Unable to control your temper and suspecting that you have serious psychological problems?

Hello, dear. I can feel the anger and helplessness burning within you, and I know it's connected to your sleep. It makes you act and speak according to your emotions!

You have a clear understanding of your own behavior, which is great. Anger may temporarily take over when you erupt, but you can handle it!

I advise you to:

1. Identify the root cause of your anger. Is it physical? Is it due to sensitivity? Is it due to dissatisfaction with the present and anxiety about the uncertainty of the future? Once you have identified the root cause, adjust your attitude accordingly. This will help you feel less lost, more oriented, and achieve better results.

2. Control your emotions. When you encounter something that makes you angry, take a deep breath and slowly count to 1, 2, 3, 4, 5. Then ask yourself if losing your temper really solves the problem. Take a deep breath slowly, think about your strengths and the people or things you have always cared about, and let yourself calm down slowly.

3. Vent your anger and emotions reasonably. Participate in outdoor group sports more often, on a regular basis if possible. Develop a lifelong sports awareness. Promote physical and mental health. Protect your work and life.

You should also find a relevant psychological counselor to help you sort things out and understand yourself better.

You want to get better and better, and you will. Think clearly and start doing it slowly. Gain control of yourself gradually, and you will gradually get closer to luck. Then you will get better and better! You can do this!

Hello, I'm reaching out with a question for the person who posted this.

I have a tendency to lose my temper and suspect I might be violent. I love cats. We all know you shouldn't hurt kittens. There are other ways to regulate your emotions, such as keeping a diary, observing your emotions, or when you are alone, talking to yourself, expressing your dissatisfaction. You can also hit a pillow, hit a rag doll, or take whatever you like to relieve stress without affecting others.

Severe insomnia—that is, being unable to fall asleep in a short period of time, or in severe cases, up to three hours of waking up lying awake. Insomnia can also affect a person's mood. When a person sleeps well, they wake up full of energy and refreshed. During the day, they can participate in some physical activities, such as running, hiking, swimming, playing ball games, skiing, and badminton, to restore their physical condition. Don't let yourself fall into a mood. Exercise not only changes our mood, but also exercises our body, which is killing two birds with one stone.

I don't know how to describe this. It's just a random sentence someone said, but it made me think a lot. The French writer Romain Rolland once said, "The most terrible enemy is not having strong beliefs. We must be determined, not dwell on pointless thoughts about difficult problems, and move forward. There will always be gains from our efforts, and these gains can be of all kinds."

Good day, question asker.

If it were possible, I would like to offer you a gesture of comfort from a distance to help ease your restlessness and self-blame.

First and foremost, you are undoubtedly a person who is very aware of their inner strength and clearly understands their current situation.

I believe it would be beneficial to seek treatment for this situation.

From your post, it seems that you are currently experiencing anxiety and emotional distress. You seem to be aware of

It seems that you feel somewhat helpless and unable to change the situation, even though you are experiencing some difficulties in controlling your emotions and actions. Is that an accurate observation?

I'm not sure how long this situation has been going on for you or what led to it.

If I might suggest, let's first focus on identifying the specific symptoms you're hoping to address.

If I might inquire further, could you please elaborate on the nature of the anxiety you're experiencing?

It's important to remember that there are many factors that can contribute to feelings of anxiety. If we were to roughly divide these factors, we could consider them to be either internal or external.

It might be helpful to consider some of the so-called internal factors that could be at play here, such as an overly sensitive personality trait, a perfectionist complex, and a pessimistic perception of the worst.

It is possible that a number of factors, including cognition, may potentially contribute to the onset of anxiety in an individual.

It is also worth noting that external factors can include life events such as heavy debt, emotional setbacks, work and life stress, and so on.

It is worth noting that traumatic events, etc.

It might also be helpful to note that anxiety can sometimes cause insomnia, and similarly, insomnia can sometimes make anxiety worse.

If a person is aware of their anxiety but unable to change the situation, it is possible that they may become even more anxious about their anxiety.

It might be helpful to consider some somatic reactions.

In addition to insomnia, it seems that you may be experiencing some emotional distress. It's possible that you've been holding in a lot of negative energy, which might be contributing to the problem.

It seems that some pent-up anger was directed at your beloved cat, which unfortunately became an innocent punching bag.

