When we talk about happiness, what are we really after? How do we define and measure it?

Greetings!

As Professor Ping Kaiping of Tsinghua University posits, happiness can be defined as "meaningful pleasure."

Ultimately, happiness and a sense of well-being are subjective experiences. To cultivate a sense of happiness, it is essential to be open and receptive, engaging in a dynamic process of giving and receiving.

In regard to the sense of meaning or value, it is contingent upon one's values. It is thus imperative to cultivate heightened awareness to ensure that when a goal is defined, it is imbued with greater meaning and value.

Happiness is not solely contingent on the meaningful joy and contentment derived from the attainment of one's objectives; it also manifests within the pursuit of these objectives themselves.

The most representative research in this area is the experience of flow. That is to say, in the process of pursuing a goal, if the goal is broken down into smaller, more achievable components that are within reach if an additional effort is made, a positive experience of flow may result. If this process continues, a sustained sense of happiness may be experienced.

Happiness is an internal experience, and a significant portion of it is constituted by one's internal feelings. Concurrently, happiness has an additional crucial aspect, namely the connection between people.

Connecting with others and experiencing a sense of belonging and security facilitates the pursuit of higher goals, including those related to respect and self-realization. This, in turn, may lead to an increase in happiness.

The internal and relational dimensions of happiness are both integral to the construct. The specific composition of happiness may vary across individuals, contingent on their unique circumstances and the relative importance they ascribe to these dimensions.

Hello, questioner.

My name is Liu, and I am a listener.

Let me give you a warm hug first.

After reading your statement, it is clear to me that in today's society, "happiness" is generally considered a goal that people pursue. Although it is a "goal," there has never been a clear assessment dimension in our lives. It is strange that we always mention "happiness," but we seem unable to say what it is. If we don't understand what we are seeking, how can we achieve it? I am grateful that you wrote down this question. Discussing it from different perspectives will help us see our own happiness.

1. Our interpretation of words often reflects our expectations of ourselves. Everyone has a different understanding of happiness.

I asked my grandparents what happiness is, and they said that being healthy and free from illness and disaster, and being able to eat and wear warm clothes is happiness. I asked my parents what happiness is, and they said that having successful children and a happy family is happiness. I also asked my peers, and some said that having a car and a house, and a career that is going up the ladder is happiness, while others would say that meeting the right person and having a good intimate relationship is happiness, and still others would say that having good interpersonal relationships and close friends is happiness. Of course, some people will tell me that inner peace and spiritual abundance is happiness.

I am happy.

Everyone will give me an answer.

Many people use this answer as a standard to assess whether you are happy. If there is a difference between your perception of your happiness and how others perceive it, they will think you are unhappy. You are only considered happy when you have achieved the happiness that others think you have.

I am just as confused as you are about the many answers to the question of happiness. If happiness has so many dimensions, then to be happy, to obtain the label of "happy," we must be strong and rich inside, have a great social status, and be materially wealthy. We must also achieve great success in our careers, have a perfect lover and a very perfect family, and even have cute children in our own marriage. When I think about it like this, happiness is simply a very difficult exam paper, and we must obtain a high score.

We must escape the state of unhappiness and avoid becoming someone who is unhappy.

2. Happiness is a macroscopic word, and people will have different perceptions of it.

Second, happiness is a macroscopic word, and people will have different perceptions of it.

(1) In the broad definition of happiness that we know, happiness is a positive word.

Your question is whether happiness is an eternal state or an instantaneous feeling. The answer is that happiness is a continuous state. It is important to distinguish happiness from pleasure and joy.

Pleasure is an immediate physical satisfaction that can be achieved by completing a specific event (such as drinking a cold drink), and the time is often measured in seconds. Happiness is a more lasting state of physical and mental pleasure that can be achieved by completing a task (such as a picnic), and the time is often measured in days. Happiness is a long-term state of spiritual abundance.

Happiness is a state of satisfaction when one's spiritual consciousness is aware of oneself.

Happiness is a state of satisfaction when one's spiritual consciousness is aware of oneself.

Happiness is a personal perception. In psychology, we often use "subjective well-being" to describe the degree of happiness. Let me be clear: what determines whether people are happy is not what actually happens, but rather how people emotionally interpret what happens and how they cognitively process it.

Happiness is a personal perception. In psychology, we often use "subjective well-being" to describe the degree of happiness. What determines whether people are happy is not what actually happens, but how people emotionally interpret what has happened and what cognitive processing they engage in. The book "Psychology of Happiness" also states that "whether a person is happy or not depends entirely on how they subjectively evaluate their life and on their subjective feelings."

It has three characteristics: subjectivity, stability, and integrity. Of course, our evaluation of our own feelings is also influenced by the important people around us, social relationships, and other factors.

(3) The lexical description of happiness and the relevant psychological definitions make it clear that there is no absolute standard answer to the question of "happiness." However, society often has very specific requirements for whether a person is happy.

(3) From the verbal description of happiness and the relevant psychological definitions, it is clear that there is no absolute standard answer to the question of "happiness." However, society often has very specific requirements for whether a person is happy.

If you think you have to be "like everyone else" to meet the standards, you will have psychological anxiety about self-identity and a negative psychological suggestion that "I am not happy." It's not because there are too many answers to happiness that we feel the pain of being unhappy. We constantly internalize the projections of others on us and force the happiness yardstick of others onto ourselves.

We must not overlook the following important point:

We must not overlook the following important point:

We must ask ourselves: are we pursuing our own happiness?

Or are we simply chasing happiness in the eyes of others?

3. Based on your questions, I am going to offer the following suggestions, which are based on my personal opinions and are for your reference.

(1) Don't make happiness into an exam. We can have our own "independent coordinates" of happiness.

(1) Don't turn happiness into an exam. We can have our own "independent coordinates" of happiness.

As I said before, everyone's idea of happiness is different. I can't say with certainty that their happiness isn't real. After all, happiness is a subjective feeling. It can come from having basic needs met, achieving personal goals, or gaining spiritual fulfillment. We need to respect that everyone has a different perception of happiness based on their unique experiences. But most importantly, we need to ask ourselves: What is my definition of happiness?

And respect your own definition of happiness.

(2) Look at the underlying psychological issues when you feel unhappy.

(2) When we feel "unhappy," we must examine the underlying psychological issues.

