll only get worse.

2. Accept your mother's current situation. The way she's presenting may be related to the trauma she's experienced, or it may be related to genetics. Persistent medication can control and improve the situation, so there's no need to worry too much. It usually doesn't affect normal daily functioning.

3. Ask your father to approach mental illness with a scientific mindset. He's spent more time with your mother than you have, so encourage him to take better care of her, get her to take her medication regularly, and try to reduce mental stimuli to minimize the chance of relapse.

The idea of adjusting your emotions is about accepting your feelings, seeing, understanding, and expressing them, releasing them, and letting your emotions flow naturally. There's no good or bad in emotions, and everyone has them.

The poet Mu Xin once said, "Our bodies are conduits, not containers."

Instead of stuffing our emotions and acting as a container for them, we should act as a conduit, allowing emotions to flow naturally through the body. All we have to do is accept them, see them, understand them, and release them. This is the best way to adjust.

For instance, when we feel angry, we can express our anger in a gentle way, making sure we don't hurt anyone around us.

We can also look at a particular emotion by writing about it. This helps us understand our emotions better. There are four steps to this:

1. When do you tend to get angry?

2. What are you feeling and thinking?

3. What psychological needs might be driving the emotion?

4. How to improve and maintain a good emotional state.

I hope the original poster can find a good way to deal with it, and I think you can too!

Good day, question asker.

I am Warm-hearted Girl 1219, and I am honored to answer your question on Yi Xinli.

From your description, I can discern your urgent concern for your mother's well-being and the conflicting emotions you experience as a result of her illness.

Your mother's perception is that she is being targeted. My recommendation is to take her to the hospital for psychiatric evaluation and treatment.

It is imperative that you take your mother to the hospital immediately. Only a medical professional can treat her symptoms, and failing to do so will only result in her condition worsening.

If you do not send her to the hospital, the consequences are unclear.

It would be beneficial to ascertain whether you and your father are aware of the underlying cause of your mother's persecution complex. Identifying the root cause is crucial for effectively addressing this complex.

In addition to taking your mother to the hospital, the questioner can also take the following steps to help your mother regulate her mood:

1. Demonstrate concern for your mother's well-being.

It is unfortunate that your mother has this disease.

She could have had a better life, but illness has prevented her from reaching her full potential. It is imperative that you and your father demonstrate greater care and consideration for your mother, and avoid any actions that might alienate or avoid her.

If you and your father continue to avoid and alienate her, it will have a detrimental impact on her future.

2. Spend time with your mother and assist her in maintaining a positive outlook on a daily basis.

When your mother is unwell, refrain from blaming her, as she does not wish to be in this condition. The initial step you can take to provide support is to accompany her to the hospital, where the doctor will offer guidance on how to care for her.

The following guidelines are provided to assist in the effective use of time spent with your mother:

(1) Allow her to listen to light music.

Listening to light music can help to calm her restless mind and prevent her from daydreaming.

(2) Take your mother out for a walk.

Viewing the beautiful blue sky and white clouds, green mountains, and clear water will positively impact her mood and reduce her suspicion.

(3) Assist your mother in engaging in activities that she enjoys.

If your mother has hobbies such as painting, writing, singing, dancing, etc., assist her in enrolling in a class to ensure she has a daily activity.

With spiritual sustenance, the mother will gradually shift her focus from suspecting others of harming her to her hobbies, which will improve her mood.

3. Show empathy for your mother and grasp the challenges she is facing.

It is important to recognize that illness is an unfortunate and painful experience. By gaining a deeper understanding of the challenges my mother has faced, I am better equipped to provide her with the care and support she deserves. I will not allow my emotions to cloud my judgment or affect my ability to provide her with the care she needs.

I extend my best wishes for a speedy recovery and a good mood every day to your mother.

I'm sorry you're depressed and thank you for trusting us. I hope my reply helps.

Adler said, "All problems come from relationships."

You are angry and resentful towards your mother because of her mental state. You are also worried about her mental state getting worse.