In addition, it is possible that a single remark from another person could ignite your inner anger. This kind of emotional reaction to provocation may also have contributed to an imbalance in your inner world.

I believe this is where the so-called emotional imbalance may lie.

How might one go about breaking the pattern?

It would be helpful to determine whether your anxiety is caused by biological factors, such as an increase in the level of certain hormones in the body.

It is possible that changes in neurotransmitters, etc., may be the cause of the anxiety. If this is the case, it might be helpful to consider using medication first. Therefore

If I might suggest, it would still be beneficial to visit the psychiatric department of the hospital for a brain CT.

Secondly, if for various reasons medication is not an option, it may be helpful to consider physiological decompression as a way to regulate your emotions.

If you find yourself losing control of your emotions, you might consider rinsing your face with cool water to help calm your senses.

If I might make one more suggestion, when emotions get out of control, it can be helpful to change places, go into another room, or step out onto a balcony.

It may be helpful to take three to five deep breaths in a row. You can learn more about this technique, also known as abdominal breathing, by following a script that can be found online.

It may also be helpful to consider that this can have a similar effect to medication.

If you're struggling to control your emotions, you might find it helpful to engage with an alternative object. You could try beating up a stuffed animal or old clothes that you don't use anymore.

It might be helpful to consider that every time you abuse your pet, the deep feelings of remorse and guilt also activate your anxiety, which can make you feel restless.

If I might make one more suggestion, it would be to try to calm your restlessness.

If I might suggest, it might be helpful to try to return from the out-of-control emotions to the present moment with the help of positive self-suggestions and reminders. You could tell yourself, "Calm down!"

Take a moment to calm down. I am here with you. I am aware of my anger, and I am trying to stay detached.

It may be helpful to come out or detach yourself from the situation.

You might also consider training yourself in mindfulness of emotions.

It might be helpful to focus on the emotional experience when negative emotions arise.

Perhaps the first step would be to make room.

You might find it helpful to calm down and relax by focusing your attention on the inside of your body, perhaps on your chest, abdomen, or shoulders.

Could I ask you to consider the feeling there? Perhaps you might like to ask yourself silently: What is going on in my life?

Could I take a moment to consider what is most important to me at this time?

If I may suggest, perhaps you could try feeling the part of your body where you are feeling it, and slowly find an answer in the feeling. When thoughts or ideas come to mind,

Instead of analyzing, perhaps it would be helpful to take a step back and acknowledge the feeling. Then, you could ask yourself what else you can feel. By continuing to wait and continue to feel, you may find that other thoughts come to mind.

2. Experience

2. Experience

If I may make a suggestion, perhaps you could try focusing on the following question:

You may choose to focus on a personal question that arises from the next thought. Alternatively, you can simply take a step back and allow the thoughts to come and go without analyzing them.

It is possible that you may have a number of considerations about that thought, so many that it may be challenging to think about each one individually.

It may be helpful to continue feeling the sensations and noticing where they are located in your body. This can help you gain a more holistic understanding of the issue at hand.

If I may suggest, perhaps the best way to begin is to first experience the vague feeling.

3. Try to understand it better.

Could you perhaps describe the characteristics of that vague feeling this week? Do you think it might be possible to find a phrase or adjective to describe him?

It might also be helpful to consider an image to accompany the feeling, such as a taut, tricky, or heavy sensation. Paying attention to the qualities of the experience could also be beneficial.

It may take some time to achieve this, but it is worth persevering until the characteristic matches the adjective you have used and it feels very appropriate.

For instance, I sense a subtle sensation in my abdomen, as though it were somewhat constricted. In that moment, the word "tight" comes to mind. Similarly, I experience a feeling of congestion in my chest.

I noticed a sensation of chest tightness, and the word "chest tightness" came to mind.

4. Interactive induction

Could you perhaps try feeling the word again and again, using parts of your body to feel it, and see if you can resonate with it?

It might also be helpful to consider whether you can feel the signals your body sends out to let you know that the two match. To do this,

At this point, it may be helpful to allow the experience and the word to change together, by feeling the word again.

Until the word is able to describe the quality of this experience in a way that is both accurate and satisfactory.

5. It might be helpful to ask.

Perhaps it would be helpful to start asking: What could have caused this situation? When he reappears, it might be beneficial to scrutinize him.