It is challenging to establish your own cognitive assessment system. Each of us is navigating the river and questioning ourselves. At some point in our growth, we will try to avoid marginalization by meeting the absolute requirements of others. But when we desperately chase after other people's answers, we lose ourselves. People become insecure and question their sense of self-identity.

It is often accompanied by psychological problems and difficulties. At this time, you must be more self-aware, see your inner feelings, see your inner resources, and regain your energy for happiness. Read relevant books or seek professional counseling.

That's all I have to say.

Thank you for reading.

I wish you the best.

I am a listening therapist at One Psychology.

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Hello, my name is Beric.

In my view, when we discuss happiness, we are actually delving into a profound and personal concept. Happiness is not a specific, quantifiable goal, but rather a subjective feeling that arises from our inner contentment and pleasure.

It can be said that everyone has a different definition of happiness. For some, it may mean family harmony and warmth; for others, it may represent career success and achievement; and for others, it may mean having true friendship and love.

It is therefore fair to say that happiness is a multifaceted and personal concept, and that it cannot be measured by a single standard.

However, although happiness is difficult to quantify, there are ways to perceive and pursue it. First, it would be helpful to understand our own inner needs and be clear about what we really want.

This may entail some self-reflection and in-depth thinking. Secondly, we could consider adjusting our mindset and attitude, and facing the challenges and difficulties in life with a more positive and optimistic attitude.

In this way, we may be able to better discover the beauty and happiness in life.

Additionally, there are other ways to pursue happiness. For instance, we can spend time with our loved ones, sharing our joy and sorrow with them. We can also dedicate ourselves to our passions, striving to achieve our dreams and goals. Furthermore, we can engage in activities that bring us joy and enrich our lives.

These actions have the potential to bring us inner satisfaction and joy, which could enhance our sense of well-being.

In conclusion, happiness is a personal and complex concept that requires us to embrace it fully. Each person's happiness is unique and cannot be measured by a single standard.

If we can understand our inner needs, face life with a positive attitude, and take concrete actions to pursue happiness, we may be able to find our own share of happiness.

I wish you the best.

I know I didn't get it across the first time, so I'll try again!

1. When we talk about happiness, what are we really after?

? And you know what? Pursuing inner peace, pursuing the realization of dreams, pursuing happiness, and discussing happiness itself is also happiness.

2. In today's society, we generally believe that happiness is a goal to be pursued. But what is happiness?

Happiness is all about having a good relationship with others. It's about being there for each other, supporting each other, understanding each other, and sharing the good times and the bad times together.

3 Is it something that lasts forever, or is it just a quick feeling?

We're going to work hard to make those fleeting feelings of happiness last! We'll keep them in our hearts and be able to call them up at any time!

4. Is it made up of material wealth, career achievements, interpersonal relationships, or spiritual inner satisfaction?

Our sense of inner contentment, fulfillment, the feeling of self-worth and acceptance by society—this wonderful state of affairs helps us in so many ways! It allows us to bring our strengths to bear, have a good career, and a rich inner life, with enough material to spend.

5. I wonder if, in our quest for happiness, we sometimes overlook some other important things?

In our quest for happiness, we sometimes forget to stop and rest, and we might miss out on the happiness that's right in front of us.

6. How is happiness defined and measured?

If you have to measure it, I bet you smiled when you read this article! And when your family comes home, I'm sure you greet them with a smile.

When you go out, don't you just love greeting the cleaning lady in the elevator, the security guard at the door, and the volunteer sorting the garbage with a smile and saying "hello"?

How many times do you laugh from the bottom of your heart in a day? I bet it's more than you think! ???

And the more, the more often happiness will come a-knockin' on your door!

You should smile just like a flower blooming!

How do you think happiness is defined and measured?

We all want to be happy, and we often think that the best way to do that is to pursue material things and a higher quality of life. But what is a material life really? It's just having higher quality goods.

For example, luxury goods, high-end objects, designer bags or luxury cars, luxury homes. But in my opinion, the pursuit of material happiness

It's a happiness that doesn't last. But there is another way to find happiness that lasts. It's the pursuit of spiritual wealth that gives us the ability to sustainably achieve happiness.

This spiritual richness is reflected in my kind heart; my determination in doing things; my stable emotions; and my all-embracing mind.

In the past, I might have gotten a little upset if someone gave me a funny look. It would sometimes affect my mood for the rest of the day! Or maybe there was a minor disagreement with my family, and we would have a little tiff.

Or maybe it was just one day when I couldn't take a criticism from my boss or my parents. But now something has changed! After experiencing these things, my heart is much more at peace.

I'm happy to say that I can now accept things that are not just limited to the past.

Oh, what happened? What kind of things have caused such a big change in me?

I think it all started when I first started learning about psychology and began to understand myself better. It's funny, the me I see in the mirror and the me others see are not the same person. I guess only I can truly know who I am.

I might not even know which one is me! Some of my thoughts might be the work of my ego.

Or maybe it was one day when I was getting ready to go out and choosing what to wear. I was all ready to go, but then I remembered another outfit that I thought looked better. A little voice inside me kept saying that this outfit wasn't as good-looking as the other one.

Then I listened to this voice again, put the shirt back on, and kept obsessing about it. I felt so anxious, poor me!

Or maybe one day, my family was going on a trip, and the whole time I was worried about whether the trip would be safe. I was so worried! I later realized that it might have been the ego at work.

When I started to become aware, I slowly began to understand some psychological knowledge. These worries and these entanglements.

It seems to be the voice of the ego, not my own voice. Since that day,

I've learned not to worry so much because I know that worry is something that comes from the mind, not something that will actually happen. So why don't I just live in the present moment peacefully?

When I live in the present moment, I feel so peaceful! It helps me focus on whatever I'm doing at the time. It's a wonderful state of mind that allows me to enjoy a happy life.

Or maybe one day I read a quote that said the process of accepting oneself is a process of getting to know oneself completely. To accept oneself means to accept all the ways you see yourself in your current state.

And what kind of life are you living, my friend? What kind of relationship do you have with other people?

It's so important to accept yourself, warts and all! I used to hate the way I looked, chubby and not good in any clothes, so I would buy clothes whenever I saw them.

But when I look back at all those clothes, it's a sign that I'm not totally happy with myself. I guess I'm just a bit dissatisfied with who I am, and it all comes out when I look in the mirror.