Your mother's mental state has affected you and caused distress. Whoever is suffering will change. Are you willing to make changes?

You need to make changes and address the topic of love in your relationship. People can experience love when they feel free with their partner.

Love is not a restraint. It includes equality and respect. I hope you can feel love in your relationship. This may be difficult, but being aware of it can lead to change.

Improve your self-identity. Repressed emotions come from self-disapproval.

First, accept the bad things that happen to you.

Accept what's happened to you.

Ask creative questions to find the real you.

We try to make up for a known problem by using external standards. Ask yourself whether you like yourself at home or at school.

Do you prefer to be alone or with a lot of people? Get to know yourself, and then work hard to become that kind of person.

*Finally, take care of yourself.

The process of moving from self-doubt to self-acceptance is slow and requires patience. When you are used to self-criticism, you lose your temper, don't know how to say no, and try to break away from your habits.

I hope love heals my wounds from my mother. Come on!

Hello, question asker. I'm Evan.

From what the questioner says, it seems like she thinks her mother is delusional and thinks she's being persecuted. What caused this illness? Nobody really knows what causes it. It might be genetic, physical, or psychological.

If you find that a family member has such a disease, you should seek medical treatment immediately. It's important not to ignore it, as the disease can persist and even worsen if left untreated!

The mother's actions towards the questioner because of her illness made the questioner feel uncomfortable, and even caused anger and resentment! The first thing the questioner needs to understand is that her mother is acting this way because she is ill, and she is mentally ill as people say!

But what the mother did did cause depression and harm to the questioner. I want to give the questioner a hug and a little strength, and I hope the questioner can understand her mother and let go of the harm she has caused.

Since you asked the question on this platform, I thought I'd offer you a bit of advice.

It's important to understand that the mother is sick.

Why does the questioner's mother treat her this way? Is this what she's trying to do?

It's because she's sick and mentally ill that this situation has arisen. So, the mother's way of communicating with others or treating the questioner is pathological. If a normal person doesn't understand, will it be easy for them to develop resentment?

If the questioner can understand her mother and realize she's mentally ill, it might help her feel better and let go of her emotions.

Why is it important to understand your mother? It'll help you to calm down, deal with her more calmly, and stay composed.

From a legal standpoint, a mentally ill person who commits a crime can still be forgiven. Can the questioner forgive a mentally ill mother for the harm she has done to you?

Avoid confrontation with your mother.

If your mother's behavior is inappropriate, don't confront her. If she makes you uncomfortable, you can express your feelings to her, as long as it doesn't affect communication.

If you confront your mother, it'll just make things worse and might even harm her condition and the situation.

It's best not to argue with your mother. When you're feeling intense emotions that are hurtful to you and your mother, it's best not to fight back. Just turn around and leave. You can try leaving her when the argument gets intense and go to a friend or relative's house to stay temporarily.

Ask your father to work with you to understand your mother's illness.

The questioner still lives with his mother and is unlikely to be able to escape her influence immediately. If he wants to help his mother, he can ask his father to work with him to understand her condition.

To deal with his mother's behavior, the questioner needs to understand his mother's condition with his father and work out a response with his father. If possible, the questioner should also try to persuade his father to support his mother in undergoing hospital examinations and treatments.

It's important to accept the situation as it is.

It's important to understand that it's challenging for the questioner to change his mother's behavior and thinking when she's ill. This is something he needs to accept. Even though his mother isn't seeking medical treatment, he can still influence the way he interacts with her.

It's important to understand that your mother won't change overnight. Treating illnesses takes time, and there may be setbacks along the way. In addition to actively taking treatment measures, from a traditional Chinese medicine perspective, the problem is caused by disharmony between the liver and the spleen and internal fire caused by phlegm and heat. I suggest you try food therapy to calm the mind and nourish the heart for your mother. This could include Tianma bighead carp soup, yuzhu and black seed soup, and so on. You can search Baidu for the specific amounts.