Gently touch and feel the problem, and ask yourself, "What makes this problem so and so?" You might also ask, "What does this feeling include?"

If you find an answer without transformation, you might consider letting go of that answer and refocusing your attention within to rediscover the experience and ask again.

Allow yourself to experience the experience until something different accompanies the transformation, a feeling of release and lightness.

6. Acceptance

Greet everything that the transformation brings with kindness. Allow yourself to experience it for a moment, even if it is just a hint of relaxation.

No matter what may come along, this is simply a change. His transformation will continue to come, so it may be helpful to feel it for a while longer.

If you have ever had a full-body sensation related to this issue, you may find that it is a focused experience. It is not necessarily the case that the body will feel transformed, but it is likely that it will happen automatically, as we do not control it.

It might be helpful to consider that emotions are an important part of our bodies, reflecting what we need and what is not being met.

It may be helpful to consider that these experiences can be expressed through somatic physiological reactions, which serve as a form of alert.

It might be helpful to remember that every technique is individualized and targeted, so it could be beneficial to consider.

It might be helpful to seek the advice of a professional consultant in order to find a way out of this difficult situation.

I am Consultant Yao, and I am here to continue supporting and caring for you.

Hello, I'd like to offer you a warm hug. I'm Phil.

I'm sorry to hear you're going through this.

Given the limited number of instances, there may be a number of things you would like to discuss.

However, it is not entirely clear. Therefore, for the time being, we will simply have to go on what we currently know.

I hope you find this analysis, answers, and advice helpful.

To ascertain whether one's behavior is within the normal range,

It is possible that this is an occasional tantrum or a real problem.

It might also be the case that the behavior is the result of a certain illness that requires time to diagnose.

It's not just that this situation has occurred.

It would also be helpful to know how long this has been going on.

It could be anything from ten days to half a year.

In such a case, it might be possible to determine that this is a disease or a very abnormal phenomenon.

If I might humbly offer my input, the problem you mentioned is actually something we encounter quite often.

There are a number of potential reasons and solutions to this issue.

With regard to the initial issue of difficulty sleeping,

Many of us experience difficulties with sleep on a regular basis.

It is not uncommon for people to stay up late out of habit or because they are up late on other occasions.

It might be the case that their body has become accustomed to the current biological clock.

Or perhaps it could be something else.

It might be helpful to consider whether they are experiencing heightened emotions or have been looking at electronic devices for an extended period of time.

It might be helpful to remember that our bodies cannot quickly

It would be beneficial to adjust to a state where all the organs of the body can rest.

If I might suggest, you could perhaps try making a few adjustments and preparations before going to sleep.

For instance, if you would like to go to bed at 10 o'clock, but you are not yet sleepy at that time,

You might consider going to bed at 12 o'clock.

You might consider doing something slightly relaxing between 10 and 12 o'clock.

You might consider putting your phone down half an hour before bed.

It might also be helpful to calm your emotions.

It may be helpful to allow your emotions to stabilize.

It may be helpful to avoid eating for at least two hours before bedtime.

It may be the case that the peristalsis and digestion of the gastrointestinal tract will result in a loss of energy.

We may find ourselves feeling more alert and less sleepy.

You might also consider listening to some soothing music.

It might be helpful to consider music that helps us sleep faster.

You may wish to consider meditation and mindfulness as potential avenues for exploration.

If I may, I would like to ask you about the second question you mentioned. Do you suspect that you have a violent tendency?

It seems that you have a strong affinity for cats, yet you find yourself acting in a rather aggressive manner during the night.

I'm not sure why I would engage in such actions towards my cat.

If you have any suspicions that you may be suffering from this kind of illness,

If I may suggest, the most efficient and convenient way to obtain a professional diagnosis is to visit your local mental health center or a tertiary hospital for an appropriate examination.

I believe the result will be the most authoritative.

In general, it can be said that when we fall asleep,

It would be particularly beneficial to be mindful of this time frame, which is often late at night, between 3 and 5 or 6 in the morning.

This is when our bodies are most in need of rest and recuperation.

If we happen to be disturbed at this time and wake up,

It is likely that the body as a whole will be mobilized to a state of stress.

If you are aware of this state to some extent,

Such circumstances may result in exaggerated reactions that differ from our typical behavior.