Then, this mood can lead you to eat foods that give you more energy, but after eating them, you might feel even more dissatisfied and want to lose weight. This can create a cycle where the more you want to lose weight, the more you eat, and the fatter you get. It can be hard to lose weight when you're gaining more of it!

One day, I came across a sentence that really resonated with me: "Accepting oneself is the first step to loving oneself." I took a moment to reflect and really look at myself with kindness.

I looked at my chubby face and big belly. I used to find it really annoying, but now I feel differently. I see that the flesh growing on my belly is where I vent my emotions, and it is suffering from the pain of my emotions.

And my poor stomach! I was eating too much every day, and I was drinking cold drinks too. My body was hot and cold at the same time, but I felt like eating. I never paid attention to my stomach.

I just couldn't hold it in any longer! I burst into tears the moment I looked at my body and gently touched my stomach. I realized that my poor stomach and belly had suffered so much, all because of the harm caused by my emotions, dissatisfaction, and hatred.

At that moment, I just started crying. I had never really thought about my body before.

At that moment, I told myself to love my body well, and from that moment on, amazing things started happening! I was no longer interested in those high-energy sweet foods, and in the morning, I no longer wanted to eat big bowls of dumplings, noodles, and rice noodles.

I felt like eating something more nutritious to give my body a little boost.

My diet and tastes suddenly seemed to have changed, but I didn't notice these changes in time. I only realized them later when I looked back.

When I eat, I don't overeat. It seems that when I'm hungry, I'll eat a little more. But as soon as I feel full, I can't eat any more of those things.

That's it! Over the course of a year, I slowly lost 20 pounds. It wasn't a quick weight loss, but it was worth it!

It's not the kind of wrinkling that happens all at once, but the kind that changes gradually. I think it's because some of the body's waste and dampness has been excreted, which is great news!

The edema has gone, and I'm feeling really healthy now!

Later on, I had a big realization: happiness is a state of mind! It's something you're born with. You don't need to look for it outside.

All you have to do is take care of yourself, and you can ask for anything you want from within.

Your heart and your body will tell you everything you need to know. I've found that feeling full and abundant has brought me so much happiness!

Good morning, I'm Ruifeng. Let me extend a warm welcome to you. The questions you posed are very thought-provoking, which demonstrates that you have given them considerable consideration. I will endeavor to comprehend and examine these matters from my perspective.

1. In today's society, the pursuit of love/how-to-cope-with-the-pressure-and-unhappiness-of-being-an-older-unmarried-woman-how-to-adjust-ones-psychology-6156.html" target="_blank">happiness is a common goal. However, what is happiness?

The concept of happiness is subjective and varies from one individual to another. Additionally, the pursuit of a happy life is influenced by one's experiences and upbringing. In most cases, individuals associate a happy life with financial stability, a fulfilling career, and a harmonious family.

However, in my counseling work, I see many people who have a good job and sufficient financial resources, but still feel unhappy. Your question, "Is it made up of material wealth, career achievements, interpersonal relationships, or spiritual inner satisfaction?,"

"Indeed, this is an excellent response to your initial inquiry. It also demonstrates that you are already engaged in introspective endeavors and possess your own perspectives. I commend you. When we are financially secure, we tend to prioritize our physical and mental well-being, recognize our own needs, learn to care for ourselves, fulfill our spiritual requirements, and address the physical and spiritual needs that have been overlooked in the pursuit of material gain.

Therefore, happiness is comprised of both material abundance and spiritual abundance, which complement and supplement each other.

2. Is it a state of eternity or a feeling of the moment? In our pursuit of happiness, do we sometimes neglect certain more important elements?

How is happiness defined and measured?

This question brings to mind a saying: "All that changes in the universe is constant. It means that change is normal, and there is never a kind of eternal constancy. All constancy is only a relative feeling. When it comes to eternity, it is reminiscent of the concept of conservation. Although many things change, some things remain the same. That is love.

The positive memories of my parents from my childhood, which evoke a sense of warmth, are a transient sensation. They will be etched in our minds like photographs, and whenever we recall them, we will feel a profound sense of affection and comfort. This is the essence of love.

Deep in our subconscious, we have always loved our parents, and regardless of their actions in real life, we express our love for them in our own way. When we are connected and open enough to our hearts, we will understand our love for ourselves, our parents, and the world.

When we know how to love ourselves, we will be able to identify and achieve happiness. We will understand what happiness looks like in our hearts and be able to create happiness for ourselves. Each of us deserves a happy life, and we all have the ability to create a happy life for ourselves. Let us be sure of that and cheer together.

Love is at the core of our being, and it is present in the world around us. I extend my love to you.

Hello!

You seem interested in the topic of happiness, and I'm interested in sharing my experiences and feelings on the topic.

You say most people pursue happiness.

Happiness is a kind of relaxation, calmness, and joyful experience of living in the present. If you chase happiness, it requires a lot of willpower and perseverance. When you encounter misfortune on the road to happiness, it's harder to find happiness.

The unfortunate will only see misfortune, and it will only get worse. Nobel Prize-winning economist Daniel Kahneman also said that what is gained has less of an impact on people than what is lost.

I've also learned what happiness means to me. You may have already thought about this: "What is happiness? How do we define it?"

In today's fast-paced world, we're flooded with information, making it hard to know what we truly want. Designer handbags, luxury cars, good relationships, and successful careers all make us compare ourselves to others. We think, "If we had XXX, we'd be happy." We're always chasing happiness, forgetting what we need right now.

Know yourself by figuring out your real needs now. Is what I pursue, what I long for, what others long for or possess, really what I want?

Know yourself by figuring out your real needs now. Is what I pursue, what I long for, what others long for or possess, really what I want?

Can I be happy with these things? Finding your own rhythm is the happiest thing in the world.

Knowing yourself and what you want makes you happier. This is something we all have to do at some point.

If we know ourselves and what we want, we'll feel relaxed and happy. This is something we all have to face. There will always be a time when we think about it.

Studies show that when we pursue something, the happiness it brings is poor. The pursuit of happiness is the same.

You don't have to wait for someone to tell you the answer. You can find the answer along the way. It's like traveling alone. You don't have to wait for someone to set off with you. You can find like-minded people along the way.

Try your best and be happy with yourself. Don't be too hard on yourself. Just do a little bit at a time.

