When financially abundant, any minor issue is resolved with money, resulting in no savings.

If you spend money without thinking, you'll feel like you're avoiding the problem by spending money this way. You'll also feel self-blame, anxiety, and remorse when you can't solve the problem even though you've spent all the money.

But when you realize that you spend money in the present moment because you don't have the mental energy to face the pain of the past, and that this spending pattern is actually a strategy to protect you from the excesses of the present moment, you will have less judgment and more acceptance and understanding. And this acceptance and understanding itself is also a kind of healing for you.

When you have a better understanding and acceptance of your spending patterns, you'll be less resistant to this behavior. Not being resistant means that your hostility towards this pattern will start to ease. At the moment of loosening, your subconscious mind will feel your changes, and it is these small changes that will lead to deeper healing and change within you.

So don't rush it. Just keep doing the mindfulness exercises I mentioned. You'll probably notice some changes in your life when you go shopping with mindfulness.

Give it a shot!

Hello, I'm Yiya Tree, and I'm thrilled to be here with you as you take on this challenge!

From your words, I can tell that you're aware of your own problems, which is great! It seems like you're aware that you're using spending money to avoid some internal pain and difficulties. This shows that you have the ability to analyze and be aware of your own problems, which is actually a very good start!

I don't know what kind of pain and distress you have encountered in your life, but I know you've been through a lot! I cannot access this part of your life through words, so I will not analyze it. But one thing I can feel is that you are very dependent on using money to solve problems, and I'm excited to help you find a new way!

You also said that when you have money, you often use it to solve problems. This is a great insight! It shows that you have a habit of using money to alleviate some psychological distress and pain. It also shows that you use material goods bought with money to compensate for and escape some of the pain in your relationships.

In fact, don't blame yourself for having this pattern! It simply reflects that your subconscious mind is not psychologically prepared to face the problem at the moment. This is totally normal! It just means that it is not the right time to face the problem head-on. But you are in pain, so what do you do? So the subconscious mind has developed the brilliant strategy of temporarily relieving the pain by spending money.

In a way, you should be really grateful for this pattern of using money to relieve pain! It's a great way to get an outlet when you're not yet ready to face past pain. Sure, it might mean you don't save as much money, but it's a great way to temporarily relieve your pain. And that's what it's all about!

So let's not judge this pattern of relieving pain by spending money. Instead, let's celebrate the value and meaning it once brought you!

Now, let's talk about what you can do in the moment!

First, if you are still not ready to face the pain, you can still choose to stay in the spending mode, but you need to spend with awareness and lucidity. When you are in pain, you will want to spend money first. At this time, you need to be aware of the situation and tell yourself that this mode is a way to temporarily protect me when I am not ready to face the pain. Don't regret or judge it, just know why it is necessary, and then spend with this awareness.

The result may be the same on the surface, but in essence, it is different! So, where is the difference?

If you spend money without awareness, you'll have a strong sense of judgment and rejection of your own patterns. You'll feel like you're avoiding the problem by spending money this way. You'll feel self-blame, anxiety, and remorse—but don't worry! These feelings are totally normal.

But when you realize that the reason you spend money in the moment is actually because you don't have the mental energy to face the pain of the past, and that this spending pattern is actually a strategy to protect you from the excesses of the moment, you will have less judgment and more acceptance and understanding. And this acceptance and understanding is also a form of healing for yourself!

Once you have a lot more understanding and acceptance of your spending patterns, you'll be amazed at how much less resistant you are to this behavior! Not being resistant means that your hostility towards this pattern begins to loosen. At the moment of loosening, your subconscious mind will feel your changes, and it is these small changes that will lead to deeper healing and change within you.

So don't be impatient! Just keep doing the mindfulness exercises I just gave you, and every time you go shopping with mindfulness, you will definitely discover some amazing changes in your life one day!

You should definitely give it a try!

Greetings,

The questioner's current predicament appears to be a conundrum of twofold nature: on the one hand, the inability to save money, and on the other, the psychological tendency to utilize spending money as a means of evading the inherent difficulties and discomfort associated with the underlying problem.

Awareness represents the initial stage of the change process. It is evident that you are experiencing difficulties, yet I am confident that this is also the beginning of your transformation.

What modifications are required?

1. Your Ideal Financial Management Style One can record their ideal financial management style and ascertain its viability as a financial management plan.

To illustrate, when a decision is made to use money to solve a problem, one can choose to press pause and reflect on whether the action is truly solving the problem at hand or merely avoiding a deeper issue. If the former is the case, then the expenditure can be justified. However, if the latter is true, then it is necessary to consider alternative, more optimal solutions.

2. The past approach can be considered a form of learning. It is important not to be overly critical of oneself. In order to identify an approach that is suitable, it is necessary to persevere and accept that mistakes will be made. The past approach has provided motivation for change.

Although I am unaware of the specifics of your case, I am confident that your gradual realization will assist you in identifying the optimal course of action.

3. It is recommended that you begin saving money immediately. Given your current inability to save, is this a priority for you?

One can begin saving a modest amount each week immediately. This capital cannot be accessed except in the event of a significant emergency. It is advisable to devise a savings plan. When one truly requires funds, the savings will be available.

I would like to encourage you to consider the following proposition.

The world and I extend our affection to you.

Susu is a professional whose expertise lies in the field of emotional coaching.