Such reactions might include feelings of anger, sadness, or distress, as well as actions that could be perceived as extreme.

You mentioned that you have a strong attachment to your cat.

Unfortunately, I'm unable to control this behavior at such times.

I believe the reason may be that the kitten is already awake at this time and is meowing.

You might like to consider leaving the kitten outside the room or shutting it up next time.

You might consider putting him somewhere where he can continue to sleep without waking up, or where his meowing won't disturb you.

It might be helpful to see if it happens again.

I hope my answer is helpful to you.

I hope the world and I can show you some love.

Good day. I can see that you have a number of internal conflicts and struggles. I understand your situation, and I will help you analyze it.

Firstly, you have severe insomnia and trouble falling asleep, which makes you very irritable. The more you can't sleep, the more irritable you become, and the more irritable you become, the more you can't sleep. This creates a vicious cycle, and you're very concerned about your physical health.

The second issue is your tendency towards violence, which manifests as a bad temper. Despite your desire to control your temper, you are unable to do so, which causes significant distress.

The third internal conflict is that you have a strong affinity for cats, but your bad temper leads you to mistreat them. After you express your anger, you experience feelings of remorse and regret. This creates another internal conflict, causing you distress and remorse.

The third issue is that you tend to dwell on the negative comments of others, which in turn leads to feelings of self-doubt and self-denial, resulting in a heightened irritability.

I have some suggestions that I believe will be of benefit to you.

The first issue to address is your severe insomnia problem. This is the most urgent problem that needs to be solved.

If the issue has been ongoing, it is recommended that you consult with a medical professional to address the insomnia as soon as possible. Prolonged periods of insomnia can have a detrimental impact on an individual's physical and mental well-being, leading to increased irritability and a lack of control, which in turn can exacerbate existing physical and mental health concerns.

Secondly, identify the root cause. When did your short tempered problem first manifest?

It would be helpful to identify the specific events that trigger your anger. Where does this anger originate? It may be helpful to consider whether your pet cat was the target of your anger because it is unable to defend itself against you. It is important to note that the cat itself is not the source of your anger.

It would be beneficial to practice relaxation exercises and positive meditation, as well as self-awareness and awareness of your feelings. This will allow you to identify when emotions are starting to arise and before violent behavior begins. It is then possible to become aware of your thoughts and feelings in order to prevent any violent behavior.

Thirdly, it is recommended that when you are in a negative emotional state and seeking to release pent-up frustration, you engage in a physical activity such as punching a sandbag, running, shouting, or completing housework. Through this form of exercise, you can effectively dissipate negative emotions and alter your usual methods of expressing frustration. This approach will prove beneficial for you and your pet.

Fourth, you tend to dwell on the opinions of others, which may be perceived as highly sensitive behavior. While a single remark may seem inconsequential, it can evoke a strong emotional response.

This necessitates a more objective self-evaluation. Are you sufficiently aware of your own characteristics and abilities? Do the opinions of others accurately reflect your true capabilities? Do you concur with the assessments made by others?

Could you please elaborate on why you care so much about the other person?

Finally, I observe that your tendency to become angry and engage in violent behavior may be indicative of underlying negative emotional and behavioral reactions. It is likely that there have been adverse experiences or traumatic events in your past that have contributed to these maladaptive emotions.

If you are unable to resolve the issue independently, I recommend seeking psychological counseling and treatment at a psychiatric hospital. First, assess your mental health. Your situation can be improved and cured. I hope you will take it seriously and seek help as soon as possible. Best regards.

You seem upset and grumpy. I'm sorry to hear that. It seems like your biggest problems are anxiety/lately-i-often-suffer-from-insomnia-and-am-in-a-bad-mood-how-can-an-incompetent-person-avoid-feeling-inferior-6000.html" target="_blank">insomnia and grumpiness.

There are many reasons for mood and temperament. Let's find out yours.

A grumpy parent is likely to have an emotional child prone to tantrums.

If you're worried or distressed and can't solve your problems, you may become anxious and irritable.

If this is long-term, the mood should be long-term too.

If you are only temporarily experiencing difficulties, this state of anxiety and irritability may be temporary. However, if the difficulties continue, they will not improve easily.

First, find out what's causing your mood.

Severe insomnia can cause irritability.

