Why don't you take something that you clearly need?

The so-called consistency principle says that

Over time, your actions, thoughts, and perceptions will build a chain.

We've established that consistency is formed.

If you don't act consistently with your thoughts, you'll probably end up justifying your perception internally.

It's also possible that your perceptions and thoughts drive your behavior.

One simple example is the stories of people who have been cheated by pyramid schemes.

I've put in a lot of work and effort. If I don't get the reward I'm after, what do you think you'll say to yourself to make yourself feel better?

If you're not willing to take it, it's possible that your gut feeling is that you don't need it, or even that it's not a necessity.

It's also possible that your priorities lie elsewhere.

Ultimately, you just need it, but it's not essential, and you don't even need it right now.

For instance, perhaps we could try again later?

Even if you don't take it, it'll still be there. You won't lose it, and you won't suffer any loss. There won't be any punishment, pain, or other costs either.

It's just that they don't go, that's all.

It's clear you're unwell, yet you're reluctant to seek treatment.

It might be that they're overconfident and don't think it's a big deal.

It could be that it doesn't hurt that much, so there's no immediate need for treatment, and it will recover naturally after a little while.

It might be that the treatment is too much of a hassle and doesn't work that well.

It might be that you don't want to spend the money on treatment and think you can do better with it if you save it.

Do people always seek treatment immediately when they become ill?

Not really.

It's also possible that you personally think the situation is still manageable and don't feel the need to go.

What you think you want and what your body knows you really need are two different things.

And it's not really your own doing.

We need to figure out if we truly want it or if we're fooling ourselves into thinking we do.

If you don't have enough concentration, though, it's not what you think you need. You'll need to do more reading and watching videos.

Instead, you should practice more.

As it turns out, according to scientific research…

The average person can only focus for about 40 to 55 minutes at a time.

That's the amount of time we've had between classes since childhood.

After each class, it's important to take a quick 5-10 minute break to rest and prepare for the next stage.

Some people can concentrate for hours on end. But let's face it, they're not particularly passionate about it. Even with constant practice, the average person will get distracted in minutes.

So, videos and books, do you truly believe that they are effective in improving your concentration?

Has it inspired you to take action?

Do you truly believe that these methods are effective and that you can implement them in your daily routine?

Including, do you really want to learn that piece of knowledge that requires you to spend your concentration to learn it?

In theory, if you really want to improve your concentration, you should eat well, sleep well, and exercise well.

Getting enough sleep helps build stamina and spirit, and it's also a great way to improve your concentration.

If you often stay up late at night sleeping and being lazy, you'll have low energy.

Concentration is tough, isn't it?

Just to give you a heads-up.

Good day, questioner!

I appreciate you asking this question. I can relate to your experience.

You may be aware that this thing could help you grow, but you're not sure you're ready to learn it. Our brain has a natural tendency to seek benefits and avoid harm. As long as it requires a lot of energy and isn't immediately rewarding, our body may instinctively resist it.

However, if we know that doing this thing will bring us a specific "benefit," it can effectively increase your drive. So I wonder if you might consider what kind of benefit you would like to gain from learning how to improve your concentration.

Perhaps we could consider the concept of flow?

In my experience, the term "flow" seems to capture the essence of what it feels like to be fully engaged in an activity.

When flow occurs, it is often accompanied by a high level of excitement and a sense of fulfillment. It is not uncommon for people in this state to be reluctant to be disturbed or to resist interruption.

Could this perhaps be similar to the state of being focused on something? How might we better enter this state?

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider lowering expectations.

It might be helpful to consider that the first step to achieving flow is to "get started" and get things done. However, it's not uncommon for people to get stuck at this initial stage, feeling unmotivated and wanting to relax.

For those who are unable to take the first step, it may be helpful to consider that having too high an expectation of the task could be a contributing factor.

You may feel that this task requires a lot of preparation and that you want to do it perfectly, which may lead to resistance and procrastination. It might be helpful to consider lowering your expectations and just take the first step, even if it's just opening the materials.