Take charge and empower yourself.

Why does the mother's behavior affect the questioner so much? Is it because the questioner lacks the strength to cope?

If the questioner is strong enough, nothing can hurt them. Does the mother's delusional behavior mean that she can't hurt the questioner?

When you're dealing with your mother's behavior, try to spend as little time with her as possible. Set boundaries for yourself and her, and if you need help, reach out to trusted friends. If your mother hurts you with her words, just tell her how you feel.

It's time to get moving!

When you're dealing with a difficult mother-in-law, it's only natural to feel negative emotions. One effective way to combat these feelings is to get active.

If you're looking to shift your mood and boost your mood, get active! Go outside, soak up some fresh air and sunshine, and get your body moving. Exercise gets your blood pumping and gives your brain a boost of oxygen, which helps relieve stress. When you exercise, your brain releases a happy chemical, and you'll feel the effects after you work out, encouraging you to use exercise to beat negative emotions.

It's a good idea to look for professional psychological support.

If you're struggling to accept your mother's behavior and don't know how to communicate with her, you might want to consider seeking professional psychological support. I'd suggest looking for a good psychological counselor or listener on a psychological platform and sharing your concerns with them. I'm confident they'll have the communication skills to help you communicate more effectively with your parents.

If there's a school counselor, the questioner can also go and talk to the teacher.

Be okay with who you are.

Do more of the things you enjoy and find your life's purpose in what you like. Accept your own state. When you're feeling down, you can do something to please yourself.

Treat yourself to something sweet and enjoy the sweetness that will make your body and mind happy. It's important to make yourself happy without harming others.

Don't let negative emotions take over your life.

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Hello, I'm Fei Yun, a heart exploration coach. I understand how you feel. Your mother has had persecutory delusions for 10 years, and your father has been very tolerant and caring.

You grew up in a family that made you feel oppressed and angry. You are worried that this will continue. You want to help your family.

Let's hug and work together.

1. Mom's situation

Let the professionals handle it. As you said, your mother has had long-term delusions and her behavior has become extreme, which has caused trouble in your lives.

Growing up in such a family environment is not only depressing, but also leads to negative emotions.

If needs aren't met, emotions will come up. It's important to be aware of your emotions so you can deal with them.

These symptoms affect the mother's work, life, and family. They are caused by things the mother experienced as a child, such as a lack of maternal love and good relationships.

Not trusting others causes paranoia. The best way to deal with this is to get psychological treatment.

Your mother's strong personality might make her refuse treatment. Family members should show more care and patience. Her behaviors show signs of a disorder. It's important to understand, be tolerant, and help her as a patient.

For example, encourage the mother to make friends, communicate with family, join sports activities, or go on sightseeing trips.

Cultivate a variety of interests, maintain mental relaxation, and keep an open mind. Family members can help.

2. Look at your emotions.

You don't hate your mom, but you hate what happened to your family.

So when you feel that anger again, you feel powerless. Repressed emotions are anger, hurt, and helplessness.

Feel the powerlessness. Emotions have energy. Anger is a gift. It teaches us lessons and gives us energy.

This gift may be love, compassion, self-confidence, or courage. Find it and embrace it, and you will grow.

Allow yourself to feel angry. When we see our anger, it won't hurt us.

Anger is a sign that there is a wound that needs to be healed. If the wound is big enough, and you can't attack, it can turn into hate. There are two kinds of hate: hating others and hating yourself.

Use Gestalt therapy to release hatred. Stand in front of your enemy and express your anger.

It's important to release emotions because they're stored in the body. When a person releases their emotions, they can shake off their obsession.

It's easy to become paranoid and trapped in hatred. Our hearts become narrow.

When you can see things from different perspectives, you can become wise.

Use your relationship with your mother to practice mindfulness, love, and self-connection through meditation.

"Dialogue with God" says love and fear are the basis of human behavior and the meaning of life.

I hope to give you a new perspective, more choices, and to show you love.

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