You said you have severe insomnia. This can have a very bad effect on you.

Irritability is just one symptom.

Focus on your insomnia first. There are many reasons for it, such as physical problems, upcoming events, and anxiety.

To solve insomnia, you need to address the causes.

This week, the Sleep Health Management Handbook, edited by the president of Peking University, was shared online. It lists bad habits that disrupt sleep and good ways to regulate insomnia.

Control your emotions and find solutions.

Controlling your emotions can help you find solutions.

If you feel irritable, take a deep breath or do ten push-ups.

I hope you get better and better!

Hug yourself for being awesome! It's so great that you're here, asking for help. I'm here for you, and I hope I can help you. Here are a few suggestions:

If you're struggling with severe insomnia, it's important to find ways to improve your sleep. One way to do this is by having a regular routine, avoiding daytime sleep, and getting up early in the morning. Having a regular life can really help to improve your sleep.

If you find yourself losing your cool, it might be time to take a step back and assess the situation. It's natural to feel frustrated or angry, but if you're struggling to control your temper, it's important to recognize that it might be time to take a deep breath and think before you speak or act.

It's important to check whether you've encountered something that made you feel down and notice how your mood changed before and after this happened. If so, it's a great idea to find the root cause and work through it. Stagnant liver qi and qi stagnation can be a sign that you need to let go of something that's been weighing you down after it's been suppressed for a while.

If this emotional state has been going on for a long time, it's really important to go to the hospital to get it checked out. They'll be able to give you some scales to help you understand your emotional state better.

You'll feel really sorry afterwards, which means your mood will be better. And if the kitten doesn't want to be picked up, you won't force it. That shows you're kind and you care about other people's feelings.

If you think too much, you might even start to suspect that other people will say things about you. Why is that? It's just like losing control of your emotions. Take the relevant scales to check for physical and emotional problems, just like you would with your emotions.

It's so important to have a regular life! Make sure you love yourself, talk to people when you're having problems, and ask experienced people in the same situation for advice. Try to control your bad temper as much as you can!

Hello, questioner.

The situation you described is basically similar to the emotional distress experienced by a friend of mine. She also had insomnia due to her cat's meowing, and she would lose her temper and beat the cat, then feel remorseful and regretful, and repeat the cycle. She and the cat have now overcome the difficulties and started a peaceful life. I am certain you can also change the situation.

I will now elaborate on a few points that I have observed and experienced first-hand.

The cat meows at five o'clock, you can't sleep, and you explode. Everyone feels irritated.

Some people are not as emotionally charged and calm down quickly. They may scold a little, hide their head, or meow like a cat until they've had enough. Or they may spend three minutes getting up to feed and water the cat, stroke its head, have a drink, and go to the toilet.

People with narcissistic borderline personality traits are trapped in their own feelings, experience intense emotions, and take out their anger on others. This is because they have received and internalized so much self-attack in the past that they are saturated. Various superimposed traumas have confused this person, who does not know what to do and cannot find a place of peace within themselves.

On the surface, you may appear strong and rational, but inside, you may be so fragile that you are on the verge of collapse. You must release it outwardly or there is no room inside to contain your emotions.

You are internally fearful and easily agitated. Confronting your weakness with the outside world is the only way to confirm your self-strength and allow the cat to share in your inner feelings of anger, fear, sadness, weakness, and helplessness.

You crave support, understanding, and inner peace. But when you lose control, people only see your violent and selfish moments.

You are merciless when you strike, but you regret it and do it again next time. It's like an alcoholic addict.

It is likely post-traumatic stress disorder, compulsive repetition. This is the source of the trauma sending a signal, asking for help at this moment, seeking healing.

Cats meow at night, and you've learned to suppress and control it. It's in line with human routines, just as adults ask young children to sit and stand still at all times. This is difficult and not very natural, but you've learned to do it anyway.

A cat wants to get close to people and is looking for you to call out to it, but you scold and hit it. This is the same as a child who longs for intimacy but cannot trust a parent who approaches them coldly and criticizes them.

I believe one of your elders used to be particularly meddlesome, critical, and negative. Or perhaps you have recently experienced something particularly painful and exhausting.

Take care of your cat every day. It's not a burden. You have someone around you who can comfort and love you and understand you.