It might be helpful to try not to have any expectations.

It might be helpful to consider establishing a ritual.

If you're looking to get something done, it might be helpful to choose an environment that is conducive to concentration.

For instance, you might consider sitting at a neat and clean desk with only study-related items on it, such as textbooks, pens, and paper. You may also find it helpful to set aside a time exclusively for doing this task.

If I may suggest, perhaps it would be beneficial to turn off the sound of your phone and put it away. Then, you may enjoy the next 30 minutes.

It might be helpful to consider the value of timely rewards.

I believe this is particularly important. It seems to me that it directly distinguishes why playing games leads to flow quickly, while learning leads to flow slowly.

The various small elements in the game will encourage you to complete one level and then the next, and you may find that you never tire of it.

Similarly, learning should be approached in a similar manner. It may be helpful to set a goal that is "within reach" and "break a task into multiple subtasks." This could potentially result in more direct and efficient feedback from your brain.

You might like to consider recording and feeling the happy feelings you get during the learning process. If you feel it would be helpful, you can also choose to give yourself some material rewards to affirm your efforts.

I must admit that I am not the most organized person in the world. I am grateful for your attention and for reading this message.

Good day. I am Whale Social Worker Kiss the Wind.

It is evident that a considerable number of individuals are aware of their shortcomings and are inclined to seek solutions. Nevertheless, despite being cognizant of the requisite actions, they are reluctant to pursue them due to their lack of self-control.

Individuals with high self-control tend to be more efficient in their actions, whereas those with low self-control may exhibit a consistent pattern of behavior due to a lack of knowledge regarding how to alter their approach.

Should one wish to alter this state, it is imperative to compel oneself to commence perusing the literature on the enhancement of concentration. It is this author's considered opinion that, provided one gets started and stirs one's interest, one will likely complete the reading.

Another strategy for enhancing concentration is to provide oneself with a mental cue. During study sessions, one can set a time limit for studying, similar to the allotted time for a class in an academic setting. Alternatively, one can set a 45-minute study time limit and then allow for a brief period of relaxation.

In the absence of cognitive activity, it is necessary to maintain focus on the task at hand. While initial attempts may be met with challenges, continued effort is likely to yield positive outcomes.

Best wishes, Yi Xinli, Whale Social Worker

Good morning,

Dear Host, Thank you for your post. I can see that you are experiencing some internal conflict. I also see that you have taken the courageous step of seeking help on this platform. This will undoubtedly help you to better understand and recognize yourself, so that you can adjust yourself and encounter a better self. I will now share my observations and thoughts from your post, which may help you to view yourself from a more diverse perspective. 1. Rational and emotional levels

My name is Zeng Chen, and I am a heart exploration coach. I have carefully read the post. First and foremost, I can sense a conflict within you.

Furthermore, I would like to acknowledge your courage in expressing your own problems and seeking help on this platform. This will undoubtedly assist you in better understanding and recognizing yourself, enabling you to make necessary adjustments and achieve a more positive self-image.

I will now share my observations and thoughts from the post, which may help you to view yourself from a more diverse perspective.

1. Rational and emotional levels

In the aforementioned post, it was observed that you mentioned a lack of concentration, insufficient study time, and eventual boredom. It would be logical to conclude that you should research methods to improve concentration during study sessions. However, you have indicated a reluctance to do so. You have even saved videos on this topic but have not opened them.

It is evident that this is a necessary step, yet I am reluctant to take it.

After reviewing the material, I have a clear understanding of the host's perspective. Let's now examine the underlying reasons for these behaviors.

From my perspective, there may be a discrepancy between our rational and emotional levels of understanding. While we may desire a particular outcome and believe in the efficacy of a specific approach, there may be emotional obstacles that prevent us from taking action. The matter of self-discipline is a case in point.

Many individuals are aware of the advantages of self-discipline and may even establish a goal to cultivate it. However, they frequently encounter difficulties in maintaining their commitment beyond a few days. This discrepancy between rational and emotional levels of motivation is a common challenge.

