What should I do if my dislike for something has already begun to seriously affect my friendships?

From your description, I can discern a sense of regret, confusion, and bewilderment.

In junior high school, I was enthusiastic about a specific genre of literature. However, during my high school years, I developed an aversion to this genre.

I subsequently developed an aversion to the novel and even to individuals who expressed a preference for reading this type of literature.

A close associate with whom you had a positive relationship has also become estranged due to this matter, and you have been instrumental in creating this rift.

On the one hand, you feel some remorse and believe you have damaged the friendship. On the other hand, you are also experiencing conflicting emotions. You are unable to move on from your dislike of the novel, but you are also concerned about the potential impact on the friendship. You are unsure of the best course of action.

It is a challenging situation. We will work through it together. Let's review the facts.

Please attempt to ascertain the actual reason for your aversion to this particular novel.

To ascertain the truth, we must investigate the events that transpired during your high school years.

It is not uncommon for erroneous attributions to result in inaccurate perceptions and judgments.

Please describe the events that transpired in high school that led to your change of opinion regarding this type of novel. Was your judgment sound and well-founded?

Was the novel truly the cause of the unfortunate event? Were there any other viable options at the time?

Please describe your process.

The source of your disquiet is not the novel itself, but rather the fact that your actions have strayed from your intended course of action as a result of your preoccupation with it.

It is essential that we assume responsibility for our own actions.

It is important to understand that our lives are shaped by our own decisions. Regardless of the circumstances, we are responsible for the outcomes and must accept the consequences.

"Obsession" is a matter of personal choice.

It is important to understand that regardless of our personal choices, the facts remain unchanged.

As a result, we will be unable to grow and find answers, and we will repeat our mistakes.

Only by courageously embracing the outcomes of our decisions can we become more mature, resilient, and tolerant.

We are not the world's standard solution.

It is possible that you had a highly controlling caregiver in your childhood, who always used their own standards to demand and measure you.

It is also possible that they may have led you to believe that fiction was the root cause of the problem.

This results in the application of this relationship model to external relationships and interactions.

Furthermore, you will apply your own standards to evaluate and assess others.

It is important to recognise that everyone has their own choices and preferences, and that others may have different perspectives and approaches.

It is important to accept and understand the differences between individuals and groups, as well as the external factors that shape our environment. By maintaining an open and accepting attitude, we can continuously adapt our perspectives and enhance our understanding of the world, leading to a more comprehensive and positive outlook.

We will not be constrained by our own perceptions and unable to find a solution.

Best regards,

Hello.

You will feel that someone understands and supports you, and you will feel trusted. Then, you will slowly unlock the lock inside.

"For some reason, I've come to hate this type of novel." You said it, from infatuation to hate.

You need to be aware of this.

Respect your own resistance to [some reason], which may touch on your inner wounds.

You reflect on your inner feelings and state outright that you want to intensify the conflict.

You want to partner with like-minded people in your life, not be repeatedly touched by wounds.

For now, it's not the right time to face it head-on.

You must feel that someone understands you, supports you, and trusts you before you can slowly unlock the lock inside.

"Pretending to be agreeable" and "feeling uncomfortable" are very real feelings. You are not making a mistake by not forcing yourself to adapt.

"Messing up" is self-blame. You stick to your taste and values, and you seek common ground while reserving differences.

[For some reason], it is a challenge and a burden for you.

Life is a gradual journey.

You make it clear to the other person that you don't like a certain type of thing. This helps you embrace an increasingly authentic self on the road ahead.

The most comfortable friendship is one in which no one leads the rhythm of the other.

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