When you acknowledge and understand your feelings of grievance and anger, you will feel lighter, more in control, and more at peace. Having a tolerant, gentle, firm, and reliable lover or friend is the best medicine.

You and the cat are like a community with a shared future at this time. You torment the cat, but you are indirectly expressing your pain. Similarly, when you feel sorry for the cat, you are also feeling sorry for yourself.

You are sometimes the villain. You violate your own boundaries, disrespect your own needs, and emotionally abuse yourself. Sometimes the cat is you. You are weak and helpless, watched closely with no way to retreat. You are one candy for a slap, confused and on guard.

The above is my interpretation based on trauma therapy and narcissistic personality analysis. I don't know much about your other actual situation, so I'm offering this as a reference only.

I wish you and your cat peace and love, and that you are spoiled.

Dear Sir/Madam, I hope this message finds you well. I am contacting you regarding your recent correspondence. Please accept my apologies for the delay in my response. I am writing to you today

From your description, it is evident that you are primarily concerned about your current physical challenges, including distressing-what-methods-can-help-me-overcome-sleep-disorders-5620.html" target="_blank">anxiety/lately-i-often-suffer-from-insomnia-and-am-in-a-bad-mood-how-can-an-incompetent-person-avoid-feeling-inferior-6000.html" target="_blank">insomnia, anxiety, and the restlessness associated with being awake but unable to sleep. I empathize with your situation and wish I could provide more assistance. By articulating these difficulties, you are essentially acting as a signpost, attempting to convey your needs, perspectives, and requirements to others.

I am unaware of the specifics of your situation, but I empathize with the notion that the circumstances you are facing must be quite challenging to accept. I have experienced similar difficulties in the past and can relate to your situation.

Your description of the situation with the cat brought to mind a similar experience from my childhood. At that time, when I faced persistent challenges and felt unable to effect change, I also sought release through these outlets.

You expressed your external dissatisfaction with the cat to relieve internal pressure, anger, and dissatisfaction. I can even support you in this, because you are already in pain, and your inner world is so desperate that you want to alleviate repressed emotions by swinging between the pleasure and guilt of hurting your beloved pet (and you will also feel pain when the cat is hurt).

It is worth noting that the cat's behaviour appears to mirror that of the individual in question. Following an incident that causes distress, there is often no outlet for expressing that pain, which can result in the individual projecting their own emotions onto the cat. This can lead to a vicious cycle of self-blame, whereby the deeper the pain, the deeper the self-blame. To avoid this, it is helpful to identify and acknowledge the emotions you are experiencing. This can be done by writing them down, either on paper or in a digital format. This process can also help you to identify any negative feelings you have towards the person you are angry with. Once you have identified and acknowledged your emotions, you can begin to calm down. This can involve taking a step back from the situation, writing down your thoughts and feelings, or engaging in a relaxing activity. Once you have calmed down, it is important to reflect on your behaviour. This can help you to understand why you acted in a certain way and identify any patterns in your emotional responses. It can also help you to recognise that your true self is capable of excellent and good actions, despite the influence of your emotions. It is essential to remember that everyone experiences distress and acts irrationally from time to time.

It is important to learn to manage your emotions and develop self-love.

Hello, question asker.

I would like to suggest that you consider removing the cat from your life. It seems that every time it disturbs you by howling in the middle of the night, you punish it. Perhaps it would be helpful to remove this trigger from your life and see if the situation changes.

It might be the case that it's in heat, in which case it would be advisable to have it neutered. Of course, the aftercare for neutering is also a cause for concern.

If I might make a suggestion, it would be to seek the advice of a professional. I believe that the most appropriate course of action would be to visit the relevant outpatient department of a major hospital.

It is important to note that whether or not one actually has a tendency towards violence is not as crucial as recognizing the possibility. If you believe you do, it is essential to accept this and then focus on creating a life that aligns with your values. It is not necessary to achieve everything at once; gradual change is perfectly acceptable. Take the time to experience this transformation. Do not pressure yourself to read a thousand miles a day. Instead, consider writing down your feelings, thoughts, and expectations, as well as your actions.

It's important to take things one step at a time and not rush things. With patience and time, everything will be fine.