2. Identify the advantages of foregoing the action in question.

In a sense, we all engage in activities that are beneficial to us. However, we may only perceive the negative aspects of an activity from our own perspective, while there may be underlying advantages to it. The renowned psychologist Wu Zhihong posited in her book that the reason we are unable to alter a detrimental habit is because it provides us with benefits.

Perhaps we can examine this together. What are the advantages of not acquiring the information, not scheduling an appointment, and not performing the task yourself? We can assess our feelings and emotions at that time and identify them.

Take procrastination as an example. Procrastination can also have beneficial effects for some individuals. Some people procrastinate to provide themselves with reasons for postponing tasks and avoiding negative self-perceptions.

Often, such individuals may be perfectionists who strive for flawless performance and seek to achieve 100% accuracy. If they are unable to meet these standards, they may resort to self-denial.

This will provide the reassurance that if you do not procrastinate, you can achieve the task at hand.

Once we have a clear understanding of our motivations and behaviours, we can then implement changes to improve our performance.

3. Attempt to integrate.

What needs to be integrated? The answer is the integration of rationality and sensibility.

It is important to recognize the role of both the rational and emotional voices within ourselves. When we identify and acknowledge our inner conflicts, we can facilitate a constructive dialogue between these two voices, allowing them to collaborate on ways to improve self-care.

I recall a story about a man who was occupied with work at the time but sensed an inner voice urging him to rest and engage in leisure activities. He responded by thanking the voice for the reminder and indicating his intention to rest after completing his tasks. This brief self-dialogue was sufficient to effect a change in his emotional state.

He observed the changes in his emotional state, paused to engage with his emotions and inner voice, acknowledged his emotions, and was open to considering his inner voice. Frequently, this approach results in a sense of relief or even the disappearance of emotions.

Furthermore, he integrated the two voices within himself, allowing them to coexist in harmony.

I hope these words have been of some assistance and inspiration to you.

Hello.

The question you asked is very interesting. Absolutely. Sometimes we deliberately avoid things that make us feel "less than." I'm the same sometimes. I know that reading is beneficial, but I just don't want to open a book.

Every action corresponds to a psychological demand and motivation.

You don't watch relevant videos to improve your concentration and learning efficiency, even though you know your concentration is not good enough. You're afraid that after your learning efficiency improves, your grades will get better.

This leaves you with less time to play.

You're more interested in doing the things you like and want to do than learning those boring textbook exercises. You're focused on other interesting things, like games and short videos from your favorite broadcasters.

You get a certain amount of happiness and satisfaction from it. You feel that you can get a stable sense of value and happiness here.

You don't want to focus on learning because learning is not a game.

Short videos simply cannot provide the happiness you desire.

Accept your current situation.

Dear, We have limited concentration at the moment and cannot study for long.

We have to accept our current situation. Our attention spans are limited, so we have to study for a while.

Don't look at your phone. Sit at your desk and spend some time with the learning content. Just browse through it.

Watch for 10-20 minutes at a time. This is how you develop a habit.

When you have been studying for three days a week, reward yourself and relax. Establish an effective feedback and reward mechanism, just like you would when playing games.

Take your time to accept your current situation.

Fall in love with learning like you would a game.

Combining work and rest is the way to go.

I don't know if you are still taking online classes recently, but I can tell you from experience that the state of the online class teacher is not very stable sometimes. Sometimes they speak well, and sometimes they don't. You can choose from B station according to your preferences!

You can find relevant learning resources in various places and learn in advance. Then in class, you can choose to listen to targeted content.

Complete the corresponding homework in class. Then you can spend your free time doing whatever you want.

Watch a full animated movie or play a video game.

Go shopping and buy the things you need and want to improve your happiness. Then you can devote yourself fully to your studies.

I am confident that my answer will be helpful to you. The world and I love you!

Gu Yi is a modest and self-effacing individual who is characterized by consistency.

Without passion, how can one maintain the necessary level of perseverance?

It is essential to ascertain one's authentic inner state.

