Why do I always subconsciously try to look stupid in front of other people?

Hello, I'm Jane! I'm grateful to have had the opportunity to meet you.

I can relate to that. I tend to be reserved in front of people, which can sometimes come across as dull. I've received feedback from others who've mentioned this as well.

At first, I was unsure if there was something I could change about myself. I wondered if I should try to be more outgoing and enthusiastic in front of others. I tried to be more outgoing, but it didn't feel right for me.

Everyone has their own unique personality.

I used to aspire to be the most popular person, lively and cheerful, but I came to realize that wasn't the right path for me. I still enjoy a quiet pace in life, and I find that I'm best suited to handle relationships and everyday matters with gentleness.

Even if others don't understand or misunderstand me, that's just the way I am. I'm comfortable with my personality, and I understand that not everyone will approve.

After a period of reflection and self-examination, I came to the realisation that I needed to stop trying to please others at the expense of my own needs.

The sun and the moon are both brilliant in their own way.

Perhaps what causes people pain is that they wish they could be more like the moon, which wants to be the sun.

This is likely a common experience. You may initially feel content with a quiet and peaceful lifestyle, but eventually, you may find yourself longing for a more passionate and dynamic way of living. However, it's not always easy to fully embrace these changes on your own.

I believe the most important thing is to recognize yourself from the bottom of your heart, and to recognize that it's okay to look naive and honest in the eyes of others. At least I haven't done anything against my will that makes me uncomfortable. It's enough to understand what kind of person you are comfortable with and like.

It is not necessary to refer to others when identifying oneself.

Sometimes people may feel that they have determined whether they are right or not, or whether they are valuable or not, through other people. This may not be entirely accurate, as people are different and everyone has a different point of view. When faced with the same thing, each person's chemical reaction may be different.

It is important to recognize your own uniqueness and that of others. We all have different gifts and abilities, and it is not necessary to compare ourselves to others. Instead, we should focus on using the gifts and abilities that God has given us, without worrying about what others do.

I believe we can all benefit from encouraging one another.

I hope my answer is helpful to you.

I know it can be tough, but I'm here to support you. Stay strong!

Hello!

I'm Kelly Shui.

From your question, I can tell you have different feelings about yourself. This is a good chance to explore yourself.

[About the state]

You said you act like a fool in front of others, but you're innocent and honest.

Be honest with the right people.

Who do you not need to be in front of? Do you like this self?

Existentialism says people have a true nature. This shows up with familiar people.

For example, we don't need to hide who we are when we're with our parents, good friends, or alone.

Another kind is inauthentic. We need protection in unfamiliar environments or at work.

We have different selves for different situations and relationships.

I can be myself around close friends. I can laugh and cry, and I can express my thoughts freely.

You can laugh when you're happy and cry when you're sad.

If I'm with a stranger, I'll be polite, consider others' feelings, and be willing to give up a part of myself.

I didn't understand at first, but then I realized everyone has a mask.

This helps us protect ourselves and show different sides of ourselves to different people.

Our state is also dynamic and flexible.

Be yourself.

We all have different sides to us.

We laugh at comedies and cry at tragedies. We see different sides of ourselves. Are we a person who cries or a person who laughs?

I don't think there's an absolute. Being honest can be a way of protecting yourself.

As long as it's not harmful, we can appreciate our wisdom.

Who were the people in your early life you were honest with?

Is honesty good for you?

What are the downsides of being honest? Do you feel oppressed or unable to be true to yourself?

Write about it later.

Accept yourself, even if you act differently. You are special.

Recommended books: "The Theory of Personal Formation" and "A Modest Defense."

Good morning, and thank you for meeting here. I would like to offer you a warm and empowering hug.

First, it might be helpful to give yourself credit for your sensitive perception. It seems that you are aware of the state you are in when you are around other people, and you describe it as "naive" and "a simple, honest person."

It is likely that being honest and innocent in front of others will reduce the other person's defenses and attacks, increase your sense of security, and can also be seen as a way to protect yourself. This protective hiding may prevent the other person from seeing your more authentic side, while also protecting you from the other person's harm and attacks.

Sometimes, it's natural to want to protect yourself, especially when you're interacting with others. We may unconsciously adopt certain behaviors or attitudes to protect ourselves from harm or criticism. Appearing naïve may be a way to feel safer when you're interacting with others.

This may help you come across as more harmless and approachable, which could make it easier for others to trust and favor you.

This expression may have its roots in your personality traits, upbringing, or self-perception. For instance, you may be an introverted, shy, or humble person who is not particularly adept at or not accustomed to showcasing their talents or abilities in the presence of others.

It is also possible that you may have experienced criticism or rejection from others at some point, which could have led you to become cautious in your interactions with others and afraid to show your true self.

While this behavior may make you seem more lovable or harmless to others, it may also result in missed opportunities and misunderstandings about your abilities and value. Additionally, if you maintain this behavior over time, it could lead to feelings of fatigue or depression, as you may be required to hide your true feelings and needs.

We can try to accept our true state, including our strengths and weaknesses. Secondly, when interacting with others, we can try to gradually reveal our true personality and needs, so that others can get to know us better.

Ultimately, it is not necessary to be overly concerned with the opinions of others. Instead, it is important to have confidence in your own value and abilities, and to be courageous enough to be yourself.

I hope this is of some help to you and I wish you a happy day.

I hope that the world and I can show you our love.