It's great to be happy.

I hope this helps.

Best wishes! Love,

Hello, I'm Jingxian, and I'm thrilled to be here!

I can see the doubts you have raised, and I'm excited to answer your question: What is happiness? In the final analysis, happiness is a feeling. It's a sense of stability, a sense of security, a sense of satisfaction, a sense of pleasure... There are so many words to describe this incredible feeling!

But there's no need to worry about measuring this feeling, because people are born different and people's feelings are also different. There's no way to determine your sense of happiness and his happiness with a universal "international standard," but that's okay! Some people live a simple life, not seeking fame and fortune, but are contented.

Some people are wealthy, have a motorhome, but are depressed and anxious, unable to eat or sleep.

But essentially, happiness is a state of high energy. It is linked to a state of life that is open, inclusive, compassionate, and joyful. And when our lives are open and connected to all things, this sense of happiness can be endless!

Happiness sought from the outside is fleeting and transient, like fetching things from outside to the home, which is dependent on the outside world. But linking up with the world, giving, and being altruistic is the only way to feel the endless flow of energy and experience the happiness that comes from within life!

I feel complete already! I don't need fame and fortune, the approval of others, or a house, car, or money. The joy of life is innate and comes with no strings attached! It's like weeds growing tenaciously in the cracks of stones. It's the instinct of life to grow upwards, and to be alive is to be happy!

Good. I'm glad we can discuss this together.

We agree that happiness is a goal to be pursued. But what is happiness?

The book The Book of Nawal states that happiness is a skill. The author of The Way to Happiness asserts that happiness should be defined as "the combination of joy and meaning." Truly happy people enjoy every moment of their lives in a way that makes sense to them.

Happiness is an internal feeling and a very subjective concept. It is therefore inevitable that its definition and measurement will vary from person to person. For some people, happiness may be a lasting state, while for others it may be a fleeting feeling.

Happiness is made up of many factors, including material wealth, career success, relationships, and spiritual fulfillment. The importance of these factors varies from person to person.

Some people are driven by wealth and career achievements, while others prioritize interpersonal relationships and inner satisfaction.

In our pursuit of happiness, we must make time to ask ourselves what we really want and listen to our inner feelings.

The way happiness is measured also varies from person to person. Some measure happiness through material wealth and social status, while others place more emphasis on emotional fulfillment and inner peace.

The most common way to measure happiness is through a person's subjective feelings and satisfaction.

Read these books: "The Way to Happiness" and "The Navarre Treasury."

The world and I love you. You are blessed.

You've brought up a great point! Happiness is a complex and subjective concept that everyone experiences in their own way.

Some folks are lucky enough to experience happiness all the time. They love the stability and harmony of life! Others find happiness in the joy of accomplishing important goals.

Happiness is related to so many things, isn't it? Material wealth, career achievements, interpersonal relationships, spiritual inner satisfaction — they all play a part. But they're not the whole story. In our pursuit of happiness, we sometimes overlook some important elements. Inner peace, deep connections with others, and a love and gratitude for life are all part of the picture, too.

There's no one right way to define happiness. It's something you experience and feel on a personal level.

I'd love to try to give you some advice, hoping it'll help you out along the way!

First, take a deep breath and look within yourself. Ask yourself what you really want.

What are your values? When you gain a deeper understanding of your inner world, you can more easily find things that make you happy.

Second, learn to be grateful and cherish! There are so many beautiful moments and things in life, but we often ignore them because we're just too busy or in the habit of doing so.

Take a moment to notice the things that make you feel warm and happy. Think about all the wonderful things in your life, like spending time with your loved ones, a job well done, or a breathtaking natural scene. When you're in a grateful mindset, you'll find yourself cherishing these moments even more, making it easier to feel that warm, happy feeling.

And there's another thing: building good relationships with others is also a great way to experience happiness. Share your joys and sorrows with close friends, family, or a partner, and let them be your supporters and companions in life.

And don't forget to care about and understand others! This will help you gain more warmth and happiness from your relationships.

And finally, don't forget to take care of your body and mind! Making sure you eat right, exercise regularly, and get enough sleep will give you more energy to enjoy all the good things in life.

And don't forget, learning to adjust your mindset and staying optimistic and positive is also the key to experiencing happiness!

❗Just remember, finding and experiencing happiness is a long-term process that requires patience and persistence. As long as you are willing to explore and practice, I truly believe you will find your own path to happiness!

Good morning, my name is Luo Hongmei, and I am a listening coach. I can discern a certain confusion on the part of the audience regarding the concept of happiness, and I believe this is a sentiment shared by many individuals.

Discussing happiness is a common practice, both historically and in the present. It is a topic that is widely discussed and a source of enduring interest, yet it is challenging to arrive at a definitive understanding of its nature and the factors that contribute to it.

I frequently inquire of myself, "What is the happiness I am pursuing?" During my period of study, I believed that happiness was gaining admittance to the educational institution of my choice. Subsequent to my graduation, I considered happiness to be obtaining the position of my choice. After embarking on my professional career, I perceived happiness to be finding a partner who loved me. Following my marriage, I thought that happiness was raising my children well. After having children, I considered happiness to be moving to a larger residence.

It appears that my pursuit of happiness undergoes changes at each stage of my life. However, the emotional state that happiness evokes in me remains consistent, manifesting as a sense of self-identification.

In the pursuit of happiness, individuals tend to engage in comparative thinking, evaluating themselves in relation to others on a range of characteristics, including appearance, body shape, partner, children, wealth, and achievements. This process, however, can lead to a loss of self-identity and the happiness that is intrinsic to the self.

You inquired as to what one seeks when discussing happiness.

I believe that the answers can be found within ourselves, in our lives, in the daily routine, and in our interpersonal relationships. By simply observing our lives on a daily basis, we can undoubtedly identify the answers.

If one is still uncertain as to how to proceed, one may consider the practice of writing down three minor things for which one is grateful each day. For example, one might note that one had breakfast on time that day, that one did not lose one's temper with one's child, or that one assisted a colleague with a task.

It is my sincere hope that you will be able to identify and achieve your own personal sense of happiness.

My name is Luo Hongmei, and I am a psychological counselor at One Mind. Should you have any issues you would like to discuss, I will be available on the listening platform.

Hello, question asker! I'm San San, and I want to thank you for asking such a meaningful and thought-provoking question.