If you don't feel violent, but occasionally encounter some sudden matters and have nowhere to vent your anxiety, you may act violently. It might be helpful to try to stay away from things that trigger your violence. If you can't stay away, you might consider trying to record what happened that made you want to act so abnormally, trying to analyze it, whether the other person is a permanent threat to you, whether your reaction is a bit too much, and whether you can react a little less next time.

You may find it helpful to believe in yourself and to remember that these are things that can be self-regulated.

Additionally, I empathize with your situation with your cat. Based on my experience of raising cats, they can sometimes exhibit stubborn behaviors. They may not fully understand how to adapt, and on occasion, they may scratch or bite their owners without fully grasping the situation's gravity. This can lead to frustration.

Some of the cat's behavior can be a bit frustrating at times. It's important to recognize that this is a reality we all have to accept.

It is understandable to feel irritated and frustrated. It is also normal to want to lash out. Many people may feel similarly, but only a few act on those feelings. You have just put your thoughts into action. Accepting yourself includes recognizing this reality, including your thoughts and actions.

In addition, the cat was treated in a way that could be perceived as unfair when you hit it and threw it out. We could even characterize this as abuse, which is a sad fact. Perhaps it would be helpful to accept this and admit that it has happened.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider whether this is the best way to treat your cat. If you feel irritated or regretful, it may indicate that you are not enjoying the process.

If you feel pleasure, it may be a sign that you are releasing your emotions through this behavior.

Perhaps it would be helpful to ask yourself whether it is really the cat that is annoying you, or whether there are other pressures and fears in your life that are causing you discomfort.

We kindly ask that you try to understand what has happened, as we analyzed before. Once you understand the situation, you will be able to accept it. Then, please think about what you really want and what you can do under the current circumstances.

It is important to note that this kind of acceptance and reflection is not a one-off process. It is a long process, but it is definitely worthwhile.

It is possible that the situation in the future may not be completely resolved, but you may find that you are no longer afraid to face it. You may feel that you are working hard and that you feel at peace.

I wish you the best of luck, and I hope your cat will be well too.

If I might make one final suggestion, it would be to consider seeking the guidance of a professional counselor if you feel that you are unable to address these issues on your own.

Good day, host.

My name is Mi Duo, and I am a listener at Yixinli. I am pleased to have this opportunity to interact with you in this forum.

In light of the aforementioned issues, it is evident that you are striving to alter your tendency to lose your temper. However, you seem uncertain about the most effective approach to achieve this goal. At times, you even question whether you are experiencing psychological difficulties. I can discern your strong motivation to modify this behavior. When an individual recognizes a discrepancy between their current state and their desired self, and they can envision constructive ways to modify their behavior, that is a promising initial step.

It is therefore appropriate to offer congratulations, given that you have already embarked upon the process of change.

Let us consider the potential for change. Is the proposed method of change an effective one?

Firstly, it is important to recognise that dissatisfaction with the status quo is a crucial first step in initiating change. Once this awareness has been established, individuals can begin to make self-adjustments to address the specific issue that has been identified. For instance, it may be helpful to consider the underlying reasons for losing one's temper, such as the possibility that this is a regular pattern of behaviour.

Once awareness has been established, it is possible to attempt to influence the individual in question to alter their course of action. If the intention is to lose one's temper, it is possible to implement certain measures. Upon recognizing the onset of an angry response, it is possible to issue a directive to oneself, "Time out!" and then inquire as to the underlying cause of the distress. It may be possible to resolve the source of the distress.

Secondly, should self-awareness and self-adjustment prove ineffective in improving one's current state, it may be beneficial to seek professional assistance. This could entail a pre-counseling consultation to re-examine and comprehend the underlying causes of one's temper tantrums. By identifying these root causes, it may be possible to embark on a different emotional trajectory.

Thirdly, the capacity to lose one's temper is indicative of courage and authenticity. It signifies the willingness to express one's genuine emotional state, provided that it does not result in significant distress to oneself or others. In such instances, one can accept and allow oneself to be in that state.

Furthermore, it is beneficial to view one's temperamental self with a sense of appreciation.

Hello, question asker!

From what you've told me, it seems like you're going through a rough patch. It's clear that you're feeling restless, irritable, and angry. I'm not sure what's going on in your life that's making you feel so out of control.

I'd really love to give you a big hug and a pat on the back to calm you down, but I know you don't want that.

