Why do some things seem to only happen to me?

Good morning, I hope this message finds you well. I am writing in response to your question.

From your description, I can sense that you are going through a challenging time. I can relate to the difficulties you have faced and the recent struggles you have endured. It is clear that you have experienced a lot of unhappy events in your life, and I empathize with your current situation.

I can relate to your feelings. We all have experiences that, at the time, seem negative. But we can choose to change our perspective. Even if we can't change what has happened, we can choose to change our state of mind in the moment. For example, if my alarm doesn't go off in the morning and I sleep late, I'll be glad that I'm not late. Or if I go to the cafeteria and buy a bun, and I just take a bite and it falls to the ground, I'll be glad that I took a bite. There are many things like this in life. As you mentioned, the water pipe burst in the toilet. I think I'll be glad that it was water or else I'd stink. And I also think it's great that I always want to change my mind, which shows that I have a lot of ideas and am always innovative. Of course, we should be bold and dare to try in life! Others worry about schoolwork and money, but you don't need it, which shows that you are materially and spiritually rich. How is this not a kind of happiness? In my eyes, you are also a happy person.

There are so many trivial matters in life, and everyone has their own worries. I believe that there are always more solutions than problems, and I hope that my words have been helpful. I wish you a happy life!

Good morning, I hope this message finds you well. I am writing to you today because I would like to extend my support and assistance in any way I can. Please do not hesitate to contact me if I can be of any help. Best regards,

Best regards,

At times, we may perceive ourselves to be the recipients of an inordinate amount of misfortune.

Some individuals even make light of the situation.

I would be delighted to have a conversation with you.

I hope you will find this information useful and inspiring.

It is not the event itself that is of consequence, but rather our perception of it.

To illustrate, consider the following example: "While on the toilet, the water pipe burst and I got soaked, and the point is that it happened more than once." It is likely that anyone would find this to be an annoying occurrence.

There is a well-known theory in psychology known as the ABC model.

To summarize,

A indicates a triggering event.

B indicates the formation of beliefs in response to the triggering event, which may include perceptions and explanations of the event.

C indicates the emotions and behaviors that result from this situation.

Please describe your thoughts regarding being sprayed with water.

Does this concept contribute to the emotional response?

For example, the water may be perceived as unclean and potentially harmful.

Consider a scenario in which we visit a park and discover water sprinklers in specific areas. During the summer months, many individuals enjoy the refreshing experience of being sprayed with water.

As a result, we experience a sense of unease when we feel that going to the toilet should not involve being sprayed with water.

Please attempt to express this in a different manner.

For example, it is not desirable for any of us to be splashed by a burst pipe when we go to the toilet. However, such unexpected occurrences do happen from time to time. We can simply clean up afterwards, and if conditions permit, we can take the opportunity to take a nice shower and feel refreshed.

When faced with an issue that does not seem to fit with our expectations, we can attempt to view it from different perspectives. This approach aligns with the ABC theory of emotions and can effectively help us manage our emotional response.

2. Adopt an open-minded approach to accepting all occurrences.

You say, "I'm particularly forgetful. I don't know what to do when I'm doing something, and I always want to change my mind. As a result, I'm now so cautious in everything I do. This kind of life is really exhausting, but I don't know what to do about it, so I'm just annoyed. After a while, I just snap..."

We can take the time to reflect on our tendency to change our minds and consider the underlying reasons for this behavior.

It is inevitable that everyone will encounter situations that are less than ideal or that cause them distress.

If we persist in focusing on negative or unfortunate occurrences, we may eventually come to perceive them as exclusively affecting us.

Individuals have disparate perspectives on these occurrences, which can yield disparate outcomes.

For instance, some individuals simply accept unfavorable circumstances and refrain from dwelling on them once they have been resolved. The negative impact of the situation dissipates.

However, many individuals frequently ruminate on past negative experiences, making it challenging for them to move on. At times, they may even link recent challenges with past difficulties, leading to self-limiting beliefs and negative emotions.

This is akin to falling into a negative cycle.

I am pleased to inform you that you have already taken the initiative to identify the challenges you are facing and have sought assistance to overcome them.

I would like to share with you our ancient wisdom: "A lost horse saddle may bring good fortune."

Please refer to the attached story for further details.

Some may view this as mere "chicken soup for the soul."

It is not the case.

It is important to recognize that every situation has two sides. With the right perspective, even negative circumstances can be transformed into positive outcomes.

While it may not be apparent in the immediate moment, taking a longer view can often reveal the positive aspects of an event.

For instance, if you are currently facing a challenge that is unique to you, you may be more alert and attentive. When a similar situation arises again, you will likely be more composed and your response to setbacks will be more measured.

Adopting a cautious approach may have helped you to avoid certain risks.

It is important to note that an excessively cautious approach may result in a highly stressful lifestyle.

It is not necessary to demand immediate change. Instead, identify the advantages of current practices and make appropriate adjustments.

By confronting uncertainty with confidence, we can become more decisive and prudent in our decision-making.

It is essential to determine the approach that is most suitable for us.

It is advisable to ascertain whether you are experiencing feelings of insecurity and a desire for greater control.

I would like to conclude by sharing with you a very famous story.

Everything happens for the best.

The key takeaway from this story is:

Regardless of the individual you encounter, they are an optimal fit for the situation. Similarly, regardless of the circumstances, the outcome will be beneficial.

A monarch who enjoyed hunting had his little finger bitten off by a leopard.

The king summoned his prime minister for a drink to lift his spirits. However, the prime minister replied with a smile, "My lord, keep a positive outlook. Everything is for the best."

The king was displeased to hear this. He inquired as to whether incarceration would be the optimal solution. The prime minister responded with a smile, indicating his belief that this would be the best course of action.

The king was incensed and had the prime minister imprisoned.

Subsequently, a number of further developments occurred.

The complete story can be found online.

It is not necessary to force everything to happen in the manner we desire.

The appeal of life lies in its inherent uncertainty.

Please take your time, OP.

I am confident that you will be able to find a way to feel comfortable and stop worrying about these minor issues.

Best regards,