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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Hello, questioner! I am Shushan Wenquan. Let's be our own spiritual gardeners and watch over the spring blossoms and autumn fruits!
From your description, I understand that you're new to the job and have encountered a few hiccups with the handover of work, especially with your supervisor. When the other person gets a little heated, you become anxious and scared, which leads to some imprecise expression.
Afterwards, you will have lots of time to think about this, which is great for processing and reflection.
You're feeling the anxiety and unease that come with being a new employee, and you're also feeling a little helpless when your leader has a temper tantrum. It's not easy, but you can do it! Give yourself a hug and keep going!
So, you want to know how to avoid it? Great! That means you're already taking steps to improve. Let's dive in and see what you can do. First, you need to be able to calmly deal with this situation if it happens again. That way, you can stay cool and collected, even if you don't do a perfect job. Second, you need to learn how to not let it get to you afterwards. You've got this! This problem lies with you and also involves others. But you can work through it together. Let's take a look:
It's time to set a basic expectation for your performance in the early stages of your work and start working in the right direction!
I think you care so much about this performance of yours and keep "reflecting" because the state-owned enterprise job is very important to you. We all want to be perfect and expect to be completely safe when it comes to important matters, and I think you're going to excel at this job!
This pursuit is a wonderful manifestation of your love of work, and it can be retained!
But at the same time, you must recognize the situation. For anyone who has just joined a new unit, there is a "novice period." This is a great opportunity to learn and grow! During this period, it is understandable to be misunderstood by your leader and to lack flexibility.
If you can use this experience to gain a better understanding of the tasks and direction of effort during the "newbie period," then it's definitely worth it!
I highly recommend that you set yourself some goals and make a point of chatting with your old colleagues more often. How long do you think this period will last?
What are the main business tasks? I can do so much on my own initiative!
During this period, I have the exciting opportunity to learn and grow! I can make mistakes, and I can learn from them.
Let's wait and see!
For example, within a week, you can get to know and have a basic understanding of who the leader you need to deal with is, what their personality is like, etc. This means you'll understand what you should do, what you can do, who you will come into contact with, and what problems you may encounter — and you'll be ready to take on any challenge!
This gives you a fantastic sense of perspective, so that you can respond more proactively and calmly when things happen, and also evaluate your own performance more reasonably.
2 - In terms of other people, treat everyone with a "mutual assistance" perspective, inspire others to behave well towards you; expand your tolerance and improve your professional abilities.
When you first start working, you may feel a little worried when things go wrong, afraid of making mistakes and being held responsible. But don't worry! These feelings are totally normal, and they don't have to stop you from growing. All you need to do is cultivate a positive attitude and a kind outlook, and learn to draw strength from others to help you grow.
From this trivial matter, if we purely want to prove that "I was not at fault, I had a reason, but the leader was in a bad mood and the colleague did not cooperate," or the regretful mentality of "if only at that time, I would have done it differently," it doesn't make much sense. But here's the good news! The matter has already happened, and I suspect that as long as the leader is not too petty, they will not deliberately remember this incident. So, let's focus on the positive and use this as an opportunity to learn and grow!
From another perspective, the colleague was in a hurry and did not forward the information in time. This gave you the fantastic opportunity to get to know "such a director" and learn some "workplace rules" right after you started working! For example, you learned the importance of confirming after giving instructions.
This is not the spirit of Ah Q, but rather an amazing opportunity to learn from what has happened and improve your own heart and abilities! At the same time, try to find the good points and strengths in others, for example, be grateful that things could have been worse.
Embrace the uncertainty with a spirit of mutual assistance and gratitude. Step away from a narrow self-concept and see colleagues as your own helpers. This is an important lesson in the workplace!
I really hope the above is helpful! I wish you every success and progress in your work!
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I understand how frustrating and upsetting that situation must have been for you. It's really tough when you're trying to be helpful but end up in the crossfire of someone else's frustration. I would have felt the same way, thinking I was doing the right thing by informing my colleague and feeling blindsided by the director's reaction.
It sounds like there was a lot of miscommunication going on that day. When faced with an upset director, it's easy to get flustered. But looking back, calmly asking for her WeChat contact or even offering to walk the documents over yourself could have smoothed things over. It's hard to stay calm when everyone around you is anxious, though.
The supervisor's comment about not passing the buck stung, especially since your intention was simply to resolve the issue quickly. Perhaps next time, taking a moment to explain more clearly the steps you've taken and your intentions might prevent misunderstandings. It's definitely easier said than done when tensions are high.