I'll start by answering these questions briefly (just for reference).

1. Happiness is a feeling that can't be defined. It's an unordered collection of all the feelings of happiness in the world.

2. Happiness is something you can't measure in time, so there's no such thing as eternity or the moment. It only exists when you feel it (the subject).

3. Happiness is about finding a balance between external things and your internal spirit. It's a combination of the two. (The balance isn't 50-50, but rather a situation where the proportions of both sides may change but the balance is still maintained.)

4. Happiness includes all of these things. If you think you're missing something, take a step back and think about what you're really after.

5. You can't really define or measure happiness in terms of a concept.

First, the question talks about "happiness is a pursuit of goals." I think it's worth adding that the happiness we each pursue and feel might not be the same.

I believe that happiness is not something to be actively pursued, but rather a feeling that can arise from time to time. It can be experienced in simple moments, such as the warmth of a heater in winter, the pleasure of eating watermelon in summer while blowing on a fan, being listened to when confiding in someone, the streetlamp overhead when walking at night, a smiling face, the sun enveloping everything, and the moonlight shining on the ground.

However, this feeling can't be generalized, and it can't be said that happiness is just these examples I've given. Before I continue with the answer, I'd like to tell a story, but I'll make it short.

You might have heard the story of the Wall Street businessman and the fisherman.

A businessman asked a fisherman who had just finished fishing, "How long does it take you to catch fish every day, and what do you do with the rest of your time?"

The fisherman replied, "I usually sleep in, go fishing, play with my kids for a while, take a nap with my wife at noon, go for a walk in the village every night, have a few drinks, play guitar with friends. I have a very full life, sir."

The merchant wasn't totally satisfied with the answer, so he taught the fisherman a few tricks for making money from fishing and told him to give it a try.

After hearing this, the fisherman asked, "How long will it take to achieve it?"

The businessman replied, "Maybe 10 to 20 years."

"And what will I do afterwards?"

"After that, you can retire to a small fishing village by the sea, sleep in, go fishing, drink a little wine, and play with your kids..."

We all seek and feel happiness in different ways. It's because we're all unique that there's no one-size-fits-all definition of happiness. As long as it's what makes us happy, that's the answer.

A businessman might tell a fisherman to expand his business, thinking that the fisherman will be happier that way. But the fisherman is happy just the way he is, and he doesn't need to leave here, go around in circles, and come back. He has his own answer, and that is his happiness.

What is happiness? It's a collection of everyone's happiness, in whatever form it takes.

Secondly, if we define happiness as "feeling warm or happy," it can be eternal or fleeting.

Happiness is a state of mind, not a physical object. You can define a physical object, like a stone. When I see a stone, I know for sure that it is a stone.

So, I see someone crying, I see someone smiling, I see someone complaining. Are they happy?

Happiness can be fleeting. It's not something you can simply switch on and off like a light. It's something you have to feel.

Sometimes we can't feel happy because we're not satisfied. It comes from our pursuit of a better goal and life, and from our unwillingness to accept ourselves and accept our current selves.

This "dissatisfaction" can give us the motivation to become a better version of ourselves. But don't forget, you are already great just the way you are. You have already come this far, and that is great! We are constantly improving.

So, how do we feel happy? Well, you can start by feeling the day's events!

Take a moment to appreciate the simple things in life, like the feeling of your feet touching the ground, the sun shining on your body, smiling at the people you love, or eating your favorite food. Happiness can be found in the little things.

Finally, Baidu says that happiness depends on whether you can achieve your goals and your ability to achieve them. If you can do both, you'll be happy.

But do you really want to hear me say that? Of course not. Otherwise, you wouldn't have asked a question that you could have found the answer to with a simple search. Maybe what you really want to know is a new possibility, a possibility that touches your inner self.

Based on the above definition, we could interpret it like this:

If I want to be happy, I have to have a goal and achieve it. Otherwise, I'm not really happy. Other feelings of happiness aren't really happiness either, because I haven't achieved my goal or I don't think I can.

Of course, this is a pretty extreme interpretation. But when we hit roadblocks and feel the heat, it's tough to say we wouldn't think this way.

So, the real definition of happiness is that there is no definition.

At the beginning, I asked a question: "Is the happiness that each of us seeks and feels the same?"

After our discussion, I have to say that the answer is no.

It might sound a bit out there, but I find happiness in using my experience and knowledge to help others. It's a great feeling to be able to help! (This also shows that happiness can be actively pursued rather than passively waited for.)

I'd also suggest taking a look at Harvard University's "Positive Psychology Open Course," which goes into more detail about happiness.

I'm really happy to have answered this question, and I hope that my answer will be a little bit of inspiration and a useful reference for the person who asked it.

Hello, landlord. Your question is very thought-provoking.

Your question reminds me of the movie The Curious Case of Benjamin Button, which is a very interesting film.

After watching that movie, it really stuck with me. As you said, my friends around me are focused on material things, fame, and fortune. They have dreams, pursuits, and goals. I used to think that people would only be happy after achieving their goals. But after reaching that goal, I realized that happiness is fleeting. Even without a new goal, it seems that life has lost its meaning.

Have you ever thought about whether the goal you're pursuing is just a result you want to achieve? If so, what will happen to the meaning of that result once you achieve it? It might be worth thinking about what's making you happy in the pursuit of that result. Could it be that it comes from unmet needs that were affirmed when you were young?

When we meet our basic needs and follow the underlying logic, we can nurture ourselves, and happiness and joy will gradually come closer to us.

This movie's main message is that long-term happiness often comes from the process.

The scenery we see and experience along the way, while working towards a goal... When we're focused on the end result, we often miss the happiness in the process.

So, happiness isn't about chasing a so-called result. It's about appreciating the little things in the process of pursuing it, like our feelings and experiences. They might seem small, but if we're open to noticing them, they can make us feel happy. And there's plenty of happiness around us. What we might lack is the ability to perceive it.

Wishing you a happy day!

When I first saw the question, I was also a bit confused. This is something I often think about myself.

What is happiness? It's a feeling, a state of being.

This feeling or state includes the peace and calm brought by a sense of security, the comfort and satisfaction brought by material abundance, the warmth and joy brought by interpersonal harmony, and the ultimate recognition of oneself after striving for and succeeding.

This is what I've learned about happiness in this price range.