This kind of mood has really taken a toll on your sleep, and then the severe insomnia has made your mood worse and worse. It's a vicious cycle that's really taken a toll on you physically and mentally!

You tend to share a lot of your worries with your adorable kitten, which can be a bit of a thrill at first, but then you regret it. This shows that you're a sensitive soul and that you feel guilty and dissatisfied with your behavior sometimes.

The questioner is a smart person who has a correct awareness of his emotions and is also very concerned about his psychological state. He also seeks help in a timely manner, which is great to see! It fully demonstrates your desire to change for the better and that you have taken action. Kudos to you!

Now, let's chat about your mood and sleep problems. I'd love to know if you've always been this way, or if something has recently happened to make you feel down and affect your mood. And what was your upbringing like?

I'd love to know more about your parents and your relationship with them.

I'm so sorry to hear you're struggling with this. It's so important to have a good support system in place, especially when you're facing challenges like this. It's great that you're seeking help and taking action to improve your situation. I'm curious, do your loved ones know about your current state? You mentioned that you're struggling with severe insomnia, which can be a really tough thing to deal with. It's so important to have a good understanding of what you're going through, especially when it's affecting your ability to function. I'm here to listen if you ever want to talk more about this.

How long has this been going on? I'm so sorry to hear you're struggling with your kitten's noise every morning at 5am. It's so hard to find peace and quiet when you're trying to get some rest! Have you thought about putting the kitten in another room or boarding it with a trusted friend for a while, so that you can rest peacefully during that time in the morning at least?

It's so important to pay attention to insomnia and emotional outbursts over a long period of time. They can have a serious impact on your body and mind. If you're struggling, you can see a specialist, take appropriate medication to adjust your sleep and emotions, or talk to a listener on our Yi Xinli platform or a professional psychological counselor. You can try these methods, and they will definitely improve your situation. I've been there, and I'm here to support you!

I really hope my answer can help you a little bit, and I truly believe you will adjust to your own state soon!

I love you, world! And I love you too!

Hello, question asker.

1. Severe insomnia. I couldn't fall asleep in a short period of time. In severe cases, I woke up lying awake for up to three hours.

What were you thinking at that stage? I was anxious, and I owned it.

Tell me, has the thing you were worried about really happened? I can tell you now, living in the present is the most important thing.

I also had a period of time when I couldn't sleep all night due to insomnia. I was unable to go to work for personal reasons.

Later, I diverted my attention. I thought about what could

Replace it with something that provides some relief. I was unable to sleep for more than a year.

Sometimes I still cry. I changed direction and slowly adjusted, and it's getting better.

Yes, we should change direction. It will be better.

It will provide relief and improve your insomnia.

Sometimes, it's our catastrophic thinking. It's possible that it didn't happen at all. We're just scaring ourselves. What's the rational perception of this event?

We have set the bar too high. We need to lower our expectations. Accepting yourself means accepting that you may not be able to do everything.

You need to find out the reason, find the direction, and make appropriate adjustments.

2. I have a tendency towards violence. Every morning at 5am, the family cat starts making a racket. I yell at her, but if that doesn't work I spank her until my hand hurts. The harder I hit her, the more she wants me to hit her. After the spanking, I force her to look at me by holding her neck and stare at her until she looks away. Then I strangle her, hold her throat and push her body down so she can't move. After I'm done, I let her fall heavily to the ground. Sometimes she can roll over and run, but sometimes she can't because I threw her too fast. Falling to the ground is the most satisfying.

I love cats, and I like her very much too. I don't know why I was like crazy at that time, losing my mind. I couldn't control myself, and I would regret it very much afterwards, crying and hugging her. But she would be scared and try to run away, so I didn't hug her forcefully.

To the kitten, I can feel that you are suppressing your emotions. Deep down, you have something that has not met expectations, so you are venting your anger at the kitten. No one understands us, and your feelings are not being taken care of. You need to learn to be considerate of yourself. Love yourself well, and allow yourself to take your time.

Give emotions an outlet. Emotions are a natural part of life. They are there to remind us to learn to coexist with them. Controlling and repressing emotions will not solve the problem itself. We must accept our emotions and let them out when necessary.

Affirm yourself more often. You are worthy of love. Events remind us to take care of our inner needs.

Good morning,

Yi Xinli World and I Love You. Best wishes.