In the process of one's own learning, it is common to experience difficulties in maintaining concentration. The ability to recognize these difficulties represents a form of self-awareness. Once identified, these issues can prompt changes in one's thinking and actions. With regard to the former, we have already begun to attend to this problem, and as a result, we have initiated courses designed to enhance concentration. Despite having purchased these courses, we are reluctant to engage with them.

At this juncture, one might begin to question whether they possess the requisite motivation to delve into the psychological principles that govern their current activity. To this end, it would be prudent to undertake a cursory examination of one's own behavior. Throughout the process of identifying problems and formulating solutions, it is imperative to focus on the actions to be taken, rather than on the underlying reasons.

Apart from the aforementioned tips, the initial change depends on one's willingness to accept and change. During the process of acceptance, there is no rejection in the heart. It is akin to experiencing the ability to calm down and feel joy in doing what one enjoys. Therefore, if one desires to change, it is advisable to begin by identifying sources of joy.

The following section will present a series of techniques designed to enhance one's capacity for sustained attention and focus.

It is important to identify the sources of joy in order to facilitate the learning process. While interest is often considered a key factor in learning, it is important to recognize that this may manifest differently for each individual. Therefore, it is essential to determine the specific sources of joy that can enhance one's learning experience and utilize them to achieve optimal outcomes.

Some individuals prefer to read in a coffee shop, where the ambience is more conducive to relaxation. Others may opt for a library, where the quiet environment allows for undisturbed concentration. Some may even choose to complete their homework in class, where the proximity to their peers and the uniform seating arrangement facilitate focus.

❀It is important to learn to find a sense of achievement in the learning process. It should be noted that each individual has a unique understanding of learning, and whether or not they are able to persevere depends on whether they feel a sense of achievement and gain throughout the process.

For example, during my tenure at an educational institution, I found great benefit in self-study classes. I was able to dedicate time to English in the final class, comprehensive studies in the second self-study period, and mathematics in the third night study. Over time, I developed a routine of completing exercises during each designated time slot, which fostered a sense of accomplishment and joy, particularly when I checked my answers to English exercises and found them correct. This approach led to my success in achieving a perfect score in reading comprehension on the college entrance examination.

In the event of an inability to concentrate, it is advisable to utilize the outcomes as a guiding force. Individuals who are results-oriented possess well-defined objectives, and learning is driven by motivation. This motivation is a crucial factor in achieving the desired outcomes.

Consequently, if the optimal approach is challenging to implement, it may be more beneficial to adopt an alternative method. While guidance can be helpful in enhancing concentration, the most effective approach is to cultivate a genuine interest and enjoyment in the process.

I wish you the best of success.

Hello, question owner!

Hi, I'm Xiaobai, and I'm here to help! I don't have any worries myself, and I'm happy to help you get rid of yours.

I've read your question carefully, and I just wanted to give you a big hug first!

I'd love to share my thoughts and ideas with you in the hope that they'll help.

I really need something, but I just don't want to get it. What's going on?

❓ It can be tough to concentrate, and it's not always easy to stay focused for long periods of time. It's natural to feel bored at times, too.

First of all, learning can be a bit boring, right? I've been there! I've experienced the same problems that the questioner has encountered.

People are all lazy, and they know exactly what they want. But in the process, they will still be lazy, and then they will blame themselves afterwards. It's okay, we've all been there!

I really hope this helps you! This is how I adjusted, and I'm happy to share it with you.

▶️ If you can't say to yourself, "I learned something today," don't go to bed.

? 1. It's a great idea to set some time limits for yourself!

We all know that long hours of studying can sometimes feel a bit boring. That's why it's a great idea to break your homework up into smaller chunks and set a time limit for each part. For example, you could say to yourself, "I'll finish this exercise within an hour," or "I'll finish that test before eight o'clock." This not only helps you work more efficiently, but it also prevents you from getting too tired.

If you can, try to gradually shorten the time you spend on it. You'll be amazed at how quickly you can finish an assignment that used to take you an hour in just 40 minutes!

?2. Try not to do other things or think about other things while studying.