Everyone's experiences are different, and so are their needs. That means their experiences of happiness will be different, too. I think there is one thing that is more or less the same for everyone. When your needs are met, you feel happy, safe, respected, understood, and needed.

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I think what we're really after is the satisfaction of these needs.

Could it be that in our pursuit of happiness, we sometimes overlook some more important elements? The question is whether there are other elements involved in the process.

Or are there certain elements that influence the experience of pursuing happiness? From my experience, when I pursue happiness as a goal, I carefully analyze, study hard, and exert myself in what I think is the right place, the worthwhile place. The result is that the harder I exert myself, the deeper I fall.

Does the pursuit itself imply a certain lack? Seeing, understanding, and letting go are like the green grassland. No matter which way you go, it is the road.

What do I want? What have I done?

What do I have to work with? Let's just get started.

How is happiness defined and measured?

My take on this question is that when I try to define happiness in a fixed way and use that as a standard, I end up feeling less happy. I'm more concerned about why I'm not in the happy state I want to be in.

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After all this discussion, it seems that we still don't have a clear answer about what happiness really is. But it seems that happiness is just like this.

Wishing you blessings, gratitude, and the privilege of being together!

Good morning. It is beneficial to engage in discourse on this subject. When we discuss happiness, what is the objective and how is it defined and measured?

Indeed, the concept of happiness is subjective and varies from one individual to another, influenced by diverse growth experiences, living environments, and varying needs for happiness.

The Pursuit of Happiness

Happiness for me personally is contingent upon a shift in perspective. Rather than seeking to improve one's circumstances to align with those of others, it is more beneficial to focus on personal growth and development. The happiest individuals are not those who blindly follow the norms of society, but rather those who strive to live a life that is authentically aligned with their values and aspirations. Embracing personal growth and authenticity allows individuals to cultivate a rich inner life, which in turn enriches their external experiences. By nurturing one's inner world, individuals can avoid the regret and emptiness that often result from a narrow focus on external circumstances. Instead, they can embrace a life of meaning and fulfillment, rooted in the present moment and the joy of the journey.

The concept of "perceived happiness"

An individual's capacity to perceive happiness serves as an indicator of the overall quality of their life. The ability to experience happiness represents the process of developing a comprehensive value system tailored to their unique needs and preferences. This process is influenced by the individual's perception of what contributes to their happiness. If an individual possesses a well-structured and logical value system and aligns their actions with these values, they are more likely to experience happiness. Conversely, if an individual's happiness is contingent upon external factors such as material possessions, social status, or the pursuit of superiority in a competitive environment, they may face challenges in achieving lasting happiness.

One may either experience regret at the lack of achievement or finally achieve the desired result, but the process may be lengthy and exhausting. The choice of values to inform one's life is therefore crucial.

The notion that "happiness is contentment" is a widely held belief.

The key to contentment is not the absolute quantity of one's possessions, but rather the discrepancy between one's current holdings and one's desired holdings. This discrepancy is the crucial factor in determining one's level of contentment. It is possible that one may already possess sufficient resources, yet continue to wait for a particular number to be reached, thereby preventing one from attaining a state of contentment.

Once a certain number is reached, the individual will invariably begin to consider an even larger number. It is a common phenomenon for people to set themselves new goals in order to feel fulfilled and motivated in life.

The question arises as to why people consistently seek to accumulate more. It is not uncommon for individuals to pursue wealth or material possessions that exceed their actual needs. This phenomenon can be attributed to the prolonged process of human evolution, during which people have endured hunger, cold, hardship, and danger. This is an instinctual response. People tend to desire possession of more things and are perpetually in a state of fear regarding their survival. Wealth can be likened to the sea; the more one drinks, the more thirsty one becomes. Consequently, individuals who are happy and contented are always happy.

One form of happiness is the anticipation of an event or outcome.

The moments of happiness that we experience are not actually determined by possession, but rather by anticipation. The feeling that we are about to obtain something is what truly makes us happy. This is why Friday is always perceived as a more joyful day than Sunday. On Friday, we know that we are about to embark on a two-day holiday. However, when Sunday arrives, we feel that the holiday has already passed. This can lead to feelings of sadness and worry about the future. Therefore, it can be argued that what is truly rare is not possession, but rather the anticipation of possession and the feeling that we are about to obtain it. This is why we experience extreme happiness when we are close to obtaining something, but when we finally obtain it, we start to worry about losing it.

The notion that happiness can be achieved by living in the present is a widely held belief.

It is important to remember that each individual's lifetime is finite and that there is no guarantee of an afterlife. Fixating on the idea of an alternative reality can prevent one from fully engaging with the challenges of the present. This can lead to difficulties in understanding and addressing problems, ultimately hindering one's ability to overcome them. When faced with significant difficulties or pain, it is crucial to identify the underlying issue and develop a solution. Instead of dwelling on the imagined perfection of an alternative future, it is essential to focus on the present and take action. This requires a balance between gentleness and firmness, avoiding excessive demands and living in the moment.

Happiness is a state of mind that can be cultivated through a positive outlook and a sense of contentment. It is not dependent on external factors.

Indeed, the path to happiness is quite straightforward. The key lies in one's own state of mind. It is essential to work diligently when circumstances demand it, to enjoy oneself when the opportunity arises, and to approach both gains and losses with an appropriate mindset. It is crucial not to allow these factors to overwhelm one's emotional state or to dwell excessively on the potential outcome. Instead, it is vital to focus on the present moment.

It is my sincere hope that I can play a role in assisting you to achieve a state of mind that will enable you to cease worrying about happiness and to enjoy the present.

From the question, it's clear the questioner cares about quality of life and has a strong sense of self-awareness and exploration. When we talk about happiness, it's mainly about the following:

1. Emotional satisfaction is the experience of positive emotions such as happiness, pleasure, and satisfaction. These emotions may come from various beautiful moments in life, such as reunions with friends and family, and the sense of accomplishment from achieving goals.

2. Quality of life: This is about the richness of one's material life, including economic status, living environment, and health. A stable economic foundation, a comfortable living environment, and good health are essential for happiness.

3. Social relationships: This includes the degree of harmony in interpersonal relationships with family, friends, colleagues, etc. Good social relationships provide us with emotional support, information sharing, and resource sharing, thereby enhancing our sense of well-being.

4. Self-realization: This is the growth and progress of individuals in their careers, interests, skills, etc. Through continuous hard work and pursuit, self-worth is realized, and this is an important source of happiness.

When these needs are met, it makes us happy and comfortable in the present, and gives us confidence and hope for the future. This is what happiness is: a sense of inner satisfaction.

There is no fixed standard for measuring happiness.

Happiness is subjective. Everyone's feelings and perceptions of happiness differ. Some value material happiness, such as wealth and status. Others value spiritual happiness, such as inner peace and harmonious relationships with others.

When you have been busy all day and finally have time to listen to music while drinking tea, you are happy. When a patient who has long been bedridden due to the aftereffects of a cerebral hemorrhage can finally walk like a normal person one day, you are happy.

From this perspective, it is clear that happiness is not a fixed standard. However, there is one obvious characteristic: living in the present and enjoying the present.

I highly recommend this book on self-growth and happiness. It will help you broaden your perspective on happiness. The book is called Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience, and it was written by Mihály Csíkszentmihályi.

The book provides a comprehensive explanation of the theory of flow, the conditions for entering the flow state, and how to enter the flow state from various aspects such as daily life, leisure and entertainment, work, and interpersonal relationships. It is a fact that many times when we are doing something we really like, something challenging and we are good at, it is easy to experience flow. This can be observed in activities such as hiking, swimming, playing ball games, playing games, reading, playing a musical instrument, and when working.

If you're a psychology enthusiast or researcher, "Flow" is essential for understanding positive psychology. For the general reader, it's a practical guide to improving happiness and efficiency.

I am Deng Hong, a listening therapist. Every voice in your heart is worth listening to, and I will listen with all my heart. Chat with me.

Hello, questioner.

From your questions, I get the sense that you're a bit confused about how to achieve happiness.

Yes, everyone has a different idea of what happiness is. Some people think that wealth and freedom are the keys to happiness, while others feel that having children is enough. Some believe that only those with power and wealth can be happy. And then there are those who feel that inner wealth is happiness.

As a Buddhist, I used to have trouble understanding what the master was saying when he chanted, "Let go of greed, anger and ignorance in your heart." But now that I've become more spiritually rich and am less influenced by the outside world, I understand. Let go of our greed and unwillingness to accept wealth, power, and so on. Let go of our anger and resentment towards injustice and the world. Let go of our immature thoughts and foolishness.

If you're open-minded, loving, and confident, no matter what the circumstances, you'll feel happy.

As you mentioned, is happiness something you pursue in life, or is it more of a feeling? Is it something that lasts forever, or is it more like a passing moment?

I think there's no one right answer.

As long as we have the right mindset, happiness is always within reach. Life is a multifaceted journey, and those who feel lost tend to narrow their focus to one aspect.

Some people find walking too much of a hassle and want to take a car, while others find sitting in a car too boring and want to walk.

When we reach a certain level in life, we can experience happiness from both a privileged life and a hard life. This helps us understand what happiness is really about.

It's an unending chain of happy moments.

If you repeat to yourself, "I believe my life has always been happy," you'll find yourself on the road to happiness.

The world and I are rooting for you!

Happiness seems simple, but it's like the clouds in the sky: you can only see a soft mass, but you don't know what it means.

"There are a thousand Hamlets in a thousand people," and happiness is no different. Many studies have been done to define happiness, and many books have been written about it. But the simple two words have a vast textual interpretation.

But we know that counseling and therapy work because changes must occur within the visitor or patient.

Happiness is the same. Insights are just illustrations and references. There are always similarities and differences between us. We pursue happiness to become ourselves.

When I am myself, I feel happy. This can be when we love someone, when we are focused on what we love, or when we enjoy nature. It can also be when we cook and share a meal with family and friends.

Is happiness something you find or something you pursue? When you're being yourself, happiness is there. It's all around you, but you have to be open to it.

Hello, question asker. I see you're confused. I'm here to help!

Happiness is different for everyone.

A child will tell you that the day the teacher said they didn't have to go to school was happy. Or maybe the teacher was too busy to assign homework, so they could play and watch TV at home.

He may feel happy when his mother lets him eat candy.

A homeless person is happy when someone invites them to eat a hot meal.

If you ask a worker, he'll say that when he doesn't have to work on weekends, he can sleep until noon and then his wife has lunch ready. That's happiness.

Happiness can come from wealth, work, and relationships. But it can also end quickly.

If you think you're happy in a duplex, but then you find out someone else lives in a villa, you'll feel unhappy.

If you're driving a small car and see someone in a luxury car, you'll feel unhappy.

When you're the GM of a company, you realize someone else is the president. Your happiness drops.

If you're the president of a company and think you're happy, but other people make nine times your salary, you'll feel lost.

Friends can make us happy, but it may not last. After school, we stopped talking to most of our classmates.

If you have kids, you'll spend years at home. Your job will still be there when you get back.

Sometimes our relationships are based on interests, like doing business with our father. But after he passed away, this relationship didn't end.

I also pursue happiness, but not material things. There will always be people who are better off than us.

We should read more books, especially about psychology, to enrich ourselves.

When we learn more, we become happier. This happiness lasts a lifetime.

When you have time, go out more.

I can think of these things now.

I hope my answers help and inspire you. I study hard every day.

Yixinli loves you. Take care!

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Good day, my name is Phil.

I am most grateful for your question.

In a notable observation, Martin Seligman, the renowned pioneer in the field of positive psychology, delineated that the fundamental constituents of happiness can be classified into five principal categories.

1. Positive emotions refer to the positive psychological state of an individual after experiencing an event.

2. Engagement: the state of being fulfilled and satisfied by being fully engaged in an activity.

3. Relationships: the positive interaction and connection between an individual and others.

4. Meaning: This concept refers to an individual's profound sense of purpose and value in their professional and personal endeavors, which extends beyond the individual's self.

5. Achievement: This concept refers to the sense of satisfaction and accomplishment an individual experiences after exerting significant effort to achieve a goal or successfully complete a task.

As you correctly observed, contemporary society generally espouses the view that happiness is an objective to be pursued, yet few individuals possess a clear understanding of what happiness truly entails.

The question of whether happiness is an eternal state or an instantaneous feeling, and whether it is composed of material wealth, career achievements, interpersonal relationships, or spiritual inner satisfaction, is a topic of considerable debate.