We all know that multitasking isn't really possible, but there are still lots of students who listen to music while studying.

You might think that listening to music is a great way to unwind. If so, go ahead and enjoy 15 minutes of tunes after an hour of focused studying. It's a much more pleasant experience than doing homework with headphones on.

?3. Try not to spend the whole evening revising the same subject.

I used to spend an entire evening studying math or physics, but I've since learned that this isn't the most effective use of my time. It can even lead to fatigue!

? 4. Stay positive!

Remember, learning is all about trying your best and having the courage to face setbacks. If you put in the effort, you will surely reap the rewards!

When you have a good understanding of your life, you can develop according to your goals, and I'm here to help you with that!

Please don't be too hard on yourself as you learn and grow. If you do, you might end up feeling inferior, and nobody wants that!

It's so important to learn to release your negative emotions and find something to distract yourself. And maintaining a positive attitude every day and keeping a good mood is also good for learning!

You know, you might as well set a small goal first. We all get tired sometimes, and that's okay! When you feel tired, take a little break, rest, and then start again. You've got this!

I promise you, one day, all the hard work you've put in will pay off!

Don't ever let yourself feel unworthy of your initial ambition or let the hardships you've faced bring you down.

All glory comes from hard work, my friend. All those who have succeeded have worked hard for a long time, in places you can't see, and you just don't know.

They succeeded because of their past experiences, which they've learned from and grown from. It's okay to not share these experiences with everyone, as they're part of who you are and what makes you, you!

I really hope these views and suggestions will be helpful to you!

Wishing you all the best!

Dear Questioner, I am writing in response to your query.

From your description, it is evident that you lack concentration and are consistently irritated. You desire to learn but consistently defer action. You are aware that you need to take action but are reluctant to do so, or you are unwilling to treat an illness. It appears that procrastination is the primary issue. It is not possible to delay and to maintain focus simultaneously. This phenomenon is experienced by many individuals.

To illustrate, I consistently aspire to document my daily experiences, yet I am uncertain about the optimal content to record. This is akin to perceiving the day as devoid of noteworthy events, when in fact, it was replete with significant occurrences. However, I tend to undervalue these experiences, assuming they lack consequence and do not contribute to tangible outcomes. While the pursuit of favorable outcomes is universal, the question arises: What outcome will result from the act of recording these experiences? In truth, the act of reflection, even if limited to oneself, can foster a profound understanding of life. Nevertheless, this understanding is not a primary motivator for many individuals. Imagine being given a specific task to complete daily and being offered a modest financial incentive. It is indeed possible to accomplish this, just as one would go to work. The underlying motivation in such cases is not the process itself, but the outcome.

I frequently berate myself for lacking willpower, focus, and the ability to procrastinate. However, I have come to recognize that this is a misguided approach. I do not need to possess the attributes of an individual with unwavering willpower and laser-like focus, nor do I require the absence of procrastination to achieve these outcomes. What is essential is that I simply do the task at hand, even if I do not execute it flawlessly. Furthermore, I must demonstrate persistence and continue working on the task until it is imperfectly completed. This approach has its own merits. For instance, it has instilled in me the resolve to persevere until the end and the quality of never giving up.

What are the key factors that contribute to sustained engagement in a given activity over an extended period? In my view,

1. It is advisable to avoid excessive cognitive processing. Instead, one should focus on the task at hand, without undue concern for the outcome. It is possible to establish a deadline for completion or a period of sustained focus.

2. Establish a long-term action limit. For instance, one might allot a few months to prepare for a full marathon, regardless of the length of the journey, provided that it is completed daily in a timely and appropriate manner.

3. Initiate the process, regardless of its irregularity or the absence of established guidelines. In fact, a considerable number of achievements are accomplished without strict adherence to a set of rules.

4. One may learn to utilize the scientific method of planning, executing, recording, and improving to manage one's behavior cyclically. This approach can facilitate the achievement of desired outcomes.

It is my hope that the aforementioned information will prove beneficial to the individual who posed the question.