In our pursuit of happiness, it is possible that we may sometimes neglect some more important elements. Furthermore, it is important to consider how happiness is actually defined and measured.

When an individual is unable to shift their perspective, they may find themselves unable to perceive alternative perspectives.

In addition, the aforementioned criteria for happiness will be described from a different perspective. It should be noted that these criteria may be somewhat universal, but they are not the only ones. The intention is to share these views and to provide assistance to others.

The following section will present a series of questions designed to facilitate reflection on the aforementioned concepts.

1. Positive Emotions:

There is a common tendency to assume that happiness can be achieved through an optimistic outlook. However, it is important to recognise that happiness can be divided into long-term and short-term stimuli.

Short-term stimulation can elicit feelings of excitement and happiness, albeit transiently. It may also emanate from specific foods, beverages, or exceptional occurrences that impart a fleeting sense of pleasure and exhilaration.

While these short-term stimuli may provide momentary pleasure, reliance on them over time can lead to addictive behaviors and a diminished ability to perceive ordinary stimuli.

To achieve long-lasting positive emotions, one should endeavor to implement minor alterations to one's lifestyle, beginning with seemingly inconsequential aspects.

For example, maintaining an orderly environment and appreciating the seemingly inconsequential aspects of the present. It is unproductive to overthink the meaning of these experiences, as it diverts valuable resources.

It is simply a matter of recognizing that if one feels inclined to consume takeout on a given day, there is no obligation to engage in the preparation of a meal. Instead, one may simply select a dish that appeals to one's palate. Similarly, if one is not inclined to engage in any physical activity on a given day and desires nothing more than to repose undisturbed, it is perfectly acceptable to turn off one's mobile phone and retire to bed.

If you have not yet made a decision, it is advisable to consider the potential consequences of postponing or overlooking pertinent information.

2. Commitment:

Life is a linear trajectory, comprising either work or study, or alternatively, residence in one's familial home. It appears to lack variability, akin to the unchanging flow of water, yet one can also identify opportunities for personal enjoyment within these seemingly mundane structures to enhance one's emotional state.

It is recommended that individuals attempt activities that they have previously avoided due to fear, lack of interest, financial constraints, or a lack of experience. One potential avenue for exploration is a novel experience with a romantic partner.

For example, one might consider activities such as going to the movies, taking a spontaneous trip, going to see the flowers, playing games, going out to dinner, going to the library, enjoying a period of time in a café full of atmosphere, or simply sleeping in. Additionally, one might engage in extreme sports that do not pose any significant risks.

If feasible, one may also discern the distinction between one's emotional states during these activities and one's typical emotional states.

Although some of these activities may result in increased fatigue or physical discomfort, they can also lead to enhanced feelings of happiness, relaxation, and fulfillment. These experiences are not fundamentally different from those encountered in routine circumstances.

3. Human relationships:

It is often asserted that a life devoid of friends is a life devoid of meaning. Social interaction with friends can take many forms, including shared drinks, conversation, games, team-building activities, and other pursuits that foster a sense of camaraderie and shared experiences.

However, socializing with friends and attending social events with them, along with the associated behaviors, can be regarded as a primary means of connecting with others and even with the surrounding environment and society.

It is inevitable that humans will experience solitude and feelings of loneliness at some point in their lives. However, social interaction and the formation of close relationships can provide a sense of security and compensate for many of the spiritual differences that exist between individuals.

Should one have a close girlfriend, a blue-eyed friend, or a loving family member, or even a lover, one may consider undertaking some of these minor activities in order to enhance one's feelings.

It is recommended that, if possible, the two individuals sleep in the same bed. They should embrace each other or, if one individual is sleeping in the arms of the other, they should be held by the other person's body. The individuals should choose a position that they both feel comfortable in and that will not cause them to press against each other.

It is also recommended to offer or request a substantial embrace at any given moment, irrespective of the circumstances.

Experimental evidence indicates that such intimate contact, particularly when the other person is someone with whom one has a positive emotional bond, stimulates the secretion of dopamine in the body, leading to feelings of happiness and enhanced overall bodily functioning. If time permits, it would be beneficial to observe the changes that occur in one's state in such a situation.

4. Meaning:

It is recommended that you attempt to establish a clear meaning, direction, or goal for your life. This may be as grand as having a grand ideal or a wish to achieve, or it may be as modest as making a substantial amount of money, purchasing a house and a car, and thereby ensuring a comfortable and secure lifestyle.

Some individuals may perceive the establishment of a goal or the determination of one's existence's meaning as a grave undertaking. What is the rationale for including seemingly inconsequential or obligatory outcomes in this context?

I previously held similar reservations. I felt compelled to assist others. I selected this field of study, pursued this area of expertise, utilized this apparatus, and thus felt obligated to assist a substantial number of individuals, resolve a multitude of challenges, and elevate my capabilities to a considerable degree.

However, I was abruptly confronted with the reality of how to maintain a stable life, which entailed grappling with the inevitable array of negative emotions and mental challenges that accompany this endeavor.

It is an opportune moment to make a point. It is not shameful to earn money. Prioritizing the basic necessities of life—clothing, food, shelter, and transportation—is a fundamental human responsibility. Only when these fundamental needs are met can individuals engage in more sophisticated pursuits.

5. Achievements:

It is important to distinguish between the concepts of achievement and the meaning of life. While they are often intertwined, achievement primarily concerns the value one creates for society or the value one aims to provide.

The sense of accomplishment that is derived from the completion of a task within one's daily routine is a common experience. For instance, upon the completion of a project that has occupied half a day's worth of effort, the individual may experience a momentary sense of elation.

From the completion of one's studies to the completion of a challenging research project at work, or even the completion of a specific topic, or even making a significant contribution, being recognized, or even becoming renowned because of it, all of these can be considered achievements and can provide a sense of accomplishment.

It is probable that some individuals believe that they do not require achievement and that they are content with a tranquil existence. In reality, however, it is likely that these individuals possess a genuine desire for achievement and a specific goal in mind. It is merely that, in the majority of instances, these two aspects are perceived as being inextricably linked.

It would be beneficial to differentiate between these concepts and to consider them in a more rigorous manner. Doing so may prove to be an additional gain in one's life.

It is my hope that this response will prove beneficial to you.

Furthermore, it is my hope that the world will embrace the notion of love, for love is a virtue that should be celebrated.